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What would be the best way to go about breaking down my mental barriers and just communicate with strangers? Especially women in this regard, I struggle to initiate conversations with people and I'm not really sure how to go about fixing it. My friends tell me I just have to put the time in, but it doesn't feel that easy, any tips?
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Another thing I should probably mention is that I struggle to speak loudly enough to be heard, so I tend to get discouraged if they don't hear me, but I'm trying to fix that by practicing at home and trying to make a mental note of it, though it's definitely at its worst when I go to loud places like festivals and crowded parties.
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I guess I'll give this one last bump before I try elsewhere
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In what does your insecurity stem?
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I learned how to converse by finding it within me to not care so much. Whatever happens you'll be dead in a few decades and then the sun will explode, who cares how our little lives go? There's no pressure, so just DO STUFF.

This attitude has helped me in every way, as far as willpower and interaction go. The only place it fails, however, is when I get fond of a girl and start to care too much. Care brings inhibition.
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>>17388133

If communicating with women is particularly hard, I suggest you don't start there, but work up to it. Start by talking casually with male strangers, until it causes you little or no anxiety to do so. Then, plan to do the same while talking to a woman. Do your best not to see her as a woman, though, and just as a person. This isn't sjw thing, I'm just trying to help you stifle any added anxiety you have talking to women. It's really no different talking to a woman; the obstacle is largely in your mind. So start out by trying not to see the women you chat with as women, and then once you get used to it, feel free to start seeing them as women again, while remembering that you've already chatted with several women, and it was no harder chatting with men.

I had the same issue, OP, and learned that what gained me the most improvement in this area was doing as
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said, and pretending not to care for a moment. I would suppress my nerves and desire for companionship, knowing that I would only suppress them temporarily, then I would chat with some girl, then part when the conversation was over, and then let all my anxiety boil to the surface in private. But at the same time I was really giddy at having accomplished what I set out to, which was to be "normal" long enough to chat with a female stranger. In time I found I was able to "act" normal all the time, and at some point I forgot I was acting, and just became "normal."
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>>17388133
I traveled solo and stayed in hostels. It was either learn to socialise or be miserable.

It worked well for me.
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>>17388694
Basically just force yourself into a place or activity where it's be social or be miserable. It doesn't need to be as expensive as mine was.
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