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I can't maintain long lasting relationships because I am

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I can't maintain long lasting relationships because I am way too scared about being cheated on.
When years ago the girl I had a crush on found a boyfriend it scarred me pretty bad and now it seems too easy for a girl to cheat (not saying i was cheated on here)
I was doing okay with a girl last year, after 2 months of relationship I gave up, I can't check her chat logs and there's no way to know if she's doing anything behind me.
I can't trust her because how will I ever know she's trusting me, and even if she does it still doesn't mean she can go back to her ex or something.
pls help
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You're just really fucked up lol. This needs professional help
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>>17383832
You're foreverially cucked and condemning yourself to being the ultimate beta
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>>17383905
How the hell am I cucked for trying to not get cucked
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>>17383912
Exactly.
You need to consider that trust is a two-way street. The more paranoid you become, the less trustful you are. The less trustful you are, the more you drive a wedge between you and your girl. Not saying that wedge will end in cheating, but it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Relationships are all about trust. Maybe you won't find the right girl at first, but if you want to break free of this attitude, then you gotta try. And if things go south, then pick yourself up with dignity and move on. You're only a cuck if you let yourself be. I know you're afraid you may not know, but that's the thing - trust.
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>>17383924
That makes sense, thank you
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>>17383931
YW. Tbh, I'm scared as hell of being cheated on. For now, I consider myself lucky to have met someone who respects herself enough to set boundaries against those snakes in the grass. It would break my heart if it did happen, but I also know it would break hers if I did the same. When you're in that kind of relationship, you'll know. I can't say for sure how long we will be together, but i would like to maintain it as long as possible. It's fucking work sometimes, but the feeling of "safe" I get being with her is the closest I've felt to being happy. I guess you could say I'm naive, but I'd rather be that than a jaded asshole.
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>>17383832

You're clearly carrying around baggage from your first relationship and it is not fair to this woman you're currently with.

Go get that sorted out, you're clearly not fit to be in a relationship if you think you need to be seeing someone's chat logs.
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>>17383965
I didn't mean literally checking logs, just that I can't read her mind.
But yes, that would be inappropriate
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>>17383832
Not an expert about this but I wonder how many posts on this board could be solved with :

Did you try to tell her how you feel?
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