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gf had wild past; wants to be "grown-up" with me

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Should I be concerned with my current relationship?

So, my gf and I have been together for 3 years, now. This woman has always been sweet, serious, funny and kind. But recently, we got drunk together, and she accidentally revealed something about herself.

When my gf was in college, she was a crazy, wild girl. She was in a four way relationship with this one big jock (let's call him John)on campus along with two other girls (she's still in contact with the girls, today, but not with John), used to do things like streaking, naked runs, skinny dipping and even did nude pics when she was drunk ( I asked her if she still has them, she said "oh, I dunno what happened to those" which I don't think is true).

This came off as a total surprise to me. I had no idea she was ever into this kind of stuff. I asked her more about it, specifically if she was willing to do more stuff with me, and she laughed it off right afterwards. She told me about how she was "over" that kind of thing, about how she all mature and serious, now, and she just didn't see me the same way as John, she liked how I was nicer.

I'm not shaming her for doing weird stuff in college, even though it irks me quite a bit. What really kind of bothers me, is that I feel like she doesn't see me the same way she sees John. I mean, she doesn't even want to have anal sex, but she's willing to be in a poly-amorous relationship with Joe College?

I never thought I'd be the jealous type, but I just don't know how to comprehend this.

I feel like I'm the safe-choice, the guy the girl settles down for after a youth of fun, the end of an adventure, the boring, unsatisfying ending, etc.

Am I right to feel awkward about this? I don't want to call myself a "cuck" or anything, but I feel like I'm a "safe-choice" compared to John.
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>>17382288
>my gf had a wild past but wants to pretend she's different
>I'm not shaming her

Holy shit fuck right off anon. You are such a beta bitch honestly.

She's probably going to truly try to be different but somewhere down the road she'll ache for what she was doing most of her life.

>I'm not shaming her

Where the fuck do you think you are tumblerite? When someone does something shameful, you shame them.

I got cancer just reading your post god damn.
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>>17382288
>>17382288
>gf had wild past; wants to be "grown-up" with me

haha nigga you need to drop her ass right away. I'm not even going to read the rest. You're literally the "oh I have to settle for someone" type of guy who gets cheated on constantly. Uncuck yourself.
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whether "safe" or not, you are her choice. on the other hand, if you feel pale compared to "john", maybe you really are a bit of a boring type. idk - if you see yourself as that type of guy and don't like it, you should work on being a more attractive person
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You get to feel awkward about anything you want, and consider anything you want a dealbreaker. But people are more than their weirdest stories - you found this out not even just because she's your girlfriend, but because she'd been your girl for three years and was drunk. Plenty of the people you interact with in life will have been through crazy things, be it orgies or heroin addiction, and you won't ever know. I understand that this is weird to process and a shock, but it doesn't undo anything she did in the past years. You should know her fairly well by now.

Grant yourself time to stomach this and decide whether you still want to be with her. If you do, initiate a conversation in which you raise your questions and doubt. As long as you're not openly accusative about anything, she should be able to understand that you are a bit confused finding this out to say the least. If she immediately gets defensive and starts attacking you, that's a bit sign. If she's reasonable and willing to hear you out and go into your doubts, that's good.

Last but not least, 80-90% of people, if not more, do stuff in their youth that they wouldn't want to do later in life. That doesn't have to do with not being able to anymore, but with realizing it's not that great (or maybe they never thought it was that great and just bought into the party hard thing), or finding other stuff important. I would care more about how she treats you (in and out of the bedroom) than the internet memes when it comes to whether you are her safe choice or someone she's just crazy about.
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>>17382288
>I feel like I'm the safe-choice, the guy the girl settles down for after a youth of fun, the end of an adventure, the boring, unsatisfying ending, etc.

Well, are you?

>>17382308
>When someone does something shameful, you shame them.

No. That's what guilt is for. You feel guilty for doing something bad, so later you won't do that again. Shame is about who you are and shaming only fucks up your self-esteem instead of correcting your behavior.
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Well OP, I'm somewhat like the girl you described in the OP. Years ago I had some pretty...interesting behavior, and got into a lot of things with my now ex bf. I'm not interested in repeating those experiences however, and my current bf knows this. I just don't have any desire to. That doesn't mean I love him any less, or that I've "settled," I've just grown out of that phase in my life. Just because you did something in the past doesn't mean you want to do it again.
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>>17382329
Shame creates guilt. Are you such a little bitch that you can't handle the consequences of your shit actions?

Then you should go to Tumblr/Reddit because this isn't the place for you.
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The biggest problemis that you knew about it after 3 years and only with her drunk.
Bitch is definately not a sincere person.
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She opened up about it because she feels she can open up about it to you at this point. Its up to you to act on past actions that never involved you, or to let the 'cuck' emotions go.
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>>17382288
Is that beta nonsense actually real? Because your story matches up almost exactly to what I had perceived as 4chan's exaggerated virginal fears, I suspect you aren't trolling either.

Yes, you are completely justified to at LEAST feel awkward. Keep this in mind, because this is the exact pattern of behavior that leads to seeking excitement, aka
>cheating

Hell, what if John shows up again? I am probably blowing this out of the water
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>>17382288
First of all you're going to need to ignore 90% of these posts because /adv/ is flooded with /pol/ and /r9k/ misogynists.

You're not a cuck just because she isn't as wild with you as she was before. This has nothing to do with John being "better". People just genuinely change preferences all the time.

Imagine yourself when you were younger; you might've thought throwing firecrackers at each other with your friends as an exhilarating and funny experience, but maybe after a couple of times doing it, it's just not going to be as fun. It's not about who you're throwing firecrackers at. You grow out of a stupid pastime.

Here's the thing though, apart from being just jealous, you seem upset that you don't get to do certain things with your girlfriend. If these are things you know you need, or maybe you haven't done enough to grow out of, you DO need to break up. You have every right to do those things with someone who's willing, and there's all types of girls willing to go all types of things.

You're not going to change her mind on who she's trying to become. If you were planning on staying with her in hopes she might change her mind on doing things she said she WON'T EVER DO; well bud, it's just not going to happen.
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>>17382346
>Shame creates guilt.

Maybe, but it also isolates shamed person from others. It never leads to anything good.
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>>17382376
I don't know about that.

We got Hitler out of it and that was pretty good.
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>>17382288
>gf had wild past; wants to be "grown-up" with me
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>>17382288
First, some nice truths.
Just because she used to be a party girl does not necessarily mean she's going to cheat on you. She may be at a different point in her life now, and wants different things. That happens to people.

Now, for some hard truths.
If wildness is what you want with her, and she's genuinely over it, you are not going to be satisfied in this relationship. If she's not completely over it, but won't engage in it with you, then you are definitely the "safe" choice.
That may work for a while, but there are some things to consider - you will never be completely satisfied, if this is what you truly want. She may be satisfied enough with you, but the day is going to come when she realizes that "growing up" doesn't mean "stop having the type of fun you like". When that day comes for her, there will be another John who is ready and willing for some wild times.

Either way, this is not a great position you are in.

My advice? If you want to have crazy fun, learn to become the type of man that has that fun. Be the best you can be, the most adventurous you can be. Then find a girl who wants to be with that man, and who wants to be the type of girl you want. Maybe that ends up being the girl you are with now, but it sounds like there's already trust issues.

If you don't trust her after 3 years, you gotta go. Both for your benefit and for hers, even if it's not what she wants in the moment. If this is just a momentary lapse, and you really are having the relationship you want with the girl you want, then you need to talk this out.

I think that's the best you'll get from the internet. Either move on, or talk it out with her. Or both.
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>>17382342
>I'm tired of partying I want one of those hardworking decent guys now.
Please kys you stupid cunt.

>>17382413
>she doesn't see me the same way as John, I'm nicer
I hope to god this is bait, if not you're seriously a pathetic little bitch. How can you let her talk to you like that? She pretty much flat out insults you and your afraid of "shaming" her. God I hope she cheats on you so you can grow some backbone.
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I'd be somewhat bothered by the fact that she offered Chad Thundercock all she had and wants to play it safe with you, but then again I'm pretty conservative when it comes to relatonships.
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>>17382369
Oh, c'mon. She waited 3 years to feel comfortable? When she was drunk?
Sounds like she just couldn't keep the secret and spilled the beans.

She is not a keeper.
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>>17382447
Just saying but in many relationships discussing sexual past (in any form, or beyond crude "oh I've been in some relationships and been through some casual things") is not really done to begin with.
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>>17382288
depends on her age:
25 and less - keeper
25-30 - most likely throwayway, keep if some strong reasons
30+ - throwaway
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>>17382456
Those are not good relationships; they are based on blissful ignorance.
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>>17382288
You know John got to blast that ass regularly right? Just think about that. College boy John's massive 9 inch hirsute dick plowing into that tender young asshole while you quibble about "shaming" a whore.

>I feel like I'm the safe-choice, the guy the girl settles down for after a youth of fun, the end of an adventure, the boring, unsatisfying ending, etc.

You feel that way because you are
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>>17382431
No thanks. He's okay with this and also knows if there's anything he wants to try I'm more than happy to. I don't understand why you're so upset about people experimenting when they're younger? That's basically what you're supposed to do. Can't be 18 forever kiddo.
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>>17382493
>people are supposed to experiment when that younger

Why don't you go experiment jumping off the nearest bridge? You people are fucking disgusting. Being young doesn't mean you have to be a valueless degenerate.
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>>17382493
Your situation is different the Ops. His girl doesn't seem willing to let Op experiment like that.
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>>17382431
Gringo, why you reply to my post saying basically the same what the pic I posted meant to be?
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Bro, any girl that loves you will let you fuck her asshole, regardless of whether she's done it and decided she doesn't like it. If a girl has let another guy assfuck her but not you, you should gtfo of there. Not even kidding.
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>>17382555
Fuck, I meant to reply to OP.
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>>17382493
>people are supposed to experiment when that younger

>"Yes, a free pass to be a whore then when I don't get as much attention I'll settle for a "nice (beta) guy"

This is pretty much every girl out there, using these excuses to gobble on cock or pump and dump then when they get older and dont get as much attention they lower their ridiculous standards and find people like you OP.
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Your gf was pretty dumb for bringing that up, but she does seem to want to change.
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>>17382598
I fucking hate people like OP that give these whores a free ride.
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>>17382288
>I feel like she doesn't see me the same way she sees John.
Well, she doesn't see you the same way she sees John. This is a large part of why she is with you, and not with him. Yes, she sees you differently, but YOU WON. What reason is there to be hurt over that?

>I mean, she doesn't even want to have anal sex, but she's willing to be in a poly-amorous relationship with Joe College?
Verb tenses, senpai. She WAS willing to be in a polyamorous relationship with Joe College, years ago. She clearly doesn't want that anymore; given her wording, it sounds to me like she now understands why that was a bad idea. People change. You are in no way "less" than he was; rather, she is more than she was.
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>>17382598
Aww, is Mister Winkie feeling a little small?

People shouldn't be doing this kind of shit at any age. They should be learning from the mistakes of the myriads who have gone before them. But even when wisdom fails, intelligence usually still wins out in the end. People change. Accept this. Among other things, the possibility of change is frankly the only hope you redpillers have.
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>>17382308
>this is your brain on /pol/
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The kind of guy she's in to now is not the same as the kind of guy she was in to in college. Good! People change and grow.

She wants you. That should be enough.
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>>17382713
I'm pretty much a normalfag but this would still bother me. I've had exes tell me this in the past and it just feels like I'm the shitty consolation prize, and it happens more often than you'd think.

I don't care how much sex she's had in the past, I just want more sex now, and for whatever reason it's really hard for people to get that.
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she lied to you. She will lie again. Ditch her. She's using you.
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>>17382713
>Yes, she sees you differently, but YOU WON.

Spoken like a true cuck.
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>>17382789
OP is being kind of unclear about whether she did anything with this guy that she doesn't want to do with him. I mean, I absolutely get being fine with sharing your fuckbuddy and not wanting to share the person you love. And sending nude pictures is something many people do when they're younger, and not anymore once they realize how risky it is. It's not even necessarily about trusting your partner, they can get stolen off your phone by someone spiteful outside of your relationship.

OP said she "doesn't even want to do anal" with him, but not that she ever did, at least I read it as him saying that he considers the kind of relationship she had as far more out there than anal, which she abstains from.
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>>17382787
I agree with this. If it bothers you it bothers you and you should break up over it, but this is what happens all the time. Plenty of people get shitfaced drunk in college on a regular basis, which they don't want to anymore after a few years. They live from shitty job to shitty job without caring, which they get sick of eventually. Or try to make their teenage dreams come through (eg making it as an actor), which most people naturally outgrow. They freeload off their parents, but at some point realize being independent feels pretty damn great. Or live off shitty foods for months at a time, which they couldn't imagine five years down the line. Etc etc etc.

The only reason I see to claim that all these things happen to all kinds of people all the time, but a promiscuous person can never turn into someone who sincerely desires a loving and stable monogamous relationship, is paranoia/fear.
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Let it go, or let her go. Those are your choices.

If it makes you feel any better, she does like you. However, don't confuse that for a preference of your "type" over a Chad. You're just now an option she hadn't considered before and found that she doesn't mind.
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So there's a bunch of nude photos floating around of your GF and you think she's lying about them.. AND she doesn't let you pump her up the ass?

Yeah I'd be feeling like shit over her lies too.. maybe you should tell her about your past with transgender women and sex fetish parties and see how she reacts.
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>I mean, she doesn't even want to have anal sex, but she's willing to be in a poly-amorous relationship with Joe College?

i dont see the correlation
holy fuck why is this board filled with this 'my gf did better than me' mindset?
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She was a fucking teenager, not a toddler. She knew what she was doing and enjoyed it back then. Also, there are naked pics of her going around but you didn't know it?
She wouldn't think a second to have sex with that guy again. If you aren't getting what you want and your lover is being unclear to you, that's not a relationship going well
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>>17382965
The correlation is that she's a whore for anyone but a prude for her long term boyfriend who loves her.
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>>17382288
>Should I be concerned with my current relationship?
>So, my gf and I have been together for 3 years, now. This woman has always been sweet, serious, funny and kind. But recently
I'm assuming there were no problems and she gave you no reasons to worry then?
>we got drunk together, and she accidentally revealed something about herself.
>When my gf was in college, she was a crazy, wild girl. She was in a four way relationship with this one big jock (let's call him John)...
Well she isn't still friends with john
>I asked her more about it, specifically if she was willing to do more stuff with me, and she laughed it off right afterwards. She told me about how she was "over" that kind of thing, about how she all mature and serious, now, and she just didn't see me the same way as John, she liked how I was nicer.
Now I see the problem
>I'm not shaming her for doing weird stuff in college, even though it irks me quite a bit. What really kind of bothers me, is that I feel like she doesn't see me the same way she sees John. I mean, she doesn't even want to have anal sex, but she's willing to be in a poly-amorous relationship with Joe College?
Red flag from me there
>I feel like I'm the safe-choice, the guy the girl settles down for after a youth of fun, the end of an adventure, the boring, unsatisfying ending, etc.
I know the feeling OP, I was the "safe option" for my ex, it made me feel pretty shitty
>Am I right to feel awkward about this? I don't want to call myself a "cuck" or anything, but I feel like I'm a "safe-choice" compared to John.
You aren't a cuck in any form of the word, but you have every reason to be bothered.

If she didn't think you should know her history (not the specifics, but some of it is something that should be shared 3 years into a relationship), then it means that she has something to hide.
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>>17382493
>No thanks. He's okay with this and also knows if there's anything he wants to try I'm more than happy to.
That is very different to the OP's situation.
This isn't about you, please keep contributions as relevant to the OP's situation as possible, this is >>>/adv/ not >>>/talkaboutyourpast/
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Don't know if OP still here but here's my advice: Keep her but on the side, address yours shitty self evaluation. If you're comparing yourself and just from your general post, you secretly don't feel you're that manly. What's the truth? Obviously you're a man. It's just your self evaluation that needs to catch up. Many perfectly healthy, intelligent men have this shitty idea that they're not man enough, or they're not good enough in women's eyes. That is your problem and yours alone.
How do you solve this? By building a belief inside yourself. This includes shit like talking in the mirror, affirming yourself ("Every day in every way I get better and better"), and taking massive action towards your goal. Ultimately it isn't truly a "manly enough" problem, it's a social problem. You want to put yourself in social situations and iron out your self esteem.

Once you do that then you're fine. You won't feel insecure. You will feel naturally manly, confident in yourself, and you may even view her differently. Go outside your comfort zone. That's how everyone grows.

I do this stuff. It sucks, it's hard, but I remind myself that I WANT to get used to feeling uncomfortable. I'm not going to look back and feel any regret, instead I'll look back and think GODDAMN I DID IT AND IT PAID OFF.

As a Man among Men, I salute you OP.
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>>17382288
Bad waifu material alarm. Abort. Abort.
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>>17382288

From reading your posts, its not about how wild she was with other people, it's just that the tone of the conversation implied that you are the silver medal.

She doesn't even say that you are the best thing that happened to you, it's just that things were "different".

Honestly, I would give a shit if my girl had an "experienced" past. I would, it's natural. But what would make me break up with her on the fucking spot is if she had any doubts that I was the best thing she has ever come across.

And it sounds like, from the conversation, there are some doubts.
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>>17382827
>Spoken like a true cuck.
Maybe I'm misreading something, but OP's story heavily implied that this college thing happened long before they even met. That precludes any possibility of cucking; OP had no claim on her at the time, and probably didn't even know she existed.

For crying out loud, at least use your own terms properly. It's sad that someone like me, who has nothing but contempt for your kind, would know your lexicon better than you do.
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>>17382965
>holy fuck why is this board filled with this 'my gf did better than me' mindset?
Because /r9k/ is trying to establish an outpost here. The people who come to /adv/ are vulnerable, and that makes it prime breeding ground for the redpillers to spread their poison. God knows they have no other way to make more of their kind.
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>gf had wild past; wants to be "grown-up" with me

I lol'd at the title.

Seriously though, if it bothers you (and it's fine to be bothered by it - don't listen to the cucks here) just break it off and find someone else. It might bother you because you have less of that same experience, in which case you need to go out and bang a few whores yourself before you settle down. Or if you just want someone with a less "wild" past then it's perfectly acceptable to go out and look for that. Not all women are whores, there are some good ones out there - even in the west. Godspeed OP.
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>>17382288
reading OP made my heart feel bad
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>>17382288
Let me tell you who "John" is.

John is a jock. John is an unfaithful person who wasn't looking for commitment. John is a guy who managed to find your current girlfriend who, at the time, wasn't looking for a relationship either. She wanted that NSA fun.

Let me tell you what NSA fun is. It is a constant cycle of selfishness, and abuse. Using one another for their own needs. It's unfulfilling, temporary, and usually leaves one party if not both (or more) regretting the decision, or learning from the experience.

I've never once considered the possibility of being promiscuous, as I more or less never believed I possessed the ability to be promiscuous. I always settled for girls who would bother dating me. Yet, I managed to dress myself up a bit, build enough confidence where I am capable of arguing with taxi drivers and other shit heads that try to take advantage of me, and win, and realised that it irradiated an aura of attraction. Would I ever date any of the girls I slept around with? Not really. Most of them were cold, shallow, awkward, and very boring. Lots of issues, lots of red flags. Finding someone to "settle" with who is also attractive and could provide me with the fun I experienced in my promiscuous phase would be a 1 in a million.

So in short OP, if she's with you, she's chosen you because you're someone who is able to give her what John could not. John was just a temporary placeholder until you showed up. Think of it in that way, because that's basically how I feel when I land myself in a relationship with someone.
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that's a great character name

john college
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>>17383435
>, in which case you need to go out and bang a few whores yourself before you settle down.

So you pretty much gave OP the green light to go do what it is you consider "cuckworthy" behavior but it's all good cause he's a guy huh?
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I've seen this pasta a few times now.
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>>17382493
you're supposed to build character when you're younger so you don't become some retarded cuck numale
this 'experiement' bullshit sounds like drugdealer funky talk to push morons into their business
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hey guys, hitler only killed 6 million jews! whats in the past is the past! lets move on!

...

this is the retarded logic some of you are using. you cant just ignore history. a slut cant become a nun.
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She is now your sex toy as well; that's the role she established for herself. You treat her like the whore she is.

Now go find yourself a decent woman
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>>17383999
I'm not not supporting her either but are you comparing her to hitler?
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>>17384012
It's a pretty unfair comparison.

Hitler opposed degeneracy. OP's ex engaged in it.

No need to insult Hitler like that.
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>>17384014
this
he did nothing wrong
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>>17382288
People change over time. They may have done some regrettable things in the past or she may even loved the times she had. People are never static. Personality is never a group of things, we either change or have contradicting actions.

That said, if you really are uncomfortable about it, don't force yourself to be in a relationship. If you want to explore sexuality but she is unwilling, then you aren't sexually compatible. But if you really love her and want to continue to be together and can get over her not wanting to do the same things (as in it's something that isn't a big deal) she did then say fuck it. That was her then not now.

No need to be jealous since you got the fucking girl, they didn't.
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>>17383826
>So in short OP, if she's with you, she's chosen you because you're someone who is able to give her what John could not. John was just a temporary placeholder until you showed up
I don't usually throw this term around, but that is a right cuck way to look at things.
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>>17382831
>OP is being kind of unclear about whether she did anything with this guy that she doesn't want to do with him.

>I asked her more about it, specifically if she was willing to do more stuff with me, and she laughed it off right afterwards.
Seems pretty clear to me. It's not just a lifestyle change, but a change in the bedroom too. Not just a matter of sending him nudes, but being willing to do butt stuff or have threesomes.

Pretty much any guy will be extremely uncomfortable in this situation. There's already a fear for a lot of guys that women are just settling for them because they're safe, and ultimately she has only added fuel to that. Finding out stuff like this in passing is just about the worst way to hear it, because regardless of intent it sounds like a lie of omission that slipped out.

>>17382965
>i dont see the correlation
It's very simple. Joe was hot, exciting, and she wanted to do all of the crazy risque shit she did. He's boring, safe, and her sexual draw to him is minimal. That may not be what's going on, but it's not like it's hard to understand the thought process.
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>>17384074
>Cuck

That's probably because you're insecure. If you had actually read my post you'd understand that I'm coming from experience that if I were to "settle" with a girl, it's because she's able to give me something that all the other girls I slept around with could not.

So fuck off with your cuck shit. You want to know what is blatant cuckoldry? Condemning people for their sex lives.

>Hurr durr person I dated fucked 15 people 10 years ago and I only had a grand total of 3 girls in the past 15 years

I have slept with 7 girls in this year alone. Another 7 the previous 5 years altogether. I'm in my promiscuous phase and I would be a major hypocrite to condemn people for being in their promiscuous phase.

And you know what? If it all boils down to the fact that SOME of us can have that much sex, then it boils down to insecurities
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>>17384256
>You want to know what is blatant cuckoldry? Condemning people for their sex lives.
But that's not cuckoldry either
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I'm gonna be the guy that says cucking is when the guy knows his wife is cheating on him.
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>>17384096
>It's very simple. Joe was hot, exciting, and she wanted to do all of the crazy risque shit she did. He's boring, safe, and her sexual draw to him is minimal. That may not be what's going on, but it's not like it's hard to understand the thought process.

Get a load of this horse shit.

First of all anon, you know shit all about human behaviours. Just because I've done kinky shit with people before does not mean I will not do them again.

And you know what? Sex is not about being selfish. It takes two to tango my friend, sex is all about both parties enjoying each other. Let's say if I was a little more exploring in the past with my previous relationships and tried out the whole "sub/dom" thing and let girls whip me with a riding crop, I myself am not particularly fond of that shit so I will not let another girl smack me with a riding crop. I've preferred to be more of a dom than a sub. Same shit applies to anal sex, blowjobs, creampies, and I could literally name them all but then I would reach my post limit 10 times over.

Let's go down the list shall we? Why would someone have bad experiences or not like the following?
>Anal
It hurts and is unpleasant. Word for word from a girl I dated, "it feels like taking a massive shit repeatedly." And some girls just aren't fond of that feeling. Plus a lot of inexperienced guys could have tried it with them and just turned the girl off of the idea. Not to mention that girls in general that have never done it view it as an exit hole and are adamant on that belief.
>Blowjobs
Simply put, hygiene issues or diet issues. A whole mess of reasons of why any girl would hate blowjobs.
>Creampies
Pregnancy risks/scares and basically just paranoia in general. Not a lot of girls are fond of it even after trying it once. Some girls are into it, but I'm not planning on being a father anytime soon.
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>>17384296
>Get a load of this horse shit.
I said that's what is likely running through his head, not what is actually her reasoning. If she had been more direct about her history and why she doesn't do certain things, those fears and insecurities could have likely been handled in a much cleaner fashion.

Get off your high horse and work on your reading comprehension.
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>>17384264
But it is. You're literally displaying such beta insecurities that it makes you look like a cuck.

Here's the real reason why you would shame a girl for having done something sexually in the past and refuses to do it with you. Because you haven't experienced the novelty yet while she has. It all boils down to that.

You are so obsessed with the idea that you're not good enough to go in places where John or Chad has been before that you're literally cucking yourself, because I'm not obsessed with comparing myself to other guys that my lovers have been with. I am obsessed with leaving my own unique mark on that woman.

The sign of a great lover is how he performs. If he is selfish and measures himself up with his lover's past exes, he will only be measured by their achievements. If he instead sets a new bar and does things that no other lover has done, then he is setting himself above the other lovers.

Thinking about how your girlfriend swallowed cum before, but won't swallow yours will only make you resent yourself, your girlfriend, and honestly will ruin your relationship. I've spoken to a lot of girls that say cum tastes bad, and then again I've spoken to girls that don't mind the taste. So fuck off with all of your bull shit.
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>>17384311
>You're literally displaying such beta insecurities that it makes you look like a cuck.
Being insecure isn't being a cuck either though. You guys are both fucking up terminology.
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>>17384311
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>>17382375
a) you are female
b) you are some fucking pussy

His gf took every cock she could get and is used up now.
If she doesn't settle with someone, no one will take her.

Telling him this after 3 years when she was DRUNK.
His luck that she stupid enough to blur this out.

OP, dump her ass and tell her why.
We NEED to set signals, that it is not ok to fuck around like rabbits and then expect to get a nice guy who provide for her after her fun years are over.
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>>17384306
>muh reading comprehension
No fggt you blatantly said what you said. Don't give me that. Why the fuck do you think I quoted the WHOLE thing that you wrote?
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>>17384319
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>>17384331
>Why the fuck do you think I quoted the WHOLE thing that you wrote?
No you didn't.

>Finding out stuff like this in passing is just about the worst way to hear it, because regardless of intent it sounds like a lie of omission that slipped out.
I'm going to break it down a bit more since you're a touch slow apparently. She probably had no ill intent, but because of the way he was told about it his insecurities took it as fuel to go crazy. If any significant dialogue is to take place, those insecurities will need to be addressed in a calm and rational manner.

Now stop posting.
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>>17382288

Ppl change and grow up. The reason you are feeling insecure is bcz u didnt have such a "wild youth". Everyone knows that women settle with more serious people when they think about their lifelong relationship. That's why all those chads and players get BTFOed later in life.

Most ppl I know, me included, have done extreme things in our youth. She doesn't think of you as a safer option, she sees you as the best option to "raise her kids in a good environment".

You re probably just jealous of that John guy.
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>>17384365

And btw that "raise her kids in a good/friendly/comfortable environment is not something they think of as to "find a man to use him for my benefits" its how evolution in our modern society works I guess.
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>>17384373
No thank you, evolution doesn't make men work hard and settle down with women who can't think about the consequences of their actions. You people are portraying every college girl as whores who have gangbang every Thursday and that's the problem
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If you're so desperate for human contact that you're fine with a girl who feels that she has to "settle" for you, then stay with her. If you want to find someone who really loves you and respects you and your relationship enough to not have spent her time being a slut beforehand, then give her up. I would suggest the latter personally, but depending on how old you are can change things. I think it's better to die alone than to die with someone who doesn't really respect you, and seeing as she had to get drunk to tell you this, she clearly doesn't respect you. It's your call, but I recommend you dump her. It'll give her what she deserves, show her that her actions have consequences, but most importantly, it'll give you the opportunity to find someone who really loves you. Someone who would not only not be so uncaring about love that she decided to be a slut, as well as someone who wouldn't hide major parts of their lives from you.
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>>17384423

Areyou a twat ? Evolution doesn't make females think of bringing their children to the best possible environment? Aren't the young ones who were born in bad conditions in bigger danger to get killed than the secured ones ? DUUUH
Watch some natural geographic.
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>>17384510
I know what evolution does tard, there's nothing wrong with a good mother trying to find the best for their children. But the girl we're talking about used "experimenting" as an excuse for her enjoyment and hid her past instead of being clear. What an amazing mother figure, parenting requires sacrifices from both sides you know
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>>17382288
Unless you're just as fucked up and had tons of casual sex I don't see any reason to stay with that whore.
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>>17382598
>This
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>>17383413
Cuck supersedes time in this scenario on the quantum level. So it's not fair because she's settling and you never had those wild times that she may still be having.
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>>17382342
What if he wanted to do something more adventurous?
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>>17384550
Adventurous stuff is reserved for John obviously.
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>>17384256
>So fuck off with your cuck shit. You want to know what is blatant cuckoldry? Condemning people for their sex lives.
Um, no. No version of the term -not even the degenerate form used by /r9k/- has ever included this in its meaning. If you're going to go after the redpillers for arbitrarily using the term for something it doesn't even mean, then don't go doing the same thing yourself. It kills your credibility.
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>>17384543
>Cuck supersedes time in this scenario on the quantum level.
But nature's harmonic simultaneous four-day Time Cube restricts it to a single corner day: it does not spread to the other three. That day is over. So cut it out with the evil word bastardy.

>So it's not fair because she's settling and you never had those wild times that she may still be having.
There is literally no reason to believe tbat she is settling, and even less reason to bitch and moan over not having wild times.
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>>17383972
Thats not what he said
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>>17382288
KEK MY LIFE INTO PIECES
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>>>/adv/>>17382288
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>>17382288
>(let's call him John)

Don't you mean Chad?
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>>17384345
Fuck your insecurities. Either handle it confidently or handle it like a cuck. Also get off your high horse you sperg.
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>>17384336
Not either of you guys, but it appears the cuckoldry filter is back up. What a sad day.
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>>17384717
Well shit, I walked right into that one
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>>17382288

She is settling for you 100%. You've been chosen as the beta-bux provider. Congrats. Enjoy your loveless marriage and future divorce when she takes the kids and the dog.
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