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Cutting off contact from my dad? Also job advice

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So long story short, dad was a shitty person. Workaholic, emotionally abusive, sent me to psychologists when I got a b- in high school (went a prep school). Parents are in the process of divorce, dad still acting like a dick. Almost done with college. He's been paying for half of my tuition for the last two years (rest came from scholarships and like 25% of in student loans). I kind of want to move to Seattle, Portland or KC after college. I'm a CS major.

How should I go about cutting him out and advice on how I should go about getting a job in those cities? I'm planning on working for a year in my city since my school is well known in my state. Also should I try to pay my dad back for tuition or just fuck off?
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Taking his money and then telling him to fuck off is a pretty dickish, entitled thing to do. Even if he was a cunt, at least he paid your tuition, and you should be thankful for that. I would just make contact on important days, and maintain radio silence until you've grown out of the anger.

My relationship with my father was incredibly similar. I barely talked to him for a few years after the divorce (went to see him for Christmas or birthday, but no socializing beyond that). Eventually you grow up and see that, even though he was a dick in MANY MANY ways, he tried his best with what he had (go up at 3am every day to make sure he could pick us up from school, made sure we did our best academically so we could get into good colleges, made us work in sports hard so we would have good work ethica). It takes a few years to divorce yourself from those feelings of hurt, but just remember he was a stupid 20-30 year old too. He's allowed to fuck up.
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Yeah that's why I want to pay him back before I break it off
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