I did the right thing but I dont like it.
Im friends with this woman who I have very strong feelings for. She has a boyfriend, and recently was in a rough patch. She made it feel like the feelings with him had been weakening for several months and she wasnt sure what she felt.
I told her not make any rash decisions and try and fix things with him. Hes a good man.
They had a talk and seem to be happy again, thought its only been a few days.
I feel like I did the right thing by telling her every time we talked that she should be focusing on her relationship with him and not running from the problem, but at the same time I was rooting for it to all fall apart.
What should I be doing with this girl, should I distance myself from her incase I am somehow causing problems? Should I distance myself for my own sake?
Distance yourself for your own sake, move on from this girl. You opining for her and she isn't in a position to reciprocate. Go out there and find a new girl, preferably unattached
>>17321767
But shes also a good friend regardless of her capacity to fuck me. Should I throw that away simply because I cant get my dick wet.
I feel like I should be able to keep her as a friend and still find someone else.
>>17321763
You're being altruistic, looking out for others even if it conflicts with your own desires. This is a good thing according to society.
Keep at it and you'll still die alone like the rest of us.
Good job OP.
>>17321775
seeing as your rooting for her relationship to fall apart, it doesn't seem like you are entirely satisfied with being just friends.
>>17321763
You did the right thing, OP.
Breaking up the relationship may have felt like the better thing to do deep-down, and the guilt might not have been bad AT THE MOMENT, but doing things like that tend to rot you inside out over time.
It's little things like this that add up over a lifetime and poison your thinking; do you want to look back with a smile or a flinch?
>>17321779
True