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Ask a guy who has had sex with a different girl every night for a week anything.

I used to be like you; confused, angry, bitter. I didn't know how to talk to women and I hated myself (and women) for it. I finally decided to take my life into my own hands and change the way I perceived the world and now I'm here to share what I've learned with you.

Ask away.
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>>17320056
Give us your backstory, how you grew up, yadda yadda
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>>17320056
>Ask a guy who has had sex with a different girl every night for a week anything.
How many STDs have you contracted?
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>>17320056
This shit thread again?
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>>17320056
Fuck it, I might as well ask you something. I am currently stuck in a relationship that I am not entirely satsified with, and have been turning down girls to stay with her. I am convinced that she is the one, although there is a nagging feeling in the back of my mind that she is not. I think that she's smart, but not really smart enough for me.

What do?
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>>17320056
ask a girl who has had sex with a different guy every night for a week (well not every night cause one 24 hr period I had sex with two guys)

easy I'm telling you
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Why do you think you originally failed to understand how to talk to women? What are the main differences between now and then?
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>>17320056
How much did the hookers cost?

Where do you work to afford such hookers?

Did you use cocaine? Tell us about the cocaine.
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>>17320064

Pretty standard 4chan upbringing. Not that attractive, not that social but I was smart and good with computers.

Middle school sucked, high school sucked, I watched everyone have fun and find their cliques and I ate lunch in the band room every day with the autistic kids and the fat girls.

I dropped out of college, wandered around for a few years and then finally decided that I wasn't going to browse 4chan for the rest of my life and started developing my career.

My line of work forced me to interact with people on a daily basis and although it was uncomfortable at first I finally opened myself to the possibility that maybe people and the world weren't terrible, I just didn't know how to get what I wanted out of them. I'm 26 now and I'm pretty content.
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>>17320067

None.

>>17320077

If you're not satisfied you should move on, especially if you're young. Its tough, but waiting around until it feels right is a waste of months and years that you're never going to get back.

>>17320081

The main difference between then and now is I talk to women like people, not like how I think women want to be talked to. No techniques, no negging, no red pill pick up bullshit.

If you really think about it, attractive girls have guys trying to spit game at them all day, so when a guy comes up and just speaks to her like a normal person, has a conversation without an ulterior motive or underlying theme its more often than not very disarming to them.

I used to try to talk to women with the goal of getting them to like me and now that I don't really care and I just enjoy having conversations with different people good things just kind of happen because even if I get turned down or the conversation goes sour I don't let it discourage me.

>>17320082

Cocaine is great. Also, they're called escorts now.
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I recently moved to a big city and, ah fuck it, I moved like 10 months ago and have barely made any solid new connections in general, much less with girls. I knew a handful of people here when I arrived that are still my only core network. My last relationship was two years ago and I'm in a dry spell of about a year. I'm not exactly a complete autist, but I do have some degree of genuine social anxiety and self confidence issues that are undoubtedly holding me back. I'm really starting to lose my mind with loneliness, ideally I'm prioritizing companionship more than sex but getting my dick wet wouldn't hurt either.

I work with this PUA type guy who is always telling me about "game" and whatever else, how I should always be approaching girls whenever I'm out, blah blah. I know dating is a numbers game, but I find the aggressive redpill approach slightly misguided and I know there's some kind of healthy medium you can perhaps advise me on.

My "game" up til this point has been that I really have no game. I basically do nothing, play the aloof card hard as fuck and every now and then a girl comes along and basically throws herself at me. The problem with this is it's admittedly passive as fuck and takes a long time for anything to happen. I see a lot of beautiful girls around here but most of the time they're with like six other beautiful girls or already with a guy. I don't know where to start, or how.
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>>17320097
>If you really think about it, attractive girls have guys trying to spit game at them all day, so when a guy comes up and just speaks to her like a normal person, has a conversation without an ulterior motive or underlying theme its more often than not very disarming to them.
Sure, but how do you go from there? If I ever tried talking to them without a motive (e.g. specifically to ask them out) I always ended up in a "just friends" position and never really figured out how to go from there.
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>>17320098

I would say to stop playing cards, aloof or not. Stop trying to morph yourself to please every girl you interact with. You'll never develop a sense of self if you try to change it every day.

One of the things I learned is that women are very intuitive, even the not so smart ones. Nothing is more attractive to women than a guy who is passionate about something and unapologetically himself. Its the confidence in knowing who you are and being happy with yourself that attracts women.

It seems counter intuitive but I would advise you to find something you're passionate about; music, gaming, hiking, whatever. Find something that makes you happy and dedicate yourself to it.

For me, I was passionate about music so I started going to shows, music shops, record shows, recording studio classes. It was a lot easier for me to find my comfort zone when I was around people who liked the same things I liked. It gave me a good starting point for conversation and helped me practice being happy and talking to people just for the sake of talking.

Focus on yourself and develop your own life. If you can get to a place in your life where you like yourself and can be content with or without female attention I can promise you that you won't need to seek women out, they will seek you out.

Its very difficult for other people to like you if you don't like yourself. Just remember, confidence is a magnet and self-loathing is a repellant. Don't change how you interact with women, change how you interact with yourself.

I know this sounds a little open-ended and self helpish but its really that simple. It was for me, anyways.
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>>17320127

I actually already feel like I do a good job of indulging in stuff I'm passionate about. In my case, I go to films, art museums, galleries etc on a pretty regular basis. I like to work at coffee shops too, I'm always trying new cafes and shit. I suppose if I had to admit it, there's probably been more than a few cute girls I've psyched myself out of talking to or whatever.

Anyway, thanks for the words, bro. To a lesser extent, I had a pretty scarring breakup from my last relationship (long story just a lot of drama caused by my ex) which I think kind of contributed to this fear of putting myself out there again. I've heard this kind of advice before, guess it's up to me to just get back on the saddle.
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>>17320111

Don't allow yourself to be just a friend. Don't agree to be friends with a girl in hopes that she'll develop feelings for you later.

Its perfectly ok to talk to a girl because you're attracted to her and want to take her out but what I mean when I say "talk to her without a motive" is that your concern should be making a connection first. If you and the girl you're talking to don't connect there's no point in asking her out because even if you do take her out the date will be forced and terrible.

Be ok with being turned down. Sometimes you'll think you're connecting on a romantic level with a girl and you're really not. Sometimes maybe you are clicking and having a great convo and she's just not ready to see anybody, she just broke up, she's seeing someone, whatever. It happens, just don't let that rejection turn into an awkward "friendship" where you slug around waiting for her to decide to like you.

If you want to ask, ask. If you're not having fun talking to a girl you want to ask out then either she's not worth asking out or you're doing it wrong.
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>>17320150

Get back on the saddle indeed. Most guys inherently know what they have to do to change their predicament its typically just a very hard and scary thing to do.

Put faith in yourself and go for it before you give yourself a chance to psyche yourself out. Don't think about it just do it.

Its ok to get turned down. I discovered a long time ago that getting turned down doesn't feel anywhere near as terrible as going through my life letting opportunities pass me by without even trying.

Good luck, anon.
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>>17320098 here again, quick follow up OP, where are you making first contact? Solely out in the world or are you on any dating apps?
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>>17320127
>Its the confidence in knowing who you are and being happy with yourself that attracts women.

Truth. it's related to how women desire security. If you're uncomfortable with yourself around others then you're definitely not a source of security for her.

A woman's love for man stems from the man's ability to relieve her of uncertainty, and the anxiety she experiences in it.
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>>17320165

Mostly out in the world. I'm in a different city all the time so I'm always out exploring, checking out bars, museums, shops, that kind of thing. I think dating apps are great too though, it just expands the amount of people you would typically be exposed to.
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>>17320076

i can't believe you fucking jabronis are taking the SAME EXACT BAIT
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>>17320180
Is that Panty?
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how old were you when you lost your virginity
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>>17320056
Did you ever escape from friendzone? If yes, how?
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I have weird experiences with women. I tend to be a more reserved person, and I don't get as much female attention as I'd like admittedly. But of the past few, they basically admitted they weren't really enthusiastic about me but liked the fact I was "safe and stable" as one put it.

I cut it off whenever I was told something like that because that's not the kind of relationship I want, but I have no idea why I've been in this position so often. Are there certain behaviors on my part that could encourage that kind of nonsense?
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>>17320199

Yes, and its a real girl

Now I'm going to stop wasting my time on this shit board and finish cleaning my room
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>>17320180
Who is this girl?
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>>17320202

17. It was in a terrible hotel room with a girl I didn't like. 0/10.

>>17320206

Only you can put yourself in the friendzone. If you make your intentions clear its impossible for you to be in the friendzone.

If you're sticking around pretending to be a girl's friend until she decides she likes you or you decide you have the courage to ask her out then that's on you.

>>17320213

I'm not sure but it sounds like maybe you're just attracted to the wrong kind of woman. Plenty of girls will go for a reserved guy but if you only ask out the ones who want more excitement in a relationship you'll always find yourself in this position.

I don't know you so I can't say for sure if its yours behavior thats doing it but if you keep having this same interaction I would say that there's a good possibility that you have a pattern of going after girls who aren't a good fit for you. I don't believe in coincidence, personally, so this is the only explanation I can think of.
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>>17320056
Oldfag here. All you young folk need to pay attention, I'm only going to say this once and not reply to anyone who baits me.

Sex is awesome. It's an icing on the cake of life. It's a primary instinct. We marry for it, pay for it, spend all our money on trying to get it with clothes and grooming and flashing bling to attract the babes.

But sex isn't a goal. In my twenties, I chased the women and had more than my share of success. It got me great memories, bragging rights to my mates, and made me feel like a conquering hero.

The sex myth is a common means of control of the young. If you do little else but chase tail, you're easily controlled and manipulated. You'll get stds, you'll have children that you didn't want that you have to pay for, you'll spend all your time and money and attention on proving your manliness.

When you get older, you realize that getting sex from different women is great, but it's not making your life any better. If you can eat a buffet of chocolate every day, then chocolate isn't a treat anymore. Chocolate is a treat when you don't get it all the time. Look at how many male pornstars have died young from drugs or suicide; if sex was the purpose of life, wouldn't these guys be the most fulfilled ever?

Threads like this are from humblebrags or those who want to shill "how to pick up" programs. Be smarter than that. Don't be a slave to your hormones or your need to be a stud. Get what you can, but if you build a good life then it will come to you. Women either want status and attention, or they want security and comfortable life provided by (or in even better in contribution with) a long term partner.

So OP, if not lying, is a stud. Yay. What has he really accomplished? How has he made his own life better, ongoing? Has he made the world a better place? Thnk about it.
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>>17320487
I don't like icing
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>>17320487
/thread
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>>17320056
Do you, or do you not, eat breakfast?
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So. It's cool when a guy does this. But when a woman does this she's a slut. Hmm...i don't get it.
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Just turned 27, virgin, never been intimate with any woman

can talk to women and people easily and I make quite a bit of money, I'm not autistic or creepy, I'm very well dressed and have good hygiene, I don't look ugly and I'm 170 /5'10. I ended up firing my secretary, while she is pretty, she thinks I want to date her and I heard her chatting during lunch how about how gross that is. So I fired her. I'm only successful and in shape due to my own desire to better myself, but I'm just getting more and more angry.

I'm pretty much completely bitter and cynical and I can't make jokes to women on dating sites.

Here's something that happened last weekend.

>girl approaches me while I'm shopping
>chat her up, she gives me her number
>we meet up at a BBQ event on a lake
>she's clingy and touching my shoulder/thigh/etc
>make plenty of reciprocating jokes and physical contact
>legitimately like her
>end of night I walk her to her car and she said she had tons of fun, can't wait to do it again
>she comes up close to me, puts her arms on my sides and leans in, so I go to kiss her
>it's a hug, it's awkward and she says we were just friends
>give her a look and go home, cut contact and delete number
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>>17320180
This thread looks pretty dumb and if not for your post I would've passed it by, but Christ on a fucking cracker, can you people please stop yelling "Bait! BAIT!!" at every fourth thread on this board?

Yes, we know people occasionally troll this place. An occasional troll thread getting a couple dozen replies is a fuck of a lot less annoying than a near-constant stream of "this is bait you idiots." It's really tiresome.

Y'all not nearly as clever or savvy as you think you are.

Also, fuck off, tripfag.
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>>17320904
It's not cool when a guy does it, but there is envy from other guys, and girls often see a guy who can pull a lot of women as high value. A woman can be a slut with no effort, but the same is not true of a man.

There's also biological and practical reason why a woman shouldn't whore about: they have a limited supply of eggs and a not insignificant chance dying in childbirth (these are somewhat negated by modern technology, but historically these reasons are valid). Men also do not want to raise other men's children, and women are less likely to bond emotionally the more partners they have.

It's not cool for either gender, but men who are popular with the ladies have to do more than offer sex to get sex.
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>>17320904

True. The ins and outs of society are beyond me. Personally, I care more about the quality of guy a girl has had sex with than the number. I'd prefer a girl sleep with 5 normal, intelligent guys than 1 complete and utter piece of shit.

>>17320487

I definitely see your point but you said one key element here.

>It got me great memories, bragging rights to my mates, and made me feel like a conquering hero.

Thats what I'm advising on, how to make memories, not how to grow old and gain perspective. There's a lot of young people here who don't have even the tools to make any of these memories; who don't have the confidence to put their best foot forward in life, not just with women. You talk about having more than your fair share of success with women but I'm not talking to guys who have had success, I'm talking to the guys who haven't. Its easy for you to brush off how shallow and stupid chasing women is but a lot of the young men who frequent this board are missing out on their chance to be shallow, stupid woman chasers and I was almost one of them.

I appreciate you thinking big picture, and there is definitely a point in life in which womanizing loses its charm but the point of this thread isn't big picture but I'm talking to the people at that point yet.

It may sound like a humblebrag but its deeper than that. I used to be an angry, lonely, confused young man who didn't think I was worth anybody's time and I found a way to change that. If I can help at least one person come to the point in their life where they want to change that then a bunch of people thinking I'm a douche bag is a small price to pay.

I'm not trying to make the world a better place or teach 18 year olds the true meaning of accomplishments. I'm just a former basement dwelling, woman hating fuckhead encouraging people whose shoes I used to be in to change their ways. I think there's some value in that. If you dont, well, you're entitled to your opinion.
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>>17320841

If coffee, cigarettes and last night's street cart burrito is considered breakfast than yes.

>>17320909

>she comes up close to me, puts her arms on my sides and leans in, so I go to kiss her
>it's a hug, it's awkward and she says we were just friends
>give her a look and go home, cut contact and delete number

You experienced a mortifying, embarrassing moment with a woman. I'm sorry that happened but that still happens to me. A few weeks ago I asked a girl out who works at one of my favorite pizza shops in Chicago and she audibly laughed at me. Out loud. So loud that her coworkers asked what was so funny and she told them.

I spent the next ten minutes waiting for my order at a full bar while the staff snickered at me. It sucked but it happens and it doesn't make me feel ashamed for trying. I guess I wasn't her type.

The good news is you seemed to do everything right up to that point. I think a big turning point for me was telling myself that sometimes things aren't going to work out even if I do everything right and thats ok.

Keep chatting, keep trying. Don't spend all your time ruminating on your failures, chalk it up and move on. I'm sure you've suffered failures in your professional life but you know the answer isn't to put in your two weeks and quit or start hating your job.
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>>17321188

>A few weeks ago I asked a girl out who works at one of my favorite pizza shops in Chicago and she audibly laughed at me. Out loud. So loud that her coworkers asked what was so funny and she told them.

Man, good on you for going for it though. I have a habit of developing massive crushes on my baristas. One of them seemed to reciprocate a few months ago too but I could never be sure if she was just being nice because I was a frequent customer. She eventually moved away, I still regret never going for it.
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>>17320904
Oh shush woman. No one cares how easy it was for you to spread you legs. Men have to put in effort to get laid. Thats why its cool. People recognize and admire hard workers.
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>>17321216

I'm not easily mortified. I mean, it sucks to be the butt of a joke but I learned to let stuff like that go a long time ago. She was very cute but, obviously, kind of a mean person. I definitely didn't miss out on anything.

Always go for it. Maybe she is just being nice but if she says no the worst that can happen is you end up exactly back where you started.
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>>17321237
Well we clearly see whose not getting any action
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>>17320056
your name isnt barney stintson. and you did not have a perfect week. both of your hands dont count as "girlfriends"

now if you can do a perfect month or year that would be legend-dairy
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>>17321287
I'm not the anon you replied to, but your shaming language doesn't invalidate his point. Women are more selective on who they have sex with, and so men bedding them has more value.

On top of that, WOMEN too think it's cool for a guy to be able to bed lots of women, if you called manwhores manwhores that'd be a different situation.
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>>17320954
This fag attentionwhores with the same exact premise everytime

>y'all

You're inbred so you don't know any better its okay
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Why are you such an attention-hungry slut? Do you really think girls are going to keep wanting your dick after they find out you've been sticking it every slightly moist hole you can find? What's wrong with you?
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>>17321287
>Le must be a virgin meme

Im glad that you have come to the realization that I was right. Seeing how you couldn't factually refute my point, you resorted to shaming. GG babe.

Also to break your views a bit more, I have a gf who loves me dearly. Stay salty anon.
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OK well how can I say this so I fucked this girl today.
I took her V card in but her charry didn't pop it didn't feel too tight. And she even asked are u even inside me ? Did I go in the rong hole? Or is there something I don't know about the vagina? Last time I had sex was 3 years ago?
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>>17320097
What's wrong with red pill besides the obvious extreme sexism portion of it?
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>>17321488

The obvious extreme sexism portion, thats whats wrong with it. Any guy with a modicum of social awareness and underdeveloped moral center can trick an emotionally dependent girl into having sex with him. The whole premise of the redpill agenda is that women are inferior creatures that need to be manipulated and coerced. Its just overall very insulting and juvenile to me.

I have a healthy respect for women. Some of my closest friends are women. My life had been influenced greatly by a number of strong, intelligent women.

I think redpill is a knee jerk reaction to the ails of the internet age. Men grow up only knowing women through their computers and are frustrated and bitter that their fap dreams don't come to life on command. Blaming women for your problems is much much easier than looking at yourself and admitting that the problem is you. We live in a generation where passing the buck of responsibility is a social norm and redpillers are just a symptom of that unwillingness to face reality. Who needs to face reality when all you have to do is do a quick Google search and find millions of other people who have the same delusions you do?
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>>17320056
>I used to be like you; confused, angry, bitter.

Nah.. You've never been like me. I don't fuck dirty sluts.
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>>17321961

ayyyyeeeee
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>>17320056
Does this give you fulfillment or a sense of purpose?
Are you satisfied with how things are?
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>>17321986

Sleeping with women doesn't give me a sense of purpose. Success with women is just a symptom of being confident with myself and my life.

I've dedicated myself to perfecting my craft, developing my career and achieving my dreams. With or without female attention, I'm very happy with the direction things are going. I have my bad days, I'm not a cheery piece of shit 24/7 but for the most part I can't complain.

I'm not satisfied because I have success with women, I have success with women because I'm satisfied. I know that sounds like some hallmark card haiku bullshit but its just that simple.
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