How do I last longer in bed? >don't masturbate for two

It's anxiety, man.

I used to get it when I boned really hot girls. Never happened to me when I was screwing fatties or more normal looking chicks. I just try to pace myself and completely zone out of the sex (I think about woodworking, it's my favorite hobby)

>>17162055
But then how do you make it pleasurable?

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>>17162055
this , start fucking fat 2/10 beasts

>>17162055

Is your anxiety because they're hot or because you're worried you won't be good enough? What do you think makes you last longer when you're fucking less attractive girls?

Kegels

Nuff said

>>17162011
dude, I have the exact same thing.
best thing if you're with a girl is to have a couple of condoms, but a nut whenever you want, pull out and eat her out a bit. after a few minutes (5 or 10) I'll have a raging hard on again. slip on another condom and I'm good for seconds with much better performance. this is only possible with girls who are so hot you instantly regain you arousal after nutting.

>>17162106

Yeah but isn't it fucking terribly embarrassing when you have to do this literally every time and explain it to them over and over.

I'm going to see the doctor I think, get some pillz. I just worry he'll be pissed that I'm wasting his time.

>>17162106
Right on, I might try this

>>17162011
Circumcision

>>17162143
doood, don't worry about it.

another way I've found to last longer is to get a bit stoned first. it feels better but somehow it's a slower build. Feels amazing when you cum too.

second, relaxing your buthole (sphincter?) and all the muscles you not using works really well. You dick just becomes like any other appendage and you can ride the wave for at least a few minutes longer. and in a real life vagina you're probably lasting longer than you think anyway - should last about 4-5 mins on average (don't have source but I know this to be true). a hand is more focused and you can tweak it to make your dick feel good. Vaginas don't have fingers so you should be with vagina that with hand anyway.

>>17162162
5 minutes only for sex, it's kind of sad when you think about it in the grand scheme of things

>>17162187
yeah, but you do shit to long it out.
takes a guy 5 mins to cum, takes a girl 15.
nature fucked us over but gave us tongues and vibrators so all works out in the end,

Does anyone have something explaining this anxiety and cumming fast thing, and how to step out of it ?
The first time I fucked, the three first times with the same girl, I didn't even cum, but then with the girl I fell in love with I'd cum while rubbing my dick on her vagina, while we were both dressed

>>17162272
don't really know but it's a confidence thing I think. Maybe you haven't noticed but when drunk you fuck better. like an amateur pornstar. this is because your inhibitions are removed and you just go at it. the girl you fell in love with you were completely comfortable so your body just reacted how your brain felt.

your dick and your brain are linked. if your brain feels one thing so will yourdick. so if your brain isn't confident or feels uncomfortable or awkward, so will your dick so you won't cum.

that's the way I see it anyway.

>>17162011
Think about the grossest most disgusting thing that you can.
Practice edge play- stop when you feel like you're going to cum, do that until you can't hold it any longer. Eventually you will gain more control. Biggest thing is to just pace yourself and try to stay calm.
So, yeah- if you're determined you'll get there champ.
Source: I work in porn.

>>17162055
What's the point of having sex if you're gonna do this.

>>17163525
Cool points

>>17162011
You don't know how to fuck. You need to be able to fuck with a normal boner for at least an hour, and with a raging one at least 10-5 minutes.

It's not easy, you probably don't even have normal boner mode, you go into a raging one and jizz in a second, it needs practice, which means a lot of fucking.

the true mastery of fucking is having the raging boner an hour, it is the feeling before cumming that you keep for an hour, I haven't accomplished that, I believe my heart is still too weak, have to fuck more.

Well you can do those silly exercises where you stop yourself peeing with your dick muscles and try to train yourself when masturbating to wank for longer.

But that seems like quite a bit of effort to me. What I did was re-frame the way I looked at sex. So it wasn't so much about penetration and more about oral and foreplay and such things.

Then I think you just need to get into the habit of moving around, stopping penetration for a while, slowing down and shifting positions so you aren't always getting as much stimulation.

But ultimately you should just try to enjoy sex. Get her off, make sure she is happy and then fucking cum in 30 seconds but enjoy the hell out of them. You can then do your best to help her keep getting off and go for round-2 where you might last longer.

>>17162290

>Always feel incredibly uncomforatble during sex
>Takes ages for me to come, if I cum at all
>Makes the girl question herself, that she is not pretty enough or that it is her fault somehow.

Going through all the trouble made me realize my hand is actually my best partnet.

>>17162106
Eating a girl out after using a condom? Fucking gross. The taste of latex is awful.

OP, are you a virgin? Have you had sex and lasted only 30sec, or have you only ever done it with your hand?

I ask, because I rarely last over 30sec with my hand, and regularly last 20-30min inside an actual pussy.

For what it's worth, I had anxiety about this before I got laid, and I bought a fleshlight and tried to 'train' myself to last longer. I feel like it worked but obv that's not exactly empirical proof, ymmv

>>17163694
>>17163694
>kegels
>silly
lmao @ ur "life"

I have this same problem.

The only way for me to last longer is to mentally be completely disconnected or not really turned on.

I'm starting to doubt this whole anxiety thing. I can't last long because my orgasm threshold is very low and gets hit quickly.

Generally it is unpredictable for me, at times I will last a long time(especially with new women), with girlfriends and girls I know it's 30 seconds sometimes it 5 minutes

I don't understand it. I wish there was a solution for this. God plays a cruel joke on men.

Drinks sometimes helps, other times it kills your boner

>>17163882
>your post

You're a sad, sad man

>>17162162
This

>>17162106
>eating a girl out
>ever