how to get over shame?
>>17117248
Act like it didn't happen
Learn to laugh about it.
Or if it's something really stupid then >>17117253
>>17117253
my Ex wanted to have a 3 some. now i dont feel to right about myself after it happen. we ended up breaking up and my ex got together with the person we had a 3 some with. what is it called here? being cucked?
>>17117248
Drink
>>17117276
Yeah, you got cucked hard. And rightfully so. Never partake in that degenerate shit.
>>17117279
theres a lot of stigma and shame that came with it. so what do i do now? it was my first relationship and i thought i was doing it for loves sake. or some shit like that. so wut do now?
>>17117248
do something even more shameful.
you know, its not what she did that makes you a cuck. that makes here a whore. but the way you're acting here? all fucking whipped and broken, that makes you a cuck. shut the fuck up, get the fuck up, man up, do some man shit.
bloody hell. you're gonna get cheated on in life. it's gonna happen. get over it, move on. it doesn't define you or your life, just other's
>>17117276
>>17117293
You weren't cucked but it was indeed a mistake to accept to do a threesome out of love when you weren't fully comfortable with the idea. A threesome is something that needs to be closely negotiated. I'm sorry that things turned this way.
Kill self
Did she pick the third person? If she proposed the idea of a threesome then you should have been the one to pick the third person. This stuff should be mandatory knowledge taught at school.
>>17117319
its been a while since it happen. since then i joined the army as a combat medic, started going through nursing school and started a hospital internship. so ive been busy doing what i want.
just even with all of it, dosent seem like i can get over the shame of being "cucked" of course im smart enough now to not do shit like that"
>>17117335
they knew each other already. think she wanted 2 boyfriends. something like that.
>>17117334
https://youtu.be/TWuIXItBVlM?t=5s
>>17117331
Thanks man. that puts things into perspective
Actually I'm reading a bible lesson about it right now if you'd ever care to look into it. It's on the youversion bible app and the lesson is unashamed
Just a suggestion
>>17117337
shame evolves out of a sense of being able to see your situation and compare it to some standard that it doesnt meet.
guess what. we all have standards we don't meet that we would like to.
the simplest answer is you have to objectively look at the situation and the circumstances, then forgive yourself.
your scenario sounds like you were in a vulnerable place with the wrong partner who was selfish and took advantage of you.
the -real- shame would be if you would do it again.
>>17117331
What about if ...you broke up, but shes back around fucking you and you mention a threesome with your friend, she gets with said friend and she gets preggo a few weeks later
Cucked or bullet dodged?