So I'm gonna have sex with my girlfriend for the first time

Should have put a TL:DR, Sexual insecurity is ruining my shit what do I do.

>>17094626
Tell her that its her problem.

When a guy can't get off, women will tell him its his fault and not the girls fault.

It kind of actually is because I had a similar problem until an ex girlfriend got me off once, then it was a lot easier with vag sex, sodomy with the mouth, sodomy with anus, and hand rubbing from another person.

Its in her head.

>>17094626
You fuck her right in the pussy.
She chose you because of some shit other than your dick (assuming you aren't a nudist).

I'm sure you both will work it out.

Literally take a breath.
Like stop with the self doubt and fucking breathe.
Now, focus on this: It doesn't matter.
You think im bullshitting but it's true. It doesn't matter.

What you are doing now matters though.
It matters that you are ruminating.
What you are doing is the mental equivalent of scratching a tiny wound on your arm.
If you keep scratching, the wound is going to get bigger.
So, repeat after me "It doesn't matter".

Relax.

Fucking is usually just the terminal phase of sex.
If you can get her close enough (makeout sesh, petting, oral)
BEFORE you start fucking, to should be no problem for her
to diddle herself off WHILE you're plowing her pussy.

Presto. She came while you were fucking her.

That kind of remark would bug me too. It would bug anyone. But you know she really likes you since she's trying to rectify it. And she only cares about you at the moment so let it go and appreciate that instead. Because now your worrying is worrying her. Pretend she never said anything and you will both feel much better

when a girl tells you she only came once in her life she's saying that to try to relieve performance anxiety from you. in my experience some girls just can't let go while others orgasm regularly. it's got nothing to do with technique and everything to do with the girl

>>17094664
Quit giving a shit. If you suck, then ask her what she wants you to do and be better next time.

>>17094626
OP, there is a lot of truth from the anons here. Chill the fuck out. It sounds like she doesn't want to fake it and doesn't want you to feel bad if she can't cum from PIV. Most girls can't. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you or that you suck at sex. Just keep pleasuring each other and realize that an orgasm has a lot to do with the mind (more so for fem than guys). If you've made her cum via other techniques, then keep doing that as you're slamming your dick in her. dont forget to get her close to orgasm with foreplay first if you wanna improve your chances to having her cum from vag sex

Google the video of Nina Hartley teaching how to eat pussy properly. Give your gf an orgasm before sex, and it will relieve tons of anxiety.

The key to penetrative orgasm is to stimulate the clit while inside of her. It's not about the thrusting, it's about getting her clit lubed up and rubbing against your pubic area as she rides you/you fuck her. Get her close to orgasm, then stay deep inside of her and just move your or her hips to stimulate her clit up and down until she cums.

Shift your inner thinking to a more confident voice. Focus on having fun and connecting with your partner, be yourself.

IME I perform best after not cumming for 2-4 days, then giving my gf an orgasm and having her give me head or a handjob until I cum on her tits. Ten minutes later we have penetrative sex and I can last as long as I want cause I just came. She finishes easier because after a girl orgasms once, multiple orgasms are achieved easier.

>>17094626
She's a whore. All women are whores. Run up to her and spit in that lying bitch's face! FUCK I HATE WOMEN! LYING CHEATING WHORES ALWAYS THINKING THEY'RE TOO GOOD FOR EVERYONE! FUCK!

>>17094959
Calm down, satan.

>>17094626

This was me and my current who have been together for 3 years and I know she's the one.

When we first got together she had 5 and I had 1 before her and she told me she's never had an orgasm through penetration. I had the opposite reaction to you however. I made it a goal, a challenge if you will. It took some weeks but here we are 3 years later and I can make her orgasm just by licking and killer her back/neck, let alone penetration. She nw begs for my dick.

Point is, follow the DMX way of life my friend "Fuck what you heard, it's what you hearing". You'll be better off for it. Just be confident and LEARN her body, don't be stubborn or selfish, take your time, you have said time. Communication, talk it out, find out what makes her tick. You'll be fine if you listen.

>>17095841

lol killing

*kissing her back

>>17094959
I give a 7/10 for your /r9k/ poster impression.

>>17094626
First, work on your insecurity issues because wooh-boy, they are showing right through those cool shades you're wearin'.

Second, research female anatomy a bit more. Most girls don't practice masterbating till much later, therefore most girls don't know how to make themselves cum till much later-usually in their early twenties. I am almost twenty five and JUST learned how to make myself cum with nothing but my hands. It takes me nearly thirty minutes of un-interrupted mental stimulation+very fast hand movement.

Our clits are also super fucking sensitive and respond better to either ourselves (because we know what to touch and how rough/quickly), or toys because they reach a faster vibration. You should never be ashamed that you can't make a women cum on the first time, or ever with nothing but your body. It's not impossible, but is, for most women, very difficult.

For the most part it takes a LOT of mental stimuli and being VERY comfortable and VERY into it with your partner.

Getting a toy, holding it for her, and having her hand over yours and letting her direct how hard you push will probably be your best shot after some foreplay and other stuff. Once you guys become more comfortable (and her too, not just you), then you can try with making her come without toys. But she needs to be able to openly communicate with you, and be able to do it comfortably enough that she can learn what she likes you doing and what she doesn't like you doing. And be able to tell you this.

Sorry if there's typos, I'm very tired.

Dont worry. Its only a problem if you let her feel that its a problem for you. Im a women and i can tell that im not disappointed if i dont cum from penetration alone. Its only a problem for me when someone tells me they thought women always cum in this way or that someone else did etc. makes me feel like i am doing something wrong

>>17094626
dude just act natural, if you just don't let this get to you you'll be able to fuck her even better than that guy. if you've already mastered oral you can do penetration no problem, as long as you just be relaxed

>>17094680
That really helps, thank you.

>>17094626
my problem is the total opposite: i can get my gf off without any trouble, but she hasn't made me cum at all over the course of our relationship, and i'm afraid she'll leave me because of it, which makes me feel even more anxious about it

i haven't fapped or watched porn during all of this