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At a local cafe I go to most days works a girl I'm completely

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At a local cafe I go to most days works a girl I'm completely infatuated with, I have 2 possible ways of approaching

Option 1. One day I go in and simply ask her to do something. Modesty aside, (I need to be as clear as possible about my situation to get the right advice) we're about equals in looks.

Problem: Don't girls hate trying to be picked up while working? I can imagine they would. But any other opportunity is stalkerish

Option 2. I've been looking for a different job, and I have years of Cafe experience. I kind of want to apply and work at this place regardless of her. Should I work there and get to know her first so it's not as weird when I ask her out/can know if she has a boyfriend first?

Problem: If I ask her out while working there, and she says no, that's the most awkward shit for a long time till one of us quits.

Which option is better /adv/?
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>that's the most awkward shit for a long time till one of us quits

This is one of the main reason why workplace love is generally avoided. You should only approach her if you're certain that she would say yes or you're the workplace alpha guy.
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>>17013458
Does that you mean think the first option? Or should I try and become the workplace alpha?
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Depends. How often do you chat with her while at this cafe?
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>>17013474
Never had a conversation, just basic pleasantries, but I've deliberately done that because I figured if I had a chat with her every visit, if I got a job there it would look like she's the reason I started working which is creepy (though that is part of the reason)
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>>17013481
In my opinion, going in, starting a simple conversation at a quiet time of the day (maybe near close) a couple of times, then just asking her to hang out might be a good course of action.
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>>17013494
Might I come across as annoying though? I'd hate for her to be like "Ugh this guy again" every time I come in because she knows I'll talk to her
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>>17013517
That's why you talk to her. If you can get her involved in a good conversation that lasts 15 minutes, and she doesn't seem annoyed at that point, that's the go ahead to ask her out.
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>>17013561
That's actually incredibly helpful advice I can't believe I didn't think of it, thank you very much
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>>17013569
Good luck. And if things don't work out, after being upfront and genuine about wanting to go out with her, you might still even earn a spot as a favorite customer at the cafe while she works there.
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Try not to ask her out when she's on the clock though
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