How do you stop seeing sex as a bad thing people do to you and

Become gay.

>>17012650
I am gay.

Would becoming straight help? Do women demand sex from you?

Find someone you can explain your reservations to and who respects what you want or don't want to do.

>>17012665
People always talk about finding someone who will this, that and the third. I am working with a limited range of people.

How do I find a guy who's ok with knowing I will hate it every time he fucks me? What kind of a person has that kind of patience?

Look to yourself and find out why "you stop seeing sex as a bad thing people do"

You had a bad experience (or something).
Find out who/when/why/how.
Confront it.
Overcome it.
Prosper with your new found love of sex.

Also, just grow a backbone. say no sometimes, you might end up falling into a better crowd of people. and if sex is something you want to be special, stop fucking so many people. I don't get it, but a lot of people seem to have issues with these things

>>17012672
I guess I was with someone who maybe didn't hate sex, but had bad associations with it and usually felt bad afterwards. But he didn't feel that way with me. So maybe working with a limited number of people is a problem, and you just need to find the right person. Maybe if you hate it so much you should just abstain for now

>>17012673
For a lot of people it isn't a single bad experience, but a bad relationship with it. maybe especially for homos

>>17012673
What if there is nothing? I've never had bad experiences with sex. I've never been forced, I had a safe childhood and was never left alone with anyone unsafe, save for the time I apparently accidentally saw porn when I was like 3-4, there is nothing, and there's no way something so little that I literally don't even remember would do that?

>>17012674
I don't have sex anymore. I don't date anymore, though I'd really, really want to. No longer seeing sex as a bad thing would be like no longer feeling bad about getting shot, so you have no problem living in an area where mass shootings happen regularly.

Being able to feel safe anywhere, at any time, with anyone. It sounds just about equally wonderful and impossible at the same time.

>>17012692
Did you just compare sex to getting shot?

>>17012775
Imagine being able to happily walk right through a shootout, not because you're sure you won't get shot, but because you literally just don't mind getting riddled with bullets.

>>17012946
You need some fucking therapy.

>>17012672
Find an asexual

>>17013248
Where do I find a gay asexual?

Most people don't sign up on grindr for someone to see museums with.