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Am I over (or under) reacting?

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Hey /adv/,

The other day, my girlfriend admitted that she sexted another guy. That being said, it wasn't typical sexting. She didn't send any nudes and neither did he, and he lives several states away so I know there's nothing physical going on. It was simply dirty talk, almost sort of like a roleplay type of thing. At first I was super pissed off, and I got mad at her as if she actually physically cheated on me. But then, after I calmed down a bit and after she cried her eyes out and told me how bad she feels, I was able to forgive her. I was talking to a couple buddies about what happened, and both basically gave me conflicting advice. One said I was a borderline cuck for being okay with what happened. Another said that I should look at it like she was watching a porn (which admittedly, I watch porn myself, probably why he made that analogy).

Am I wrong to be a bit pissed about this? I've forgiven her, but I'm still kind of pissed about the whole thing. Should I just calm down? Is this a huge deal?

If it means anything, we've been dating for almost a year, and haven't really had many problems other than the occasional fight.
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>>16946304
>nothing physical
>physically cheated
I think you might be a little confused OP
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She will physically do all the things she said to another man in a few months
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>>16946304
First of all this >>16946333
Second of all if you think she's worth keeping tell her not to talk to that guy anymore then fuck her brains out until you feel better
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>>16946333
Does she know this guy personally? This is an important question.
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>>16946304
>Another said that I should look at it like she was watching a porn (which admittedly, I watch porn myself, probably why he made that analogy).
The big difference between this and porn is that there is interaction between two people. With porn, unless you're a fucking weirdo that pays women to cam, you're just interacting with a video file.
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>>16946304
So ok..here's some important questions to ask. Why did she sext him? Where were u at the time? If the answer to the first is she was horny, then why didn't she come to you if you were around...if you weren't available then why didn't she tell herself "I love my bf enough to stop imagining being with some other guy" ...also, it souls just be she wanted someone other than you to give her validation. Then again, I could be talking through my ass right now. Whatever. I hope her reasons are really stupid and nothing deep rooted. Good luck. I genuinely wish u two work through this and live Happily ever after.
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It depends how insecure you are. I wouldn't say Rping/sexting is cheating, but you need to be honest with her and yourself if it makes you feel uncomfortable. It is dangerous of her to be playing with strangers which she already apologized for. If she loves you she'll recpect your wishes and stick to porn since you don't sound like the writing type yourself, which, yes, doesn't win you sexy points either as you're just now learning what turns her on. If the woman wrote a book with the same scenes she'd have been praised. However, for all you know this could be a phaze or just a test of trust.

Word of caution, trust only yourself, your jealous m8's catch scent she's not being satisfied some may try to sabotage your relationship. Going to them for help instead of talking to her is a red flag. You guys have just started on a long journey, there are bound to be disagreements on adjusting to eachothers life. The sooner you can make the unnecessary drama go away the better.
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>>16946304

For a woman to do that, it's absolutely cheating. It's not like watching porn at all.

She'll do it again. Why?

She's not happy with you.
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