My life has really improved in the past 18 months or so and I've had a few really good dates in the past few weeks.
But I'm already thinking ahead... even if none of these end up going anywhere, eventually I'll find a serious girlfriend. And eventually "what were you up to before you met me" will come up.
And that's the thing. Literally from the start of my teenage years until 24 I did nothing. I was never NEET but all I ever had were shit jobs and all my free time was spent on the internet. Eventually I was tired of being miserable and the rest is history, I'm doing really well and really happy now, BUT. As much as girls talk about "don't judge my past" I feel like they probably do care about this kind of thing towards guys.
>>16942789
Depending on the situation try it with honesty. Something along the lines of finding yourself, slowly improving yourselfm changing goals very often, losing track, backtracking etc etc
Every single person on this planet has those phases and every single person will understand.
>>16942789
I don't see why that would matter.
Who cares? Unless you've murdered someone or committed some other serious crime why would it matter to someone what you've done before you met them?
I don't think it's a big deal, especially since you've already changed. Being able to talk about it shows the positive traits of openness and honesty. It also shows you can admit to and learn from mistakes- all very mature things. Hiding it would make it seem like a bigger deal than it is.
>>16942814
Because I've seen so many girls talk down on this kind of thing "he's still behind his peers"
>>16942818
I guess you're right. I'm just stressed because I know girls care more about status then they admit to
I mean if she likes who you are now, I can't imagine it would be a huge deal.