I'm not having a good day, /adv/. I was diagnosed with

I neglected to mention I was 21 at the initial diagnosis. I'd wager I'll be lucky to make it to 50.

I just can't even right now, I'm not sure if that qualifies as asking for advice or not.

Please don't delete this thread.

I feel kinda weird for replying to this as I feel like I have nothing to say about these matters, having not experienced cancer and all... It may sound stupid, but the only (and I guess best non-medical) advice I can give you is to 'hang on' and don't give up!

I probably don't have to tell you, but cancer is a constant battle, if you don't fight the cancer, it will fight you and you will lose. But if you resist it, you might be able to live your while and get some nice things out of it.

I can give you the example of my grandma:
She was like 80 when my mom discovered she had cancer (there was a huge tumor erupting from her belly). After some scans they found out it was pretty much all over so it was hard to say where it started. Doctors estimated she had been suffering some form of cancer for at least 20 years. Yes... 20 fucking years. Nobody in the family knew she had this, she never spoke about it or showed any kind of pain to anyone. After they found out they started chemo/radiation therapy but of course it was basically useless... the only thing they could do was extend her life. So this went on for a year or 2 and after that she was kinda too weak to continue and returned home. It was evident she would die soon, so one night when she felt extremely bad we all gathered to my grandparents' home. All her children were there, like exchanging their last words, sharing good moments, saying hopeful things. everybody was there, except for my uncle, who was in Romania at the time.

apparently her wish to see everybody before she died was so strong that she managed to survive that night. She even lived on for another half year, until EVERYBODY in the family could be with her and say goodbye. So eventualyl she died in a care-home with her whole family besides her. It's probably the most romantic death I have ever experienced.

So, sorry for the long story... now my comment is too long, get ready for the second one :P

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so... my point is:

Set some goals in your life, some things you want/have to do and just go for them. Don't let your health/disease get into your way. Resist it even though it is harsh and get some support (your family/friends) if you feel like you need it.

If you start losing hope/giving up it will get you, so please don't. Now you even don't know what will happen, cherish life as long as you can man! If you let the cancer/fear of cancer rule your life, it will get you. So never give up!

I hope these words helped you a bit. Anyway good luck in your life and I hope you will remain healthy :).