ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

Femanons, would you ever consider being in a polygamous marriage? As in, one of three or four wives to one partner? And I don't mean the mormon secret breeding thing, I mean as in a modern marriage system but with other wives in the mix.

Why or why not?

Guys-

Would it be weird for me to add a waiter I have a thing for on Facebook? I'm a customer, his co-workers have been calling him by last name around me.

>>16938014
Sounds a bit weird. Why not write your number on the receipt and suggest he calls you sometime? Sends off fewer stalker vibes.

>>16938006
I'd be more interested in an open marriage. Am I going to be able to have multiple partners? Because if not, is he going to be able to divide his attention evenly to make sure I don't get restless or sexually frustrated?

Idk I might be able to handle it now, just because I only have so much time in a week to spend on someone,, but then again idk

>>16938006
Nope, not a chance. I couldn't fully devote myself to someone who wasn't fully devoted to me in return.

>>16938006

Do I get to bang my sister wives? Or people outside the marriage?

I don't really see what the point would be to be honest. A polyamorous thing where everyone's fucking everyone, sure. But a bunch of people targeted at a single person? I could only see going for that if I like the guy's company enough but didn't particularly care about him, and was happy enough to marry him for the sake of freeloading while having the other girls take some of the heat off me so I didn't have to actually spend much time with him to justify being there. Which sounds like a pretty soulless sugar daddy sort of situation.

>>16938026
I agree

>>16938035
>Do I get to bang my sister wives?
Yes.
>Or people outside the marriage?
No.

>>16938045
Eh fuck that, not worth it

>>16938006
Kek, no way.
Me and my boyfriend already barely have time for each other, no way I'd share him with some other girl.

Girls and guys

in your late teens and 20s did you ever feel comfortable with talking about sex to, infront or just around your parents? Even if it's in a joking matter. Or joking with friends about it while your parents are near?

my friends all do that. Like if I'm at my friends house, and we are having a discussion about girls, he'll keep talking even if his mom or dad are in earshot. And say very detailed things. I have never had that kind of relationship with my parents. I'm 25m and still will never talk like that around them. I even feel awkward if a sex scene pops up on TV around them.

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Could someone help me make some sense out of this.

Yesterday, the girl I got a crush on asked me to come watch a movie with her, and we ended up spending the evening together, watching tv, clips from youtube, and playing tabletop games.
At one point, I asked her if had any plans for Sunday, and when she said she didn't, I followed by asking if she would be interested in spending time with me on Sunday, by going to the zoo or just to hang around in the city, to which she replied "We'll see".

Come today, I ask her if she would like to go to the zoo with me, to which she basically replies that she is too busy with some writing task. Seeing how the zoo closes at 4 pm, and the time when I asked her was at about 12 am, we would have been there at most, for a few hours. Also, as she told me yesterday that she had no plans for today, her business seems like an excuse.

I don't understand why she would ask me to spend time with her yesterday, but then reject me today.

Femanons, why can't you just wear collars all the time? It is the hottest thing on the planet, holy crap.

>>16938099
Maybe she is just really busy anon. People do have lives.

Did you do something last night? Tried to wrap your arm around her or something?

>>16938099

she might actually be busy

>>16938096
Girl here, 23.
I am quite comfortable with my parents. We always talked about sex pretty openly in Sex Ed terms.
My dad told me about his sex life with his exes and my mom too (that was cringey as fuck).
My mom and my dad joke about me having sex with my boyfriend way too often, and they heard me talking about sex more than once.

>>16938105
>>16938106
Still, the trip to the zoo would have taken at most like 2-3 hours, if even that. And if she knew that she had to finish these writing thingies, why didn't she tell me that yesterday when I asked if she had something planned for today?

>Did you do something last night? Tried to wrap your arm around her or something?

Not really. We did sit pretty close to one another and I did rest my arm on her knee briefly at one point when she was showing me a video from youtube.
At one point, when I stood up from the sofa we were sitting on, she extended her legs over my spot, and claimed the whole sofa for herself. I jokingly threatened to sit on her legs which made her free up the spot for me. After that, she briefly rested her legs against my thing.
That is pretty much the extend of the physical contact we had.

I am afraid of touching her desu. I don't know when it is appropriate, and how to not appear like a weird creep.

>>16938119

I don't know how you do it. That just seems so awkward to me

>>16938130
Me too. I hate the idea of open sex discussions with my parents!

>>16938096
Not super detailed like that but we don't dance around the subject like it's a thing that doesn't happen. Def more comfortable discussing with/in front of Mom than Dad but still not that big of a deal really.

>>16938099
>>16938122
Stuff came up. "Writing task" is the sort of thing most people would prioritize over just hanging out. Or maybe she thought she'd finish it sooner. Don't overthink this. People have lives to live.

>>16938102
What's the point when he's not even here to get to see it?

>>16938096

Honestly, I don't really notice their presence if they're in earshot but I'm talking to someone else, so I wouldn't really care. But I wouldn't be comfortable talking about that to them directly, and feel kind of awkward during sex scenes.

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>>16938139
>Don't overthink this.
Easier said than done senpai.
Overthinking and over analyzing even the most inane shit is one of my big problems.

>>16938122
>Still, the trip to the zoo would have taken at most like 2-3 hours, if even that. And if she knew that she had to finish these writing thingies, why didn't she tell me that yesterday when I asked if she had something planned for today?
I wouldn't consider needing to finish a writing thing a 'plan', more something to get done when I scrape together some spare hours.
I wouldn't want to waste a trip to the zoo fretting about the work I should be getting done.

>>16938130
My parents are pretty open minded and relaxed in general, and we often talked about sex while I was growing up. Also, we're insanely close and they are the people I respect most and I'm closer to, so we talk about everything.
Before the end of elementary school they told me what sex was and how to do it safely. When I was 13 or so we had a talk about virginity, oral sex and masturbation.
They said thy wanted me to get to know these things from an adult and not from internet or my friends, so I could get accurate infos. They gave me healthy values when it comes to sex.
This meant that sex wasn't a taboo at home, and whenever we felt like it (bf sleeping over, me and my bf living together, me and my bf going on holiday, my parents going on their "second honeymoon") they made a joke about sex. It's not like they make a sexual joke about me and my boyfriend at Christmas dinner.

>>16938148
I see your point.
I guess I can just ask her if she wants to spend time with me later today, or sometime next week.

>>16938153

This all sounds so strange to me

>>16938145
Lol right there with you, my dear. It's unquestionably easier said than done...but doing isn't impossible. Gets better the more you work at it. You can do this.

>>16938006
No because I don't agree with that shit, I get jealous, I'd secretly hate your other wives, and when I am in a relationship I don't think of anyone else, so why would I marry someone who does?

Also, why does your fantasy only include you having multiple wives? You don't want your wives to have multiple husbands too?

>>16938096
23 year old girl here, I don't talk to any of my parents about that stuff. My mom acts weird about it because my mom is kind of a whore and has flirted with all my boyfriend's in the past. My dad is so "you're muh baby girl still" that I don't want to talk about it with him.

Girls,
I have a few moles on my face, none of which are very big. Is this something women immediately find unattractive? Other than that I'm in pretty good shape and I have a decently defined jawline, but those damn moles have bugged me since I was a little kid.
Should I get them removed and potentially risk even more unsightly scarring, or is it not as big of a deal as I'm making it?

>>16938153
>bf sleeping over
They let your bf sleep over? As in while you were living with them?

>>16938256
It is not a big deal, no. Moles are fine.

>>16938265
Yeah. My bf slept over almost every weekend since we were 4 months into dating, I was 15 and he was 17. He even lived at my parents' for a while. We moved out in our own house together when I was 18.
We had sex for the first time after a year, we just liked sleeping together and spending time together.
My parents never made a huge deal of my virginity or whatever, so they didn't have any problem with us sleeping together. They always told me to be sure I was ready, to have sex with people I respected and loved, and to stay safe.

>>16938226
Can I go out with you? I want you to walk in on me plowing your mom.

>>16938317
she has genital warts in her throat and on her genitals from cheating on my dad. If you're down with that, go ahead.

Girls,

is it normal to care about yourself/not want to talk to anyone (especially someone that likes you) for some time? I've been talking with a girl and no, we didn't have anything too intriguing but she said she needs a break from socialising - she hasn't spoken to anyone for a few days till yesterday and she says she liked that feeling where she didn't pay any attention to anyone.
She also doesn't know how she feels towards me (like/not like and so on, pretty childish).

so, is it normal to have some time or is it a subtle sign of saying "i don't want to talk with you" or something?

>>16938279

how could they be ok with that?

>>16938335
News flash: There are actually parents who are ok with the natural sexual development of their kids.

Best methods to get over an ex quickly or at least speed up the process?

To everyone.

Why do people hate growing old so much? What's with all the people trying to look younger instead of accepting their age? I'm not saying lose all motivation and turn into a larva, but all those changes made to their bodies, or the behavior that gets uncomfortably creepy past a certain age...

I could say women especially, but at least some men do that too.

>>16938339
Realize that you dodged a huge bullet and find somebody new

>>16938343
Fomo and immaturity

>>16938338

I never was taught anything. I was clueless learning things on my own. Being 24 now. I still don't know much.

>>16938344
Fucking this. Bullet dodged and now I have an even better girl.

>>16938348
Being ok with it doesn't mean they are able to teach you shit

>>16938354

I'm confused

>>16938344
>>16938350
In terms of sanity my ex was crazy, thing is she was absolutely fucking hot so it's more of a superficial thing I'm depressed over because I feel like I won't find someone as attractive again

But yeah in literally all other aspects I dodged a huge bullet, bitch was so attention hungry I could barely have my own life since she needed to talk 24/7 and felt like I pursued my passions "too much"
Like, bitch what

>>16938343

It's just where things have drifted these days for some reason.
I think it's probably due to teenagers being an easy demographic to market to, so all of our media is centred on teenagers which makes anyone past that age feel really old really suddenly.

Then on the other side of the fence, people who are scared of getting old are also easy to market to, so we have nonstop infomercials for wrinkle creams and shit, which only feeds into that fear of getting old.

More time spent working, a more connected world with air travel and the internet creating so many more things we feel obligated to experience in life. More awareness of medical risks creating a bigger awareness of mortality. No need to respect the experience and wisdom of the elderly when we can just google it.

It's complicated.

>>16938356
My parents where ex-hippies. They thought sex is "beautiful and natural". But they never thaught me shit about relationships, intimacy, commitment, love or anything. Thanks i guess

>>16938358
So basically you are just horny. Fap or find somebody to stick your peepee in and you will be good

>>16938335
Because I am not Jesus Christ and my mom wasn't virgin when I was born. They know that teenagers have sex and they're fine with it - they have been teenagers too and they had sex.
Since they knew that it was going to happen anyway, they preferred that I had safe sex at home with my boyfriend instead of me losing my virginity in the back of a car, or getting pregnant/sick because I didn't get proper Sex Ed.
Honestly in my group of friends, I'm the only one who never got a STD, an abortion and wasn't caught having sex in a car/in a toilet.

>met this girl through a friend
>she's very nice, and our common friend confesses that she knew I would like her
>get her number through common friend (girl said "of course, he was very nice!" according to friend)
>we chat and she agreed to meet when she can at the beginning of April
>I discover on Facebook that she's close to a girl I used to like and talked to for a bit but she was very flaky and we stopped. Considering she then deleted me off Facebook out of the blue I think I can assume she doesn't like me much

How much should I be worried that she destroys the little opinion this new girl has of me, and that new girl listens?

I basically have one friend who knows me and can give good word of mouth, and another girl who doesn't know and always had vague excuses to not even come hang in the yard, so she doesn't know me at all.

My question would be : girls, how much does your friend's opinion weight in your decision making?

Ultimately i would hope that she just decides by herself without any good or bad word of mouth.

>>16938365
>>16938370

I guess that's a good thing then. I didn't know what sex was until I was 15 years old. You can imagine school was hell because I had no clue what the fuck people were talking about. I'm 24 now. And I still don't understand a lot of things about sex.

>>16938372
Depends. I didn't know what love was till 27. But i haf lots of sex anyways. I know a fuckton about sex, but am on virgin-levels when it comes to intimacy and relstionships. That's a very unhealthy combination too as you can imagine

>>16938376

I've never had a relationship. So I literally know nothing. It's so bad, that a female friend of mine is going on a date tonight with some guy and I feel fucking miserable right now.

when it comes to sex. I've only had sex once, when I was 20. And it was a very uncomfortable experience. All of my friends have had multiple girls friends over the years and get regular sex. I'm the runt of the group

>>16938377
Why? Because you want to be that guy? Yeah that sucks...

>>16938372
I think my parents are pretty awesome.
They've been very open and talked to me about sex, as I said above, but they also spent a lot of time to help me understand how love, intimacy, friendships, relationships worked. They also made me feel safe and supported whatever happened, but always responsible of my actions and my mistakes.
I had sex with one person, and I chose him because I loved him and I deeply respected him as a person and I always saw him as a potential life-long partner. Sex to me is just something "inside" a relationship, I never seeked casual sex in my entire life.
I've never been a rebellious teenager, heh.

>>16938384

yes.

>>16938387
I wish my parents did the same. They didn't give a single fuck and i had no idea so i ended up being a slut and now i have to deal with the irreversible consequences. Oh well. Lucky you i guess

>>16938390
Shit.
Why haven't you made a love earlier?

>>16937996
I met a girl 2 days ago, she is a friend of my friend but they have also recently met. We got together yesterday with the same group and played UNO. I can't say I received many signals, probably not that many, but should I add her on Facebook and try my luck somehow?

>>16938397
Should say move...

>>16938397

because she lives 6,000km away..

like I said. I'm 24, but I'm like 12-13 years old when it comes to anything involving the opposite sex.

>>16938399
Absolutely

>>16938403
Sorry, chimed into the convo later.
So, what's your plan?

>>16938404
Should I add her today? I don't really want to look desperate. I tend to come across as clingy a little bit.

>>16938409
Nah, you're good. Stop overthinking and holding on to stuff like "wait 3 days to text back" and other bullcrap

>>16938407

I don't have any plan..

I mean, we are really close friends. But honestly, she deserve better than me. I'm not worth her waiting months for. It just really hurts because she's so good ton me, and the most gorgeous girl ive ever met, and we have so much in common. But she is going out with some dude tonight.

>>16938409

It'd seem weirder to me if someone I met at a party added me like a week later.
Adding me very soon after is just "oh, of course, why not," because you're still fresh in each others' minds.

Is she saying these things just to make me happy?
I've been dating my gf for eight months now. I'm 40, somewhat obese, definitely not attractive & bald. My gf on the other hand looks young (she is Asian), has a nice body % a sweet face even though technically she is average-looking. She is 36. She tells me that she loves me, but I sometimes ask myself whether she truly likes me. I sometimes think that she only picked me as she had no other choices (she is 36 after all) and that she tells me that she loves me and that I am sweet just to make me happy.

>>16938419
Work on your selfesteem dude. She chooses to be good friends with you. That should imply that she's don with your personality and thinks your p neat. Then there is the added bonus of being attraccted to ppl you know more and more over time. I'd say if her date doesn't work out, go for it. Fuck the distance. It might not work out, but you would regret it to not even have tried

Is being friends with an ex really that bad?

>>16938451
Top 5 worst things you can do as a human

>>16938434

It won't work, when we met IRL last winter I asked her. She said she doesn't think she's capable of doing a LDR. And I don't blame her to be honest.

>>16938451
Really depends on how you broke up. If it was a big, dramatic break up then being friends with them is a bad idea. If the relationship kinda just fizzled out and stopped working so you both decided to end it, turning it into friendship can work.

>>16938371
seconding this.

I am a guy who'd let my gf have sex with other girls. Is this weird, girls? Do any of you consider this a bad thing?

>>16938014
Do you at least talk with him IRL? You have small chats, I don't think it'd too weird.

>>16938343
Because you're slowly losing everything you have that's why. After 25 or 26 you're basically just dying, I also don't want to grow old so when I hit my 40s I think that's when I'll end it there.

>>16938530
I would think he's only doing that to fuel his fantasy and ultimately have a treesome. Besides, if your wife/gf isn't bi she might not enjoy it. I tried and it ranged from meh to weird so i wouldn't want to do it again.

>>16938453
What are the others?

>>16938343

I want to be older. I'm 24, but I wish I was 35-40 already..

>>16938530
Not a bad thing I guess but why would you want her to? I would never let my boyfriend touch a man the way he touches me.

>>16938533
>After 25 or 26 you're basically just dying
I'm 28 and can confirm this.

>>16938536
In my case, it's not for threesomes and she'd have to be bi, I wouldn't force her to do it, of course.

My bf and i are both pretty awkward and anxious. Especially when we fuck. Usually he either cums in a few strokes or not at all. He has only cummed from getting a bf/hj twice. I on the other hand need a long time to cum or i don't cum at all. How can we ease the tension and get a bit more relaxed and comfortable?

>>16938549
Oh, you just feel like it's not really cheating if it is a girl? Yeah, i guess that's normal. You don't see another girl as a competition so you let your guard down.
I mean, i would be down with letting my bf fuck an escort if he gets bored of monogamy after years of marriage. This way i can be sure it's just sex and no emotional attachment. Same thing. She's no danger to me.

Guys.

>Got close to a guy in my friends group, same interests and such
>Spent hours and hours alone with him, for like 2 years
>Dated him for a few months
>Broke up because we were awful together - this was 4 years ago
>Kept seeing each other because we're still in the same friends group
>Never spent time alone again, never flirted, but sometimes we texted

He texted me 2 hours ago asking me if he could come over to see a movie together, just me and him. I kind of want to spend some time with him because he's funny and he's a great guy, but I don't want to give him the wrong impression. I have zero interest in him, and I really like another person.

Should I go with it or pretend I'm terribly sick?

>>16938343
>Why do people hate growing old so much?
All kinds of shit starts hurting and working suboptimally, and it will never get better again, just varying rates of getting worse.

>What's with all the people trying to look younger instead of accepting their age?
Younger = better when you're over 25. The thing is you need to be subtle, not smear makeup on with a spatula. Some people just have such a distorted self-image that they can't see what they're doing is cringey or creepy. So you get people painting their eyelids stark blue or blurting out ITS 2015 or wearing trench coats to a funeral etc.

>>16938597
just tell him hes not good enough for you and be done with it. dont lead him around

>>16938562
Exactly. I like you. Haha

>>16938548
>>16938562
Also, I think it'd be fun to hear about who she fucked and how they fucked.

>>16938611
>hes not good enough for you
It's not that - He is a great person, very attractive and I have a lot of fun with him. We want different things in life and we believe in different things.

I don't want to lead him around, but I don't want to assume he wants to fuck me either.

>>16938623
>Also, I think it'd be fun to hear about who she fucked and how they fucked.
so it IS just a kink of yours. meh, if you find a girl that's down with that, why not

Girls: would you date an 18-year old guy that looks older if you were 21?

>>16938624
so just tell him hes not good enough for you and be done with it

>>16938645
No. All of my friends are 21+, and even though I don't drink a lot, most of the things we do involve going to places that you have to be 21 or older. Hell, a lot of fine dining places have a 21+ rule after a certain hour. I can't imagine the relationship being worth not being able to do as much stuff.

>guys won't remain satisfied with you
>doesn't matter how much he likes you in the beginning, you won't be good enough
>eventually he'll get tired of you
>get used to you, stop wanting to spend as much or any time with you
>you'll never be enough for him
This is just my current state of misery whispering shit in my ear, right??? That's not really how it is, right?

>>16938645
No. I never met a 18 year old who had an idea of what having a relationship is like, not even when I was 18 myself. Also this >>16938655.

>>16938533
You'll feel differently when you hit 40. Trust me, I'm 52 and enjoying the hell out of my life.

>>16938687
yup. i guess your priorities shift. you can still be happy as a bug at 100.

>>16938664
Guys think the same thing about women. Lots of shitty people out there regardlwss of gender

>>16938687

I wish I was 52 :/ I hate my 20s.

>>16938692
He's not shitty. He just doesn't seem to really give a fuck about me anymore. It's killing me.

>>16938696
you will regret that mindset in a few years

>>16938552
bump

>>16938698
boo hoo, get a new boyfriend, you at least have that option

>>16937996
Is trying to find a mature, intellectual, loving and committed partnership unfeasible at 18?
I want it because it's who I am. But I'm having problems meeting compatible people.

>>16938732
People aren't disposable. Go fuck yourself.

>>16938735
Are you a girl? yes

Are you an attractive guy? yes

Are you neither? no

>>16938735
It's not unfeasible, but it's unlikely. You should be less concerned about finding the most perfect, well-rounded person in the world, and instead look for someone who you can have fun with and learn about relationships with. 18 is nowhere near where someone should be taking relationships so seriously. Do that at 25 when you've got some experience and understand who/what you really need. The more you date, the more you understand who/what that is. I can guarantee you that who you want right now will not entirely be who you end up committing your life to. For good or bad. That's just how growing up works.

Rather than passing judgment on everyone, as it seems you are ("having problems meeting compatible people"), go on dates with whoever agrees. They're just dates. Not relationships. Have fun, learn about people, and open your mind. You're not as mature and intellectual as you think you are. You're 18. Loosen up and experience all kinds of people before making a decision as to what it is you really need.

has anyone here had ED problems due to stress and performance anxiety and whatnot?i have a huuge boner when me and my gf do foreplay but as soon as the time comes for the pants to come down, it starts to go soft
i dont think it is about the size of my penis since im 6.8" which is plenty and im pretty confident about that

>>16938714

Why. I don't get a long with people my age. most of my friends are in their late 40s

This is for the ladies and gents: what do you guys think about a girl that curses a lot? I censor myself around children, but other than that I do not really keep a filter on me. So what are your opinions about this? Should I try to control myself more or not?

>>16938788
It doesn't really bother me in a casual situation, but she'd have to be able to control herself at formal events.

>>16938788
I don't care about the male/female distinction when it comes to swearing. I think it's rantiquated and stupid that people still think women need to behave markedly different from men, simply because they're "supposed to be gentler." It's not the 1700s anymore. People are people.

That being said, it's crass of either gender to be cursing all the time. I don't care if people throw in a "fuck" or "shit" into conversation as a way of emphasizing a point. That's no biggie. What's obnoxious are people who can't go more than two breaths without a string of "mother fucking holy fucking shit can you fucking believe that fucking cunt, Jesus Christ." That makes anyone sound like a neanderthal.

Know when it is appropriate to curse, and when it isn't. If you can't conceptualize the difference in those situations, you're probably not someone I want to associate with.

>>16938788
my dad and my sisters mother in law curse like sailors and it is VERY inapproriate and cringe-worthy. i don't care if you are male or female. if you curse all the time i will think you have low brain capacity and can't communicate properly.

>>16938788
girls normally dont swear properly. just throwing in random curses is dumb, pick your spots for greater effect. theres something very impotent about girls swearing desu, a lot of the time it just comes off like you are trying to make a statement, very clumsily

basically its very unlikely swearing a lot will make you come off better, so control yourself

>>16938796
>>16938799
>>16938803

Thanks guys. I usually swear in just general conversation. I normally is more settle in formal or religious settings.Thank you for your opinions. I will use them for future actions.

Guys.

Ex bf and I have been broken up for a while. We just sorta reconnected not long ago. I don't think I want to get back together but I definitely want to bone again. I'm dating but there's nothing on the table that's serious. I don't know the same for him though. I dislike the idea of asking because it could give him the wrong impression. Is there a way to put the "it's okay I'm DTF" vibe out there without blurting out "hey let's fuck" ??

>>16938838
Some buttmad people are going to rail on you for wanting to fuck around while dating someone else, but whatever. I don't give a shit. Do whatever you want.

In terms of the DTF thing, don't play games. That shit is so obnoxious. Be straight up open about your wants and expectations. 100% clear. "Hey I'd like to hook up but I'm not interested in a relationship. Purely a sex thing." That leaves no room for misinterpretation. Communicate your desires like an adult.

>>16938838
absolutely disgusting

>>16938756
I don't have an ego so high that I think I deserve someone perfect, I just have a particular (non-negotiable) compatibility type that happens to be the combination of all rare to uncommon personality traits.

I'd rather be alone than with someone not compatible, hence here I am.

I want a partner who I can make happy, buy/make gifts for, cook for and cuddle with. Experimenting is not for me because I fall for the person if I do so.

I have social skills, achievements, hobbies and I'm not a NEET... I'm just slowly becoming more and more of a recluse. I don't want to talk to people anymore.

where do you find girls in their early 20s who want to start a family right now?

>>16938852
lol. I can't imagine my life if I got this offended by strangers doing what makes them happy. You must be shit tons of fun to hang with.

Do any guys here have any experience with dating a girl who has an eating disorder, or know of any friends who did?

Same goes for any girls here, bonus points (not really), if you have the disorder.

My current gf has one, and it's the most complicated shit I've ever dealt with.

I'll share more details if there's interest/

>>16938856
Christian colleges, Christian communities in general. If you can't stomach the thought of adhering to religion, then your next choice is low tier women in the blue collar sphere. Uneducated, minimum wage type of women. Women who come from single parent and/or poor homes. They tend to be the type who want to have kids, because they see having children as the only real job with purpose that they can do. Because they lack education or intelligence or desire to achieve more.

But bear in mind, you will be supporting those women 100%.

Girls and guys

I'm feeling really bitter, a female friend of mine is going on a date tonight. I already know that we will never be together. I accept that. But I still feel so fucking better everytime I find out she's going on a date.

How do I stop doing this?

>>16938863
> being a good parent is not an achievement

its literally one of the most important jobs in the whole world

>>16938851
When I say dating, I mean one date here and there. People usually tell me they're looking for commitment and I tell them I'm not. The ones who are down for a casual drink every now and again, that's what I mean by dating. I'm always honest. That's never been the issue. I guess I need help feeling out his situation so I can be respectful of it, whatever it Is.

>>16938868
You stop being friends with people you have feelings for.

>>16938868
By pursuing dates with other women. You know you can't have this one, so stop being a mope about it and aggressively pursue other women. The more you date around, the less of a shit you'll give about this other girl.

If you're so messed up that even dating other people can't kill your feels for that chick, then you need to cut her from your life.

>>16938874

that sounds mean. This girl cares about me, and trust me a lot. Why would I ruin a good friendship?

>>16938871
put up an ad in a phone box, sounds like what youre looking for

>>16938869
I never said it wasn't important. I said that for a certain class of women, that's the ONLY dream they have. Women are capable of being parents and having successful careers. Not all women want to do both. Some want to do just one. Lower class women tend to want to do the one that involves raising kids exclusively, because they come from a family that did not instill within them the desire to set additional or other goals aside from reproducing.

>>16938879
Go out your chastity belt back on and fuck off out of here.

my bf has an MMA fight in a few days. i asked if i should go with him but he said he doesn't want me to see him like this. i can understand, i would be the same.
but then he said i can come once we are married and i'm not going to leave him. wtf kind of statement is this?

>>16938875

I don't want to date other women. Like, I have not been looking for sex or a relationship for the past 5 years. I just happened to become friends with this girl about 6 months ago, and as our friendship grew. I developed feelings. Like I said. I understand that we will never actually be together. But our friendship is very important to me, and I don't want to ruin it.

There just has to be another answer. I don't want to get a girlfriend. There has to be another way to not care about this as much

>>16938877
Because it hurts you, and at the end you are responsible of your own happiness. You're purposely putting yourself in a situation where the only possible outcome is you getting frustrated and bitter because she doesn't like you back.
Stop talking to her, look for other people, and eventually when you're definitely over her talk to her again.

>>16938885

maybe he's worried that you'd lose attraction for him if you witnessed him getting his ass beat?

>>16938893

I appreciate the advice, but I just can't do that.

>>16938894
i think it was more about him not wanting me to see his violent side. but yeah, that might play into it too.

>>16938901

I don't think he's worried about you being scared of him. If anything, you watching him fight would show power, and manliness which would show he can protect you and alpha skills.


He's probably worried that if he gets BTFO by some dude infront of you that you'll view him as weak. No guy wants to get beat up infront of a girl he likes.

>>16938911
well, ok. makes sense.
thanks anon

>>16938880
you said 'achieve more (than just being a parent)' in the context of what women can do, specifically referring to time usage. what you said is that doing something career based is 'more' than being a parent

>>16938938
You could argue for or against that statement, based on your worldview and the importance you place on a childrearing. Some people have zero care about it. Others care only about it. Some care a little both way and don't give a shit what other people do.

You sound offended that your life choices are under attack, yet they're not. Anon wanted to know where to find people who want to have kids at 20. That was answered accurately. Try not to read into things that aren't being said.

>>16938956
> relativism

yuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck

try not to reveal distasteful things about yourself via careless words

Femanons

On what date is it best to try to kiss a girl for the first time. We've been oyt twice (coffee and dinner) and we're going out for lunch tommorow. Should i try to kiss her afterwards? How should I go about it?

>>16938985
hug on first date

kiss on second

fug on third

fug on fourth

ditch after the fifth

>>16938997
wtf...
>>16938985
depends. was there sexual tension? body contact?

>>16938985
Two dates is the right time. You need to do it for sure, or she's going to start wondering if you're actually into her or not.

As your date concludes, walk her to her car/house, whatever the situation is, and just lean in for the kiss. Don't linger on it too long, but don't make it just a half-hearted peck, either. Plant a kiss on her lips and as you pull away, tell her you really enjoy the dates and that you'll call her in a bit to set up another.

>>16938997
>ditch after the fifth
No i dont want to

>>16938985
This isn't math class. There are no rules about these things.

>>16939004
>Plant a kiss on her lips and as you pull away, tell her you really enjoy the dates and that you'll call her in a bit to set up another.
ugh, no.
that yould seem like one of those "bye, see ya" kisses couples give each other after years of marriage. a first kiss should be a bit more emotional.

Girls, if your bf offered to pay for bigger tits for you, how would you react? Would you accept it?

>>16939002
Im super autistic and very bad at reading girls in tht way. Every time ive seen her after the eecond date we hugged tho if tht means anything

>>16939016
Im a dude and imho tht sounds like a shitty thing to do.

>>16939016
I'd tell him to fuck off and then probably leave him, to be honest.

>>16939012
Not if it's a lunch date. Highly inappropriate to suck on each other's face in the parking lot of a restaurant. If this was a dinner date or something where they'd be at one another's house/somewhere private, yes, you draw it out and all that shit girly girls dream of. This is lunch. It'd be contextually weird to do anything but a normal kiss. Save the intimacy for the next, more serious date.

>>16938451
Yup

>>16939016
Honestly, I'd be on the fence slightly. I'd want a consult and I'd want to choose the surgeon after researching very much. I also get to pick the size and what type of implant and how it goes in.

Because, I don't want my boyfriend to pick out some doctor just because he's cheaper or some other strange reason. I want to pick the procedure based on a consultation for what a doctor would prefer for me. And I scar horribly, so ideally I'd want them to be inserted through the belly button. I also don't want my boyfriend to make me have some ridiculous unnatural size.

I'd really want the surgeon to fix my areolas because they are slightly uneven.

So if my boyfriend wanted to buy me tits, it'd be my way or no way at all. Because bad things can happen with implants.

>>16938687
Sorry but I don't think so, I'm already 27 and I hate what's happening to me, I can't even imagine my 40s.

So there's a girl I met a while back and we got on pretty well. Decided somewhat ask her out the last time we met at a party(I was pretty drunk) and she shot me down, which I took on the chin but obviously understood it would make things awkward between us.

It's been a few weeks and I figured that the awkwardness would've gone by now and considering we share classes and have a number of friends in common but she's now removed me off Facebook and straight up ignores me to the point where she doesn't even talk to our mutual friends if I'm there.

Am I wrong in thinking this is a massive overreaction? Everyone else seems totally oblivious to it too.

>>16937996
My wife and i have been living together for a few years now,
since last year she's been acting weird and pretends to have problems such as asthma (doctor checked and there's nothing), even after that she would still claim she has it.
After no one believed her she said she is anxious and uses that as an excuse for everything, even for carrying small things like a bottle or things heavier than a bottle.
She turned into a person who only looks after herself (only mentally) and if she is told to do something once she makes an act out of it and immediately questions why it would not be fair, i do have to mention that at this point she is not rational anymore and says things that hurt me.

I tried talking to her, i tried writing down how i feel about it, everytime i confront her she turns emotional and puts up a show.

I love her from the bottom of my heart, but when she says things out of jeallousy or selfishness i can't help but don't see the person i once loved in her anymore.
At this point i would like to deny the reality but it has gotten so far that i acted violent towards her, this shocks me personally since i was always a very calm person who puts a lot of thought into my actions before i do something.

I'm afraid "what do?" is a question that is too big for me right now but i would like to have an opinion on how i should distance myself from her in a way to maintain this relationship and make her realize that it can not go on like this.

I've never been in a different relationship before that's why i'm asking here to get advice from femanons to see what they would do if they put themselves in her shoes.

>>16938885
MMA isn't pretty. It's pretty brutal, and he probably thinks you'll get scared off if you see him like that and he gets mad later on.

>>16939042
Also is there a way to prevent this name from coming back on automatically

I went on a date with this girl a few months back. It didn't go well as we didn't talk again afterwards. However, recently this girl has been "liking" pictures of me on social media. Should I read into this or no?

>>16939048
you need to delete it before posting next time. happened to me a few times.

also
>>16939042
yeah, i know. but i don't want him to get hurt... it turns my stomach when i think about it. it wouldn't scare me off, but it would definitely have a huge impact on me.
what do you mean by
>he gets mad later on

meh, i think i totally get his reasoning. but i'm going to sit on needles not knowing what's going on.

>>16938006
Absolutely not

I assume a lot of people here would have wisdom with Facebook. If I send a message to someone and it comes up (in a few minutes?) as "seen" at the same time I sent the message, what does this mean?

I'm not friends with said person on Facebook, I can still view their profile, send messages etc. Am I blocked?

>>16938530
That would be off putting to me. I want my guy to want me for himself as much as I want him for myself, girls not an exception.

>>16939145
Just to add, I couldn't find shit on Google for "Facebook messages being instantly seen"

>>16939145
...it means they've seen your message

>>16939154
What the fuck...that's literally the last thing I would expect...It's not possible.

>>16938735
Ye as long as you're mature and able yourself, you can definitely find another person like that. I did.

>>16938735
>>16939165
It's hard. I thought I found someone like that. She was deceptive. Fucking cunt was the most immature child in the fucking world and I gave her everything. Fuck me.

>>16939210
>Fucking cunt
>fucking world
>Fuck me

>trying to find a mature, intellectual, loving and committed partnership

pick one

>>16939212
Yes, when I'm emotionally unstable, feeling things I have never felt nor was ever ready for, I myself revert back to being a child. It's ironic because I'm normally poised for any situation, even unexpected ones but a relationship is a whole different world for me. I understand, it's contradictory. I'm not exactly as wise as a 50 year old, so I'm not always going to be composed.

should i sell my wii u? ive had it for a year and literally never bought a game for it. i payed a games i wanted with game fly but im just not feeling it

>>16939218
So why would a mature, intellectual and loving person want a manchild?

>>16939218
then why do you think you can expect that from a partner?

>>16939230
Oh, great. I forgot that someone not reacting well with one aspect of life is a manchild.

>>16939247
Well first of all, you're 18 so you basically are a child. Secondly, being emotionally unstable is characteristic of being a manchild, so you are a manchild. Try growing up a little.

>>16939064
I mean if you see him break in a guy's face with his knee, the next time you have some kind of argument you'll know exactly what he's capable of doing. It happens a lot I'm those circles, where some fighters can't have steady relationships because their girlfriend is terrified of them.
>I don't want him to get hurt
That's another thing. He's going to get hurt. He's an MMA fighter,of course he is. But he can take it. He just doesn't want you worrying so much about him.

>>16939276
>you'll know exactly what he's capable of doing
understandable. but that's just ridiculous... he's the sweetest guy ever irl.

>He just doesn't want you worrying so much about him.
too late

since you seem to have some knowledge about the matter: how can i support him in the best way i'f i'm not "allowed" to be around? i mean, obviously i'm going to leave him alone before the figth so he can prepare and ask him how it went after. but anything else?

>>16939145
Going to piggyback off this question.

If I send a message to someone using the Facebook messanger app without being friends with them, does their profile picture showing that they've seen it still appear?

>>16939302
>He's the sweetest guy
They usually are, but he obviously won't see it that way. It's hard knowing the woman you love is watching you be a violent uncontrollable animal and beat the crap out of another one. It's a difficult thing to describe.
>how can I support him
Well I personally didn't have a girlfriend back when I was in those circles, and only one guy I knew did, but she was legitimately crazy. I suppose if I had a girlfriend, what you just said would be enough. Maybe work out with him if he does it at home. Lots of sex would help too, but lots of sex helps with everything lol

>>16939331
>It's a difficult thing to describe
no, i get that. it makes total sense to me. he was concerned i won't understand but it's just logical.

>Maybe work out with him if he does it at home
he does too, yes. but i won't have time to do that till then. but thatnks for the idea. maybe next time

>Lots of sex would help too
wouldn't that be exhausting before a fight?

>>16939343
>Wouldn't that be exhausting before a fight
I meant after or days before, but maybe one before if he's up for it
It would get rid of the stress and wouldn't tire him out too much
As for workouts, maybe come in when he's about halfway through with water and stuff, or do it from the beginning if you can handle it.

Girls,
What is safest bet a man could take when keeping his pubes kempt? I know some prefer trimmed while others prefer fully shaved or I could be wrong. But which is the best bet?

>>16939391
Woman here, trimmed is good, I just shaved and trimmed mine up today, and moisturised, rerady for action

>>16939391
Trimmed, completely shaved looks weird as fuck

Ladies,
Do you prefer cocks that are cut or uncut?

Femanon here. Is it true that when guys poo they have to hold their balls to stop poo getting on them?

>>16937996
Do guys absolutely have to have muscles to be attractive?

>>16939404
Doesn't matter, the cock of a man i love

>>16939400
How long should the hair be to be considered "trimmed" and is shaving testicles and shaft only while keeping the rest trimmed okay?

>>16939406
No, whoever told you that needs a slap
>>16939410
Dude here
No, but it helps

>>16939388
>I meant after or days before
i can do that.

>It would get rid of the stress and wouldn't tire him out too much
i guess i could also take the "active" part. good ideas, thanks anon

> maybe come in when he's about halfway through with water and stuff
that's so cute! def going to do this.

you're the best anon. thank you so much!
if you have any other ideas, feel free to share them.

A question to both genders

Do you think its morally ok to have contact with multiple potentially romantic interests at once?

>>16939416
I'm fresh out of ideas, but I'm glad I could help.

>>16939430
Yes, this is perfectly normal. As long as you cut out all romantic interests after you get together with one of them of course.

>>16939257
I'm not 18, my partner was 18.

The only time I've ever been emotionally unstable, if I can call it that, has been after my first breakup. Never have I felt something as new as this. Not even after my mother's death. Not to say this was worse, but at least with her death I coped with it far better. This just felt like I was walking on land then was suddenly tossed into a typhoon. It's like I was at a gym just exercising but suddenly realizing I'm in a boxing ring, flat on my back unconscious.

Girls,
What would be a good way to start a convo with a guy you are on a break with (I'm messaging her, she wanted the break)? It's been a week so I'm just sort of "checking in" to see how things are and I don't want to say the awful "how are you"

>>16939406
No. How fucking much do you think balls sag?

>>16939430
Girl here. Depends on how invested I am in something.
Just texting a with a bit of flirting - yes.
Going out on dates - meh, mostly no
Committed - absolutely not.

>>16939480
This is just the answer i needed thanks.

My girlfriend's family is very close, very tight knit. However her and her mom had a falling out with my gf's older brother (1 of 2 of her older brothers) and his fiancee. Basically all I know is that the falling out revolves around their treatment of one of their young kids.

Anyways, my gf asked me to block her brother and his fiancee on Facebook and ignore any texts/calls from them. They haven't tried to contact me regardless, but I went ahead and blocked them.

I guess all I want to know is: Have I done the right thing? I know very little about the situation yet sided with my girlfriend no matter what, is that what you'd expect of your boyfriend in this situation?

>>16939645
I would play it on the smart side and block them as she asked, so imo you did the right thing yes.

Girls-
How creepy, on a scale of 1 to 10, would it be if I asked you if there's any chance you'll ever accept one of my invitations or if I should just move on? Friend gave me this advice... and it doesn't seem too smooth.

>>16939645
I would trust that my partner has made a rational judgment and has good reasons to remove those people from their life, and remove them myself also. If it seemed like a petty teenage drama thing, I'd ask what the big deal is. I'm assuming you have reason to believe this isn't a petty childish thing, so doing what your girlfriend asks is likely very reasonable and sensible. Especially since you have no real relationship with the people.

>>16939757
>One of my invitations
To what?

>>16939774
Hang out, study. Whatever.

If a girl is really lousy at chatting with you via text is it a certain sign of her finding you annoying or something like that?

Does texting define whether you will have a relationship or not with a girl? I'm sort of okay face to face but I'm really awful at texting. Texting is my only way to stay in touch with the girl I want to be my girlfriend until the weekends but should I just avoid texting unless it's really necessary?

Guys
would you get mad if your semi-girlfriend told you she wants a celebrity guy to massage her head?

>>16939807
I guess not. It's a pretty weird thing to say.

>>16939807
I wouldn't get mad but I would feel like I may not be good enough if the celebrity doesn't look too much like me. If it's more semi than girlfriend I would assume the girl doesn't really like me too much or would easily find someone else.
I'm weird though, don't take me as average guy example.

Am I allowed to give constructive criticism to a girl I want to date or should I always pretend everything she asks me for an opinion about is good?

Come and fucking lick it honey
You taste so sweet
I love you so much
So fucking hot
Kiss and lick it
Honey
So fucking sweet

>>16939779
She could just be a crappy texter, I knew a girl who would send a novel one text and the next be "oh cool"

i feel like the guy i´m dating is out of my league, i told many of my friends and most of them laughed at the idea but i truly feel like he is a better person than me, i even mentioned this to him and he didn´t agree, how can i fix this? is there any easy way to fix my self esteem?

>>16939936
Take off your clothes and see how hard he gets.

>>16939839
Yes you should give the criticism, if she can't take it tough. Later on she'll appreciate the honesty
>>16939850
?????????????????

>>16938332
Yes that is completely normal. As a girl you need a break from the pressures of the world. It's nice for alone time. Don't push your feelings on to her other than that just go with the flow

Ladies;

I was never attractive and then I left school. As I got older I grew hair and started getting more attention for the way I look.
I'm now a cliché recluse that writes. I don't know how to people.
When I try to make friends with women, I get the feeling that they think me as some playboy that wants to seduce them. Do you guys ever act mean towards some cute guy because your afraid that you might cheat with him or get your heart broken?
I know it sounds narcissistic, but I'm asking with sincerity

Is it rude not to text back if the other person isn't asking anything, and you don't really feel like you have anything to respond?

>>16939983
Lots of people act cold towards someone they find attractive. There are a number of reasons but yes, trying to guard themselves is definitely a possibility.

I personally will give someone a hard time if I think they aren't often given one because they're either attractive or otherwise privileged, but I'm also an asshole.

So i was browsing a site for meeting new people when i saw a girl's picture and felt a strange sensation going through me and now she keeps lingering in my mind, anyone else ever had this happen to them?

>>16940242
It's called attraction anon.

im snapchatting my boyfriend of 6 months right now and I wanna start sending sexy pics because i'm horny and haven't seen him since monday
but we've never done that before
should I do it?
how do I open that door? I feel like its weird to just send a picture without warning...

>>16940269
Hmmm maybe lead into it. I try not give my husband a hard-on at an awkward time (like when he's lecturing and has his phone out for watching the time).

>>16940269
Tell him you're feeling horny and ask him if he wants to see how much.

>>16938256
I don't care about it, girl here.

>>16938339
Hang with your bros, watch funny videos, burn all the shit you own from them unless it doesn't hurt you to keep it.

>>16938597
Don't do it, he'll think you wanna try again.

>>16938645
I'd give it a chance, yeah. Sometimes dating younger is fun.

>>16938788
Girl here,

I think it's pretty hot to be honest.

>>16938868
Try dating other people. If that still doesn't work for you you might have to just stop being friends :/

>>16940269
>nudes
>ever
That's a bad idea. But you're set on it...just warn him first.

>>16938868
That's natural, but you have to realize that there are other girls who suit you just as well. And you won't get to them by feeling bitter all the time senpai.

>>16938885
Not sure, I'd ask him specifically what he meant? Probably what >>16938894
said.

>>16938985
Wait until it feels right mane. There aren't any set rules.

I think I caught an std from an idiot I had sex with. When I go to the doctors and get the results should I tell him?

>>16939016
Lol this would be a bad idea, a guy should love you for whatever size titties you got.

How do i ask someone out in class?

>>16939038
She kinda seems like a bitch. Like, most people would be pretty understanding.

She's not worth it.

>>16940344
Don't do it. Relationships are shit. Everyone is shit. We're all going to die

>>16939061
Huh.

Maybe? Kinda seems like she might wanna hit you up again. Shoot her a text if you are still interested. If she doesn't reply in the normal amount of time or seems weirded out then you'll know.

>>16940279
no he's just hanging out in his room he's not doing anything important
>>16940290
nope I can't do this i'm too socially anxious
i wish he would just come over but he doesn't have a car
>>16940321
it's snapchat tho so i'll know if he takes a screenshot
he's not grimey enough to have one of the secret screenshot apps I trust him

>>16940344
Hey, you wanna go to *insert activity here* with me?

In regards to penis size. Is a length of 6 inches and circumference of 5 inches adequate? With decent physical strength and endurance, will it be enough to illicit 7/10 stimulation? Also, would running and more abs help burn fat on the pubic mound? Standing up it's 5.5 inches, but on my back it is 6 inches.

>>16939224
You could sell it or give it to someone who would love to play on it. Just sounds like it's not your thing.

>>16939391
Honestly I hate when my bf's pubes are even trimmed... it just feels scratchy.

For some this is great, for me not so much. I believe in all natural when it comes to guys.

>>16939430
When you're in a committed relationship, no.

>>16939779
Nope. I am the shittiest texter but it doesn't mean I'm annoyed or disinterested.

>>16939850
enjoyed the b8, m8 <3

>>16939839
Just doooo it, m8.

Because when you're with her you're gonna find it hard to be a yes man. A real relationship takes calling out.

If she can't take it well now, she's not a good one to ride or die with.

>>16940338
You gotta, otherwise he'll go infect other people.

>>16940358
You've been a relationship with him for six months. He's not going to think any less of you if you let him you're horny.

>>16940371
My bf is about 6 inches, you're good.

Also, it's all about the technique and the intimacy. So, don't worry about the size, just be confident and have fun.

>>16938014
>his co-workers have been calling him by last name around me
It's quite possible that the restaurant has more than one employee with the same first name, and they just call him by his last name for convenience.

Where I work, we have at least three people with the same first name. We call them by their last names.

Is there proper etiquette to messaging people on POF who you happen to already know?

I see two chicks on there, and we all went to the same high school. One I kind of know, the other I don't really know at all, just that I recognize from the halls.

Is it cool for me to say something like "Hey Kate, it's Anon, we had Math together, remember?" to the first chick? How about "Hey, I think I recognize you from somewhere, did you attend Honkydinkdonk High?" to the other chick?

Or should I just start clean and message them as if they were a stranger?

One thing's for sure, I can't/won't contact them by any other means. I'm not gonna add them on Facebook or anything like that.

>>16938014
Guy here: personally would be surprised at first but who knows? Maybe he is single and there is a chance for love between you so i would say add him.

>>16940364
Im ok

>>16938014
You'll make him so happy :D

>>16938099
You play board games thats why

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Girls

Rate this guys hair. I'm looking to get a new haircut. And reporter Jesse Watters hair doesn't look to bad to to me. Just wanted to see a different opinion

>>16938099

Don't overthink it. I'm often busy and lead an active social life, and I also don't want to hang out with a guy I just started dating all the time, even if I really like them and enjoy their company (I'm a bit weird and it takes me a while to work up the nerve and prepare myself for a date, I'm kind of anxious when it comes to romantic relations).

Tell her it's cool and see if she takes initiative to meet up again soon. If she does, dope. If not, that sucks, but then she's not the right one.

>>16940644
I'm waters and this is my world

>>16940659

I'm glad he has his own show now

>>16940338
If you don't tell him he won't know if he doesn't have the awareness to get an STD test too. Even if you dislike him, the next girl doesnt really deserve it.

>>16939430
As long as you haven't agreed to be exclusive. If you have you can fuck right off with that nonsense.

>>16939031
>I'd really want the surgeon to fix my areolas because they are slightly uneven.
Man I'll never get why women are so insecure about this stuff. Christina Hendricks is a pretty notable sex icon but her tits are pretty uneven, let alone just areolas.

I was with my girl today and she had her foot near me and while we were talking I just casually put my hand on it and was just holding it there. She didn't have a problem with it and I think she hinted that she enjoyed it. What should I do next in terms of embracing my foot fetish?

How does one deal with having a more attractive sibling (specially one of the same sex)? Do you hide your sibling from your partner?

>>16940833
Offer a massage?

>>16940512
>Or should I just start clean and message them as if they were a stranger?
"yes"

pretend you don't know them unless they bring it up


-

ladies and gentlemen
i got rejected by my crush, who is also in my social group and i'm having difficulty dealing with it. she's just so neat. she fed me a line of bull about how dates make her uncomfortable so she doesn't date at all


not a question, i just want sympathy
feed me

>>16940838
I probably will offer the massage. I will see how she presents them the next time I see her. Thanks.

>>16940889
or just say
>hey want a food rub

How do I deal with a girlfriend that I cut off over spring break? She did some mean shit so I blocked her everywhere and stopped answering her texts. I'll see her pretty much every day since we go to a small uni and we're in the same program.

>>16940905
jesus, did you officially break up with her or did you just up and ghost her?

>>16940908
I ghosted her because she's fucking crazy

>>16940912
ghosting a normal girlfriend instead of breaking up like a normal person would make her feel crazy. you ghosted a "fucking crazy" person, how do you think that's gonna turn out?

>>16940912
>ghosting a crazy bitch when you guys are still in contact
Big mistake. Enjoy fucked up rumors about you popping up from nowhere.

>>16940912
>I ghosted her
literally ghost yourself, you passive little shitstain
grow a pair of gonads and break up like a gd damn human being

>>16940918
Not well, but it already happened. She ditched me all break to hang out with an ex, going on dinner dates and Disneyland and shit. When I raised my concerns about that, she got mad at me and threw a bunch of insults at me, and we were trying to decide whether or not to continue our relationship. She said she would thin about it, and then posted a snapchat of her going to the beach with him when she told me she had work. So I ghosted her.

>>16940931
Also she made a false pregnancy accusation to me

>>16940931
neither of you have much courage, or she maybe has courage and is choosing to be manipulative with the "i'll think about it" thing. she should've been more emotionally mature and respected your feelings, but you should've been more emotionally mature and calmly, swiftly ended things when she pulled that shit

>>16940922
I can deal with it.
>>16940926
Give me some advice instead of yelling at me maybe?

>>16940942
>Give me some advice instead of yelling at me maybe?

"i'm breaking up with you. bye"

>>16940931
>>16940936
Then grow a fucking pair, draw the line. Call her out on that

>>16940875

I'm going through the same thing right now anon. I just take every opportunity I can to meet other women so to distract me from her. Also, if you start feeling overwhelmed and orbity don't be afraid to distance yourself a little bit. You have to do your best to start feeling less for her and disengaging from this. Some days my crush shows up to uni dressed in such a way that I go nuts at how attractive she is- on those days I just try to avoid her a bit ( not that I ignore her, but I find excuses to leave, etc). I can't say that it is completely working out for me- but doing these things certainly help.

>>16940945
So just say that to her if I see her?

>>16940945
this. keep it short and sweet. don't let yourself get pissed off (even though all signs seem to point to her deserving to get yelled at), don't go off on a rant about all the bad shit she did. break it off like a mature person

>>16940950
tell her you guys need to talk. i guess give her some sort of reason for why you're breaking up with her, tell her the spring break stuff was not okay and you're breaking up with her. then find an excuse to leave

>>16940952
She told me I was too jealous, so I'm thinking if I see her I'll just say "you're right, I'm too jealous, sorry it didn't work out"

>>16940950
You sperged out. It's too late, she knows you broke up.

>>16940950
well if she hasn't already started ignoring you back then you should

>>16940949
desu ive ran out of women to meet. normally i flirt with strangers and try and get numbers/dates but i figured 'hey, this woman is awesome why not nut up and give it a shot'

>>16940956
do you feel you're too jealous and your feelings were irrational, or are you rolling over and saying she was right just to make things easier?

>>16940957
I don't want her back, I'm just trying to decide how to deal with her if she wants to talk to me.

>>16940961
I'm almost certain she was playing me. She broke up with a long distance boyfriend to be with me around 2 months ago but they stayed in contact and as soon as he was back in town it was like I didn't exist. I'm not going to stand for that, especially if she tries to turn it around on me.

>>16940969
so tell her you're not comfortable with her closeness to her ex, and you're not okay with how she handled things when you told her how you felt about it only to have her shit on your feelings
don't say shit on your feelings though

>>16940972
Sounds good, thanks.

Are all women whores by chance or do they have to work for it?

Ps I am a nice guy and no fucking whores will date me. What am I doing wrong?

Why do girls say they have to pee constantly?I don't care just go you don't need my permission.

>>16940552
What's wrong with playing board games?

>>16940652
I see your point.
I'll try asking her out this week and see where it goes.

>>16940988
lose the nice part and just be a guy

FEMANONS!
When you use terms like"dude" or "man" to a guy, does it mean you're not attracted to him?

I always got this feeling that being called those words by a girl (espeically the pretty ones), it means that they don't find me attractive.

I'm a 28 year old in junior college. One of my professors (30) is flirting with me and we seem to get along better than anyone I've met before, let alone anyone I've actually dated before. We've spent a lot of time together hanging out after class and getting to know each other, but it's painfully obvious that there is still a student-teacher relationship because I'm in his class until May. I'll possibly take another class with him somewhere down the line, but I won't if I can help it, because I don't want him to just be my professor.

I should wait 2 years to finish my associate's degree before starting anything with him, right? Even though we're so close in age, it's still inappropriate to do anything after I get out of his class because he's one of the professors, right? One of my friends says I should make a move after we're done with his class, but I don't want to fuck things up in case he's the only prof teaching one of my required classes later down the line.

>>16941132
lol no, i refer to just about everybody as dude, including my boyfriend that i've been with for over 4 years

>>16941132
I don't think so. If she says shit like "bro" or actually refers to you as being like a brother to her, then yeah you're fucked. But "dude" or "man" are normal.

Why do guys scratch their ballsacks with such callousness?

>>16941171
Cause it's itchy at times.

Why are girls so reluctant for sex? What are they scared is going to happen?

>>16941217
>they're gonna get pumped and dumped
>they're gonna get used
>they're gonna get labeled a slut for sleeping with you "too early"

just a few from the top of the dome

>>16941224
They certainly disregard that when it comes to a Chad.

>>16941227
To a meme-like imaginary being that exists only on /r9k/? Sure.

While having sex with gf I think while I pulled condom I probably touched my sperm I am not sure.

We had many time sex and I think that I touched in my precum and cum and fingered maybe I did not at all of these but I have feeling that I did.

So is it possible to get pregnant by fingering?

to both genders, would you find a bikehorn to be a turnoff?

my father was a circus clown and he died of colon cancer and left me behind his bike horn and i keep it with me wherever i go

Ladies.

Is it more important to service your feelings, or tell you the truth regardless of how offensive it maybe?

>>16941239
>>16941237
>>16941236
Going to open a new thread and post your questions