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Dealing with not going to a funeral

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My grandpa died today, and he lives in another country. I don't have a visa, and rushing it would cost $400 of money I don't have. He and the rest of his close family lives in another country whose language I don't speak.

But I'm afraid that if I don't go, then that means I never really loved him.

What should I do? I'm thinking of not going, but I'll feel guilty if I don't.

Pic related, he died via getting his plug pulled.
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Call the embassy of the country if thereĀ“s another option for you than the big visa given the circumstances...
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My grandma died last summer quite suddenly after a battle with cancer. It was about half a year after I made my dream of living in London come true. I wasn't there when she got worse, and my family decided it was best not to tell me immediately when the doctors put her in a sleep state. I only found out a day or two before she died. I had a similar situation as you, where flights/etc would have cost a lot of money that I didn't have, so in the end we decided it was best I didn't fly back to my country.

I felt like shit about it, but at the end of the day going to her funeral wasn't going to give me closure or anything of the like. I made a tribute to her to be played at her funeral, and said my goodbyes privately.

I mean, of course it really depends on what you feel is right. But you know you loved your grandpa. Going to a funeral isn't proof of it, and not going isn't gonna take that away. You know what you sincerely feel, like I did, and no one else's opinion matters.
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>>16934786
1. Send flowers or something to let them know you're thinking of him.
2. Think of him. Take a break during the day to think good thoughts about him and say Goodbye in your mind.

That is all that can be asked of you.
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>>16934786

if you dont have 400 dollars you could expend then dont go.

if you have the 400 dollars you could expend, go.

tbqh i didnt love my grandpa. i barely knew him
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>>16934825
Thanks for the advice. I think I'm going to send flowers, and talk to his other loved ones.

I suppose the next time someone close and old gets sick, I'll get a visa then, so this doesn't happen again.
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