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I'm scared of men who are sexually attracted/trying to hit

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I'm scared of men who are sexually attracted/trying to hit on me, and interpret virtually all male friendliness as flirting. How do I stop?
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Have you ever had sex with a coffee pot?
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>>16539191
Male friendliness is usually flirting. Unless they are homosexual.
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>>16539191
Get a boyfriend, and drag him everywhere with you. Other guys won't hit on you in front of him, so anything they say would be platonic.

Make sure he knows how much you appreciate this by getting really good at giving head.
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>>16539191
You could try having sex with one of them and realize it's not so bad
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>>16539193
No. Is this a reference to something?

>>16539215
I can't get a boyfriend.

>>16539216
I've had sex with guys. I still can't tolerate it.
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>>16539215
I did this!!
It is a 100% success.
Sometimes strangers in the neighborhood try to talk to me but someone who knows my bf will tell them to stop.
So no unwanted male attention
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>>16539191
Two solutions:
1: Only appear sexy to people you actually want something with. Be grey to everyone, wear plain clothes, no makeup. This works very well.
2: Be more confident. Unless you live in some awful neighborhood, politely telling them that you are not interested is enough for them not to pursue you, and if you may be give them a chance.
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>>16539231
Lol whatever dude who knows my bf never lets the stranger get past telling me his name without being like "bro, seriously ... No." And then i smile/shrug and walk away and give my bf what he wants sexually because he doesnt force me to face the world alone or even get the mail or do laundry if I dont feel safe
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>>16539234
> Be grey to everyone, wear plain clothes, no makeup. This works very well


If you are truly attractive this makes nodifference and turns some men on more
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>>16539231
How do you get a boyfriend when you're ugly, crazy, picky and hate sex?

>>16539234
I always dress plain. I couldn't leave the house in makeup.
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>>16539228
Sure you can. Post a pic. You're probably just self-conscious over nothing.
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>>16539270
I'm 90% sure I'm just too picky but I can't imagine dating somebody that I'm not attracted to.

How do you lower your standards?
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>>16539277
In what properties do you feel that your standards are too high?
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>>16539248
Im hot and i love sex but only with my man
Im not trying to have random people fuck with me when i have the dopest dick
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>>16539248
Oh your talking about yourself?
Dang girl ithought that was a dude throwing some shade

Honey if you were ug this thread wouldnt exist
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>>16539277
I wouldn't know. I haven't done it. I'm single, but I enjoy it.
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>>16539296
I'm not attracted to guys who are ugly, plain, or attractive in a boring way. weird-in-a-way-that-is-not-necessarily-ugly is a hard thing to find.

Also, bigger than me and very, very, very, very unthreatening. Not any sort of intimidating vibe of any kind.

There was one guy like that in my school. He turned me down since he already has a gf.
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>>16539248
Ugly and dress plain? Now I really want you to post a pic.
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>>16539313
>attractive in a boring way
Elaborate please.

>Also, bigger than me and very, very, very, very unthreatening Not any sort of intimidating vibe of any kind.
This is your confidence issues projected onto others. The solution is only within you, not in the guy. Even if you manage to get into a relationship issues like these usually screw it up in a few months.
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>>16539328
Find. Big hipstear teddy bear with lumberjaxk beard
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>I'm ugly, I'm plain, I wear no makeup, but guys always want to fuck me bruh huh, whiteknights please help me
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>>16539331
What's weird-in-a-way-that-is-not-necessarily-ugly?
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>>16539328
You know how photoshopped supermodels always look exactly the same? That kind of thing. I can look at it objectively like "okay, most girls would find that super attractive" the same way I can look at a tree and be like "okay, that's a tree". I don't find that attractive but I know it's supposed to be attractive.

How do I stop being scared of men enough to get a man to help me stop being scared of men?
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>>16539318
>>16539328
>>16539340
Orbiters, attack!
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>>16539191
Idk isn't flirting what friends do I mean if a guy is to aggressive he doesn't really feel that you're is friend, maybe
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>>16539354
I don't have any male friends.
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>>16539345
First, forget supposed to be. That's disgusting hivemind think. You are either attraced or not. If you are not, end of story. You seem to spend a lot of time thinking about what you are attracted to and not acting and living your life, that is why you have a distorted view of reality and possibly irrational standards. Think and daydream less, act more, and your standards will follow. It's kind of like guys' brains on porn and banter. They develop irrealistic standards because what is supposed to and what is in porn.

>How do I stop being scared of men enough to get a man to help me stop being scared of men?
You have huge confidence issues and you try to hide behind others' opinions. Be yourself, be more open to the world, take risks. Think about it objectively, do you have any rational reason to fear contact with men, in a group or otherwise? If you don't, just go ahead with it and see what happens.
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>>16539191
You sayyyyyy im crazy.... Cuz u dont think i know what youve donnnnnnne
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>>16539345
I could help talk you through shit and give you a guy's perspective.
[email protected]
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>>16539228
>>16539248

I personally don't have high standards, don't care much about sex, and don't care what you wear.
All I want in a woman is friendliness and wanting to play games or see movies with.

There are people out there OP, keep looking.
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>>16539366
What do you want a male to do which isn't sexual?
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>>16539373
Oh it's not like I hide in my home under the bed 24/7 at all times. I can have normal casual conversations with men, I'm just internally screaming the whole time.

Also, you don't know what I'm talking about? Those people who are so beautiful it gets boring. Like, flawless in a sterile way. I don't want to touch that and if I did I probably couldn't afford it. I am genuinely baffled of how this concept does not make sense to you.
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>>16539384
Wait what?
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>>16539399
Do you want a nice guy? Because that's all you're going to get unless you let someone dominate you I think
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>>16539391
Couldnt afford. A man????
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>>16539391
>I'm just internally screaming the whole time.
This is what I was talking about. You can fake calmness, but it's not a meaningful conversation if you act and he react to that act. Be yourself and give it a go.

>Like, flawless in a sterile way
This only shows you haven't met too much men. No one is like that. That's just an act as well, learned to lure women. If you get to know some guy well, you will realize, even if he pulls an act like that in public and smalltalk, there are more dimensions to his personality. Only really boring guys are like what you are talking about, but they are rare. Almost everyone has some passion, interesting life experiences, hobbies etc..., some just feel that it's better left out of the conversation. Be less judgemental, and give people a chance to know you and for yourself to know them better.
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>>16539191
Don't talk to men? I literally only interact with girls I want to fuck. If she's ugly/fat/tall I'm not going to talk to her. So... yeah, 99.9% of male friendliness is flirting.
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>>16539406
Do you mean nice guy or "nice guy"?

And do you mean being dominated sexually or in general?

>>16539414
Do you have any idea how much work a 6/10 would have to put to dating a 9/10?

>>16539419
I don't mean flawless in personality, just physical appearance. Most of the very pretty ones are really boring to me because I don't care about sports or gossip.

They're like greyhounds. Very pretty but not very bright.
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>>16539246

THIIIIISSSSSS. I have worked in the customer service industry so I know what's up. I would come in, intentionally looking drabby as fuck... no makeup, hair looking messy (just got out of bed look), my work uniform is baggy... and it still doesn't matter.

If you're hot, OP, there is nothing you can do, except maybe become morbidly obese... then again, I knew obese girls back in my high school who got laid a lot and its because they have really nice faces.
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>>16539434
>Most of the very pretty ones are really boring to me because I don't care about sports or gossip.
Then talk to men who aren't like that. If you want to know anything about the guy that is not his looks, you have to talk to him.
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>>16539440
there's also chubby chasers.

Men like the combination of a pretty face and a pretty body. Guys who are into fat girls are still into pretty girls, so a girl with an ugly face is fucked regardless.
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>>16539248
>How do you get a boyfriend when you're ugly, crazy, picky and hate sex?
>hate sex?


OP... are you sure you're not just a lesbian?
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>>16539458
I'm not sure what it was that I said that offended you, but I'm sorry.
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>>16539461
Yes. I've tried but I can't make myself be into them.
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>>16539464
Nothing, but I got the impression that you are judging men from their appearance and don't give them a chance to get to know each other better.
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>>16539469
I have no intention to date people I don't want to touch.

I am literally no more attracted to a dude with a sixpack than you are to your best friend's grandmother.
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>>16539482
This is your problem. You said it. YOu have irrealistic standards. If you filter out almost everyone according to looks, you will never get to know them and in your world men remain just that, looks. SO you will craft even more irrealistic standards. To break that cycle, you need to associate men with someting else, but in order to do that, first you need to get to know them better. Then your priorities will change. (slowly (months))

Same thing with guys. If they only notice the perfectly beautiful 10/10, they can whine all day of how women are cunts and they always reject them. If they started conversing with the 6/10, they would recognize that there is much more loveable in women than looks, and their priorities would change.
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>>16539498
So I have to take the ruddy balding one?

I can't imagine he'd be happy dating someone who shivers in disgust at the thought of sleeping with him.
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Cool, I have the same problem, kinda, but from the other side. I don't know how to tell girls that I like that we can't be friends due to sexual attraction, without it sounding crude or hurting their feelings or whatnot.
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>>16539506
>So I have to take the ruddy balding one?
Talk to the ripped one if you like. In the previous conversation you just excluded almost all male types from the attracted to group, then when a guy ased you if you were a lesbian, you said you weren't either. At this point it almost doesn't matter who you talk to. Get to know people and accumulate positive experiences. That's how you can overcome things like these.
Also, dating != talking to and getting to know.
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>>16539191
>>16539228
>>16539248
>constantly being hit on
>can't get a boyfriend
>is ugly and crazy

These all can't be true.
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