ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

men, if your woman wants sex and you're tired or not in the mood, do you decline or perform half assedly? Do you pleasure her till she gets off?

>>16535722
If I'm really tired, I'll say not tonight and go to sleep.

>>16535743
my man does the half ass thing. I've stopped initiating because if he's not in the mood I'll end up fucking his body but Buster Keaton's face

>>16535722
>>16535783
Man-whore here, its always about the girl. Sexual reputation is everything.

For you, my advice is to grind on his cock if he's too tired to get you off. Or sneak a Viagra in and ride him?

alright neetgen is worthless so I'll try here

I'm not quite a neet but I will be fairly soon if I don't get a job

I'm in my senior year of High School. Target is hiring for seasonal positions. Will they even consider me for seasonal if I have to go to school during the day?

>>16536090
If you can compromise by working weekends, then you should be fine. Nothing to lose by applying anyway

>>16535864
>Or sneak a Viagra in
Because secretly drugging your partner is a great start to a healthy relationship.

>>16536090
Sure, if you work weekends and/or nights. I'm able to work fridays and weekends only really and it hasnt been a major issue.

Both men and women: do you seek an intellectually inferior, equal or intellectually superior life partner?
Why?

>>16535699
When is it ok to start farting in front of your boyfriend?

Trying to make it simple. I dated a girl for 6 months and she broke it off because she was undergoing something harsh in her life and I took the breakup hard and didn't keep contact until a few months later when I was finally able to talk to her and not be a little b about it, she gets with some guy but I pretend now to care. Casual talking at this point, not always but I still think about her. I confess what I've been hiding since she dumped me and she tells me I'm amazing blah (she still has a bf) and she wants me to be her friend for a long long time. Then she says she wants to hang out even after knowing I am this passionate. Straight up girls does she want to just have a friendly hangout or is she giving me a chance to show her how amazing I am and have her reconsider? Plz help

>>16536114
equal or superior.
I always end up with superior that seem to think i'm equal. I must be convincing.

>>16536114
man here.

superior.

because i wouldn't respect an inferior in the long term and i would resent my equal. it's also nice to have someone better than you around to help you.

>>16536114
Equal. If they were inferior, I'd get frustrated at being unable to discuss intellectual things, and if they were superior, I'd feel stupid and inadequate.

>>16536115
When he starts farting in front of you.

>>16536114
Woman here. Very close to equal but leaning on superior, especially in things like math, technology, money, general fixing shit, ect.

>>16536115
I think it's just polite and pretty easy to not do that around anybody if you can

>>16536114
Equal ish. I was with a woman a good bit slower than me, and it was just a frustrating experience. I want someone that can take care of themselves, learn at a reasonable pace, and be able to think on their feet.

Christ I remember she gave me a saw when I asked for a screwdriver, after a while it felt like she was an infomercial given life.

>>16536119
Assume she means what she says she means (be friends) unless she does something to contradict that. Girls are not a hivemind - only she knows what she wants.

>>16536114
Superior. It irritates me how stupid I am, don't think I could handle a partner like me.

Target dude here, another question

I don't smoke. At least, not regularly.
Recently, I visited family up north. I smoked weed 3 times over the course of a week. Prior to this, the last time I'd smoked was a year and a half ago.

This means the last time I smoked weed was last saturday.

Considering Target is known for doing drug tests, should I be worried? I'm overweight but not incredibly fat, and not particularly active. I've been trying shitloads of liquids all day

Girls: Do you have racial preferences in partners? Any races you are very hesitant to date long term?

>>16536199
White/Jewish guys. I've only ever had one partner, and he's white and a quarter Jewish so jackpot.

If I take a girl to the zoo or a movie and when its done and I'm dropping her home, what do I do?

Assuming everything went swimmingly, do I go in for the kill and kiss her? On her mouth? cheek? Is it time to kiss her if there's a long pause where we just face each other?

>>16536199
I don't like black dudes and sort of prefer asians

Girl I like
>Get number
>texting always awkward never get too far
Girl I don't like
>Always texts me back right away super fucking helpful and loving
>Don't even fucking remember her name and its way too late to ask (It's been like a year)

FUCKING WHY?! Why is it always so difficult to get the girls I want I don't understand... I'm about to just give up and get /fit/ as fuck but once I do that I know I will see women as shallow tools. I mean how can it be that one girl is willing to travel the world with me and another just thinks I'm weird? What kinda of fucking standards do I abide by?

>>16536250
Think of it like a Venn Diagram. One circle is filled with all the girls who are attracted to you. The other is filled with all the girls you're attracted to. The smaller sliver where they overlap is full of girls who are both. It's a numbers game. You've got to keep trying until you find one.

>>16536250
Also how the fuck did I get away not saying her name for a year? That's some shit man.

This girl wants to like stuff that I like
What's that about?

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>>16536268
Classic body snatcher seen it a million times.
>Girls flirts with guy
>Starts to take his interests
>Goes to his home meets his family starts to ask more questions
>Goes on a date in a isolated area
>Begins kissing
>At first it's good but to the mans horror she does not stop sucking
>Sucks so hard all the mans skin is ripped off
>Now skinned alive the man is on the floor in pain
>After consuming the man and adorning his skin she goes back to his home and lives out his life until she needs to shed again
Run while you can man you are lucky you asked here who knows what might of happened.

>>16535699
A girl I have a crush on had a bad day, I tried talking to her at the end of it, she only gave short, clipped answers and all the rest, really had no interest. Said sorry, tried speaking to me again after that a day later. Is that a bad sign? If I were having a bad day I'd enjoy talking to her, it would probably make me feel better. My idea is she probably doesn't see it the same way.

>>16536221
Always the mouth for a goodbye kiss on 1st date, really seals in the night

What do guys find charming in a person?

For women: how should guys treat you when you're on your period?

>>16536360
Don't be obnoxious, easily irritable.
Just be yourself man. Don't coddle the girl.

>>16536360
Hm. I guess the most important thing is don't be loud or jostle me. Treat me like someone who is sick, because that's how I feel.

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>>16536340
A really kind person who smiles often and makes the people around them happy(high energy,honest,caring,good hearted etc..).
When you have a good heart and think about others often it shows. At first you won't notice it but higher quality guys will start to want to be around you all the time ( as in guys who want a gf not a fuck). Even if you are not so attractive it will make you seem so much cuter I know several girls like this one was really fat but I know she can get a bf no prob because of her personality another is average and all my friends like her hell I even like her but she friends zones everyone. The last one is literally perfect super smart super kind and she is a little below average in looks but her personality is so amazing when you see her in person she just becomes beautiful it's such a weird effect her smile just makes me glad I told a joke or came out when ever I think of her I regret choosing a different girl she could have stolen me at any time if she wanted even though my girls friend was much more attractive physically.

>>16536296
Hahahaha

So the girl is interested in a guy if she does that?

Are there natural ways to increase breast size?

>>16536464
Pregnancy

>>16536464
Drink a lot of milk. But don't worry about it too much just go on /b/ and you'll see it does not matter as much as you think.

For women: Any advice for a guys first time?

>>16536479
First time what?

First time having sex

>>16536482
Fist time having sex

>>16536495
Don't stress.

>>16536495
1.Get one out before hand so you don't finish early
2.Foreplay is super important make sure you find her g-spot it will feel like a small bump on the top or bottom wall
3. Don't be greedy start slow and go on make sure she is always enjoying herself and kiss her often
Have fun and let your animal instincts take over when you can. Also make sure you eat a lot of carbs like an hour or 2 before hand they will give you stamina don't do it with an empty stomach.

what does a girl mean if she says she's taken but doesn't have a boyfriend?

>>16536495
Please be safe

>>16536517
I have no idea

>>16536514

Do some women like inexperience?

>>16536517
She does not like you try another don't worry rejection is common for guys get up and try again. I know it's hard sometimes when you think you really like a girl but in reailty if she says shit like this you barely know her and she does not consider you close enough to be honest with. I know that feel but just get up and try again my friend.

>>16536533
Yes

I am lonely as fuck because I'm a KV autist.
I seem to attract men that I don't want, as in we might be compatible with humor but there's always an element of
> clinginess
> possessiveness
> being a petty dick
> the reveal of some deep skeletons early on
This doesn't make me feel good, so I run once I see it's going to be shit. I've got a friend and her boyfriend is my worst nightmare, he's a cunt to her, hits her and never leaves her alone. I just feel like if I got a boyfriend, that's what he'd be like. Where can I find a sane, normal boyfriend in my mid size town?

>>16536533
No none not even virgins hide it. If you use foreplay correctly and follow these tips you can last long enough and make her feel good enough for her not to notice. Do some research on positions to use, fore play etc... But more importantly remember to enjoy it. It's normal to get a bit nervous but make sure more then anything you have a desire to make her feel good because that's what will make it enjoyable and fun for both of you.

>>16536548
The guy your looking for is most likely a bit shy and need a bit more motivation to flirt with you. See>>16536431
If you have these qualities eventually you will have guys who have good intentions around you. I'd suggest the guy that seems drastically different from what you are used to personality wise. Not only will these traits attract better men but they will give you better friends in general.

>>16536550
Should I focus on things that turn me on, or focus more on what turns her on?

>>16536431
Thank you, I appreciate such a long response.

>>16536452
No

>>16536568
Both a lot of the time it's the same thing. It feels good for a women's breasts to be massaged it feels good when you grab her but the right way(in the small area right before it becomes leg). When you kiss her on the neck etc... Take time to learn about her body and see what gets her really turned on it's fun and will turn you on as well. Once you start to please her she will desire to please you. Just don't force oral sex first time if you are comfy with it fine but you don't have to it will earn you extra points but it maybe a bit too much all at once if it's your first time. Just really remember to find her g-spot during foreplay and aim for it during sex and have a lot of fun with it.

>>16536580
No problem I know how it feels to be uncertain about what others want.

>>16536603
Thank you for the advice

>>16536609
Just want you to have a good time no need for thanks.

>>16536340
Varies.

Honesty and kindness are decent first steps. If you treat others well, at the very least I'll respect you as a person even if we don't really click.

>>16536340
Confidence and wit.

I was interested in this chick through a mutual friend, but then I found out her idea of breaking up was ignoring her ex until he basically rage blocked her on various accounts. Then she acted like a victim even though he did exactly what she wanted.

What runs through these peoples heads? Maybe I just have friends who hang out with bad crowds but I keep running into this sort of shit in college. I'm just hoping it changes once I graduate at this point.

>>16536712
I find its best to talk to the people who care about doing well. Volunteer work, studious, kind etc... I used to hang out with people who did nothing but chilled partied etc.. I still hold on to them as close friends but recently I've been making a lot of new friends with people who came from other countries and are trying hard to achieve, people who want to help others, people who just want good friends. Honestly I know a lot of girls now who are virgins or have never had a boyfriend I did not think that was a thing in college but it is when you start hanging out with these really straight edge people. Basically start making friends with people that really care about school and more importantly other people. Show you also have a good heart and you can find a lot of really great girls.

Men: would a girl with permanent and noticeable laceration scars on her face repulse you? Could you still consider them pretty if they had an otherwise nice face, or does that ruin it?

Like, aside from KS fags (who obviously get off on stuff like it), would anyone even mind much?

>>16536767
I'll need to protect that smile

Girls:

I met a girl at a party. We make out a lot at the party and had some fun. We chatted a lot before we started drinking. I slowed down/ended the make out session after I started sobering up and her getting more intoxicated (she was wobbling and was about to hurl, etc)

I got her number for her friend because I found out she knew one of my friends really well and have had a past history of this blowing up in my face.

Then outta the blue she mentions that party and was like " I was so inebriated I couldn't remember anything" I made a joke about remembering me at least and then she talked about the night again, she gave me a gawk/judgy stare completely different to her usual looks. I understand that she wanted to explain herself that she isn't always like that. BUT it changed the entire vibe of the date for me, it felt like she only wanted this date to prove to herself that she isn't always like that. I just felt a bit used...to clear someone else's conscious.

I talked near the end about meeting again and she was really open to it and told me her schedule. But I felt it was honest at first but Idk now.

I know I am reading a lot into it but I was really annoyed after the date. I haven't been on dates in awhile, due to family issues/work, but I wanted to try keep communication and willing learn more about each other ahead of heavy physical touching/contact that might give ONS vibes.

I texted her right after that I hope she got home early + joke from our date (something I rarely do because I though I should've done) and she didn't text back. My friend warned me about an odd and peculiar date with our age gaps but I'm really confused. I don't want to ignore her and get in trouble with our mutual friend but I don't want to be reaching out for someone six years younger than me, idk im lost and its annoying.

Should I text her back for a second date in a few days? Just to get it done with or should I just move on and hope it doesn't explode? Thanks.

>>16536767
Possibly, how severe is it though? If you don't want to post a picture, I'd appreciate a comparable picture.

>>16536767
See>>16536431
KS fags like girls like this (from what I know) because of the personality behind the scar. Of course you cannot say this for every single guy but a lot of men melt at a soft heart. I don't know how big your scar is or how you face looks so I can't tell you how attractive you are but you have to remember we are all trying hard to get somewhere in life dealing with our own problems and some times the most attractive thing you can do is give someone a really nice smile and treat them with a lot of kindness just to make it a bit easier. I'm sure you can understand that even if you are not a man. So do not worry your scars do not mean you cannot find a good guy for yourself.

Girls

Would you think less of a guy that writes whiny, depressing music?

This girl seems interested in me but doesn't really help me
Like she'll walk past and not hold open the door and shit like that

Should I not have anything to do with her?

>>16536831
Sounds rude

>>16536830
What a loaded question

>>16536199
I like white guys, but I also hesitate to date them. I'm not too picky, but I don't prefer asians.

>>16536360
No different. I don't really get symptoms. Lay out a towel or something for sex.

>>16536517
She doesn't want to date you. Or she's dating a chick.

>>16536830
I don't date musicians.

>>16536831
....what?

>>16536831
That's your choice I've had women pay for my means and vacation before then still turn out to be bitches or the relationship not work out. I don't like it but a lot of American girls are raised thinking they don't have to do the polite shit men do and are never even taught to do so.

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>>16536792
Here's a reference I drew onto this manikin

>>16536850
>>16536846
She was texting one time and pushed open the door for me the other time before letting my shoulder shoulder the burden of keeping the door open

>>16536847
In what way?

>>16536864
>would you think less of someone who does something negative

>>16536830
I like Crywank's stuff so no.

>>16536870
Hmm, guess it is

>>16536860
She'll just walk past and not hold the door open

>>16536874
Thats what inspired me to start

I'm texting lewd with a girl and she's into it. But I'm physically shaking. How do I stop. It's freaking me out

>>16536894
Why?

Guys last night i went partying in Korea and I was completely shit faced. Now I danced with 2 girls that night but one i was dancing with the girl on some sort of stripper pole. Im seriously regretting how fucking gay I probably looked. Would you guys or girls suggest I never go back to this club? I mean im sure its not a big deal, but fuck im embarrassed as hell.

>>16536897

Why what.

I'm texting lewd. She likes it. But my whole body is like shivering as if I'm cold. But I'm not. I want it to stop, how do I stop it

>>16536894
I get the shakes when getting lewd texts too. Doesnt help, but at least youre not alone

>>16536899
do you know how gay Korean culture looks to much of the outside world?

besides, you were drunk. it's understandable. it might be embarrassing but you'll get over it.

i'm assuming you're not gay so it's no big deal.

>>16536902

That makes me feel better. The awkward part is I'm shaking like crazy and people are looking at me funny

>>16536905
Get an energy drink or something to blame for the shaking.

>>16536907

Ok I will.

I hope I don't shake like this when I meet this girl

How do I ask an introvert out?

>>16536853
Doesnt sound that bad then, especially if you have bangs.

>>16536850
>I like white guys, but I also hesitate to date them
Why?

>>16536894
Just take a breather and slow down. Whenever that's happened to me, it was usually due to anxiety.

This whole post is basically the common sense answer to everything. "Hey Anon, did I put <insert object> in the wrong place?". OP: "Maybe, maybe not. Depends on the object or the place you put it in. Life finds a way."

>>16536953
>Just take a breather and slow down. Whenever that's happened to me, it was usually due to anxiety.

Yeah I'm trying to. It's weird, I've been texting this girl from Tinder for 3.5 months now. We've never met. But through text we seem to have a ton of common interests. Anyways, I decided to be lewd out of nowhere and she went with it. I'm still shaking. Maybe it's just because I haven't been with a girl in 4 years. I don't know, but I hate this shaking and I want it to stop.

Also, on a side note. This girls seen pictures of my face, but never seen my body. I'm a really skinny dude. I hope she doesn't lose interest when we meet because of my body size, it's something I'm very paranoid about.

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Girls:

Why do so many of you turn into turbosluts after a breakup? I've seen it in both the dumpers and the dumpees. (Not to say guys don't as well, but I've noticed it happening a lot more consistently with girls.)

>>16536938
'hey do you want to go out with me sometime at <place that isn't jam packed with loud shitty strangers>'

source- I'm an introvert

How do I slow down when fooling around with girls. Everytime I've done anything with them, from the point of when we start making out to the point im pulling her panties off is too fast. Like I think I do it cause I'm freaking out. I really dislike making out. Having my face in someone else's is awkward and uncomfortable for me. But I know that's how you're suppose to prepare oven. But I never do it correctly. I always make out for like 1 minute then start tugging off her panties and begin fingering her.

How do I slow down?

>>16536953
>if you have bangs
Okay, thank you.

I do the "le cover half of face with hair meme" to hide most of them. Is that a giveaway? I don't want to drive people away by making them suspicious that I'm hiding something like a lazy eye or serious disfiguration.

>>16537048
>Is that a giveaway?
If I notice them under the bangs, I'll assume you're trying to hide them. If I don't, I won't really put much thought into it.

But I mean, they're mainly on the forehead. I was thinking you had a significant gash along your cheek or something at first, it's not a big deal either way imo.

>>16536965
>I've been texting this girl from Tinder for 3.5 months now
For what purpose.

>>16536968
A lot of people seem to think the easiest way to get over someone is to start fucking someone new. It's easier for a woman to get casual sex if we're honest.

>>16537063

>For what purpose

I mean, no real purpose I guess. Text buddy? We text about politics and stuff all the time. Just never met up.

>>16537011

Anyone?

>>16536968
If you were free to have good sex after a period of bad sex, wouldn't you too?

>>16536192
Straight up. Ur fucked

Guys I'm still shaking. In fact it's worse. i look like I'm epileptic or something. All the lewdness is killing me. Make it stop!!!

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>>16537209
pic related

>>16537218

I can't alcohol right now. I'm armed, and at work.

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Women:

I have a date this Saturday. If she asks me what music I listen to, do I tell her the truth, that I only listen to video game OSTs? This is really the only thing I'm particularly worried about.

>>16537233
Tell the truth. If you lie, your bullshitting will catch up to you sooner or later, and if this is going to last more than a few dates then you're going to have to reveal your power level sooner or later

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ok lewdness should be done now.

I need advice though, how do I not shake when I meet this girl. Like I said before, it's been 4 years since I've even cuddled with a girl. The last time I did, the girl even mentioned "wow your heart is beating super fast" and that really embarrassed me. How do I avoid this?

Drugs are not a option btw

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>>16537233
Why bother hiding that? Game soundtracks comprise quite a few of my favorites. Your tastes may not agree, but if she looks down on you for your taste in music, she's probably a snob.

>>16537233
I alway's ask about music and this is more common than you think. Music's music, don't be embarrassed about what you like. I just danced round to Beyonce and I'm meant to be cool.

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>>16537233
>only
There are a lot of good videogame osts but restricting yourself like that seems silly.

>>16537239
The shaking should calm down as you get used to it. But the heart racing isn't necessarily a bad thing. Personally I'd find it very cute. It's a way that your body shows you're into her; if anything, it would feel nice knowing I made someone feel that way.

>>16537239
Why does she call you daddy?

That's fucked up

I know texting is usually the norm and stuff, but is it OK to call a girl/guy during a Holiday?

>>16537274
People are generally busier. Maybe text first and ask if it's okay to call?

This chick seems to be interested in me
Noticed that she'll walk past an open door and not help hold it open

Is she oblivious or selfish or?

I'm not expecting help or a thank you for doing that, but find it weird regardless

>>16537266
This!
Heart racing is cute, she'd have liked it.

>>16537274
Texting is fine.

>>16537280
>>16537266

>heart racing is good

I guess that's nice to know. But I'm shaking again, she's calling me daddy (as a joke) but it's catching on. And she's making me shake again. I hate thisssss

When do you tell your boyfriend more details about past relationships?
Hae hasn't asked much, he knows I had a serious ex but that's it. I was pregnant when I was with him but lost the baby. Is it something that I need to disclose straight away or do I keep it to myself? I don't want to throw it out there so soon as I don't want to appear like I have mental issues with it. I don't, it was for the best. But I don't want to keep it from him if it will cause an issue down the line.
Guys, how would you feel if your new girlfriend told you this? What if I didn't tell him at all and I mentioned it further down the line? Is that a lie? Would it put you off her?

>>16537288
if the joke is making you uneasy then tell her

>>16537288
You need to chill out a bit. It's text, she can't see you, just say embarrassing stuff back. No one is watching apart from her and she's caking you Daddy so quite clearly wants it. Grow a pair.

>>16537292
Normally I would say it's really none of his business what your past relationships were like, but I think the miscarriage thing is pretty significant to mention. Maybe if the topic of babies ever comes up, you could use that as a segue into the miscarriage? Assuming that happens pretty soon. It's definitely not something you should keep from him

>>16537288
Tell her she's a good girl, she'll love that shit.

>>16537297
Already spoke briefly about kids but nothing serious. Fuck, I lost my chance.

>>16537292
I'd save it for whenever the relationship is getting serious, and talk of marriage and children start popping up. I wouldn't consider it a lie, unless you falsified information.

I mean, there's stuff I'm not entirely sure when and if I should talk about, but I certainly wouldnt consider it lying anyways.

>>16536953
>Why?
White guys, in my experience, tend to not get what "no" means. They also are the people that most ask why I'm not into them, and think I'm a cunt for not answering, or even worse if I tell the truth. Generally just bad experiences, you know?

>>16536968
It's encouraged to have one night stands after breakups, that's our society. Girls actually get laid, rather than having to try for it.

>>16537233
I'd be honest, but try to downplay it as if you're not that into music, probably.

>>16537274
Text to ask if you can call.

>>16537292
Girl, but I don't disclose those details ever.

>>16537312
Are you white?

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>>16537303
It's not a now or never thing. You can always talk about it next time you guys breach that topic. There's no particular rush, I assume all of that stuff is over the horizon for now.

>>16537312
>Generally just bad experiences, you know?
Sure, but I used to live in California. To be blunt about it, a disturbing number of mexicans and blacks struggled weren't exactly great about understanding what no meant either.

So the line of logic just seems a bit odd to me.

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>>16537298

If she broke up with her partner and had one night stands, would you still pursue her?

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>>16537293
>>16537295
>>16537298

I'm not uncomfortable she's calling me daddy. I'm uncomfortable from the shaking lol

>>16537318
Asian, US born.

>>16537323
I have not yet encountered a situation where a black guy did not know what "no" meant. I don't really get attention from hispanics. Washington here.

>>16537310
I'm glad it isn't seen as lying.

>>16537312
I wasn't going to disclose but I feel a bit guilty. It can wait though till having kids subject comes up...which won't be for a long time hopefully.

>>16537279
Head in the clouds?

Or just rude

>>16537331
Are you used to the dom thing? I have a feeling you might be a bit out of your depth.

>>16537337
>Washington here.
Small world. Unless you live in Seattle or something there arent really any blacks up here to begin with though.

>I have not yet encountered a situation where a black guy did not know what "no" meant.
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Personal experiences would have me advise any woman passing through Oakland to get a stun gun.

>>16537356
I spent a lot of time in Lakehood, plenty of blacks there.

>>16537337
I've only encountered one 'no' experience and he was black. I had to run away, and hide in a hotel. He then spent the next 2 months phoning me every day, called me names when I told him I wasn't interested and he only stopped when my brother started answering my phone.
I think that's why I'm scared of black guys now. That & their huge wangs.

>>16537353

I honestly don't know.

>>16537378
>That & their huge wangs.
People put too much stock into porn.

>>16537378
They're attracted to fear and that sound you hear is the sound of their lightsabers lighting up

>>16537384
You need to practice. Go on omegle and search for dom in interests. You need more game.

>>16537388
That was just jokes.

>>16537389
Viiiisssuuuuuuuuu.

Ok guys maybe you can help me out. I'm Italian, so forgive me if I made any grammar mistakes. So, long story short:
I've met this girl in uni and she was acting friendly and flirty first, but then she became distant and aloof.
At first I was a little sad, but then I started acting aloof as well, having no interactions with her whatsoever, besides greeting her whenever I meet her.
But I noticed her staring at me sometimes, in a non-malicious way, and when I looked back at her, she would immediately break eye contact.
Any suggestions about her behaviour? I'm not even mad at her, but this situation is just strange to me.

>>16537392

I hope she just wrecks me to be honest. She's cool, like we click on a personality. So even if it's alittle awkward. I feel like it's something we could laugh through and joke about it as we go

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>>16537406

Well read this. A Italian girl told me this. I'm jealous of you

>>16537406
I just love it when boys stare at me in a non-malicious way.

>>16537410
If that's the case what you shaking for? What's making you uncomfortable?

>>16537406
Oh shit, are you me?
A girl is also acting this way towards me

>>16537435

Well, I'm glad I'm not the only one experiencing this.
My sixth-sense tells me that she might be into me, but I can't be 100% sure

>>16537414
That didn't answer my question, anon, but she told you the truth.

>>16537425

I think it's been so long since I've been with a girl I practically forgot everything. I feel like a virgin again

>>16537443
I think there's still hope for us, bro
I think we're just a bit slow in getting the girl's hints, and she doesn't want to get hurt
What do you think?

Good luck

>>16537451

She wants your Italian sausage in and around her mouth

>>16537467
If you're shaking now, what'll happen when you guys get intimate bro?

It's usually the girl who starts panting heavily

>>16537467
That's sweet. But it isn't very daddy dom.
You should be calling her mommy instead

>>16537476
Guys should pant more, it's hot.

>>16537470
I quickly noticed she was "too" friendly with me and I reciprocated as well, but why is she acting distant, then? Is she thinking things are escalating too fast?

>>16537473
I hope you're right.

>>16537490
How did you respond to her acting that way?

I think this chick got slightly pissed off at me because me and another female friend got too happy, then another friend asked to do stuff, then got distant with me after that
Maybe she was waiting for me to ask her to do something?

>>16537490
She wanted you to do more stuff with her, maybe she's playing hard to get

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>Meet girl at work
>Its Ad Hoc work in a stadium so its really unpredictable when you'll work, and where (get moved to a different kiosk every time)

>Spent shift with her then went to another shift with her, we kept hanging out and seemed to really enjoy each others company

>Walked her back to her campus afterwards

>Felt a connection, said to her "I really liked hanging out with you, I'll hit you up on facebook and we can stay in touch"

>She was all for it
>For some reason couldnt add her, button didnt work
>Hugged her and we laughed about the fact it was over the top of her bike and said bye

I really like this girl, wanna hang with her some more. Problem is I think her fbook profile has some weird privacy settings that stops people adding you? Not sure if shes even aware of it, she thought I couldnt add her because of no internet connection

Whats the best/least creepiest way of contact her again?

Should I just send her a message? Despite the fact that she even said she didnt get a message before for some reason for someone and she didnt know why

Like I said, shes really cool and I'd hate for something as silly as facebook to prevent us from meeting up

>>16537477

Well she doesn't know that. And I think the "daddy" "baby" thing is more of a joke. Because the conversation started about that. But either was, she wants my dick, and we are meeting during the GOP Debate and Chill on the 15th. Maybe it'll be easier fucking her with all the energy I'll have from political discussion?

>>16537479

Really? You recommend I do that?

>>16537514
>>16537479
No, that person's trolling

>>16537515

Girls panting is hot af tho

Then again, girls can do lots of things and be hot as fuck. Most things even. I think its just the male libido percieving it as hot

>>16537496
I responded in kind, being playful and flirty like she was doing.
And I think your girl is jealous, or at least acting jealous. Probably she's waiting for you to do something.

>>16537508
Maybe you're right, if she was mad at me she could just not stare at me like that.

How much better does an actual vagina feel compared to a fleshlight or something like it?

>>16537515
I'm not trolling! It is hot.

>>16537514
I bet the daddy thing isn't a joke, just sayin.

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for girls, since guys would never be asked for a date.
what would make you want to go on a date with someone/accept an invitation?
what would make you decline it?

>>16537552
First impressions, if they are amusing and I feel relaxed I'd say yes. If they were a bit intense and pushy about a date I'd say no.
Calling it a date usually puts me off too.

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>>16537549

There's a girl in class that I haven't talked to at all in the 2 years we've known each other, but she helps me with tests and looks at me often and shit I think she likes me, what can I say to start up conversation without sounding weird?

>>16537580
You believe that?
You boys are so dumb. Like shes gonna be all upfront about her daddy issues, she's gonna break you in slowly. This is what's happening here.

>>16537582

Talk about class, or something related to your campus that she probably has knowledge of

>>16537585

Shit... Her dad is dead...

>>16537593
Kinky bitch.
Every time she calls you Daddy call her Mommy and see how she responds.

>>16537580
I'm not gonna lie dude, but this is creeping me out

>>16537597

So she's going to be expecting me to rail her, huh?

>>16537598

I don't see what's creepy about it

>>16537604
That's exactly what she's expecting.

>>16537539
She may be acting a bit distant to see what you might do bro
What you're doing is good though, which is acting distant in kind, I think she's still interested in you because she's still checking you out and she immediately looks away. That shit is good

Maybe wait a bit more to see if she warmer to you again, or if you want try to get closer to her again

Hopefully!
Or she might have found another guy lol, we work together as well, so dunno if that's a good idea

>>16537610

Shit. 4 years of no sex might not help me too much. I'm gonna have to start watching more porn.

>>16537614
Don't learn from porn. That really is like a virgin, I embarrassed myself with that one.
You don't just forget sex, don't try too hard and relax.

>>16537611
gets* warmer

>>16537611
Thanks mate, I really appreciated your help.

Should I get together with a girl from work?
We're in permanent positions

>>16537669
yes.

>Girl at work tell her she love you
>Hug you like lover
>Tell you she love you
>More hugs
>More I love you
>Ask her if she wants to get breakfast, she say yes

What does it mean? I'm so confuse.

>>16537677
kek

>>16537671
What if it doesn't work out?

>>16537691
So what? Don't make it awkward and work should be fine.
How close do you work together? Is it just the same company or do you sit next to each other or something.

>girl takes 24 hours just to text "okay" and "yeah" to two separate things/statements I told her at the same time
So what's this logic then? Don't you usually just not respond by now if this much time passes, you have nothing to say and/or you're not interested?

Should I drop conversation or bring up something new? Like try and liven things up?

>>16537723
I never understood the delayed replying game. I say if she's being boring & sucks at replying that you should leave it be and find someone who is interested in you enough to respond.

>>16537726
Yeah, me neither. She usually doesn't do this, and I don't really think it's a game. Beforehand she did say she's pretty busy this weekend and she isn't feeling too well. I thought I'd try to cheer her up a little and show her I'm thinking about her. That was yesterday, though.

So I should just assume I've done enough, ping through the "seen" notification and call it a day?

>>16537734
Well if she's not normally like this maybe say something else? It is quite close to pestering though, especially if she's pre warned you she's busy.
I'd maybe leave it for today & message her Monday if she's not said anything to you.

>>16537740
She's busy all the time, really. Been that way for months now. She didn't explicitly say she's busy now, but I assumed she was since she says (and shows) so every weekday and weekend. Usually she isn't that talkative either, but it only rarely gets to one-word levels. That she actually wanted to do that twice at once confuses me. I mean, once gets the message across already, so why twice?

>>16537749
Because you kept speaking to her after the initial one word reply?
I dunno, if she's always busy she might just be letting you down gently hoping you'll get bored?
I'm pessimistic though, as you can see.

>>16537718
We're in the same department, I'm friends with her friends and her friends are sorta friends with mine
It's a pretty close knit department

>>16537754
I think you should just go for it. If you like her so what, just try not to go full aspie and creepy and work should be okay if it doesn't work out.

>>16537757
I've kinda been distancing myself from her cos of potential awkwardness, but she got a little upset because of me doing that
I dunno, it's kinda complex

>>16537752
That's what I'd normally think too. Usually I drop any conversation which returns a one-word reply and drop anyone who consistently returns them, but this girl's different. There's a lot of context to her that may or may not excuse it, and I don't know where to begin with all of that. She's genuinely busy, and she has a very strong single-targeted mind. The target used to be me (we've gone out before) but after the reality check that was her work catching up to her she shifted her focus.

You may be right, though. I've tried hard to be there for her and stay on her mind, and in the process I may have become too pestering towards her. I'll keep a distance.

>>16537776
Can you not just outright ask her if you're wasting your time? I can't stand being in a position where I don't know what's going on, I'm usually quite good at reading situations though but if I can't I just ask. She'll probably respect you more for being direct.

>>16536452
yes

Do people with divourced parents alwaya want to have kids of their own? (ie. start their own families)

>>16537789
Tried that a few times. We never see each other alone at quiet times anymore though, and asking such a thing over text is useless. I never really got the chance so far. Definitely going to try it again, though. Status quo's nice and all, but at this point it's just limbo

>>16537856
I think it's dead in the water, bro.

>>16537850
Why's that?

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Is $55 for a pair of new balance shoes too much as a Christmas gift for a girl? I have been dating this girl for 6 months now but have known her for almost 3 yrs.

>>16537862
Probably, but like I said, shit's unusual.

Besides, it's closure.

>>16537897
Nah that's fine, do something romantic too though.

>>16537897
If you're willing to spend that money on her then sure go ahead, I'm sure she'll be really happy. But maybe don't expect her to give you something equal

Any dudes or ladies ever been in a Long Distance Relationship or is in one now?

If so, how is it/was it?

Curious dude here.

How do girls move on so quickly? Just two weeks after my girlfriend left me, I hear she's already dating another guy. We were together for two years.

>>16537915
LDRs suck.
I would do better with them if I wasn't needy. I'm sure they work for some but I can't do it very well without a meltdown every 30 minutes.

>>16537920
Gotta get that pussy wet bro.

>>16537915
Trust. Some can make it work but I wouldn't recommend it.

>>16537920
Rebound, the best way to get over your ex is to find a new one. Some girls just can't stand to be on their own.

Been in 3 "dates" with a girl but haven't been able to make a move, I feel too awkward. I've just hugged her when saying goodbye on the last date, and we don't seem to flirt much. Still she seems to wanna meet again.

Am I already just a friend?

>>16537936
Possibly. You need to make a move next date if you like her, smack her on the ass or something.

Posted in another thread, but it 404ed.

A girl from my college class recently started inviting me to go on lunch/coffee during our lecture breaks.

Is she just trying to become a friend with me or?

>>16537941
She might just want to be your friend, yeah.

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Guy here, asking all Girls

How do I tell a girl I've had sex with twice, that I'm not interested in dating?

I want to end it with her because:
>I just got out of a bad relationship 2 weeks ago,
>wanted to wait a little longer before jumping straight back into a committed relationship

>I have told her this ^ and she said that's fine. we agreed to keep going on dates to see how it goes (BEFORE committing)
>except I've already met the family, (mum, dad, both brothers)
>plus, she's already talking about buying me a christmas present
>(she spent $5000 on her ex, including a $220 watch, so it's not going to be something small)
>she wanted me to have dinner with the family tomorrow night (just cancelled)
>so it definitely feels like she's rushing me into something I'm not ready for

Having met her three times, I have realized
>there isnt much real chemistry
>I need to be tipsy to be comfortable talking to her/conversation doesn't flow
>we don't really have much in common anyway
>the photos she put up on Tinder were misleading, so Im not as attracted to her as I thought I would be

Obviously the easiest way is just to send a text: "sorry changed my mind have a good life lol"

Except:
>she's a genuinely nice girl, I don't want to hurt her

>her dad and older brother are very protective of her,
>they've met me and know where I live so I don't want them on my ass

>she knows one of my secrets so I don't want her on my bad side either

How do I tell her its going way too fast, and that I want to stop seeing her,
while MINIMIZING pain on her end.

>>16537986
Maybe keep your dick in your pants and stop sleeping with her?
Just tell her you aren't ready for a relationship and this is going too fast for you and you want to back off for a while. Job done.

Thoughts on guys and girls playing hard to get?

>>16537850
Please don't be a troll

>>16537915
>>16537925
>>16537930
Alright, asking since I met this girl on some dating/friend making app and met each other this Friday.

Women:
If I work part time I "can't afford to have fun".
If I work full time I "don't put enough time into the relationship"

Is there even a happy little medium here?

>friends with this chick
>not dating yet
>she may have had one night stands

Should I quit that?

>>16537920
They move on BY filling the void.

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How do i find girls that like white guys in the USA?
IF there is another sub i could ask questions like this on point me in that direction...
>7/10 face maybe higher, but just say at least 7
>fit body
>job in Tech
Im not looking for a girl who jumps between races of men, just one who is into white guys.
Thanks in advance.

>>16538153
Statistically most all women like white guys the most.
Just get out of the ghetto I suppose.

>>16538153
Every white girl that's not a liberal feminist or a slutty attention whore.

Girls:

I had a study meeting with a classmate last evening, which turned into kissing, making out and dry-humping (got too drunk for anything more).

She seems to like me, wanting to meet again, but she also said that she's not looking for something serious at the moment (seemed to have come out of a relationship some time ago).

I said that's okay and that we should take things slowly.
Did I mess up?

>>16538296
Just bring alcohol, fuck and be on with it.

>>16538296
Nah, she want's the d

A guy I'm into:
>is confident and flirty over text, plenty of sexual jokes, still asks about my personal life and stuff
>kinda cautious around me irl, always looking at me though
>asks and accepts future proposed dates like "we should do this sometime" (never actually gone out though)

I know this is subjective and depends on the guy, but entertain me with these questions:
1. what's the likelihood of him wanting to date me vs just wanting to fuck me?
2. why is he so cautious irl, maybe because there's more people around us?
3. how do we break the ice irl, already been broken over text

>>16536968
Most people's self esteem takes a hit after getting dumped, and even if you dump someone you need to regain your balance and identity, especially after having been with someone for years. This can make you want to see the effect you have on others and get confirmation that you are still attractive. Even if the idea does not spontaneously come to mind, others will tell you to live it up to forget about the ex, or to celebrate that you're single, whatever.

Men would do it more than women if they had an easier time getting laid on demand. Instead they just go lift and TRY to have sex.

>>16538340
He's not into you but don't want to risk loosing out on booty

>>16538349
/fit/izen?
maybe if we lift enough someone will love us

>>16537011
>>16537113
Maybe too late but in case you still see it. I can name plenty of things like teasing, grinding, switching the place where you are etc, but it sounds to me like your problem is that you just want to stick it in and don't like actually dealing with the person. If you find it awkward to have your faces close together, chances are you would find the rest of foreplay awkward as well. During sex you can still get away with not looking each other in the face, plenty of people find direct eye contact weird during sex. But if you have foreplay without intense eye contact, teasing smiles, pecks in between, it'll feel like you are clinically preparing her body for being penetrated... instead of like you are relishing in being attracted towards each other and feeling the sexual tension and looking forward to it going further and further.

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What do girls think of flannels?

>>16538359
Nah not myself, I've just seen the "go lift" advice thrown around countless time as soon as a break up is mentioned.

>>16538362
What everyone else thinks, it's hipster city territory.

>>16538365
it makes you feel in control of something, it's like your safe space, and you do get more slutty chicks flocking to you after you lift for some time

In sex do girl like getting railed or riding more?

>>16538367
mmmm hipsters.

>>16538370
I like getting railed more, I'm not against riding though.

>>16538368
Oh I understand, I don't think it's bad advice. Most people want to re-invent themselves after a break up and working out gives you a very tangible way to do so and see yourself change. Plus it's way harder to worry when you're physically exhausted.

>>16538268
upper middle class in the NorthEast
>>16538294
so not that many...

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Guys: why do you dislike it if a girl calls you/something you do "cute"? If i like a guy, he can be heartmeltingly cute and pantydropping hot at the same time. In fact, if i don't think you are adorably cute in one way or another i'm clearly not into you. So, why don't you like hearing about it?

>>16538391
not a guy but I think it's because they think the word "cute" is friendzoning them, and they think cute and hot are mutually exclusive

Why the fuck are women so selfish?

This relationship I'm in feels like she just doesn't bother her ass. She's all lovey and has nice things to say. But she never seems to do much in return for how much support I provide her.

It always feel like, as the man, you need to be constantly creative and experimental. Never become dull or repetitive and always be romantic.

But women it seems they just need to be a hole to fuck and not be fat. They barely have a standard to be held to at all. It's like looking after a fucking child sometimes. No pressure to get a high paid job or anything.

>>16538397
I know. But why? It's dumb. I refer to almost anything i notice/like on a guy as cute.

Guys, is "I compare all girls I meet next to you" just a line? Is that a ploy to get me to have sex?

>>16538400
That's just one woman. For every lazy/selfish woman there are many more hard-working/selfless women.

It really depends on how they were raised. Look at her family and what they're like before you get into a relationship.

>>16538401
I refer to my boyfriend as cute all the time. He is cute!

>>16538401
Same here. I refer to them as "cute" because "hot" sounds slutty to say.

>>16538406
Not a guy, but clearly. He's already thinking of meeting girls after you

>>16538413
>>16538414
Yeah, i try to hold back my urges to call everything he does "cute", but he's just so adorable!

>>16538400
Dump her or talk to her seriously about how you want her to shape up if you don't want to be a bitter fuck in a couple of years. This is a pitfall for young women (especially attractive ones used to attention) exactly because of what you say here. Your girlfriend does not pull her weight in the relationship yet you not only accept it, but bend over backwards to coddle her nonetheless. They get away with it, no one ever really points out to them that things are uneven. If you are constantly smiling at her and making her happy why would she feel like she's cheating you out of anything? Because clearly you are happy with her and the relationship?

>>16538417
No he's an ex, he means since we were together.
Piece if shit giving me lines though.

Are serious family issues a valid reason for a girl to "temporarily break" a relationship?

>>16538434
No. She could tell you she won't be able to meet you for a while, or not as often, due to family obligations. Wanting to put a name on it and make it a break in any way or another is a bad fucking sign.

>>16536216
I'm 4/5ths Scottish and 1/5th Ashkenazim.

It's interesting.

Women, do you find it easier to be friends with men or women?

Why?

What proportion of your male friends historically have been beta orbiters?

>>16538572
I think I find it easier to be friends with males, but I only have a handful of male friends. I have no idea why. I don't think of any of my male friends as 'beta orbiters', because they're my friends, and I'm not responsible for their feelings if they catch them.

For girls

Why would you keep a guy for few months around, giving him clear signs of you liking him and flirting with him, so that in the end, he finds out from one of your friends that you don't like him?

She killed me

>>16538581
Are you sure they were 'clear signs', or is that just wishful thinking talking?

>>16538572
Usually women. At 23 I have a close male friend for the first time in my life and I kind of hate it. But I have no other friends in town so I just deal with it.
I think I'm not really attractive enough for "orbiters". My guy friend may passingly want to have sex with me, but considers me less attractive than him so I don't think of it as anything serious.

I miss my girl friends so much..

>>16538572
I used to find it easier being friends with men and I think it's because I was brought up with 3 brothers and me being the only female.
It's pretty equal since I got older though, I'm probably closer to female friends now.
None of my male friends are beta orbiters...that I'm aware of anyway.

>>16538572
Easier to make friends with men. Because if they're regular (read: not very popular or handsome) guys, they are more than happy to spend time with a friendly girl, especially if she makes them laugh occasionally and shares her food. Who knows she might have big boobed single frieds. Bam, you're in.

For reaching true friendships though, women. Women are much more used to actively investing in friendship. No doubt the guys I am in touch with are also just more focussed on men to make into great friends, but I have seen a whole lot that young guys throw around "best friend" or "great friend" about guys they just get shit faced with, play games with, go out with, etc. No emotional depth and most often these friendships also fizzle out as soon as there's something that makes it less uncomplicated and natural (like either getting into a relationship or moving further away). Women more actively invest in making time for you, letting you feel they appreciate them, letting you feel that they trust you, that they go out of their way for you in ways they won't for people they don't like as much or have known for as long. I am currently still friends with my three friends from middle school (ten+ years) despite them having lived hours away for years.

The cliche of the orbiter who pays for the movie, never. However I have been in two friendships (out of around eight throughout my life) with men where looking back, I feel like it was more a faux-relationship than friendship. We were both lonely, I asked them about their day and consoled them about a break up or insecurity issues, they made me feel valued and needed. It was not really healthy.

>>16538587

I have been thinking about this since I found out. She wanted me to move with her in her class, in her uni. All the flirts, the pics she sent me, and how she wanted me to come pick her up after classes. How she wanted me to buy a car to go places. And how touchy she got when we went out few weeks ago. I don't know what to believe

To the girls here (but guys are fine too):

Would you give a hookup a chance if he had a bad case of Whisky dick and you didn't want him to get down there because of the late period?

For guy sempais:

I have had strong feelings for a girl from HS for close to two years now. I think my brain has decided she is the perfect one, and I did try. It even seemed like i was getting somewhere, but i stopped trying after i thought i had failed. I had no idea how to approach so i seems i made a wrong turn. Now i want to know how to end all of this, just as long as the black cavity inside is filled

Guys: does it even feel good to you to go for a "second round" after you already came? (After some recovering time) i just can't imagine. If i have a real, deep orgasm, i'm good. I don't have the desire to orgasm again shortly after.

>>16538657

I can relate to this, you pretty much are an orbiter. Give us more details, how did you make that wrong turn?

And trust me, until you get a direct response, you won't get away.

>>16538645
That just sounds like friendly behaviour to be honest. That, or just using you.

>>16538663

Depends on the stamina of the guy and levels of hormones. Some get tired and they can't go another round, some do. Personally, I wait few minutes and go again...

>>16538672

I don't know, but it didn't seem like this back then. She used me for some shit, but yet again, I was an orbiter, in love

>>16538663
Not really. After I cum, I'm pretty content to just cuddle for a bit.

However, most girls want to cum multiple times, and most dudes can't afford to not give her them. I usually force myself hard 1-3 times after I cum to make sure the girl I'm with is satisfied.

It isn't comfortable but I'm not complaining

>>16538674
Yeah, but WHY do you go for seconds? Just because you can or to impress or because you really feel like cumming again?

>>16538681
That doesn't sound enjoyable... I dunno, maybe i'm just weird, but i don't want to cum multiple times. I just want to cuddle and drift into sleep after a really good orgasm.
I suspect guys who think girls do, are missinterpreting a girls bodylanguage. I always think those girls didn't have a real orgasm... But maybe i'm completely wrong.

>>16538340
Bamp

>>16538681
Why not just go down on her?

>>16538702
>I always think those girls didn't have a real orgasm
I think you're assuming too much. It's going to be different for everyone.

>>16538702
Pretty much what the other anon said. An orgasm being satisfying/fulfilling and it killing your mood for sex are not necessarily a package deal.

Girls: This girl I went on one date with, wants to come visit me at my new place in a few weeks on her winter break. I moved like 3 hours away for a new job, and she even mentioned she would bring champagne to celebrate. On the date I didn't kiss her, and I've never hooked up with her before. What are the chances she's wanting to fuck? Would you do this for someone you didn't want to fuck/ just a good friend? Forgive me I'm not good at reading women's intentions

>>16538731
I wouldn't assume she wants to fuck, but I wouldn't rule it out as a possibility. Be prepared for anything

>>16538731
Women aren't a hivemind, no one here can tell you what the chances are that this individual likes you. But the fact that she wants to come visit you three hours away and jokes about champagne means that you at least made a good impression on here. Dress well, take her out to the best place you can find (also a fun way to explore the area), enjoy that the chance is there. Try not to be too forcefully hung up on whether or not your dick will actually get wet, that will only kill your chances.

>>16538741
I understand you're not a hivemind I just know women think differently about this shit than men. The ONLY way I'd ever drive 3 hours and offer to bring champagne is if I was thinking I was about to have a lot of sex. Hell, I wouldn't drive an hour for someone I didn't want to fuck. But, again, I'm a guy. For example: >>16538739 said she wouldn't assume the girl wants to fuck, but that she wanted to fuck was actually my immediate assumption.

>>16538340
Into you but doesn't have the ability to express it "live" so to speak. Texting gives time to think about your response. Speaking IRL needs to be instinctual and he just struggles with that. Some people have it and some people don't. Want to break the ice? Actually follow through with the "We should do that sometime" thing. Next time either he or you says "We should do X sometime" then run with it. Agree that you should do that, say you should do it sometime this week or next. I doubt he just wants to fuck you though. The guys that just want to fuck tend to be the ones that can handle IRL interactions more smoothly.

>>16538731
Chances are you aren't getting any. Only after one date she wants to come to your place for few weeks? Why? Do you really think she wants to start a relationship with you or is she just looking for a free housing in that particular area?
Unless the date was very recently and/or the idea for her to come arose at the date I would be very suspicious.

>>16538712
That's what I usually do. Unfortunately she was only stimulated through penetration. It's a shame too because my head game is strong.

>>16538702
The majority of girls I've slept with are multi-orgasmic and usually aren't truly satisfied until around the 3rd orgasm.

>>16538761
Also, for some background, she has mentioned before that I was "pretty attractive, interesting, fun to be around". Has complimented my clothes more than once, etc. But I don't want to waste my time on this girl/get my hopes up for finally banging her once she gets here and we go out, eat and get drunk, if she's not interested in me in that way.

>>16538761
It is not an unlikely possibility, but there are other things. Maybe she is stuck in a rut and the idea of a spontaneous one woman road trip to a man who is somewhat interested in her and who might be interesting to her is the best option she has for now. Also the champagne was most likely just a joke. Also given that she's a woman, if she's not fat and at least average the fact that you can get her laid doesn't really mean anything... she can find guys who want to fuck her anywhere at all. So for sex with you to be so appealing she would need to like you a whole lot (which you would probably more aware of than you are, given that you already went on a date).
I think you're also just more lazy than average. I can't drive but I'll ride the train for three hours to see a good friend, sure. Not that you are good friends but just to show that it might be different for others... also some people get antsy and need to be doing things a lot in general.

Again, I'm not her, I don't know. It does sound to me like she's at least midlly interested. At the very least she doesn't think you're creepy or an asshole and is seeking out your company. But again it depends on many factors like how much (positivity?) she has going on in her life how much it means that she'll go out of her way to see you. Prepare for sex at least but don't expect it as a given.

>>16537855

My parents are divorced and I never want to get married or have kids

>>16538788
No IN a few weeks, not for a few weeks.

Girls, how good are you at telling whether a guy is interested in you?

>>16538805
Somewhat.

>>16538804
Oh ye, well the point is mostly the same. I would consider the motives, especially of the person who asked.

At what point is it okay to use the exact works "ask out."

I've been talking to this girl over facebook for about a week now. We've met very briefly.

I said that we should hang out and she said something like "sounds good but Im very busy this winter."

Thats fine and I dont want to rush anything but Im not really sure how to respond.

Girls, is it weird to ask someone what their hobbies are? When isn't it? What's the best way to gauge one's interests?

>>16538792
I do understand what you are saying but try to get into a different mindset. It's not like if she does not want to fuck you can't have fun, but if you are too focussed on it then yes everything that isn't sex disappoints because it's not sex. If you're able to be less forceful about it you can enjoy tension and flirting and getting tipsy with a woman you find attractive as things that are enjoyable in themselves. Try to imagine yourself as a fourteen year old kid and how he'd feel to see your older self taking a woman out. Or your older, long married self remembering being free and having a night out where sex might happen, a kind of sex that's not a familiar given but something elusive and unknown.

I get that this is easier said than done but maybe it will get you thinking. Also if you care THAT much and don't want to have her over if there's not going to be sex, text her beforehand with something dirty (playfully or witty dirty, not a picture of your cock or something, say how much you are looking forward to her visit, whether she already picked out her clothes, if she says yes ask if she picked her underwear, if she says yes ask if she'll let you sneak a glimpse) and at least you will know whether or not she's game, and probably you'll have an opening for telling her not to bother if not. Or she won't want to anymore.

I'll try to make this quick..
So I have this ex that I dated about 3 years back. Honestly we weren't great as friends, and so I stopped talking to him. (He got another girl pregnant, didn't tell me about it, and still tried to pursue me). Anyway, I've been with my fiancé for over 2 years now, and he knows this, because after I continuously blocked him from multiple sites, he went and asked my mom how I was doing. She said I got engaged and moved states. I thought he'd go away after that but he recently tried to add me on a gaming website. What the hell could he possibly want, over 2 years later? I'm not interested in having him in my life at all. He's a compulsive liar and an asshole.
Anyway, I guess I'm wondering if anyone has any idea what this is all about? (He doesn't know I know he has a kid by the way. I never mentioned it).

>>16538830
I have asked it like that but it gets laughs sometimes. I'm not sure at all why it would be weird to ask that directly, and no one has been able to explain it to me. You get away with more as the woman, though.

Anyway, I'd say go with the good old "so what do you like to do when you're not [working, studying]", referring to something she mentioned earlier.

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What does everyone think of this quote?

Men, is any woman this for you?

Women, are you this for any man?

>>16538769
Alright that's good advice. Thanks :)

>>16538847
It sounds like bullshit to me. I'm sure that most people have a moment where they radically mature because of something hurtful/damaging that caused them to lose their innocence, so to say. But I don't see why it should be related to love in every case. There are people who have happy marriages with their highschool sweethearts... just not the majority.

Not in a "real" way. There was a guy slightly obsessed with me in high school and I'm pretty sure he still considers me his holy grail, given that he tried to reach out on an old email account for years afterwards (don't have social medai), but he never even knew me. I'd also hope that he would realize this himself once he has a proper healthy relationship at some point.

>>16538847

if she was perfect, she would be with him. The perfect woman will be your soul mate. That is what I believe.

Just yesterday I felt this, when the girl I thought I would be with stabbed me in the back.

I've gone out with a girl three times already. Barely to no physical contact, no flirting and I dont text her in between. She is a bit older and also works so dont wanna annoy her with texting.

We had a fun time hanging out but that's just it, hanging out. Is there still a chance for something more?

I feel mentally blocked with her and I dont really see openings for flirting. I already feel like I should forget about her, but I don't have any other possible girl, and Im so thirsty...

>>16538869
Nah, don't settle. If there's no chemistry forget it

If she's says I guess I'll see you around that's not good right

>>16538872
Heh I actually needed to look at it this way. I really feel like I should cling to her because she's the only girl I have something going on with right now. I met her in a very weird fashion and kinda wanna believe it's destiny, but I dont feel any chemistry.

Wish I could meet more girls. I don't wanna get into clubbing as most girls there are slutty anyway, but dont know how to meet girls that could fit me.

>>16538887
Context?

Girls, what are you most worried about right now?

>>16538832
Haha if I asked if she's picked out her underwear I don't think she would ever text me again. That sounds creepy as fuck.. Are you really a girl? But yeah it matters to me a lot if I get sex or not. With a three hour drive she would likely have to stay the night, and if I had to fall asleep alone in my bed, while an uber hot girl I liked slept on the living room couch, I would feel like THE biggest piece of shit failure ever.

>>16538911
That my father's not going to be able to pay me back the money I lend him, which would mean I am in a lot more financial stress than I am comfortable with (long term thankfully).

>>16538847
Sounds fucking retarded. You're immature until you have an unrequited love? What if you meet "the one" and she loves you just as much as you love her? Are you still nothing but a clown with the mind of a teenager? That quote was clearly written by a jilted twat.

>>16538917
I am. Virtually all dirty talk/sexual teasing can be read as creepy, barring extremes (like going straight for the dick pic) it has way more to do with the way she looks at you and how she feels about you than with how suave your message is whether she finds it creepy or naughty in a good way.

You're probably not going to get over that before she comes over, but for the record, it is an understandable but pretty futile way of looking at it. You'd be less of a failure if no woman interacted with you in the first place...? But with more info, no one can help you with this, no one can tell for certain how she feels based on three or so lines, not even knowing her personality, current life situation, dating history and what not, and either way no one can guarantee whether or not she'd want to. You'll just have to tell her not to come or deal with possibly being frustrated, I see no way around it at least.

Girls, do you like being carried around?

>>16538963
Why would I want to be carried around?

A girl I know was being extremely flirty with me last night and said he wanted to "Netflix and chill" tonight. I'm so stressed right now that I have been feeling sick all day just counting down the time. I'm actually, like, scared. How do I fucking calm down? I literally haven't even eaten a single thing today because my stomach is too worked up

Either gender,

Went on a first date with a girl and our conversations went great and we plan on seeing each other again, and now that we're texting every day or two, our conversations are a little boring and dry. ("how is your day?" "good. you?", etc etc etc with both of us initiating) Is that normal? Is that something I need to be worried about?

>>16538984

*She

>>16538976
There's no way to be so subtle that you are both 100% certain of her answer and 100% certainly do not do damage to your chances. You'll have to take the risk and flirt with her a bit. Even then she might not even know it herself yet. The stuff you say about wanting to hide behind the spontaneity happens, but another reason to not be upfront about sex that happens a lot is that she simply does not know yet. It can depend on how desperate she feels that night, how drunk she gets, how pleasant you are, or something as simple as whether you are more or less attractive in real life (with how you carry yourself and how it feels for her when you smile at her) than she remembers. Also do not underestimate that while women can hide behind not seeing it coming to feel less easy or whatever, it is also just a difference whether the "story" is that she came to you, you had a great time, and you wound up having sex. Even if the idea of sex with you is appealing to her, getting the vibe that she is a booty call making her way over to you to fuck, and she would not be welcome if she did not offer sex, can kill the appeal of the visit for her because it makes her feel trashy, or like she likes you for your company alone and if you don't feel the same way she doesn't want to be around you in the first place.

I realize this is no concrete advice but I'm just trying to give an idea of what could be going through her head - which we ultimately still don't know. You need to either cancel her or accept that you do not know it for certain. Or take the risky route and try to size her up with a possible outcome of her thinking you're a pervert and not talking to you again. You will be in this situation (woman coming, not sure if sex) more often in your life, you'll just have to learn to deal with it one way or another. If people are lurking they're free to chime in but I don't really see a loophole.

>>16538987
Normal, probably awkwardness on both sides combined with texting being different from real life because you lack the whole body language and eye contact thing. Try to lay off the texting and just arrange another date soon.

Ladies, if you could be any Disney princess, which one would you be?

>>16539010
Hmm thanks. I guess I've no choice but to try my luck. Just don't want to feel like a failure after we've been out and having fun and when we get back trying to get her to watch a movie in my room but ending up with her sleeping on the couch :/

>>16539015
Only issue is our next date is Wednesday so I kind of need to use Snapchat and texting to stay in contact until then. I don't want 3-4 days of silence and I don't think she does either.

>>16538663
>do second rounds feel good?

Like another guy said, it depends on the guy

For me personally, yup, it feels good.

If I have a crazy body orgasm, I'm pretty done. But I'm good to go in like half an hour (pretty much when I can walk again lol). If it's just a light orgasm, I can go again in like two minutes.

For me, the end point is typically after a few hours when either I or my gf is just too exhausted to continue or else after she's had two or three light orgasms and a major one, and is too sensitive to continue.

>>16538406
> is "I compare all girls I meet next to you" just a line?
If it's a line it's a pretty lame one. If it's not a line, it's pretty pathetic. If it's an ex, it's because he's got some weird grass-is-greener hangup and needs to get over it. You broke up for a reason, and his desperation and loneliness has probably made him forget that.

>>16538391
>why do guys dislike "cute"

Because a lot of guys think the term is emasculating and diminutive. The connotation to them is that you think of them like a small puppy or teddy bear or something. Not like someone you respect/admire/want to fuck/whatever.

I say this as a "cute" guy who DGAF and understands that me being "cute" is exactly why so girls are in to me.

>>16538847
>
What does everyone think of this quote?

In a way it makes sense, but it's also cynical and totally incomplete.

It implies that in order man to be mature, he MUST have that, and that he is STILL not over them.

The truth is, if you've matured, you realize that a lot of that "perfect love" is just a memory warped over time, and that thinking of it like that just takes away from the present reality. That scar is merely a stepping stone on the way to maturity that SOME men need to go through.

>>16539031
Would it be better if you test the waters when you're still out? Try to talk about sex with her when you're both tipsy, this works on most people... and when the topic has already come up you can at some point joke (if your delivery is on point you can still play it off as an actual joke if she doesn't bite) if she's okay with sleeping on the couch or that she's set her eye on sleeping in your bed or something. You'll be able to tell. This way you can laugh it off and talk about something else before going home and parting, that seems to me at least less disappointing than being antsy the whole way home then trying to sell her this movie thing as the grand finale.

Girl and guy advice;

So, I was talking to a girl i met on summer vacation (nothing happened, she is hyperactive), and I'd like to date with her. But, when i was back from summer vacation (about 6 months ago) i talked to her, but didn't react to her message. I really don't know why i did that. I need advice on the following things;
How do i tell her that I want to date and that I like her in a non weird way?
Should i apologize (and how?) for what i did?
P.S. English isnt my native language & I am 4chan noob.

>>16539053
Never apologize

>>16539044
Yeah I'll definitely try to bring up sexual topics while we're out. Also do you think I should at least attempt to treat it like a date and so go for a kiss while we're still out, etc? and i'm sure you know but the movie thing isn't a grand finale but more so just an easy excuse for the person to say yes to sex without saying yes to sex. Basically doesn't help if they weren't wanting to fuck you anyway aka netflix and chill

>>16539080
Treat it like a date in other ways. Eg if you need her to get a bit out of the way, don't tell her or tap her shoulder but gently but firmly move her yourself by nudging her side or the small of her back. Basically being touchy and confident. Courteous is okay in a natural manner (holding the door open if it just so happens to work out, quickly checking if she's okay if you order something more for yourself) but not the fedora kind with actually pulling her chair out for her or holding the door open if she's still miles away.
Personally would not advise to go for a kiss. If she does not feel like it (yet) she will be very unlikely to change her mind once she has turned down a kiss from you. However, while she might not feel like it mid date, if she does a retake once she's loosened up and enjoying herself she might still feel like sleeping with you. Also personally I feel like if you're trying to have a one night stand, it is more exciting if you save the physical stuff for when you're (more) alone. The contrast between just talking and fooling around becomes bigger that way. Most important though is to pay attention to the signals she gives you. If she breathes with her mouth a little open, is flushed in the face, keeps looking at your mouth while you talk, makes intense eye contact etc, it would be silly not to go in for it because of some ideal. I'd just not try to go for it if she doesn't shower you in signals.

Also I meant grand finale in your head, not in hers. As in you're bracing for that moment.

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>>16539101
>not the fedora kind with actually pulling her chair out for her or holding the door open if she's still miles away

>>16539065
What are the reasons not to apologize? I feel, if i do not apologize, that it's a really weird conversation talking to her so lo g after the vacation and ignoring her...

Women, what signs do girls show when they want to cheat on their boyfriend?

>>16539192
There's no real difference between men and women in this regard. Signs are;

>being secretive about their phone/computer, suddenly having passwords installed, clicking windows away
>investing more in their appearance (losing weight, different clothes, haircut etc), especially if they used to slack and you can't pinpoint what caused the change
>having a lowered sex drive
>having a higher sex drive and/or wanting to try sexual things you don't usually do
>accusing you of cheating or trying to make you confess to cheating without any cause (also known as projecting)
>either being evasive or incredibly lucid and detailed when answering where they were a certain day/time

Also this is for actual cheating. Wanting to cheat I'd say (if they are actively looking for it) just displaying more interest in other guys and less in the relationship and their actual boyfriend.

>>16539101
Hmm, yeah I already did that kind of touching on the one date we had (hand on lower back to guide her or walking close together or arm around each others waist) but then felt like a tool after it was over cause I didn't at least try for a kiss (we sat in my car like 45 minutes after I took her home with her telling me how much fun she had and how she wanted to get together again soon, etc. At that point I figured the date was over and I didn't want to be straining across the seat to try for a kiss that wasn't natural.) So I guess unless there are overwhelming indicators that she wants to kiss I should probably hold off until she's back at the apartment? Only potential issue with that is that I have 3 roommates, and they could be there which would make the "alone" time at the apartment not very alone, so if I hadn't sealed the deal earlier I may not be able to. You've been really helpful though! All my male friends just said "yeah she wants to bang" after I showed them the text convo. Guys are way more simple though and we don't play on nearly as high of a level of socially as women do. Women are all smoke and mirrors haha

>>16538861
are you secretly my ex

>>16539264
Ah, don't fret it. It's better when it happens spontaneously and you probably were overthinking it so much that it wouldn't have worked out to try to do it in a natural manner. With everything combined (succesful date with long aftertalk, compliments, on top of the being eager to drive three hours and joking about champagne and all) it does sound very positive. And yeah I think that's the best strategy. If you're too worried about the roommates, try hard to seal it. If you have to, kiss her or compliment her in an obvious way (if there's no "moment" to kiss you can kind of create it by just telling her "wait" or very briefly touching her chin/jaw so she looks up at you, hold eye contact for a moment, then go in) then say you just wanted to get that out of the way in case your roommates will be all over the place in a moment.

Thanks, happy to hear that as it's hard to give advice when it's so diffuse and there's just many options. Having said that I do agree with your guy friends once again after all the positive stuff, it is quite likely. The female stuff does not look as intricate from our side, and having been a teenage girl I can assure you girls are plenty confused about the psyche and motives of guys as well... we just have our own interests and risks that seem kind of obvious if you're used to them. Good luck!! And have fun.

>>16539308
Quite certain I'm not, secretly or otherwise.