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Me and boyfriend haven't had sex in 6 months. First 3

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Me and boyfriend haven't had sex in 6 months.

First 3 months was due to his anxiety about sex (long story short, he had a masturbation addiction before we dated, it carried on through our relationship, sex became boring for him, we stopped, I stepped in, he stopped masturbating, but too anxious to stay hard during sex)

Just as he was starting to get over the anxiety he developed a bacterial infection that restricts his foreskin. We physically cannot have sex. He did not like doing other sexual stuff as it frustrated him to get hard and not be able to fuck/relieve himself. After 3 months I struggle to see him as more than a platonic friend as I find it hard to establish a romantic relationship without sex.

He tries to cuddle me, etc, I pull away, uncomfortable. We talk about it, and we make more effort. I begin being attracted to him again, he helps me jerk off. He helped me jerk off 3 times, I was starting to feel good. Then the past two times he has declined saying he has a headache. I believe he genuinely has a headache btw, that's not the issue. He has a terrible diet and drinks 8 cans of soda a day (he's skinnyfat). But being rejected twice so soon has caused me to switch off again and see him as platonic once more. What do? How do I get over this? Every time it goes well I get shut down.

Is it unreasonable of me to get upset over him rejecting me twice? He couldn't technically help it but its just ANOTHER THING to kill our sex life
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>>16517479
Are you gay? Girls don't jerk off. Believable story. 2/10 for having a vivid imagination. Next.
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You need to talk to him about it. You both have needs and a relationship isn't about you sacrificing yourself for him, it's about you both finding compromise and respecting each other.

Rejection is a legit reason so feel hurt. You need to talk to him about his issues, how they make you feel, and that you're here for him if he needs help. If he cares at all, he'll listen and act like an adult to even try more. If he thinkis the conversation is stupid or ignores your feelings then I don't think you should be dating him.
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>>16517501
I talked to him and he said he is not to blame as he couldn't help his headache and the discussion ended there. I am scared that by being upset I'm crossing his boundaries sexually and not respecting his space, I don't want to force sex on him but its upsetting he doesn't feel like he has to push through for me. But again, he says it couldn't be helped as he has a headache
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>>16517514
Headches are one thing but that he won't even humor the conversation like an ADULT, speaks voluming to his character. You need to talk him about it one last time, don't end the conversation just because he has a "headache". If he's not even trying for your sake he sounds selfish and an asshole.
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>>16517479
You both sound pretty awful, but better off separate.

You must be pretty awful and of low value to accept a skinnyfat faggot that drinks 8 cans of fatty poison a day, has a porn addiction, and can't even get his dick hard - this would be excusable if he were at least 40 but you are both probably young.

You sound pretty awful because you pull away when he tries to comfort you. I don't think you quite understand how humungous of a cunt that makes you. Men are mostly physical, women are more emotional. When a man shows his emotions to you physically like that and you pull away? No wonder he rejected your stupid worthless ass. You won't understand how shitty of a move that is because when women are hurt or upset or not happy, they literally lose all ability to empathize with human males. Not joking - I would dump a girl in the spot if she did this. No one disrespects me like that. I wanted to be together and you want to pull apart and be separate? Fine, we're breaking up. Done deal. Don't worry about me touching you again.

Just break up. You two clearly aren't ready for a grown up relationship.
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>>16517518
Feminist slut. What's there to talk about? You really want to shit on him and make him justify his illness?

This is horribke advice. Telling her to dig up old shit "one last time"? They already discussed it. It was a headache and she even believes it - WHAT ELSE IS THERE TO SAY? This is such a chick move. Guys never do this shit. This is a relationship ending argument waiting to happen.

Take this advice op. Do exactly as this retard wants. Go dig up old conflicts that have already been addressed, and let us know how it goes.

The SMART thing to do would be discuss it further if it ever happens AGAIN. Go bring it up unprovoked when he isn't even expecting it? Yeah, he definitely won't feel on the spot and attacked. Such bad advice.
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>>16517522
I understand my reaction was not good, but it was a result of HIS unwillingness to try with our sex life. I was vocal about what was happening internally with me the whole way through. I never just hid away for no reason. I always explained why. I do not accept that I am a humungous cunt. Not perfect, but not a humungous cunt.

I find skinnyfat attractive, and I did not know he drank 8 cans of soda a day until after we started living together. Same for his penis, how was I to know before entering a relationship with him?

I don't know if you are projecting because of something that happened to you but people don't walk away from their love of their life over something like this
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>>16517535
Please stop posting in my thead.
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>>16517479
I'll fill in for him bby gurl and fill you up ;)
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>>16517539
No, you're a humubgous cunt - trust me.

Make all the excuses you want. You acted like a child when he acted like... basically a worthless male, so you are both wrong. Act like a cunt, get treated like a cunt. You both did something wrong so quit being a bitch and trying to slide all the blame on him, cunt.

Not projecting (you definitely seem to have a problem diverting blame away from you). I'm saying what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. This guy is nothing like me. I haven't even touched soda in three years. I'm military, and this kid is some undisciplined faggot that clearly can't control his own life, and you are the kind of female a worthless male like him would get - a humungous cunt of a woman.

Break up. Your relationship ended a long time ago.
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>>16517554
Again please stop posting on my thread.
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>>16517556
No.

Quit making threads just for the sake of hearing what you want people to say to you.
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>>16517556
Don't listen to the obvious troll. You need to talk to your BF about ithe issue. That's how a relationship works, you have to talk about things, good and bad. You have to handle it like level headed adults. Don't blame each other for things, talk about what you want more of and how you both feel. If neither of you can respect that, it's time to move on.
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>>16517558
You are clearly a mental MRA or some shit. You are in no position to give advice on anything. Please go back to Reddit or wherever it is Red Pillers circlejerk
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>>16517522
It takes two to tango. It's a sweet gesture to want to cuddle someone, but it only works out if both are feeling it. OP pulled away because (s?)he did not feel comfortable because of the distance that grew without intimacy. If they did not pull away, when you are all pressed up against someone you bet you can tell when they freeze up a bit when you touch them or are generally not into it.

Besides, in his own way OP's boyfriend is also completely neglecting OP's needs. He doesn't care about OP's sexual wishes (sure, physical problems are one thing but there is no excuse to limit helping OP out on just a handful of occasions in months, when the problem with your sex life lies with you in the very first place). You can't pull the two situations apart and act like OP did not want to cuddle out of nowhere and judge it aside from context. It's not realistic to want someone to literally welcome you with open arms any moment you feel the need for intimacy, regardless of what you provide them with yourself when it comes to their desires.
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OP, I want to tell you that it gets better but it doesn't. I am going through this with my ex boyfriend, 4 years on and nothing changed. He is still single and fapping away.
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Sounds like a huge portion of this problem could have been fixed if he was circumsized lol
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>>16517576
>>16517583
>>16517602
You cunts realize you are blaming a guy for not helping his girlfriend jerkoff right? I mean, you DO understand this, yes? Realize the audacity of your retarded logic. Imagine if the roles were switched. You would never expect such a thing from a man.

You are all either white knight beta faggots or feminist cunts. No, I'm not a red piller. I don't even know what that is exactly. I just don't take shit from women. I never have difficulty getting a relatioship and I'm always the one that ends them, so clearly I'm doing things the way girls like if they never leave me - and not taking shit from them and calling them on their crap is one of the things I do that you fucking followers are crying about that girls actually admire.
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