Girlfriend wants instant text responses

>>16502144
It's either a joke or she's crazy.

Did you stick your dick in crazy, anon?

>>16502144
This sounds like a joke on her part.

>>16502151
>>16502150

It's not a joke

what she wants you to do, by saying that, is to kiss her ass and apologize and bend over backwards making it up to her.

but here's the thing: don't do any of that. just say "okay" and accept it. let her try out her thing. then she's going to realize that she can't manipulate you, and she'll either come to her senses or move on to the next guy. either way, you're in the clear.

>>16502153
I can't quite understand why you'd have to ask anybody for their opinion on that then.

Lady is an attention whore and you either have to tell her that you are not her personal servant to be summoned whenever she pleases or you get rid of someone who is that needy.
The alternative is being chained to her cunt until she decides to move on to antoher guy and has made you break off contact with all your friends and family because they took time away from her.

I've seen that happen. It's not pretty and it usually blows up in a way that leaves you as the guilty ass who has no friends left.

>>16502144
Did you even tell her you were asleep?

>>16502144
If you told her that you were asleep and she still behaves that way, ignore her completely.
She's obviously fucking crazy!
And don't forget to tell her that she's crazy.

Women are fucked up in the head. They want too much attention. Don't fucking treat her like queen, if she's not one.

>>16502144
>not good enough
What is this, some kind of time trial?
Goddamn, women.
You have several options now:
1.) tell her you were asleep and therefore couldn't respond earlier. If she understands, fine.
2.) tell her that you are free to do other things and are not obliged to respond to anything the very moment you get a message. She can either understand this or be a crazy bitch about it.
If she can't accept any of this, get rid of her. She's the kind of person who feels entitled to immediate responses while she'll take her time to answer and you won't get anything for hours or even days.

>>16502488
Best advice. Nothing more to say.
If she doesn't understand she's a fucking crazy bitch and you really don't need that kind of drama in your life.
I'd even go one step further and tell her to fuck off.

>>16502144
I can sympathize.
It gets me so mad (though not as much as it used to) when my boyfriend does this because of 3 reasons
1. I think he's more interested in other people than me (guy friends, etc)
2. I think he doesn't consider me worth his time
3. He's talking to another girl

Just tell her you were sleeping because you've had a long day or something, but don't tell her anything that could possible anger her or she'll get angrier and it won't end well.

Please ignore >>16502496 OP.

It's absolute shit advice that only serves to reinforce your girlfriends low self-esteem and her need to control.
If a women can not accept that there are actually other people in someones life, she has obvious issues that have to be worked out before she should try her hand at a relationship.

>>16502496
And all of these are in your head, which makes you a crazy psycho.
Sorry to say but it's true.

1. Just because he sometimes talks to other people doesn't make them more interesting or more important than you. It just means that sometimes he wants/needs to have some time to himself.
2. Because his entire life doesn't evolve around you? WOW just WOW!
3. Again, all in your head.

I wouldn't tolerate this kind of behavior from my GF even for a second.

>>16502515
yeah exactly. some women need to learn, that the men in their life are not all gonna treat her like their little princess, just like their daddy used to do.
We have our own lives and sometimes need some time to ourselves. Why is this concept so hard to understand?

>>16502529
hahahaha yeah I think that's what it is. Daddy issues.
Daddy used to treat them like a princess and did everything for them and now they expect all men to do the same.

Jesus fucking Christ woman, get over yourself. You are not that special.

>>16502529
>>16502537

Sadly, though, there are many many men who will bow down and beg to please these women just because they don't want to be alone or think it's what they are supposed to do.
Just take a look at all those 'mfw no gf' and all the other baww threads that are all over the internet.

I personally know way too many men who would bend over backwards and insert burning hot coal into their anus just to have a girlfriend.
The whole concept of 'Learn to be happy by yourself' is entirely foreign these days. Instead so many people just pull each other down with all their issues and shit.


I'd normally brag about how there's no drama when there are no women involved but there are plenty of gay men who are just as entitled.

I can relate to this, but personally it started bothering me when there were other issues present in the relationship. You may consider that she thinks that you don't give her enough attention in general

>>16502206
oh my fucking god, im int THIS EXACT situation... i knew it before and i broke up with her bc of that, still its a brick in my face

>>16502544
>The whole concept of 'Learn to be happy by yourself' is entirely foreign these days.

and what if they're not? lots of people are unhappy on their own because they feel they've never received outside approval from anywhere else.

>>16502544
>>16502547
Case in point...
>don't give her enough attention
Why the fuck do women need so much fucking attention all the time? Unreal... How about you learn to be alone and then you won't need anybodys attention to fill the void.

I learned that you just have to make some things crystal clear to women in order for them to understand. Told my wife when we started dating "listen, if you want this to have any future you need to learn that my life does not revolve around you, I have a life, I have friends I like to hang out with without you sometimes. It has nothing to do with you, I just can't spend every waking minute with the same person or talk to them constantly."
Her Respons "That's fine, I'm the same way"

BOOM match made in heaven, been together for over 10 years now.

>>16502564

>10 years ago

Well there's the problem, try finding her in the current pile of trash.

>>16502570
I'm glad I don't have to ;)
But I know a lot of women that are this way. But they are mostly from my generation (30+). They learned to be independent and don't need a man in their life to be happy.

>>16502561
In that case they will not be happy by running head-first into a relationship. They will expect their partner to magically make them happy and turn their gray world into a colourfull paradise and it will all go down in flames.
Most of the time at least. I'm sure there have been couples who made this work.

Get friends and do stuff with them. If you still have parents, talk to them about your life and if you have shitty parents who made your life hell cut all ties to them.
If you work a 60 hour job that makes you miserable, look for something else, anything else.
Take your life into your own hands, don't just expect ONE single other person to rescue you from your own limbo of hopelessness.

Relationships aren't magic happy places. Well, okay, they usually are for the first week or two. After that they are work but if you have the will to make it work, the pay off will be amazing.

>>16502586
>They will expect their partner to magically make them happy and turn their gray world into a colourfull paradise and it will all go down in flames.
EXACTLY!
>[relationships] are work but if you have the will to make it work, the pay off will be amazing
Oh how right you are. The last 10 years have been better than I could've ever hoped for, but they were HELL of a lot of work!

>>16502593
That's something I've seen lot's of couples in my cirlce of friends break up about:
Tiny arguments or something like that and they decide that it just isn't worth it and go back to being miserable alone instead of being miserable together.

>He doesn't clean the dishes how I like it and we haven't spoken in three days because I called him lazy because of it. Better break up, nothing we can do!

All these people don't realise that the guy they are telling all this would love nothing more than to strangle them for their idiocy.

Personally, I blame modern TV soaps. Mind you, I'm barely 21 and grew up in germany. So it's not like I'm some bum-old redneck in Texas.
But somehow I have read more believeable relationships in porn stories than in any given soap opera.
The rare exception of course exists.

"Alright, cool."

"I thought you'd never say that!"

Or... "You're fucking nuts!"

>>16502564
>Why the fuck do women need so much fucking attention all the time? Unreal... How about you learn to be alone and then you won't need anybodys attention to fill the void.

Pretty sure this is just going to become more and more of a problem. For guys and girls, "alone time" now means pulling out your smartphone. People always need something to do, or a screen to stare at.

>>16502606
A big part of the problem is that people think a relationship is supposed to be easy but the fact of the matter is, they are fucking hard work. Probably the hardest you've ever worked for anything.
Just ask your grandparents or anybody who's been in the same relationship for more than 10 years. They will all tell you the exact same thing. It's the most fulfilling and rewarding but also the hardest thing they ever had to do.
And not only because of the arguments you have but also because you have to keep the spark alive.
If you can't get pasted those little things like leaving socks everywhere or not taking the trash out in time. There is no hope for your relationship and you should start by working on yourself and how you handle things. Because there is always gonna be a pair of dirty underwear in every relationship you'll ever have.

oh god my boyfriend does this to me. A similar situation happened and he was like "well just text me that you're going to nap so I know and don't wait for a response"!

It's all about compromise. You need to tell her to calm down and that it's going to be an issue if she really is that clingy.
But you also need to make sure that reaponding to her messages is a priority. If you're doing something that isn't really important, stop it to respond to her.

>>16502636
>he was like "well just text me that you're going to nap so I know and don't wait for a response"!
And then I was like, "Fuck you, I am not gonna tell you about every single thing I do during my day, get a grip man!"

This whole "I expect everybody to respond to me immediately" is getting so out of control at the moment.

>>16502642
Yeah I just started to wait an hour before I responded to ANYBODY so they would learn that their shit does not take priority over my shit. (Unless it was something that need an immediate responds, but then I usually expect a call).
I'm sorry but "hey sweetie how's your day going?" or "wanna watch a movie tonight?" does not qualify as something that I need to respond to within an hour. And if you're standing in the supermarket and want to know want I want for dinner tonight, fucking call me!

>>16502496
Kek
This is so women logic like
Just grow up and get over it
you are just paranoid

Run Forest, run
show her whos boss

>>16502496
>confirmed for needy crazy bitch

How old is she?

>>16502704
>>16502496
Holy shit I didn't even see that.

Please seek professional help girl cause you got some serious issues to work out.
Seriously!

>>16502636
>But you also need to make sure that reaponding to her messages is a priority. If you're doing something that isn't really important, stop it to respond to her.

this is a part I dont understand, yes she is my priority, but I cant let her step into my me-time for obvious reasons. Me time = no answers.

>>16502752
don't listen to next crazy psycho. If it isn't anything really important that need immediate attention, you should not feel obligated to answer right away. That's fucking ridiculous.
>>16502646
Like he said, "Hey wanna go to the movies on saturday" does not need an immediate response. it can wait an hour or two.
Unless its "hey I'm buying tickets for James bond right now, wanna come?" But then again, she should call for that.