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Refusing sex?

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/adv/ am I wrong for choosing to browse 4chan over having sex?

Tonight a girl that I've been talking to on Tinder for the past 2 months literally asked for sex. She told me she was all alone at her apartment and couldn't sleep, and asked if I wanted to meet. I said no and she actually got pissy with me. I didn't feel like driving 15min to her town and doing it. I don't understand why it's such a big deal that I didn't want to. If i would have asked a girl that and if she gave the same respone it would be seemed as "typical". So why is it such a big deal if a guy turns down sex? If I wanted to get off I could just search /b/ for a porn webm thread. Sheesh.
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>>16444446
gr8 b8 m8
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>>16444456

Well it's not bait. I'm really asking.
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>>16444446
Why'd you even bother talking to a girl on Tinder if you didn't want to have sex?
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>>16444476

I don't really know. I guess I made tinder out of boredom. And it seemed like majority of the girls who actually use tinder just use it to troll. anyways, so I matched this girl and somehow got into real conversations. And she gave me her number and then deleted her account. So we've just been texting since then about pretty normal stuff, politics and whatnot. not much flirty talk, maybe once or twice in the past month, but nothing significant. Then randomly tonight she does this.
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Because she took the chance, put herself out there, got rejected, and didn't know how to handle it. She was probably very embarrassed and it shot her self-esteem.

That's all her problem though, not yours and you didn't do anything wrong. She shouldn't have gotten mad.
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Maybe telling her you didn't want to meet or fuck seemed like you were implying you just didn't like her
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>>16444493

I guess that makes sense, thanks

>>16444496

I mean, we've been having really fun conversations through text. If I didn't want to talk to her then I wouldn't. We are suppose to text during the Republican Debate on Tuesday, we've been doing that every debate and talking about the politics. I hope she's still not mad by then
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>>16444503
you could also just go to her place and just cuddle while/after watching the debate...
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>>16444513
Not OP, but that girl probably intended to have sex then and there.
So just cuddling and then leaving when she tries to fuck you would make her even more mad.
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>>16444518

OP here, that's what I would be afraid of if she invites me then
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>cute girl begging for the D
>"nah i'm gonna watch some webms"
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>>16444521
>>16444518
then just fucking tell her! It's not like she's going to rape you or anything!
Just tell her
"hey femanon, I was a little confused, cause I'm not the guy to just hook up and have sex, but would be up for some cuddles and you seem like a nice person. How'd you like to watch the debate together"

either she wants quick dick and refuses, more probably you have yourself a girlfriend right there. There's nothing that gets chicks as hot as the word 'no'.
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Why did you say no?
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>leaving when she tries to fuck you would make her even more mad.
lol entitlement much, just let her be mad and wanting more.
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I wouldn't call it wrong. In fact,I'd say that in this day and age, what you did was remarkable. Your reasons do strike me as a bit odd, but I am not in much of a position to judge.

But part of what makes something remarkable is that it is so unexpected, and that cuts both ways. This girl does not sound very used to being turned down. This could be why she got flustered.
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>>16444710
>in bed, cuddling with chick
>she wants you to put it in
>say no, want to leave
>she feels used, says all men are pigs and throws her dildoes at you
You know it's bound to happen.
You're better off not getting there at all.
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>>16444446
Hell hath no fury etc. Women are basically told constantly how desireable they are so it feels like something is outright wrong when someone doesn't want them.
It's like stepping on weak ice I guess, you suddenly start doubting what you had assumed.
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>>16444594

Well we've been texting for literally 2 months. So i figured she would have realized it by now
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Yeah, women are fed this "men are insatiable beasts that want to fuck any time and anywhere and the only thing holding them back is you saying no/the law."

In reality, I'm right there with you, anon. I've turned down plenty of girls because sometimes I'm just not in the mood and want to relax by myself. Sex is a lot of work and there's always something that goes along with it. Sometimes I just wanna unzip my fly, turn on some porn, jerk off and roll right back to sleep with as little cleanup as some tissues.
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Personally, sex > 4chan. I have no idea where your priorities are, but there's nothing wrong with turning down sex if you just don't want to.

This is just another one of the double-standards feminists don't feel like discussing.
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>>16445070
much this, there's even a good chance that she just wants to feel the warmth of your body and tries to lure you for that with the promise of sex(which is clearly backfiring).
she would probably not hang on for 2 months if it was just your dick she's after.
Just be clear about your intentions and you'll be fine!
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>>16445070

I agree completely
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>>16444446
shes prolly mad cuz u rejected her
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>>16444476

>why would you use a dating app if you wanted to date instead of have random hook ups with skanky girls

im sorry, but lets be real, you cant trust a strange girl who says their on birth control, and there is literally no point in having sex with a condom on. I've turned down sex on many an occasion because it was not a comfortable scenario to do so.
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