Confusion

If she's always asking you to come stay, all you had to do was say "hey would it be cool if we came and stayed this weekend?" and tried to sort out some sort of arrangement that works for her and her husband, and you and your wife. There was no reason to go all autistic on her

>>16440210

heres some advice: paragraphs.

that being said, dude wtf you showed your power level. dont get me wrong its irritating to hear that my mom does it all the time with 'oh i saw this thing online, ill send you the link'. i have never received an email fro mthis woman.

but do you think i say 'no you wont, stop acting like we will, were not that close' i mean JESUS.

its something people say 'oh you should come out sometime itd be fun' i mean fuck, onsidering how busy you were these next two weekend do you not think that maybe her social calendar is busy so she brings it up but knows it cant be in the immediate future?

i mean why get so mad about this its work conversation

Op here, I tried that once or twice. Didn't work, she answers like" no can't, I'll let you know when it will work"

You shouldn't call acquaintances out on shit, you're just making drama for yourself. You shouldn't call people out unless you're damn sure that the issue is worth causing waves about. In this case, who the fuck cares if she keeps emptily inviting you out? Just say 'haha sure' and know it's never going to happen. Now it's going to be awkward and shit.

Op here again, I should maybe state we have a pretty open and candid relationship when we talk, so I know that looked rude what i said, but that is kind of the way we usually are. The main thing that illustrates me is the repeated statement, with no follow through.i bet that had come up at least ten times in last ten months, to me that gets old. I realize the immediate future aspect thing, I didn't say it had to be today, I just meant sometime. If I said that, I'd follow through

>>16440271

If you had an open candid relationship maybe it would have been better if you were like "lol but yeah we know you're never really going to invite us" instead of the most seemingly hostile way you put it? I don't know, I'm not saying you were 100 percent wrong but of course this made shit awkward.

>>16440267
I don't call acquaintances out, I really think we are friends, like I said small wedding and we were invited and went, only person she knows from work invited, so I assume that's more friendly that acquaintance. And I'm not worried about awkward, we talked next day and all is good, but I guess I'll see what happens in the coming months. My wife works almost every weekend till after Christmas, I told her that. So I hope she either follows through or doesn't bring it up anymore in the new year, either one will be fine

>>16440282
I've tried saying it jokingly, no results. I just am not a beat around the bush guy, so does everyone else just let it piss them off inside and prance around an issue so someone doesn't get hurt feelings? Fuck that, if I was driving someone nuts, I wish they would tell me, and I wouldn't get all irritated. But then again,i don't get mad at constructive criticism at work either

>>16440301

I think that normally someone just wouldn't fucking care if someone was going to keep talking about something that was never going to happen. If I called everyone out on shit they talked about that was never going to happen I would have long ass days everyday. I mean how upsetting was it really for her to talk about it?

>>16440321
You lost me at the end there, sorry