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I get super fucking bent out of shape about accessibility to 'hot chicks' and porn.

Of course I'm a female.

My fiance follows many instagrams, for example, which are just pictures of butts or 'fit_babes' and others of the like. I stopped following him because I would grow upset by his 'likes' (fucking stupid).

Yeah, I feel insecure--I will /never/ be super fit because I don't want to be (been there, done that) and I feel like I will forever remain inferior to the borderline pornographic images he sees numerous times a day.

Part of me doesn't think it's 'natural' or healthy to have such access to this boner-driving nonsense.

How do I learn to accept this reality within which I live? I feel like I'm wasting my time being upset by it.
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Have you told your fiancé about this?
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>>16439755
Too many times.

He thinks I'm being irrational and tells me he just likes to look at nice things and I shouldn't care.
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>>16439762
So I'm trying to not care.
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But if it bothers you, you should'nt try to ignore it
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>>16439778
I'm not ignoring it. I'm trying to accept it and get passed it.

Comon, this is 4chan--aren't I supposed to be in the wrong? Not to mention a man's world. Wtf. I can't care about this shit. Not according to the rest of humanity. Not if I want to maintain a certain level of sanity.
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>>16439793
I think to accept it and move on from this you are then going to have to ignore it.
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>>16439744
>I don't want to be (been there, done that)
lol
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>>16439798
But if it comes up out of nowhere...then what?

Say he's on /v/ or browsing the internet otherwise and there are scantily clad women on screen? I'm supposed to ignore that fact of reality? That doesn't make a lick of sense.
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If it bothers you so much now with your fiance then it will cause massive fights in the future.

Let him know how you feel and be adament that this isn't healthy. If he continues to resist then ask for a break in the relationship. Then break it off if he can't compromise.
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>>16439801
>redpill detected

Being obsessed with fitness is not where I'd like to be mentally. I'll maintain my weight as I do, but I don't care to exercise 6 or 7 days per week.
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>>16439783
Start asking download boxerbrief models to your computer.
use it as your phone screen saver. Oogle as many men as you want, he's giving you a free pass.
Get wild.
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Honestly, I think he's being tactless. Men are going to look at porn, but if it bothers you he should compromise and be subtle about it.
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>>16439810
This just goes back to my previous point. You have to make it clear and absolute to your partner how much this bothers.

Also this shows that you are quite insecure of this and maybe if you want to be happier workout or something.
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>>16439821
*start to download.
Don't know why it autocorrected to that?
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>>16439817
What exactly isn't healthy?

>>16439821
He doesn't mind if I do--even encourages me TO do so.

>>16439822
Most everyone looks at porn. This is a grey-area though--as it's not explicitly pornography...however I can't help but compare what we have today at our fingertips, to 'dirty magazines' and whatnot. There is no longer a time & place set aside for this.

>>16439824
True, I might feel better about myself physically if I worked out all the time, but then all I'd be doing is trying to win him over, in a way, (and I won't) which is silly.
He knows how much I'm bothered by this, and he thinks I'm in the wrong.
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>>16439853
I mean, it sounds like you should leave him.
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There's probably a guy out there who feels the same way you do about porn. Maybe you should dump your fiance and look for that guy.
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>>16439857
ha, how so?
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>>16439865
He used to.
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>>16439744
Well OP do you have any guy friends you like to flirt with or orbiters?
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>>16439744
I wouldn't do that, but of course you probably wouldn't be with someone like me. Isn't it funny how that works?

Why are you with someone like this? And more importantly, why are you willing to marry someone like this?
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>>16439874
Nope. Closest to this I get is working as the only female at a business with ~25 people.

He gets off on the idea that the men there probably want to fuck me. He's actually somewhat of a kek.
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>>16439822
I'm a man and I don't look at porn.

But I am an asexual and aspie so perhaps that's why.
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>>16439883
kek* not sure why that was auto-corrected to 'kek'
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>>16439869
>He used to.
If true, think about it.

Being with you make him want to start looking at porn.

Or. He was lying the whole time.

Either way, he's not a good person. Fuck him (in the non-literal sense).
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>>16439889
top kek anon

top kek
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You are the one comparing yourself to all those other women, he probably just looks at them like objects. So he's most likely genuine in his response that he just likes to look at nice things.
If it bothers you this much and he won't change his behaviour, than maybe it really is an option to leave him. But personally I would suggest you to figure out your insecurities first and tackle them.
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Well I find it a waste of time. For me despite being visually inferior to those women, I never for a moment feel legitimately inferior to them because I actually fuck my boyfriend and they're never going to, they're practically anonymous images about as threatening to our actual life as those big-titted statues cavemen used to carve were to their women. We've been together for seven years and I used to not want him to save pics on his phone or whatever because I was slightly more sensitive but now we share a computer with folders of his porn on it and I don't care.

Another thing that helps me feel better is to be nearly 100 percent sexually available to him. I know that it would be silly for him to look for strange because I fuck him whenever he likes, do whatever he likes, it makes me feel good to fulfill his fantasies. In this way I have actually largely reduced his usage of porn etc.

I do believe that it is actually unhealthy the level of as-dirty-as-you-like porn instantly available across all platforms but really not in guys who are otherwise totally functioning and making human connections.

That's another thing, I know those porn women will never actually share a human connection with my guy. Really you've got a lot over them. You know him, you will fuck him, you like him, you speak to him, you're a real person who is not a whore posting sexy pics on the internet all day...

I don't know I guess I'm saying that I totally understand where you're coming from but you've got to keep leaning on that you are wasting your time worrying about it. Getting all upset about it and freaking out on him will be very unattractive because insecure females are not hot. And seriously it doesn't really matter.
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>>16439883
>>16439889
>>16439909
jesus this made me laugh

OP your guy is being inconsiderate. He's trying to encourage you to check out dudes so he doesn't have to feel guilty or be in the wrong.

We all know our partners check out other people but you don't make it obvious or fucking tell each other for christ's sake.

I also see your concern over living in such a world where its so easy to see tits and ass everywhere, and where every woman shows theirs off constantly. I hate it, and I hate that we can't let anyone know that it bothers us or else we're called crazy bitches. It's real hard to be the "chill gf." We literally need to be actresses. God damn it all.

This is coming from a girl whose bf played obsessively through HuniePop with a decensor patch. Life sucks, dunit?
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just because he sexually loves women doesn't mean he doesn't romantically love you. hes going to orgasm to pics of these girls but then hell turn off his phone and toss it to the side when hes done.
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>>16439883
>>16439889
>>16439909
c u c k
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kek baka desu senpai
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You guys are dumb. Relationships are dumb. You should have lots of sex with random partners, because you're gonna die by yourself anyway.
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>>16439975
lol
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>>16439744
gr8 b8 m8, inb4 hundreds of replies


also, sage
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>>16439979
I'm being serious. It's not worth the tension.
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>>16439891
It's not that I don't ever look at porn--I just seem to prefer a time & place and don't care for it to be involved in my everyday life.

He used to as well.

Since being together we have both changed a lot. He grew up in an incredibly sexually-repressive household--his mother was highly religious and had many mental problems otherwise.

Since being with me, he has become a lot more open-minded. Part of that included not beating himself up everytime he caught himself looking at another woman.

Life's so fucking complicated.
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>>16439996
Life's not complicated, you're just uptight.
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>>16440004
how2loosen?

I have trust issues as well, which causes these problems to worsen.
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>>16440010
I'm not sure if you're for real.

This message goes out to all the men and women, guys and gals. Have sex with short ones, fat ones, ugly ones, pretty ones, crazy ones, and boring ones. When you close your eyes, it feels EXACTLY the same. Finally, you can all enjoy your fucking lives.
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>>16440010
Focusing your attention on strengthening your relationship will probably make your insecurities over porn diminish, so it's a two-birds-one-stone kind of deal. Unfortunately strengthening your relationship may be difficult if what you said about him earlier is any indication. He doesn't seem willing to compromise/communicate.
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>>16440010

Have you tried talking with him in a non-accusatory way about all of this? I find just fucking talking to my partner to be the absolute number one way of getting past my bullshit overthinking.

Perhaps you could just ask him to keep that shit out of your sight? Like out of sight, out of mind. I don't care if you look at it but stuff it down my throat by following it on your public accounts?
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>>16440026
I used to be just as against relationships as you seem to be expressing here; everytime my friends would have relationship troubles and need a shoulder I would tell them all of the drama will evaporate if they just break up with their SO.

Being in a relationship feels so much more secure though. There's always someone to talk to--which is especially awesome if you're with your best friend.

I really do have trust issues, as I have had poor examples of men throughout my life. However, as time goes on this particular problem lessens.

What about STDs and all that bullshit? Don't you want your sex to mean something?
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There's a big difference between walking in on him watching porn and his weird obsession with these profiles. I would have a sit-down discussion saying this is a compromise he must be willing to make with you to stop publicly supporting all of that. Tell him it's not healthy, and it isn't the fact that it's porn that bothers him, but it's the face that he's too into it.
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#FatGirlProblems
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>>16440028
I suppose there's a lot of truth to what you're saying...focusing on the positive rather than negative is surely part of the answer.

>>16440034
He wants to be able to do whatever he wants.

If all people will always find others attractive, wouldn't the most honest (therefore best) approach be to honor rather than suppress that attraction?
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>>16440043
Do you have proof that this behavior is not healthy? How, exactly, is it not healthy? I need facts/research-based information which he would accept.
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>>16440040
Sex is beautiful, always. Too many people use it to push their own agenda.

If you are truly a good person who values his\her community, you will have many best friends around you in your life.

STDs are scary, true. In my opinion, every new generation is killing the next with a new standard of cleanliness. Have you heard about the diseases being spread in hospitals these days?
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>>16439744
>I get super fucking bent out of shape about accessibility to 'hot chicks' and porn.
welcome to the 21st century btfo to amish land if you have a problem with it

>Yeah, I feel insecure--I will /never/ be super fit because I don't want to be (been there, done that) and I feel like I will forever remain inferior to the borderline pornographic images he sees numerous times a day.
you genetically inferior or just fucking lazy, you should feel like shit either way. here, i'll clear it up for you, you are inferior

>Part of me doesn't think it's 'natural' or healthy to have such access to this boner-driving nonsense.
well this "boner-driving nonsense" is a natural impulse that ensures our species survive because noone ACTUALLY wants to a fuckling leeching off them for 20 years. deal with it.

>How do I learn to accept this reality within which I live?
it doesnt matter. youre in the minority with your retarded puritan views. youll keep your stupid fucking ideas to yourself irl or youll cave and accept the fact that you, and your ideas, are shit

>I feel like I'm wasting my time being upset by it.
yep
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>>16440060
>Have you heard about the diseases being spread in hospitals these days?
no because health endemics are hugely publicized and if you arent hearing about them its probably because they arent there
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>>16440084
you are the personification of the future presented in Idiocracy.
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>>16440052

I think that it is a two-way street. It would be best if you could be cool with it, but it is equally bad for him to insist it be in your face. In a world where the internet is everywhere, it takes very little extra effort to simply not put this all in your face but still enjoy it fully.

So you're like "all those hot near-pornographic chicks you're following make me feel a little uncomfortable even though I know they shouldn't..." and he is like "fuck u I do what I do?"

Because then he sounds like an asshole. It sounds pretty reasonable for you to ask him to keep it down to a dull roar not in your face. I mean yes what you say is true it would be best for you to just never care about it but we don't live in a world where you can zap your feels away so it's pretty dickish that he is unwilling to make it a LITTLE more private.

Fuck, I am kind of feeling for you right now anon. I'd have a hard time if bf was brazen as fuck with it. I'm okay with avoiding the porn folders all day but fuck.
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>>16440092
Ha, I'm sure that a hospital wants to publicize that a number of people have contracted a drug-resistant bacteria in their facility.
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...and have died from it. Best to not report that information for people who might have died from something they already came in with.>>16440092
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>>16440107
lmao youre a joke.

in the context of a society where there's about 50% divorce rates, literally infinite free porn, casual sex is easier to get than ever, op is here bitching about here finance looking at PICTURE, ONLINE, of FIT. FUCKING. CHICKS. its not even him to talk to hotter girls, checking girls out in public, or even looking at women in a pornographic/sexual context. he's literally looking at girls, who are promoted based on their LOOKS. yep im the definitely the backwards one here
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>>16440133

Don't listen to this guy he is posting stupid shit in all the threads. Ignore.
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>>16440142
dingus im posting one other thread about other anon who's as equally out of touch with reality as the tardo op of this thread
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>>16440152

I feel like we are actually probably more alike than we are different at least in that I know where you're coming from but the place you're coming from is not very helpful as far as advice goes. Or generally just living and not being an irritable unhelpful shut in.
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>>16440178
ops worry is a non issue.
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What do you all think of this study:

http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/10720160600870711

"(Zillman and Bryant's 1984, 1988b) work is useful to give an overview of the kinds of effects general pornography (not Internet pornography) has been associated with, as well as those that have fuelled debate. Zillman and Bryant found the effects of repeated exposure to standard, non-violent, and commonly available pornography included: (a) increased callousness toward women; (b) trivialization of rape as a criminal offense; (c) distorted perceptions about sexuality; (d) increased appetite for more deviant and bizarre types of pornography (escalation and addiction); (e) devaluation of the importance of monogamy; (f) decreased satisfaction with partner's sexual performance, affection, and physical appearance; (g) doubts about the value of marriage; (h) decreased desire to have children; and (i) viewing non-monogamous relationships as normal and natural behavior (Drake, 1994)."

Conclusion:
“Internet pornography is altering the social and sexual landscape. Although there is much more to learn about this process in greater specificity regarding marriages and families, the research currently available indicates many negative trends. Unfortunately, these trends are expected to continue for sometime unless drastic changes in social norms, public education, parenting approaches, Internet restructuring, and law enforcement occur. As the first Internet generations reach adulthood, it is anticipated that the full magnitude of online pornography's effect will become even clearer, and alter the pornography debate accordingly. Related research in neuroscience, marriage and family therapy, and developmental psychology will augment what is now only a nascent area of social psychology and clinical research. What is certain is that this issue promises to be around for some time."
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>>16440185

I initially felt the same way but at this point I find it strange that he insists on follow all these pornographic accounts with his public account and doesn't give a shit if she cares or not. He's damn lucky he isn't fucking one of the many delusional chicks that comes here upset their bf views porn AT ALL. This op would just like some discretion.
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>>16440223

I think that pornography especially modern porn available across all platforms does alter all kinds of things. The way men talk about women, callousness, and even stuff like death grip/inablilty to get off in a real vagina etc but just like it says I think society needs to adjust to it rather than try to eliminate it.

I would be worried that someone like op's bf who had been previously sheltered from it would experience serious negative effects from it but there's nothing to be done about it if he refuses to respect the fact that she doesn't want it in her face. He will get it down the line when he realizes that other women get upset if they even know you masturbate to porn at all because they're so sheltered and stupid.
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>because I don't want to be (been there, done that)

Lol

Does "that" refer to trying to diet and exercise then quitting, or to actually being in shape for a certain period of your life?
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>>16440240
Being obsessed with fitness vs taking care of yourself: learn the difference.
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>>16440224
the op didnt mention outright porn. as far as anyone is concerned he may as well be look at Victorias secret models or hot women in bikinis at the beach which is to say she might as well be bitching about how he racks the toilet paper which further is to say shes complaining about absolutely nothing
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>>16440270
& that's partly the problem: nobody seems to view sites like Wicked Weasel, instagrams like 'buttsaddition' (tasteful, eh?), various nude tumblrs, Playboy, women with yoga instagrams, etc. as porn. I, however, argue they are soft porn.
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>>16440279
>that's partly the problem
and thats the problem with ops 'problem' porn is perfectly acceptable in literally most healthy relationships. her problem is literally being insecure over not being comparable to the model attractive wise, but she's trying to (using /adv/ generally conservative prudish nature to her advantage) make it look like the real issue is his 'infidelity'
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>>16440152
Hey, reality is relative man. op's reality isn't the same as yours or mine. There may be similarities due to upbringing, social standing, culture blah blah blah. But differences occur and that's what makes us individual. She aint out of touch. She's expressing a feeling that makes her reality uncomfortable. What the issue here might be that she feels the relationship has no validation. His attention is on internet chicks with their kit off and not on her with her kit off.
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>>16440294
yeah true for the first part but my experience she's literally have be raised in an amish village or the islam state of the levant for this to an issue and i agree with your last point fully as you see here >>16440289
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>>16440318
I did have a mother who pounded this into my skull repeatedly as a child: "All men are pigs and one women will never satisfy them."

>father cheated on mother
>mother's boyfriend to follow cheated on her
>>same guy also took advantage of myself (OP) from age 4-12

>inb4 OP's fucked, there is no hope
I'm not like most women--and I'm definitely not like most 'victims' of assault.

tfw forever viewing myself as an object
tfw angry at instances objectification of women

Surprisingly enough, I am no SJW. I just want to be okay with men looking at other women...I want it to not be threatening.
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>>16440270

If a guy followed Victoria's secret and was reposting all that shit I'd find that weird. I wouldn't find it weird at all if he masturbated to that or whatever in private but these days there is like a "public" internet where shit is related to your in life identity and connected to your irl friends and family and there is a private internet where you can masturbate to literally anything and no one will ever know.

The way I see it, short of child or snuff porn it doesn't matter what you're doing in private but if you're forcing your family, friends, and coworkers to know just how much you're into asses in yoga pants you're kind of ridiculous and I understand entirely why your gf would have a problem with that. It's so fucking easy to not rub your girlfriend's nose in your admiration of other women's butts. If you're totally unwilling to keep your love of ass out of your public persona that's going to probably cause issues even outside of issues with your gf.

Try to imagine being on facebook and looking in your daily alerts to see all the asses your bf liked that day. To be honest that is just trashy at that point. Keep your porn to yourself. Why does your gf and the world need to be abreast of that shit? Ass accounts on instagram and facebook are for accounts only to view porn accounts or for trashy people and no in between.
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>>16439744
Hnnnnghh, I hate to go off topic, but damn, she's gorgeous.
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>>16439818
He's right though. It's possible to have an excellent in shape body without obsessing over it. It just becomes a part of routine.
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>>16439744
Lol I wouldn't date a guy that does that. I wouldn't u follow him I would break up with him. Tsc tsc Jinja
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>>16439744
>(been there, done that)
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>>16440336
it seems to me its more a confidence issue. have you tried to approach him in a "i dont mind you following/looking just dont like every fucking ass you know i'll never compare to so im not constantly reminded of it" way? i mean surely this isnt an issue with boob scenes in movies or just celeb crush hopefully? is he okay with you checking out guys? if there's a double standard going on i could it being a bigger issue

>>16440349
im somewhat on the wall because this is an emerging issue. since the SOLE purpose of instagram is to check out things youre visually attracted to. it would seem to me its inevitable that this was going to become a thing. also its a bit odd to me that porn is acceptable but instagram asses arent. i mean thats just you chosing to be to bitchy about it. hypothetically, i could be fapping to some ultra degrading gangbang piss porn or one specific chick to point where i could be stalking her and its okay if you dont know about it, but if i like an ass shot of a model, who could very well be getting paid to have a nice ass, its all the sudden wrong because my mom might find out about it? it just seems a bit hypocritical to me.
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>>16440403
also a lot of the stuff is done under the guise of 'photography' (lets be real we all know no ones looking at this for arts sake) but its a legit excuse to like a photo
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>>16440403

I would agree that it is absolutely hypocritical in a way and that you're making an accurate observation about society but that pretty much everything about your social perception in society is, and that much about being accepted in society is about accepting what is occasionally quite an arbitrary rule and adhering to it anyway because you're causing people who matter to make judgments against you. So yeah, if your real human name is attached to these asses and your mom and girlfriend can see it, it is more unacceptable than whatever you do privately.

I mean for example on facebook I notice that what my trashy perma-single male friends post is nothing that my happily dating friends would ever post. I agree that instagram is about seeing shit you wanna see but in the same account you're following your mom and gf it is almost effortless to just not follow asses and create another to fap to madly. It's almost no effort and in a world where it IS this emerging issue where even employers are stalking you online I think it should be almost INSTINCT to keep that away from your irl identity.

I think personally and also on a broader scale socially that it is more socially acceptable to do whatever the hell you want to do anonymously on the internet but at the same time when it comes to social networking that you need to have a certain amount of discretion.
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>>16440438

Well I think that if it's under the guise of photography that's kind of different that if it is like "asses of instagram" and "asses in yoga pants" or something totally unapologetic like that.
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tell him you sick of this and you wanna date a chubby chaser
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>>16440444
truth. i was just pointing out that there may be some acceptable contexts

>>16440442
hmm well when you bring things like employers stalking your online activity, the conversation is being expanded to a scope that im not willing to put the effort into. if he's employed its clearly not an issue to his employers that he likes ass and on that same note if his mom and little sister can see he likes ass and it isnt affect his relationship with them in anyway its not an issue with them either. what i mean is theres a point where something isnt a problem until you make it one. i cant tell if your op or the other person but if the ops bfs online persona were the issue it would have been mentioned in the op.
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Women have feminism, men have porn. You drop yours and we'll drop ours.
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>>16440245
That comes down to anything though. Many people can get in great shape without obsessing over it.
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>>16440481

I'm some other person and things are getting too abstract for me too. My only point was that it is pretty easy to keep your private shit private and your stuff that is associated with your real name and identity separate and that it is problematic in many ways for your real identity to be associated with obvious porn shit.

It seems to me that OP would only know about his pornographic(ish?) proclivities if it was associated with the same online persona that was associated with her (the real one, assumably) and I think it would be easier and less rude for him to just make one that was not associated for all his porn needs. But if this is more abstract like stuff that could fall under the guise of "photography" then it gets weirder and more difficult than I'm willing to differentiate against.

Back when I got with my bf 7 years ago I asked him if he could just keep his porn shit out of my immediate sight and ever after everything was fine with very little effort of his own.

If he seriously is following semi-seriously-porn shit with his real name/real accounts unapologetic-ally that seems kind of rude to her because it is almost no effort to change and an issue with employers and other people who need to not think he is a moron.
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So OP's point boils down to "I don't want men to have easy access to see beautiful women naked because then they won't want women like me."

Fuck off.
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>>16440563
Ha, damn. Maybe that is spot on.

Also: OP has potential suppressed attraction to such women and gets off on the thought of her fiance fucking them.

I mean, what even is that about? I've almost thought it's come as a result of transforming a hurtful anxiety into something manageable--positive, even.
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>>16440563
>>16440571
Come on, guys. Get over yourself. It's inappropriate within the context of a relationship.
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OP here. This shit is retarded.

You all should have told me to get over myself. Some of you did and thanks.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qkPGlVqqEP0

Whycome you don't tell me to stfu
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>>16440546
well op revealed it was more of a her being insecure about her bf looking at 'better looking' women. not about him doing it publicly. but you i think you point of view includes a solution to ops dilema in that her bf could simply just follow the pages without liking every ass he sees or just getting a separate lurking account apart from his main.
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>>16440624

Yeah that's pretty much it. Maybe OP is being insecure but it would be so simple to just have an account dedicated to fapping and private ass admiration. It has to be potentially annoying to log on in a setting where he can't bust out his dick and fap to be hip deep in ass pics all the sudden. Honestly I think that it only makes sense to have the two separate. But maybe she is just insecure, I don't know exactly what kind of accounts or pics we are dealing with.
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>>16440357
>it's possible to have an excellent in-shape body

You're probably confusing genetics with "being in shape". I'd wager 70% or more of girls that are considered hot by the average male do the bare minimum required to be "in shape", if that. Vast majority eat shit and do fuck all, they get away with it because of being blessed with a nice hip to waist ratio and big tits and a fast metabolism.
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I wake up and this is sitting in front of his computer.

Both of our computers are located right next to one-another in the main room of our apartment.

This almost feels like a test. Like he knows I get bent out of shape about it so he's trying to push it (to the point of me giving up caring).
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>>16441873
And yes, it was sitting out like-so. His gaming headphones were resting on it. So I removed them to show you all.
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>>16441873
well.. maybe you should get your fat ass up and work out?
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>>16439744
So you've told your fiance about this numerous times? Wow.

I'm trying to be as blunt as possible but this is literally your own insecurities. I've dated women like you and it's suffocating to have to deal with it. Looking at instagram models who literally are "celebs" and porn has nothing to do with you but it never is really about that so much as it's about you feeling like there's not enough focus on yourself. Deal with your own insecurities before you start trying to bring it into relationships please. My ex used to get mad at me liking pics of instagram fitness models. Like why does that matter? Am I off to cheat on her? Is watching porn making me not want her? You guys are so insecure baka senpai he's doing nothing wrong and if anything I respect this guys monk level patience and putting up with it with such level headedness.
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>>16441873
Have you gained weight since the start of your relationship? It sounds like he's leaving these things around to get you motivate to work out more/get back the body you used to have when you started dating. Don't let yourself become complacent, because when you do that the relationship suffers, as yours is now.
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You should get out of this relationship. It is adversarial and a terrible foundation for a marriage
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>>16441881
What's so suffocating about being subtle about your porn use?
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>>16441881
Thank you.
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>>16441915
I agree on that. Watch porn on your own time and privacy and don't bring into your SO face. Fair and reasonable request and it should be met without much discussion. But the OP wasn't talking about porn use in her face and more on the lines of appreciating females on social media which is literally not porn.
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>>16439857
What,>>16439853
Bitch you're engaged you already won him over
What is this
Like what are we doing in this thread
Is this bait
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No one post this yet?

https://youtu.be/dlZsGpWJmos

Watch it. Please.
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>>16440679
the delusion is real
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>>16439744

>I dont want to be fit

why are you lazy then?

no excuse for getting fat after getting married. so you are giving up now cause of a ring?

dont you think this is unfair to your husband to be?
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>>16442682
To be fair to that poster, epigenetics and regular genetics can determine how you grow. Diet, stress, and other factors can all turn on genes that make you more attractive or less, that inflate or deflate your butt, that make your skin nice or splotchy.

There's a thing about the human body desiring to adapt and stay in one form. If you continually eat junk food, you'll be badly shaped, and your body will want to stay that way even if you start working out.
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>>16442721
>If you continually eat junk food, you'll be badly shaped, and your body will want to stay that way even if you start working out.
jesus fuck stop spreading misinformation
this is worse than broscience
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>>16439744
Either you get fit or stay jelly of their gains. I know food is very tempting to indulge in, but at least have the discipline to follow a diet and workout routine for at least a couple of years.
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Just keep looking at pictures of buff guys and huge black dicks. He'll get the message soon.
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>>16443261
lol. Do this. Fair is fair.
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FYI this is OP as well: >>34841480

Taking your advice. Physical improvement--sans obsession--as a means to gain confidence.
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>>16443342
>>>/fit/34841480
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>>16442682
Nah I'm being serious.

Don't get me wrong, I know women who work to make their bodies look good.. These ones usually end up becoming models. There are plenty others, however, who were blessed with features a great face (eyes, nose, mouth) and a big rack, both of which are part of what makes a woman physically beautiful, but neither of which can be achieved by just working out and having a "routine".

And they might just be slim because they are young and have a fast metabolism, or because they don't eat very much, or both.

But because 1.) These women stand out more for their physical assets and 2.) These women are seen more on social media, instagram etc. because they know they look good and want the world to know, you get confused and think that looking like this is easy, and that any woman can look like this if she just tries hard enough.
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