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>sluthate
Don't be an incel, mate. 98% of that site is broscience and OCD.

Incel? OCD? Could you explain these terms plz (sorry, I'm French)

>>18559460
They are sad obsessive compulsive virgins who make shit up.

>>18559385
If some girl believes some crazy bitch about you, she wasnt worth it in the first place. All clever girls know to never trust any other girl on regards of dating / relationships simply because they hate competition over everything.

Try to inform your next gf about your crazy ex and get restraining order on her ass. Also if you didnt used so much online media, she would have 0 chance of finding out unless you havent cutted her out completely from your life.

>>18559397
My facebook/instagram is literally stagnant. I don't use it.

I inform all of them, and have a restraining order. I guess women these days are just fucking retarded.

>>18559402
They just have low entry barrier.

As boy you need to be tall, funny, good job, muscles, behave like bad boy and other stuff. As a girl you need to be not fat. Thats it. So finding girl above that is just harder.

And really think hard about she found out about your new gf. There has to be somebody telling on you. Play it safe and simply separate your "friends" from your gf so she cant find out fast enough.

Get that high-dea out of your head

Yes, 'true love' is more than just physical. But I'd guess 99% of relationships started because one found the other cute or sexy in some way. You can't see inner beauty. You can see outer beauty.

>>18559355
I have something very wrong with me that makes me feel bad for being attractive

>>18559398
trust me you're not which is why you're posting this on this website

>>18559298
Pills

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>>18559350
I've been researching treatments and shit. I've been needing to make an appointment with an endo for my thyroid so maybe it's something to do with that, apparently with treatment of your thyroid the hair will start growing back.

>>18559365
You'll be good with pills man there's tons of different ones just keep adding a treatment when one doesn't work

I understand that nobody likes somebody trying to force them into something, as I am the same way. But isn't it up to a "friend" to ensure the people they claim to be friends go down the right path in life? To offer advice and consoling when they need it?

Never have I thought I'm better than any of them, but I understand when they are going down the wrong path. I've lost many people to this personality of mine. Many, but the fact that somebody I have been nothing but charitable to would give cold shoulder, has me shook.

Really shook.

I don't know. The friends who are starting to turn their backs on me claim I "alter" the truth. That when I tell stories I'll leave the bad parts out and only talk about the positives of my life. that I blast too much.

But I won't deny that I hold myself in high light. I've gone through depression, I've had my life dreams shattered because of my own stupidity. I've almost been killed by another, I've dug myself into the deepest pit and wallowed in pity. But I got out of that by seeing my strengths. And by utilizing them.

Is it wrong of me to want nothing but the best?

>>18559280
I'm sorry to say this OP - and please don't let it make you more cynical but THOSE PEOPLE AREN'T YOUR REAL FRIENDS. They probably used to think they were, but they're not. If what you're writing is true, then your presence makes them feel worthless. That someone who they've been with for a long time at the same level ended up at a better situation makes them feel jealous and worthless(some may have secretly hated you).

You seem like a nice guy, but you're not helping yourself in this situation and your friends do not want your help. Leave them, for your sake. You are the composite of the five people you are the most with, so there is one important question you should ask yourself when "choosing" who you hang around with: Are they better than me(in any aspect)? If no, leave.

Of course, it seems harsh to talk about friendship and your friends this way, friends you would have died for and TRUST ME, I've been in nearly the exact same situation as you OP and that is why I'm telling you this... They would not have done the same for you. Find those who do, and try to learn from them, and better both yourself and them.

...Or maybe you're just an insufferable douche, what do I know.

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>>18559370
You may be correct, one of my friends has told me that he's ashamed of the way his bodies become, and that he's ashamed of constantly playing video games.

Perhaps they are envious of me, but that doesn't make me feel better. I've always tried to get these guys to go out and do something.

Yet they waste away. Either by blindly following their parents, or drinking & drugs

Well what is it you don't think you know?

>>18559192
Learning a language can have cognitive benefits

>>18559192
Reading books can help.
>>>/lit/

>make me feel excited

Nobody else makes you feel excited. It's you getting excited. You're getting old and projecting your own loss of vitality on people around you.

Look, it's normal. You'll never ever be young again, but on the flip side, you'll also NEVER be as as young as you are right now, ever again. As you're older, you'll be even more tired, even more sick, even more falling apart, even less excited. Things will be less bright, more mundane. It's normal. You're getting older.

If all you look for is excitement, then you'll always be searching. think about what you really actually want out of a relationship. What you're saying sounds like you're looking for an entertainer. someone to excite you. Well, last I checked that's not what relationships are about. That's an illusion of a child's mind that sees everything with renewed excitement. Humans aren't here to just amuse each other, we're here to be companions and friends and lovers, and not necessarily energetic ones.

Again, nobody else can excite you but yourself. So be excited about finding someone sane and intelligent or whatever you value, but if you're only looking for excitement, you'll have to keep looking because that's not something you find OUT THERE. It's something you find inside of yourself.

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>>18559117
I will list things and choose the ones you like.
Join a book club if your local library has ones.
Go to church.
Working? Make friends and invite them out in group settings, girls and guys, and get to know them better. Then over time you will meet their friends too and someone might peak your interest.
Join any meetups that are things you are interested in (there are websites for this)
Go to your local comic or hobby sore and hang out there. Females actually do this too (but not as much as guys)
Do something at your park. Example, if it has disc golf, play. I had a girl once ask me if I wanted to play disc golf with her after we bumped into each other a few times.
Volunteer at your humane society or anyplace else that involves volunteer work (soup kitchen for example).
Go to cons that interest you and wear a costume you made yourself. Girls will ask you about it from time to time. Pick something that is relevant to current culture.

This is the thing OP, people used to get out a lot more and thus socialized. In doing so they established more non social network relationships and met people with similar interests. You can do this and other people still do, it's just not like everyone does is as was the way in the past. Even though we can connect with so many people due to technology, we have started to shut ourselves off to meaningful relationships. Best of luck.

>>18559138

So you're basically saying what I'm looking for doesn't exist? I don't feel sick or broken down (well, I have strep throat today, so maybe). I feel full of vitality and adventure. I feel respected at work, and happy that I've accomplished goals I didn't even set out to achieve when I dreamed in my youth.

I want a partner in crime, someone to enjoy this with me, someone to go on vacations with, and to dinner, and laugh and feel and all of those great emotions. I already do find excitement in myself, but I want someone who makes me view things in a different perspective. Safe, sane, intelligent? I mean, that sounds okay, but boring. If I just wanted someone to hug, I'd get a dog.

>>18559147
Thanks for the list of ideas, but most of them are things I already do. I haven't met any "exciting" people at cons and stuff.

>>18559110
School will just leave you in
Debt if you don't have a long term plan.

>>18559110
If you're going into a field with a solid career track and know what you're doing then I say go for it.

But if you're gonna dick around for 4 years studying some liberal arts bullshit I'd say learn a trade.

> community college isn't a thing

you should go fuck men for money

>>18559125
im not gay, please give better advices

>>18559132
fuck men in drag so its not gay

Figure out what makes you the most money and go for it. As far as not liking the job, theres a name for that, its called everyone and we have our support groups at the bar

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>>18559078
Google online career test. Do like 10 different ones. Then go to glass doors and see what pays best. Then look into job offers in your target location. Pick such study which will easily land you a job that pays somewhat good.

After that you pick the school. Make a list, prioritize it and maybe use pic related. Write it all down in ORGANIZED WAY on a paper.

Easy.

>>18559078

Don't do what interests you. Do what makes the green and use it to get out. Dentristy can be lucrative. You want to ultimately work for yourself. School isn't for "finding yourself," it is for laying the groundwork for a stable future, which means money in the bank. You can do whatever you'd like when you have the funds to back it up.

sales

>>18559039
Babysitting. I used to make 25/hr in the swanky areas of the city. Some people even want "nannies" with benefits and the works. Check out care.com.

Deadass just go on seekingarrangement and finesse old men. Be cute, flirty in messages and say you want to meet up, give them a fake app phone number and text them, the going rate for just a "meet and greet" coffee date is 100-200 depending on your area. At the end of the date just say you'll text them later about meeting up again soon and block their number.

My friend and I have been doing this for a while to get through school, we plan all our dates on the same 2-3 days of the week and in the same place so we know the other is safe. We laugh about it later too.

Oh. You have to be thin and pretty though, like <115 lbs, you can be ethnic but not dark skinned (except for a few white guys that are super into that) , and long hair or in a very stylish short cut.

>>18559032
Viagra is the easiest way , however I'd try to find some enjoyment in it

Are you honestly surprised that your wife isn't happy to hear you don't see her as a sexual being now?

Either way, try watching pregnancy porn when drunk and already a bit horny. If that fails to make you change your mind a bit, viagra.

>>18559032
i honestly think you shouldn't do it. You stated your boarders. Sorry not sorry that your wife is preggers but that doesn't give her the right to demand sex whilest you can't get it up. You could on the other hand just play with her untill she feels it?


Idk shit about being preggers but wouldn't massaging the belly help a bit?

>>18559005
Play it like a game, that you do know her, but you gotta make her remember on her own where she remembers you from

>>18559148
but then she'll remember me, and probably remember why she stopped talking to me.

>>18559169
Act like u dont remember, when ya hang out maybe she will say she swears she knows ya. Still play hard saying wtf not me.

When you bang her again u can tell her the truth as u walk out.

talk about a run on sentence...

What did you confront him about exactly?. The sending of the picture? or the argument?. Was there even an argument?.

Do you think he killed the cats?. Did you ask him where he got the picture?.

Your friend is a dumbass who also doesn't know what objective means but i think you're taking this waaay too personally. Just tell him you won't tolerate shit like that again and give him a chance to redeem himself, if he does it again then clearly this person is socially challenged and you should cut ties.

>>18558964
I should probably work on my formatting...
I confronted him about the picture but it kinda escalated into arguing about animal rights and such.
He probably got it from google images.

>>18558932
She 100% wants to fuck OP, I haven't read your view on what happened but just go for it ask her out, nothing to lose

>>18558940
My view is that I'm confused as this kind of thing LITERALLY never happens to me. Not even fatties approach me.

So I just can't get my head around a girl who is at least a 7/10 wanting me.

>>18558932
She wanted a lighter, she was making small chat. Who gives a fuck?