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That's called rumination lad.

Meditate until it goes away. It will teach you to live in the present moment instead of constantly replaying old events.

>>18563133
Thank you kind sir I thought I was losing my mind

>>18563031

telling my self 'stop tihinking about that' out loud helps. then i put on a fun song, bon jovi usually.

also try some mindful / guided meditation for dealing with issues.

>>18563016

by shaking it up? doing things you dont normally do? forcing your self into a larger new scenario?

if we dont know whats the norm we cant suggest how to shakei t up beyond those vague things i listed.

>>18563025
I don't get out enough and miss my friends.

>>18563063

then go out and hang out with your friends.

>>18563013

cuz you're alive.

>every project keeps failing

start small then.

>alone

make friends

>everyone keeps coming for your help

i thought you were alone?

>no one evfer asks you how you are?

is this literal? if so, make a point of it.

>everything is shit

go do charity for a few months, when you come back you'll be grateful to do things.

>>18563027
Being alive is not just having a beating heart, it's living, i'm not living.
I can't make friends, and people asking for favours isn't being less lonely, it's just having leechers on you.
It is literal, i helped a lot, really a lot of people, suicidals, people who just had broken with their partners, people without money, but after they didnt need me anymore they simply left.

I had to close my shop, 4 years ago, my gf dumped me cause of it, my "friends" disappeared cause she told bad things of me to them (all lies) just to have a good reason to dump me.
I lost 100 pounds, got /fit, did a chef school, made new friends but they were all the same as the others, then 6 months before "graduating" from that school i had to pay a lot of taxes i shouldnt have paid for my now 2 years closed shop.
Had to quit school, couldnt go out with people cause no money to pay the car insurance. I did charity too, but i just feel worse.
I see all grey, feel no pain, no joy, i dislike food, i can't get out of my house and got fat again.

>>18563013
Go to the GYM and you will find a meaning to your life

>>18562999
install linux and use fake accounts online
https://www.ubuntu.com/desktop

>>18563039
Instal Linux
Run a virtual Linux on it
Use a VPN
Use a live proxy man who relays your info
Repeat for few layers

Yes, but it's incredibly tedious and the hassle isn't worth it when you're just some Average Joe so insignificant the government isn't even bothering to spy on you.

>>18562995
What did she do after loosing your phone?
Also how long are you two together?

>>18562995
>hasn't offered to help me replace it at all even though she lost it.
Did you ask?

No idea but just get a Chinkphone for 140$ in that case, they do everything you need perfectly fine unless you want a DSLR replacement. That way you don't have to make such a big deal out of it.

>>18562986

Mine some bitcoin with your computer during downtime.

>>18562986

take the time to focus on art instead.

>>18563008
I can't draw

>>18562958
Anon are you sure it isn't one of those steam sluts? Like she's not asking you to buy her things off her amazon wish list, gifting her games, helping pay her rent and other shit like that. If she's not and she never mentions stuff like that keep in mind she may have other orbiters like you. Maybe suggest a day where you two can see eachother. Like a month away so you have enough time to get on the keto diet and get /fit/ if you're not already. Plan out a fun day for the 2 of you. Dave and busters maybe a festival or some event going down. Try to give her the best day she can to keep her motivated to stay alive

>>18562958
Sounds like a oneway relationship to me.
When you do finally work up the nerve heres your answer

>i really like you anon. But i have shit going on that a wouldnt want to burden you with

>>18562981
I'm pretty sure she's not one of those steam sluts. I did actually buy her a game to cheer her up one but she insisted that I didn't need to give her gifts. She's not the kind of person to have orbiters and we talk very frequently and intimately (more than even her RL friends).

I've already been hitting the gym for months so dw about that.

Meeting up in the near future might be happening since she wants to try acid and I offered to trip sit (she'll be paying for the tab ofc). Generally yeah, I want to try and give her an amazing day just so she can feel special and feel motivated to stay alive.

>>18562908
>Our relationship was rocky at the best of times

what do you mean by this?

>>18562928

We were/ are to very different people. She's 27 and I'm 34. She's big on going out and having fun (But still responsible) and I'm more relaxed and a homebody. We didn't have much in common besides wanting to have a family.

Update: Her brother (Big animal guy) came and picked up the fish. So I feel a little better.

>>18563011

Sounds like she's a slut bro. Good riddance. Girls who still party hard at 27 are nothing but whores trying to hold onto their slipping youth, lets be real here.

You would have had to wait till her biological clock went off, or knocked her up for any chance of staying with her.

Learn your lesson and move on to someone more compatible.

Tell her you don't find them attractive before she gets it done.

>>18562874
bit late for that, sadly. She's already getting it done, and the subject had never come up before.

>>18562872
What the fuck OP? What kind of total slut without a single ounce of self-respect are you dating? Stay away from women who do not understand the true value of aesthetics. Bet she wouldn't mind living in a commie block either. Absolutely disgusting.

Grow a chin

>>18562863
not sure what the hell you just typed, but the top middle is the best by far

>>18564178
Top middle looks goofy af. Top left.

>>18562862
Put your penis in her vagina.

>>18562862
Shower, buy a condom and go there and have fun.
This is 95% sex unless you fuck it up by sperging, if no sex for what ever reason never talk to her again

Best advice: If you actually want this and am confident you can perform, sure go ahead and do the deed.

If actually you're thinking 'hey, you know what? I dont want to just fuck and leave through fear of not performing, being conscious of each others feelings or any other reason, do not go through with it. No point in putting pressure on yourself and persuing meaningful relationships with girls in the long run will pay dividends when it comes to self esteem

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Bump because I'm going through the same thing and it's killing me inside. Yes, I know I'm weak.

>>18562821
Go No Conatct with her and then:

FTOW

Especially the first part might be hard, but it's the only solution really.

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Open relationship.

Truly the greatest question.

>>18562808
nobody is going to advertise that they're hiring someone with "no experience at all" because if you're too stupid to be able to apply life experience to your potential job on your resume then you're not worth hiring.

That said, they hire people with no experience all the time if it isn't a highly specialized job that actually requires knowledge and experience like a nuclear reactor technician and you're willing to learn, you just have to ask.

>They told me they only wanted people with experience.
You must be really ugly
honestly though, anywhere as a parttime cashier?
If that doesn't work, try some social things? I found that charities often need people, but I am not sure how much they pay or if they pay at all.
If that doesn't work, do some free work to get experience? Sucks, but I don't know what else to do.

>>18562804
Kill yourself and experience the sweet release of death rather than be all that stuff you said about yourself.

Get a 4.0 at your "shit" school then rock gradschool.

>>18562804
Start with working out, will help build fitness and confidence. For that, just schedule 50-60 minutes of dedicated work out time every day, and don't let yourself do anything but work out, no eating, no tv, no phone, just you and whatever you need to work out. You will have no options.

It's honestly a complete turn-off if someone smokes tobacco. Granted, I'm fairly biased as I've lost someone to the horror that is lung cancer.

There's so many other things you could do besides actively hurt yourself every time you put one in your lips! The health part is probably what I dislike the most.

>>18562794
I like the smell of tobacco, especially of cigars.
I don't like kissing after someone smoked, tho.

I wouldn't mind dating someone who smokes every now and then, but I would be bothered if someone smoked consistently, especially if he smoked inside.

>>18562794
smoking cigarettes is a big no, doesn't matter if it's in a pipe, cigar, or cigarettes, or chewed.