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>>18563388
>how can you talk to someone or try to get close to someone if you don't know how they really feel about you?
By not caring? All you can do is hope your actions have a good impact on them.
>Why is it worth it to associate with people when 80-90% of them hate you and assume the worst of you without even knowing you
You're either extremely paranoid to think that or you're a horrible person, but to come to that conclusion they would have to know you on a personal level.
>Why is it worth making friends if you feel even more isolated with them than you do without them
That's not how friends work. If you feel isolated with someone they are not your friend.

>>18563411
>You're either extremely paranoid to think that or you're a horrible person
I don't think I'm a good person by any means, I think I'm a well intentioned person but I'm bad at communicating, I don't think my intentions come across and people think I'm a bad person. I am trying to be more friendly and open with people but it just makes more opportunities for me to fuck things up and say something wrong, every word could be the one that destroys any possibility of future friendship. I feel like if I stay quiet at least no one will hate me so it's better than nothing. But even that doesn't seem to be foolproof.

>I don't know how people deal with other people. Like how can you talk to someone or try to get close to someone if you don't know how they really feel about you, and know that anything you do might change the way they feel about you without you even knowing it?
I just can't be bothered to care about hypotheticals. They're not grounded in reality and may not come to pass. I just don't give a fuck. Deal with each bridge as you come to it.
>Why is it worth it to associate with people when 80-90% of them hate you and assume the worst of you without even knowing you, and that anything you say will be taken the wrong way because people want to believe you're an asshole because it's an excuse not to put forth the effort of getting to know you?
People generally do not think like that and you are foolish to assume that is a suitable base to start from when interacting with people. And if they do, so what? They fucked up. They misunderstood. It's on them, it's their loss. If they can't see the food you offer, fuck 'em anyway.
>Why is it worth making friends if you feel even more isolated with them than you do without them.
If you feel that way about them then don't be friends with them. Be friends with people whose company you enjoy, whose ideas challenge yours, and whom you can habe a good conversation with.
>At least I understand myself and am comfortable with myself.
You should. No one else will ever understand you as much as you.
>I don't feel like the enemy of the world when I'm in my own world.
That's a poor way to think about things. You are avoiding growth, development, change and improvement if you think cowering in your own space is preferable because it is more comfortable. You are not in your own world, you are in the same one we are all in whether you like it or not. If you don't learn about it you deprive yourself of a chance to adapt to it.

> Getting polio , mumps , or any other disease from the 40s in 2017
Kek

>>18563339

Firstly, there has been no reputable study ever done that showed a concrete link between vaccinations and autism. None. There is no data to support that claim.

Secondly, there have been documented side effects from vaccination however they are exceedingly rare. Not to mention that your child has a much higher chance of getting sick from a disease he or she could of been vaccinated against than suffering a severe side effect of being vaccinated.

In summary, statistically, its exponentially more dangerous to let your child walk around the world unvaccinated than it is to vaccinate them. If you're talking pure risk assessment, the greater risk is to not vaccinate.

Let your fiancee know that horrible videos and mom groups on Facebook is not science. Science has never found a link between vaccination and autism and until it does letting the health of your child depend on the paranoid ramblings of middle aged mothers who get their statistics from satirical websites and fear mongering anti-pharma blogs is irresponsible and dangerous.

>>18563339
fuck your fiance, take the kid to get vaccinated asap. how about you show her horrible videos of children that are stuck in medical clean rooms with life threatening diseases that were 100% preventable. or the fact that in italy you're legally required to get your children vaccinated.

>>18563294
I'm also a guitarist/singer songwriter myself and for some reason I feel a strange mixture of inadequacy and betrayal. Kinda weird.

>>18563294
She's your ex, who cares what she did. Also even back then I knew Surfer Blood were one of the fakest most bandwagoning indie bands, figures they were just in it for the groupies.

>>18563309
I know I shouldn't care but I just do. I know she's a whore. She actually cheated with my former best friend and that's why we broke up. I still can't seem to write her off for it. haven't even communicated with her in months.

I'm curious about this too
BUMP

>>18563272

Understanding pitch and tone either comes from a lot of learning and practice, or a natural talent.

Spend some time with a piano, even one of those crappy electronic keyboards and try to match the pitches produced. Doing that alone would give you a lot of practice.

>>18563824
Thanks anon

Welcome to depression and the real world friend. I had same thoughts. You just have to keep sane friend. I had to come to terms with life as well but im much older now (27) just focus on improving your life. If you kill yourself you will crush everyone who knows you. Either seek professional help or figure out these thoughts on your own. First step os understanding you have a mental problem. Dont let those thoughts take you over because one day you will snap out of it and realize how silly you are now in your state of mind. Stay strong.

>>18563246
I guess it's how I figured.
No sense in negative thoughts.

I'll try and keep it away, but it's the natural calibration for my brain.

>>18563233
try and do it, you thinker you.

I got news for you, there is no such thing as a suicidal person, they dont fucking exist. You are not suicidal.

People stand above bridges, but they dont fucking jump! They put guns in their mouths and then remove them!

A tiny portion of the population pulls the trigger, but that doesnt make them suicidal, they wanted to live the whole way through the process with every inch of their being. They fight panic as they fall headfirst into the pavement. You are a living machine. If you are homeless cold and dirty, you will want to live. If someone tortures you and cuts off your penis and gouges your eyes out you will want to live. It doesnt matter how pointless life is logically or how worthless you feel or what pain you are in.

It doesnt matter if you are happy. You fear death above all else.

Take care now, bye bye then!

>>18563220
I have a bad advice: try buying phone not by brand, but by reviews and price.

>you will probably pay for service more than what new average android phone cost alone

>>18563484
I used to have an android. But I liked iPhone more. I was simply getting an iPhone with more space than my previous.

>>18563552
Why didnt you buy it from official seller then? And iPhones had problems in the past with signal. All you had to do was to touch the aluminium frame for it to lose signal. And it was simply faulty design.

No, why would it be?

No? Picking up a sport at any age is fine. I mean, don't expect to go pro or anything but as a hobby and a means of exercise and bettering yourself at something it's perfectly fine.

>>18563207
nope, go to a gym and start training

>>18563196
> just ask her to get a couple tests
its better than getting aids or crabs

>>18563196
Fuck that shit, mate. If you're prepared to deal with drama that early into the game I'd dig in real deep and prepare for the coming irrational shitstorm that'll inevitably follow. This is Houston, abort mission. ABORT MISSION, ANON.

Are you gonna dump her because she might have been a victim of rape, Anon?

have her get STD tests. Get yourself tested too, while you're at it.

are you going to get treated for it ?

>>18563170

enjoy your self, its later than you think.

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>>18563174
yes, already started therapy. It feels like going to the graveyard everytime i visit the hospital though

> i told someone i wanted to kill myself
of course their aren't any good stories they keep you drugged out of your mind

>>18563167
You mentioned suicidal thoughts. If she was going to admit you it would have been immediately. I've got patients who cop to suicidal thoughts pretty much every day. If you don't have intent and a plan, if I don't think you're going to die before your next session, you go home. Clearly you convinced her.

I don't think most people realize just how common thoughts, or even vivid fantasies, of suicide are. The reality is that most people have them and the overwhelming majority never act on them. Virtually everyone you meet is here because they made a choice, at some point, not to kill themselves. You're seeking help, you seem to want change.

>>18563199
thanks that makes me feel a lot better

get a different roommate that knows how to either take a joke or get you back in a way that doesn't destroy property like a 16 year old that got rekt on CS:GO

How dumb is he that he doesn't unblock the MAC stress? He also could get a different network adapter or get a new router.
Also both of you are childish.

>>18563148
>What do?
>partner and I
Stop being mentally deranged and associating with other deranged individuals.

>>18563108
>t. low skilled white trash

>>18563102

Be casually snarky back.

Or just rape some kids like the filthy fucking sandnigger you are.

>>18563102

tell them they need to stop saying that, then exit their life. in what scenario are you talking to someone regularly enough for them to do this to you?

>>18563095
Almost everyone.
Most people are good, but some will ruthlessly use you for whatever they can for as long as you will put up with it.The worst actually use your compassion and tendency to forgive as a lever to control you.
You get over it with anger.
You don't deserve to be treated poorly. Anyone who treats you like that does not deserve your love. Focus on something you like for yourself (I like motorcycling) then find a better person who deserves you.

>>18563110
Im trying anon. This person was the only friend I had. So I got nobody now.

>>18563095
>So I got nobody now
You have yourself.
You don't NEED anyone else, although other people are great to have around.
One of the BS things about how groups work is that being needy puts other people off, so when you really need a friend, it's hard to get one.
The way out of this is to not need other people but be good to them. Soon you will have many friends.

>>18563069
That she stays non-existant

No objects up my ass including finger.

I will destroy the whole apartment block if she do.

I'm not supposed to sleep with her friends, or anyone younger than 22 (lied about the last girl I fucked being 22, when I knew she was 21.)

I'm also meant to delete lews photos and videos I got of her from my phone, and store them on a hard drive instead, but I'm secretly not in a hurry.

She's not allowed to give me greivance over my exes, since she fucked her ex after we got together.

Both of us have to use condoms with other people, or at least be tested since then before fucking, if we neglected to use them with anyone we're with in between.

Can't think of anything else, other than to always be honest. If we do anything the other person doesn't like, we tell each other, and figure out a common ground.

We've been dating since late November, and been LDR since June.

inb4 average /adv/ opinions

Use it for sympathy.

If it is painful to walk then cancel right away

Tell her "I just got off the field and I think i broke my ankle"

>>18563058
lol what the fuck, I bet this is a huge faggot