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New Girl Advice pls halp 2017-07-28 02:25:59 Post No.18565685
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Girl with a kid that my brother knows asks him for my number after seeing me with him at a bank. Claims I was cute and that my brother should help her get me. He gives her my number and we chat a bit schedule a first date on the first date we eat and then she invites me back to her place we almost have sex but i hold back grill is really nice so I feel it's worth the wait. She's so nice that I hang again next day with her and her kid at the park everything goes well we have Ice cream she rubs my arm and tells me I am good with the kid. After a kid has enough fun at the park we go back to her place cuddle and watch a movie till kid tuckers out. She puts kid on the couch outside her room then we both go into her room. I can't resist this time I have sex with her. Ask her how many times she came she said once (really felt like she did she was biting into my shoulder really hard and almost woke up her neighbors). After sex we proceed to cuddle till we both fall asleep I wake up at 6:30 to be at work at 7 and she tells me thanks for coming over I tell her I'll be back and we kiss each other goodbye and I texted her later that day. No response. She said she was a forgetful texter. So few hours later I hit her with another text. No Response. I ask her is it cool if I stop by after work the day after and she says she has to drive an hour out and she doesnt know when she'll be back. Check snapchat, checks out she was indeed gone. I've asked around and people say she only sticks to one guy at a time.
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Had to do a hoe check you know. I've only had 2 dates with this girl and I'm head over heels for her unlike anyone else I've been with. She said she was having baby daddy issues that's why she's been so distant and it's too long to describe over text. I offer to meet up in person emphasizing I don't only want sex from her in the message as well. Told her unlike most guys I care what goes on in her head/ how she's feeling etc. But she just leaves me on read on snapchat. Was I being too pushy? Was I bad at sex and she just doesn't want to tell me? Or can she really be that forgetful of a texter? (I'm not that naive) For some dumb ass reason all I can think about is her. I can usually fuck and keep it moving. But something about her makes my heart race, makes me rambly, makes me overthink, makes me nervous. But I think it might just be the end. Help?
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>>18565692
Sounds like the end, she doesn't sound that interested in you. Maybe it was something you said or maybe your personality or maybe she just wanted sex.
I went through something similar recently and had to just accept she doesn't want it and that's that.
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>>18565685
Wtf is this. Sentence? I could even get past the first three because they are run on sentences and at first I thought you were girl but then it says that you are a dude "he gives her my number.... She was so sweet"
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>Friends meeting at a bar
>Ex who cheated on me is there
>Haven´t seen her in like a year or more
>itshappening.jpg
>I just act normally, say hi
>No words or eye contact from her in all the night
I noticed that she was constantly looking at me since the TV was behind her and we were watching a soccer match, but never made eye contact.
When I left I approached to her to say goodbye, same shit but she just gave me a guitar pick I gave her a shit ton of time ago
>Take it, I know its your favourite one
I felt awkward all the time, and just felt like she doesn´t gives a fuck anymore. Somehow I found out i´m not over her yet, I still have mixed feelings and the pick thing felt irrelevant and confusing to me.
Tips? Should I avoid her even more time until I feel nothing when I see her?
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>>18565653
She cheated on you dude. Nothing good will come of this, so it's best to continue ignoring her. Throw the pick away if it's bothering you.
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Avoid avoid avoid
>ex who cheated me
This speaks for itself. Crush every little feeling you have for her. She is nothing. My ex cheated on me so I know how it feels.
If you do see her in public, be nice and say hi but limit your conversations. The more you speak with her the more your feelings could grow.
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>>18565658
Thanks, but how do you crush those feelings?
I know that she lied, cheated and were unloyal, that she didn't valued me but I still feel nostalgia. Before the cheating thing we broke up but somehow we got back together, I really find her attractive and it's hard to me to stop liking her.
Also I realized that I have serious self esteem issues, and i'm trying to work on them.
I'm really weak with feelings
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Ex-girlfriend said she still wanted to be friends, just randomly ghosted me after a few weeks of being broken up, blocked on all social media, not texting etc. Any advice on wtf to do?
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>>18565641
She is an ex for a reason. Remind yourself why is that and stop being pic related.
Block her too, delete everything what reminds her to you and move on. Try being single for a while and do what you didnt have time for before her. Csgo?
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move to north carolina.
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>>18565641
OUTCOME 1.
Make friends with her... Have her string you along... Last minute when you think you're getting back together she lets it slip she's seeing the bartender at the bar you used to drink at or fucking someone you introduced her too.
OUTCOME 2
Make friends with her... Get back with her... Find out 3-6 months time she monkey branched to someone more successful than you who used her for sex then dumped her... And why wouldn't he, she's likely do the same to him if someone better came along, she proved it by doing it to you.
OUTCOME 3
Everytime you meet someone else she inserts herself in the situation and wrecks your future potential relationships right up until she decides whether she can do better than you or not or if you can do better than her. If you can do better than her she'll not let it happen. etc...
OUTCOME 4
You made your bed... Now lie in it.
Have a nice life.
I hope you find what you were looking for.
You block her and ignore her. Then go to the gym, get that promotion, re-evaluate your life and become you 2.0.
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I'm a 20yo NEET and barely leave the house because I get severe anxiety when people like my neighbors see me or walking down the street, I can barely breath and start wondering if I'm walking weird. There are people that live below me and are always making fun of me which makes it hard to be in the house. I only ever go outside to smoke or go to the store 5:00 - 5:30am to buy cigarettes and Chainsmokers my days away and have been everyday for a year.
What's the best way to kill myself?
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>>18565635
Also I go most days without talking to anyone including my family who I live with
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>>18565635
What's up with everyone saying their life sucks and wanting to kill themselves? If you have issues work them out.
Do you have a job? If your financial situation lets you, try renting an apartment to yourself or asking your parents for the money to rent one. At your age its natural to get depressed if you don't have the independence you should be starting to develop.
>smoking
>anxiety
quit smoking it's probably causing 70% of your anxiety, lock yourself in your room and play vidya for a few weeks while the nicotine leaves your system, then work to desensitize yourself to social interactions. Go to a random neighborhood where you don't know anyone and just walk around it once or twice. Realize no one cares who you are or how you walk, they're on their way to go somewhere and probably barely even noticed you. It'll help that you can remind yourself anyone you do see is a stranger who you'll never see again. Why should you care what some normie on the street thinks?
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>>18565699
I try not to care but when I do something simple like walk past someone on the sidewalk I start to sweat and can't breathe, Ill try to get a vape maybe that could help me quit?
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I need some medifag help
I'm 18, last night I had sex for the first time but I fucked it up because I had trouble keeping hard. It took me too long to get hard, and by the time I was completely hard I was already about to cum.
>inb4 nervous
I'm just not a nervous person in general and wasn't nervous here.
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>>18565613
Maybe just thinking about it too much caused you to lose wood. Look up performance anxiety. Try to just relax and let yourself enjoy it.
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>>18565613
Sex is inherently stressful if you don't know the other persons history , or if they keep up on birth control , what if the conform breaks , how would we deal with this after abortion , fatherhood , just distress before next time
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>>18565614
op here
I wouldn't rule it out but that doesn't feel like a real solution. I wasn't thinking about this any different than I think about most things in general. You're asking me to reshape my personality as a whole, which isn't impossible but seems unnecessary.
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>be me
>befriends girl that liked
>year ago
We talked everyday for a lil and i stopped talking because of my fear of failing because of my own short comings and a insta meme like page owner likes her too and attacks me but took L and lowered my self esteem even more
> talks here and there when highschool started
>ff now
we talk everyday i mainly can but convos are 65% sharing dog pics and small talk 35% actual meaningful convos that we both enjoy hopefully, we both agree we are good friends to eachother since we both know each others past and etc.
i still like her but i feel like i fucked up and cant do anything about it as i feel i have no choice to progress it or not
Should i forget, or continue, or stay friends
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Can't change anything unless you try mate. Either stick to being unhappy or just yolo and take the plunge. Don't worry about that Instagram faggot, that's literally subhuman shit, I'd be embarrassed to run a insta meme page.
Ask her out ffs
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>>18565624
I did before but failed and she was not interested,
and now she is basically a lesbian
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>>18565648
Just stay friends I spose, just make the friendship more than just posting memes and small talk, decent friends are extremely hard to find, and are worth more than a relationship. Hang in there bud
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>Masturbate every day (with porn)
>Stop looking at porn
>Have no interest in masturbating and haven't done so for 2 weeks.
>Feel like my libido is dead
Anyone else experienced this?
It was meant to be more of a noporn rather than a nofap but it seems like with noporn i don't want to fap.
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stopped masturbating and watching porn after starting dating with my gf for no reason. we haven't gone sexual yet and the farthest we've gone is kising and touching each other. i never have the urge to watch porn or masturbate and i get sexually aroused while talking to my gf and keep being erected.
as long as have a reason to be sexually active, your libido is not dead.
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>>18565608
But you still fuck, so you have a way to unleash your masculinity. OP is talking when you are in no porn and have no girlfriend, which is essay different.
Also, OP, I'm in the same boat and the same has happened to me, but now I'm trying to find a pussy.
My libido once I started skyrocketed and then slowly started to fade away. But it came back eventually so I broke my no fap.
With gf no porn is like eating a pie.
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>>18565598
Do you have morning erections? No? Then you are fat fuck with low testosterone and or shit life style.
Cardio like swimming for boosting your cardiovascular system for better boners.
Kegel excercises for stronger and easier boners.
>>>/fit/ sticky for calorie counting until you hit 23 bmi
http://www.calculator.net/bmi-calculator.html
Then gain muscle mass by
http://www.manvsweight.com/calisthenics-exercises/
And
http://www.aworkoutroutine.com/training-each-muscle-group-3-times-per-week/
And fap at least once per week with your eyes closed. Use imagination.
Good luck and dont expect change overnight. Having shit body requires months for any progress to be seen.
I feel really bad.
When I was in highschool going through puberty, I developed a physical fixation on my sister.
I'd use any chance I had to cop a feel of her for years.
I'd even occasionally sneak into her room, and make sure not to wake her while I tried to feel her up.
Sometimes she would wake up, but I would leave immediately.
Basically the worst I'd do is touch her ass or boobs.
This happened until I went to college.
After that, it stopped.
I met a girl this summer that was different than anyone I've ever been with. I've gotten closer with her in these last two months than I've been with anyone in my life. I tried to tell her above.
I could only manage to say that I had an infatuation with my sister and sleepwalked into her room.
I wanted to tell her the full story but I couldn't.
It's still pretty early in our relationship, so I'm afraid of it ending because of what I say.
I thought telling her at least half the story would make there be less pressure, but the fact that she doesn't know the whole thing is tearing me up.
I feel like telling her was a mistake, and that I should have told my sister about this first.
What should I do? I'm sorry this is a whole fucking blog, but I need specific advice.
I've developed a much healthier relationship with my sister since I left the house, and I think she might forgive me if I told her.
If I told only my sister, would I feel better? Or would lying to my girlfriend still wreck me until I told her too?
I'm not afraid of telling my sister.
I'm very afraid of losing this girl.
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Just keep lying you will get the over it eventually.
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>>18565586
It's pretty normal behavior, teenage boys are horny as fuck. There is no need to feel sorry or apologize, just don't act on your impulses. You can tell this to your sister when you're both elders and laugh about it together if you want, don't maybe tell now, it might be awkward to tell, but it's sure as hell nothing unusual.
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>>18565609
That seems to be the best option for me, thank you
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How is it not better to be an omega than a beta?
I am a huge beta, been trying all the self improvement wank lately and so far the results are rejected twice, ghosted once and shot down another. So much for confidence.
At least omegas don't give a single shit. Betas live in a society but under other people's rules, are laughed at, settle for a 36 year old single mom and then find her fucking some dude when they come back from work anyway.
I'm just gonna cancel the gym and go back to comfortable neetdom. Fuck this fucking garbage. You lied to me /adv/.
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If you buy into this alpha/beta/omega bullshit you deserve to be a kissless virgin
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>>18565573
>gets rejected 4 times
>gives up
One evening i got drunken at bar and then got rejected 7 times before the security went me outside. No big deal.
Pic related and keep trying. Who cares you got rejected? All what matters is when you will succeed once!
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>>18565573
Am I an omega if I choose to not do anything with girls?
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How are you supposed to act when other guys flirt or hit on your gf?
am I supposed to get possessive the get all defensive/macho and stuff?
nothing ever happens when she is standing with me where it's obvious that we are a couple.
but sometimes when i go away to get look for something there could be a dude trying to hit on her thinking she is single or something. she doesn't reciprocate and just tried to be polite
or when I visit her at work there could be a customer also trying to flirt and being teasing towards her. but I usually let this go because it's obviously her job to be bubbly and polite.
I don't want to come off as overly jealous for no reason, but at the same time don't want to come off as some cuck. or have her think less of me as someone who does nothing?
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>>18565563
Just when you see her talking with other males, just jokingly ask her "who dat" just so she can see that you are somewhat careful about those dudes.
There is no need to be dick about it, unless the dude doesn't pick up the message from the body language/distance that your girl is with you.
Even when you need to be explicit like asking "hey how can I help you" in a somewhat cocky way from that dude chatting with your gf and not getting the picture, do so without outright calling him names, don't provoke a fight, because it's likely the dude on the other side was just bored when chatting with your girl and didn't intend to get at you in particular.
Just that when shit does hit the fan, you need to be prepared to defend yourself, especially when the girl is around. Maybe even take the hit if you have to, you don't have to go hardcore fight mode, maybe shove him a little.
All that aside, trust your girl, if you have experience that she can be loyal and trustworthy, then there is no need for you to get too defensive, unless the guy is being unusually assertive.
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>>18565581
>All that aside, trust your girl, if you have experience that she can be loyal and trustworthy, then there is no need for you to get too defensive, unless the guy is being unusually assertive.
yeah I trust her and she always handles it politely and doesn't flirt back.
I just don't want to look like I don't care or her to think I'm some beta. you know what I mean?
and at the same time how much to intervene to not come off as insecure which also looks beta.
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>>18565595
Then you are good, you need to get into goldilocks zone where you are not too aggressive to the point where you come off as insecure, but you are not aloof/disinterested either.
Like I said, asking her about the men you see her meet in a casual, joking way is one of the best ways to show to her that you are little jealous, but not too much. Women read very much into these little gestures.
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>start new job
>girl there starts flirting with me
>I flirt back
>this goes on for about 2 months
>suddenly she becomes colder
>never hold eye contact for long anymore, rarely touches me, never stays and talks unless we happen to be working in the same area together, and even then it's me who has to initiate conversation
>see her laughing and talking with this other prick who always kept pushing himself into our conversations gets my blood boiling
What the fuck is going on? Did she lose interest out of the blue? Did I mistake her niceness for flirting? Did I fuck up somewhere?
I never went on a date with her but I did hang out with our mutual coworkers and her, and she seemed somewhat interested but fuck, maybe I was just being too hopeful.
This shit is fucking tormenting me, why would she even start flirting if she wasn't into me?
Tl:dr- reasons why a flirty woman would suddenly go cold and disinterested
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>>18565519
>flirting
>2 months
>other guy
She lost interest. You didnt invite her out or do anything.
Also you might have been shit talked.
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>>18565519
Women are crazy and do shit for no reason.
Also don't shit where you eat.
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>>18565524
I was scared of being rejected I guess. I'm never good at this shit.
And this other guy is a huge prick, I wouldn't be surprised if he talks shit. Anytime he's around and me and her would be messing around he just says shit like "you guys are dumb" or "grow up".
Anything I can do at this point?
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How should I start talking to a girl over snapchat?
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Context?
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dick pic
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>>18565513
Met her about a week ago and we hung out for a while and I got her snapchat but I didn't try anything beyond drunken hugging when we went drinking once. I want to ask her out but she lives about an hour away by train so idk. Haven't done much with snapchat other than a few snaps every other day.
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Hey guys, I'm an almost 18 year guy still living with my parents.
My family doesn't accept the idea of me caring for my appearance as a boy. For example, if they saw me blowdrying my hair they tell me to "stop behaving like girls", if they saw me putting lotion or moisturiser on my skin, if I went to the tailor to fix something to make it shorter or tighter, whenever I'm caring for my appearance it's all the same.
Btw I'm not a feminine guy I think of myself as manly but you know that doesn't prevent someone to take care of himself.
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>>18565441
The fuck kinda country do you live in? Blowdrying is for hair, not for gender. Literally nobody would think twice about it in Scandinavia.
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And what do you need advice with? Buy moisturiser and sunscreen. Keep them hidden. Cover up the smell with aftershave or cologne. Unless your family thinks male fragrance is for women.
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>>18565441
Its not the fact that you do it, its the way your parents percieve you doing it
Stop acting like a faggot and maybe they wont think you are
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I for the life of me cant tell if im retarded. On one hand I fail nearly every test I ever sit and only a few times have I passed with flying colours. I genuinely think pretty low of my intellect but when it comes to political matters and diffusing conflict I will far out-do anyone in my school. On one hand im fucking awful at tests but on the other hand I possess life skills that nobody else in my age bracket and even adults dont seem to be capable of.
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Yes you're retarded.
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What life skills do you actually have?
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So you fail all the times that actually test your knowledge on a subject?
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I have completely lost the interest to do anything in life.
Nothing seems to interest me. I don't feel like learning anything new or doing anything that involves putting effort.
Not even anime, TV and video games interest me as I've literally seen and played them all, that the plots seem so predictable and don't surprise me anymore.
Even the food I eat feels tasteless. I just eat to survive, nothing else. Sometimes even forgetting to eat a few days at a time.
I mean, obviously I am suicidal, but having suicidal thoughts every minute of the day doesn't even make me want to actually do it. Suicide has literally become a word devoid of any meaning to me now.
I'm just killing time by shitposting and trolling 12 hours a day for cheap laughs and thrills, hoping for the end somehow.
Unable to move forward, unable to even kill myself...how do I get out of this abyss I have dug myself into?
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The only thing i can say is you have to find interest and go beyond with it. Music is a great example
>listen to alot of music
>Wants to play the song you like
>Become musician
There are many things to explore if you try. It sounds like you don't want to,but you need to try to move forward in this Hell of a world
or go to /soc/ and meet people up with same depressing live and relate to them. Humans need interaction and you might need it.
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>>18565456
Thing is, I don't like people in general.
>go to /soc/ and meet people up with same depressing live and relate to them.
I believe depression and sloth is for the weak and have come to the acceptance that I am weak.
So why would I want to associate myself with other weak people?
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im there with ya. nothing is of interest anymore and I dont know what to do. I look forward to sleeping everyday because I am not here when i sleep. sleep feels good.