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I've got a decently bad porn addiction which is affecting my ability to get turned on by my gf despite loving her and enjoying getting intimate. Anybody know how to fix this? Quitting porn cold turkey made me on edge for a couple weeks before I caved

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Hi /adv/.

Everything feels utterly hopeless right now. My girlfriend of over a year and a half now is on the brink of ending her life and I don't have the ability to save her anymore. I'm doing everything I can to convince her that life is still worth living and that suicide just isn't the answer, but nothing is getting through. She currently experiencing the worst manic depression that I and even herself has ever seen in her life. For roughly two to three months now, she's said almost every single day how much she wishes she was dead and how there's absolutely nothing left to live for. Nothing makes her happy anymore, she's essentially lost the love she feels for anyone anymore, and things don't look bright at all. We even got into an argument the other day before I went to work and she almost ended everything then and there. I'm constantly fucking this all up and I'm losing her with each passing day. I no longer have the ability to save the love of my life and if she dies, I'm convinced that this is all going to be my fault. While I may not be the root cause of this depression of hers, I'm certainly not helping anything get any better. If anything, I'm making it WORSE and becoming an even bigger reason for her to kill herself.

I want to help her, I want to spend the rest of my life with this girl because of how she changed my life. I was in an extremely rough spot for a while (I won't go into detail about it) and because she was there for me, because of what she has done for me in such a short amount of time, I'm fully convinced I want to live out the rest of my days with her. But that future is looking dimmer and dimmer as the minutes go by. What can I do? Can I do anything at all? She's getting a new dosage of medication to see if maybe that will help her, but her doctors warned that this would increase the amount of depression and suicidalness she'd have for a temporary amount of time due to the chemicals in the medicine. I don't know what to do anymore.

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Good evening /adv/ so I have some relationship advice I need.

See, the last few relationships screwed me up pretty bad and living with anxiety doesn't help. Although, I haven't showed signs of anxiety to others it has hurt me in the past. Two of the three gfs I dated dumped me without rhyme or reason and it made me nervous in a relationship. Now, to my stupid choices, these girls were not the best or mature enough for a relationship, so I should understand that they never wanted to talk things through or try. But I believe my poor choices in dating may have screwed me up mentally.

However, My question is going into dating, or a relationship how do you control that feeling of nervousness about being dumped suddenly?

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Long story not as long, I'm in love with a girl named Jordan. I was with her for almost 2 years and we lived together. We were all for each other until she invited her friend to live us. For no reason and none I can still come up with, I started to show interest in her friend but I knew it was strictly physical. I acted on those actions and eventually convinced the friend to see me all the while I was still with Jordan. I never "officially" dated either of these girls and I used that shit excuse to keep it up.

After so long I started, for whatever fucking reason, to push the Jordan away and told myself it was easier and safer to be with the friend and a much safer bet. I don't know why those thoughts entered my head, I really have no idea. Being with the friend wasn't amazing, I thought of the Jordan most of the time just to deal. The friend and I have nothing really in common, we have different life goals and want different things in life.

I messed things up and pushed Jordan, the original girl, to be with someone else, Kameron, but even while she was with him her and I still hooked up and had our fun. Hell, we even bought each other things and I took her to the aquarium for her birthday where I had planned to propose to her. You see how messed up my train of thought is. Its the classic "you don't know what you have 'till its gone" scenario.

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/adv/ I'm going crazy. I have a god-tier alarm clock right now. Pic related. The RCA RP3720a. I just got an erection. To set the time, you SPIN THE WHEEL, instead of clicking a stupid ass button 154 times just to change your alarm time. And it has dual alarms. And it auto-dims the display. And it auto-adjusts for DST. And it has battery backup so the alarm still goes off even if the power is out. It's everything an alarm clock should be, but for some DAMN reason, no other alarm clocks exist like it today.

I need help, /adv/, my baby's gonna break one day, and I don't know what I'm gonna do when it does. I just don't know what I'm going to do....

Please tell me other good alarm clocks exist before I blow my brains out.

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Am I boyfriend material?
>21
>5'11"
>thin and get regular exercise
>decent job
>can cook and clean fairly well
>well groomed and good hygiene
>all spare time spent playing video games and watching anime
>have spent a lot of money on computer hardware in the past
>escapism is generally the main priority of my life
>own and look after a cat
>depression (not the meme kind) managed with medication
>possibly schizoid (or maybe AvPD)
During high school, a few girls expressed interest in me but I've always thought of myself as ugly and undesirable.
My only requirement for the girl is that she isn't an extrovert.
>just lift brah
>just get a real hobby senpai
I am not asking for advice on how to "improve" myself. I'm just asking if you think a female would be interested in having a relationship with the current me.

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Hey /adv/ i need a job badly and i have a friend working at a nearby mexican restaurant which ive applied to. i took his advice and applied then called them up when the boss man was scheduled to be there and asked for him by name. i think the phone call, while short, went good and he said he'd call me back. it's been two days and i haven't heard back. do i call again? and if so what do i say?

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Hey guys, kind of a weird question. I have a friend who is overweight. Shes asked me for advice on how to lose it. I am hesitant(read have completely ignored) to respond because i want to make sure to do it tactfully, in a way that is helpful to her in her current state, and doesnt make me seem like an asshole.

How do you tactfully explain to someone that the healthy food they think they are choosing is not really healthy? The biggest thing I really want to stress to her is that if she is serious, this is a decision to live her life completely differently. Im worried that i will not give her appropriate advice FOR HER and just make her self concious around me and push her away.

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My job hasn't been paying me for over a month now.
I used to be an animator, but moved recently and had hard time finding work, and got offered a job at a pretty young company, doing graphics and illustrations. It paid pretty well at first, but slowly my boss seemed to become more and more ... lazy? Like they stopped showing up to meetings and stopped communicating or coming up with plans. I know there has been issues with securing a new studio and investors so I give the benefit of the doubt on that, and I can get by without the money for now. But i dont know what actions to take if they never own up and I havent been able to find any work but this job so far. I think i probably just moved to a shithole place where they dont have jobs in my field and only offer retail and factory work. They have promised to pay everyone back in full in August, but at this point their promises have been pretty full of crap.

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I'm a cuck for my Gramps. It's bad but it's true. You guys might've had some sort of incentive of this, so if you did, I'd like you to know that you were right. Doubts is what brings about Human Progression, like i say. As I, confess this evening that I am a cuck for my Gramps, I'd like to inspire you guys to confess too. I shout with a repenting voice, I AM A KEK FOR MY GRAMPS! IT IS MESSES UP BUT TRUE!

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Hey /adv/ i need a job badly and i have a friend working at a nearby mexican restaurant which ive applied to. i took his advice and applied then called them up when the boss man was scheduled to be there and asked for him by name. i think the phone call, while short, went good and he said he'd call me back. it's been two days and i haven't heard back. do i call again? and if so what do i say?

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Which dating site do you use? Is it any good?

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I am reposting this from /pol/ because of a lack of answers there. Alright /adv/, no matter how hard I try to not procrastinate or be a disgusting degenerate, I cannot help myself. So I have two options. One is to recognize that my genes are simply too inferior to carry me out of the situation that I am in, that I am pre-programmed for failure, and remove myself from life (I DO NOT INTEND TO KILL MYSELF, I AM JUST SAYING THAT THAT IS HYPOTHETICALLY PHYSICALLY POSSIBLE BUT NOT AN OPTION I WOULD EVER CONSIDER). The second is to keep trying and somehow break free of the cursed cycle. I will continue to attempt the latter, no matter how many times I fail. I just want some advice, /adv/, how can I break the cycle? Please don't tell me to do it for family or anything like that. I don't plan on having children, I hate my mom, my dad is dead, and I hate the people I am surrounded by, AKA coworkers. I know at least some of you are successful on /advl/. How do I gain balls and determination to see through my goals? Thank you in advance.

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I live in the middle of nowhere in central Wisconsin and I hate it. I plan on moving to Southern California (Orange County) because I like the weather and lifestyle out there fuck you. I realize the cost of living is very expensive. I am 23 years old, have 10 grand in savings, an associates degree,and good credit.
Has anyone else here moved out of state before? Steps to take? Is it feasible to complete my education over there? Why can't anyone find a gf here?

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Having some difficulties with the people I work with. I started this job back in January, and everything seemed alright for the first few weeks. Then I noticed one of my supervisors started to pick me out and harshly criticize me over small errors that could easily be fixed, and giving the other employees preferential treatment. I hit my breaking point with her when I had to call in because I totaled my car, and while I was on the phone with her, still feeling the shock of losing my fucking only mode of transportation, she says, "well you realize this is going to count against you since you called in 30 minutes after your scheduled shift, right?"

So, I decided to file an HR complaint on her. HR reassured me that no matter what she would have no idea that I filed the complaint against her. Well, unfortunately, due to the fact that I work somewhere that may as well be a high school, she found out. Everything became even worse. Eventually, she did get fired, after blowing up on all of the other employees after a failed inspection. Unfortunately this wasn't the end of my troubles.

After all that was over. I was labeled as a "narc," I can't make friends or even really talk to most of the people I work with. When I do try to make friendly banter, they stare off into space until I finish talking, then talk to someone else. It wouldn't bother me, but there's little else to do sometimes except talk with people, and it kinda leaves me feeling invalidated. The two who were promoted to supervisors in her place also can't stand me and try to goad me into doing something (such as yelling at them) to get myself fired.

I would look for another job, but fuck. The last job I had I also only lasted six months, but because it was selling shit over the phone to people which was a different kind of misery.