How to move across the country by myself?
>22
>got out of the army
>starts university sept. 1st
>university is in new jersey, lives in WA
>looking for cheap apartment and part time work
>will have monthly housing allowance once classes start
>living with parents atm
>will fly to philly and stay with friend as long as needed
the question is, should I fly out now to the east coast? I've been staying at my parents to save money, and now that I'm admitted, I need to take a placement test at the university as well as sort out my living arrangements, meet with an academic advisor to register for classes, etc.
My original plan was to start living at a place right about when classes start so I don't have to dig into my savings (monthly housing allowance starts once I'm attending class) while I look for part time work, but that's just not realistic.
It also doesn't help that I have 0 job experience essentially, being infantry in the army.
Any advice would be truly appreciated with my utmost fucking gratitude, love you all.
-pic is from the city I'll be moving to
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I might be hired as a virtual assistant soon. What do these do?
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Putting unconditional love aside, what do you guys think love really is? Or in a less abstract way, what makes up love, what's required for sb to love someone else (reciprocity or similarities in personality for example)
I'm 20, haven't experienced love (I once "liked") a girl before. Though I do long for opposite sex, I don't know what to look for, what to expect.
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Baby don't hurt me.
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>>18535147
Love sucks, it`s a a mental illness you cant control. And it always hurts.
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>>18535322
Don't hurt me, no more
For OP- Chemicals.
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This is the thing, I consider myself a straight person although sometimes I do gay things.
For example, I have toys to play with my ass and I like get fucked from time to time (in a gay sauna, always using protection). I also watch gay porn and I have considered going to cruising places, although I prefer to do gay stuff in a sauna because I can have a shower afterwards.
Even all that, I have never kissed a guy. I do not enjoy blowing another cock (I've tried), and often I feel ashamed when I cum to gay stuff like porn or because I have a dick inside my ass. That happens ONLY after I cum.
I would like to know whether anyone else feels the same, and what would you recommend to me. (I do not plan to quit doing gay stuff, but any recommendation is welcomed).
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>>18535117
How do you feel about fucking girls?
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I am more than down with fucking women but still consider myself straight. To me calling yourself bi implies a more or less equal attraction to both sexes, or at least being able to envision yourself in a relationship with both. Women also do not evoke the same level of purely physical lust in me that men do. Still they can arouse desire in me and I love being intimate with them.
Accept that no one else is going to agree with your personal definition, and that it matters little. You are not obliged to tell anyone in your life who you have sex with. If you have issues with this side of yourself I don't really have concrete suggestions, it's a learning process coming to terms with turn ons that part of you recoils from or that you feel don't align with the way you usually see yourself. That applies to your situation but also to people with fetishes they are not completely comfortable with. Embrace that sexuality is a wild and animalistic part of you that you have no control over, and that many people in one form or another love that mix of lust and taboo factor. They don't lovingly call sex dirty for nothing.
Also playing with your own ass is not gay, not anymore than jerking yourself off is.
You only get one lifetime. Cheers.
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>>18535124
Great as long as I feel some kind of connection with them. Fucking random girls or whores makes me feel the same as being fucked by a guy: pleasurable but regrettable.
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Picking up girls on Holiday alone 2017-07-19 06:09:10 Post No.18535102
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This question goes out to all the chads out there. I will be in Spain until the end of August with my dad. We are stayin in a small tourist town which is more of a family holiday location however a lot of young people are there too.
I don't want to waste a good opportunity go get laid and have fun.
How do I pick up girls on Holiday. Please help a bro out
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>Chat
>Suggest going to either your house or hers
>If she says yes then she wants to fugg, if she says no then she doesn't want to fugg
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>>18535102
If you have a room you can take the girl eventually half the work is done. Not because it does anything but because now ypu have a concrete plan. Every thing you plan must depend on going closer to the room. For example ypu meet a group of cute girls and laugh etc... evetually ask for a number or wsp. Then ask after chatting a while ask to meet her near the room. Make any excuse to get to the room. In isolation and in holidays girls are much more open to casual sex. Also use your brains and dont push too hard, but don't fall in beta territory.
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I don't have a specific question, but I'm looking for some input on my situation. If you give me any useful insight, you'll be pretty okay in my book.
>Mom has eating disorder.
>Become obese. And no, I'm not saying my mom was solely responsible.
>Being resentful of my dad cut me off from his influence, so I became more dysfunctional.
>Wage slave jobs for years.
>Get fired.
>Get unemployment, food stamps, and possibly disability in a few months.
>Losing weight, but I have a long way to go.
>Learn to cook as result of needing to drastically alter diet.
>Decide to become a chef as a career.
>Doctor says I can do as much physical activity as I want, but if I feel sharp pains, I should stop pronto or I'll have problems that'll persist for years to come.
>Try to avoid manual labor jobs.
>NEET life.
>Mother has become completely disabled.
>Dad is getting too old to take care of mom.
>Dad tells me if he croaks, I'll have to sell the house and put her in a home, which'll leave me homeless. Extended family can't be relied on.
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>>18535099
get your shit together
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>>18535099
i mean... you're a chef right? get your own place.
also if you sell the house you'll have money ot set you up in a smaller plcae. a lot of it will go to a nursing home too sure, but at that point im sure her social security will cover most if not all of that, even if its a shitty home.
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Become a chef, work your ass off & lose weight, get your shit together and win life.
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What degree can get me an easy-going job that pays well?
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>>18535029
math PhD
but you need to be talented and adventurous
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>>18535029
define 'easy-going' and 'pays well'. but if i had to guess the two are going to be contradictory.
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Film is easy going dependent on where you live
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So I've been seeing this girl(No sex yet) as I'm trying to vet her before committing, I like to take my time so as to not get burnt. I had a serious discussion with her today and I said "Why do you want to be with me?" she said she liked me lot, borderline loved me. I told her I knew she was chatting to other guys, so how deep was her love? She said she was "exploring her options" and as the conversation went on, she finally said "Okay honestly. I'm serial dater and being in relationships makes me feel wanted".
Is this girl dateable? Her last ex she was with for 1.5 years so that seems like a "long time" to me. Is that a serial dater? I looked it up and people say it's all about the honeymoon phase and that it usually lasts from 6months-1year...which sounds kinda right regarding her last relationship.
HELP
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I cut contact but urge to text her 2017-07-19 04:57:10 Post No.18534970
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I cut contact but urge to text her
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I cut contact with a woman but the urge to text her is still there. I deleted her number but I know it by heart unfortunately. She friend zoned me and being around her knowing she doesn't like me romantically was pure pain.
That was 2 months ago. There are demons in my mind suggesting I text her again. "Maybe she was out of town and couldn't return your text?" "Just text her again... just in case she didn't get the last one." "Just text asking her about her day!"
It never ends you guys. I go to sleep thinking about her. I wake up thinking about her. It's crazy that I was never in a relationship with her and yet I am ensorcelled by her.
Fuck i need help. God damn. How do I move on? I have not met another woman like her.
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>>18534970
It ends eventually. If you contact her youll just start the cycle all over again. Its almost like a death in the family, though you cant talk to the dead. Allow yourself to grieve, realize that its normal and happens to everyone, and little by little it will get easier
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>>18534970
You have to come to an understanding within yourself that she is out of your reach. Yes, it sucks. I know since I've been there. I've been in your situation and it was the absolute worst. It's easy to say "just move on" but that's what it boils down to. There's no time line for this, though. You need to feel everything that you need to feel in order to heal. Feel sad, feel angry, feel hurt. Get it all out. Eventually you'll find that you aren't as sad or as angry. Then, you'll realize that things aren't so bad without her. You're still you.
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>>18535063
My issue is that my life seemed so good when I got to be around her. My mind is tireless and just does not stop making me relive those moments thereby revitalizing the memories of her.
I feel trapped in my own head. Just reliving the past over and over and over.
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How do I find a roommate? I had something lined up but my friend fell through. I'm also new to craiglists and am not too keen on rooming with strangers but am willing if necessary. I have a few friends in mind but we're all in college and are pretty broke. No one wants to pay more than 500$.
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Hey /adv/, I contacted a job posting on craigslist (a fishing tackle shop). I got a reply back this morning saying I should fill out an application they attached on the email and get it back to the guy that sent it.
He didn't specify how to send it back, I'm guessing I should fill it out and take it to the shop in person, or should I fill it out and email it back?
Also, I have never worked retail before, what's it like?
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Taking it back in person will make it more likely you actually get a job.
Working in retail, in America where the customer is always right, means dealing with dumbass customers giving you shit for no reason and keeping your cool the whole time.
I don't envy retail workers. A fishing tackle shop seems like it would have more laid back clientele, though
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>>18534954
>Taking it back in person will make it more likely you actually get a job.
thats what I though, I just have a busy schedule today and want to get it back to them asap, I might find some time to deliver it tomorrow, maybe.
You think I should send an email like
>Thank you, I will fill it out and take it to the shop tomorrow morning
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>>18534976
Yes. Send them an e-mail thanking them for the opportunity, and saying that you've filled out the application and will bring it by at x:xx tomorrow
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So after a year of breaking up with my ex [who i see at work everyday] I started to date.
I never dated before, I am quiet ugly and I dont know how to talk to girls much.
I have managed to sleep with 3 girls in the past half-year.
However each interaction with a girl who I dont feel anything for, or I dont want to date [even if we click] feels like is ripping pieces of my soul.
Everytime I sleep with a girl its like loosing myself [I never lie to the girls, they know I dont "Want to date" ]
Should I stop dating? After every date I feel worse and worse, even if the girls want to meet up again.
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Dating sucks if you're generally someone who wants a genuine connection/relationship for exactly the reasons you outlined. Can't even tell you the damage I've done to myself over the year from the whole process, but unfortunately, its a necessary if you're that person who needs connection because you go psychotic in the lonely in-between periods from meaningful relationship to meaningful relationship.
You do feel less over time. I can promise you that. It makes things a lot easier in terms of dating, but a lot harder to actually love in the way you probably want to.
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I guess this is exactly what I feel. I am single for the first time since I was 16 [am 23] and I was planning a life with my ex, building a new kitchen etc.
Since this all felt to shit all the dates feel like "lacking" . It never leads to anything [dont mean sex, starting to not care about that]
I just cant imagine even dating any of the girls, let alone start a life.
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I was let go/fired from my last job after six months. In my job previous to that I was in a temporary contract to a recruitment company working for a company, within that company they hired someone to work for that actual company and didn't renew my actual contract.
I feel like a fuckup since I've effectively been fired twice now, the first job I only ever wanted to work in a temporary basis as I had moved for it to an area in the middle of nowhere but right now I have to apply for jobs again, feel like a failure and I'm afraid whatever got me fired the first time will stick with me. The reasons given for firing me from my most recent job are my quality of work wasn't good enough, I don't believe that and I think it was because personally I never got on with my boss, we never spoke to each other for anything other than work (she spoke to everyone else about every topic).
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> be me on a relationship
> most of time I'm busy so no social life, I speak/play with tons of people online every day.
> starts to talk with a girl online and I start to catch feelings
> I develop emotional dependence, tell her about my relationship.
> after 6 months, I break up my relationship and meet the girl online.
> new relationship with this girl.
lately we don't have a good relationship anymore, she calls me a cheater , is she right ?
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>>18534844
if i understood you correctly, then not really. usually women pluck random bad stuff from the past so they can fling em right back at you in fights.
thats what happens if you let them find out about your past relationships in the first place.
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>Be me
>19
>Talk with some old friends i have on skype while playing league
>they introduce me to this girl which lives in an island , same country thought
>they leave the call after a while so i talk with her until 9am when we both go to sleep
>we text each other for a 2 weeks or so
>I marathon a romance anime and think to myself how better it would be to have a gf
>for some reason i think of her even though you cant see her clearly in her photos
>later fall asleep to some moody music
>see me cuddling with her
>even though i dont know her face (wtf brain)
>wake up thinking if i fucked up
>when we texted each other i tried to be more careful and not as cynical as i was before subconsiously
Did i just fucking crush over a girl that i dont even know?Should i just cut ties so this shit doesnt get worse? Also she will come visit my city next year or so and stay for 4 days or so.
Help me plz
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what romance anime did you watch?
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its just an aftereffect of watching that romance anime
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>>18534864
Toradora
>>18534904
I hope so, i dont want to have to deal with shit like this