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How to break up with your depressed anxiety ridden girlfriend thread number 400
(Why do so many anons have this problem? Also discuss pity relationships in general)

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someone rolled me a joint a week ago. i've still got it. i don't know anything about weed, smoking etc. will it "go off" over time? i.e is there any rush to smoke it?

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my boyfriends mom has a drug addiction (xanax, shit like that) and its really getting to him. hes very depressed and says he just wants a normal life, and im honestly not sure what to do. im at his house a lot and his mother is usually high off her ass. (one time she literally fell asleep on me.) its a toxic environment for us both to be in and i dont want him involved in shit like this. i know its none of my business how his family functions but its really interfering with his mental health. hes not very happy anymore and he told me he doesnt think hell feel genuine happiness for a long time, or until he moves out. we both dont have our own places yet, and are still in school, so hes basically stuck until hes of legal age. his brother is severely autistic and often has very bad fits (he threw a metal toy at his dads head and made a huge gash)

what do, adv? is there any way i can do atleast something to help him get away from this toxic environment?

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I focus on one of my features really often, and I mean like really often, and it's almost ruining my life. sometimes I take pictures of myself for up to thirty minutes until I'm half-satisfied with how that feature looks, when I'm with people I'm constantly looking at that feature in either my phone camera or store window reflections or something. it's become like an impulse to take out my phone and look at it whenever possible and sometimes I end up getting caught up in my routine of taking pictures of that feature until I'm satisfied with it, and I don't realize how much time has passed. and sometimes I just avoid mirrors altogether, and tell myself I'll look at them as little as possible. I only like how it looks in poorly lit areas. whenever I walk into a room, that feature is all I'm thinking about. I'm constantly feeling my face. It's a literal impulse to feel it. every little comment someone makes about it or anything that could possibly have to do with it sticks in my head forever. like, I can perfectly remember comments people made that are many years old. I start crying uncontrollably if anyone even mentions that feature on me, even if they're just speaking in general. and honestly, I've never really acknowledged it as a problem until now? it's consumed my life honestly. so much, that i didn't even notice it had. I really don't know what's wrong though??? like i don't know if I'm just making it into a big deal or if it really is??

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So I just recently got out of high school and I had decided to take a program to help get kids into the professional workforce, we got to participate in mock interviews, learn how to impress people, etc. etc.


That was about 4 months ago, since then I have had an interview and gotten hired in a carpet mill on night shift, and I am in way the fuck over my head

>12 hour shifts
>immature and insufferable coworkers
>Exhausting Work (Mentally, Physically, and Emotionally)
>Night Shift so no social life, so plenty of depression
>Too tired to do anything else but eat, sleep, and work
>They gimped me on my benefits that they bragged so hard about

Bottom line I need to quit, but something that's stopping me is the fear of how people will react. The teachers and staff at my high school that got me into it have delusions of how nice it is at the company and see me as some sort of God-sent for their program (at least that's the impression they've set up). So they are really wanting me to stay, and I feel guilty leaving my shift since my supervisor has a hard enough job as it is.

I need to quit this shithole, that's for sure, but I need to stop caring what others think, I'm too sensitive to their needs, how do I mentally tell myself to grow a pair??

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Am I being paranoid and / or vain?

I've always hated having photos taken of myself. There are maybe 5 photographs of me from aged 14 - 24.

However,

Recently I won a short story competition and was asked to give the judges a photo of myself. I took a photo I thought was ok and it's now on the internet (and searchable). But at the ceremony itself there was a group photo which I was asked to join, and in it I look like a fucking weirdo (chubby, retarded hair etc). Someone posted it on twitter and it has like 20 likes / retweets. I am freaking out that people will look at it and not only be disgusted by how I look, but also think I'm a retard for sending the judges a photo in which I look decent.

Am I being stupid? I realize nobody really gives a shit about me, but it would be relatively easy for someone to see the photo I sent on google and then find this other photo by doing a little research.

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Hey /adv/,

I spent some time in a mental health housing program, mostly because my housing situation wasn't set up yet. Now I live in a really nice neighborhood, in a private residence, but I can't seem to get work. To kill time, I was thinking about helping my sort of stunted friend from the housing program find his own place to live. He's retired and gets social security, but I think he's illiterate and not getting any help form his social workers. He has been hospitalized in the past for severe depression. He got scammed out of his pension.

I wanted to be a social worker as a kid. This is a chance for me to help someone, and internally make up for the fact that I can't find work.

The goal is to get him thinking about what he wants to do, now that he has basically been stabilized in the housing program for ten years. Like I said, the social workers there are just asking him to leave without providing him any resources or checking his literacy. I think it's because they aren't friendly enough to motivate him, and because communication has broken down. He sounded very eager to get the hell out of that place though, when talking to me, plus he's a very friendly and inviting person.

So, my plan right now is to have him take a literacy test and write down all of his financial resources. From there, I can look at rentals and maybe a senior living center. I can also help him use community resources, and maybe help him find someone patient enough to teach him to use the computer (if he is in fact literate).

Sorry, I'm not trying to virtue signal or anything. It's just that I've been out of work for a year due to an injury I sustained running from muggers in the city. I was wondering if you guys had any feedback or advice on helping this guy find new housing and a place in the community. Now that I have made it out of my bad situation and in to a very nice place, I want to help someone else too.

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Ok then here goes
Was going in dads car too the dentist but had a call midway that i had to pick up , as I reached down for the phone two guys in a bike came in front of the car
The car was going like 25-30 km/hr so they werent injured very badly , but the windshield of the car was broken. I quitely brought it home and parked it and took the bike instead , had to go inside to keep the keys ofc. So mom was like did you just come back in the car ? And i told her that I was upstairs and she must be imagining it and just went outside for a moment but came back in as bikes are handier in traffic
Later after coming back , I took a brick and lightly smashed it against the windshield , didnt even do extra damage but left some residue , then tossed the brick close by to make it appear as an act of vandalism.

NOW
do you think i should come clean ? Or will my parents buy it ?

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21m here, it's been 4 years or so since I've got into a relationship, I've had girls shown me they're interested on me but I can't help but feel a mix of cringe and anxiety when I get too close to them, im constantly thinking it's just a waste of time to try even though I want someone to be with, how the fuck do I get over this? Please help

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20 y/o male

I've been pretty lonely for almost 2 years now. Looking back in on my life it's hard to find any successes, not sure what drove me so long.

My ego is kind of dying, don't know how else to explain it. Every day I seem to become less skilled, less capable of things I used to do. I have no more hope for the future. Actually I'm kind of terrified of being an old loner... I think about killing myself for the sake of posterity. I could still be remembered well by friends and family at this point. I do understand it's selfish but wouldn't be better than for them to see me hit rockbottom after rockbottom after rockbottom for the next 20 years?

Basically I feel crushed, by the decision to kill myself to protect my image or watch myself become the definition of failure.

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Former fatties: did your cock actually appear bigger? 205 lbs 25+% bf, I measured 3in hard and 6 when I measured bone pressed. Is there hope?

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So, let me start by saying that I am a 33 year old (ashamed to say) male virgin, and I just thought it was perfect. I met this girl a couple of years ago through work, and she was in the same training class as me. Whenever I talk to people, I have this "Power" to kind of gauge the specific person, seeing if I get any good vibes, or if they're a waste of my time. So this girl, she was cool. We had the same interests, like video games, hates onions, etc... She left the job due to, what I found out later, her, then boyfriend, was like overprotective. Saying that he didn't want anyone to look at her like she's available.

So she would add me on Facebook and we would talk back and forth, she gave me her number, so we text through there as well, like constantly. She would tell me that her boyfriend had gotten to a point where he would just argue about some stupid shit, and slowly turned into a typical trailer trash dude, even though they were together for like 5 years. One night, she would message me and say that she wouldn't want to be there, so I offered to pick her up so she can clear her mind, we would just go to a park and talk to ease her mind. It was cool, we would hang out for a couple of hours, make each other laugh. good times.

When my mom passed suddenly last year, she would offer me $120 in groceries. I declined, of course. But she did it anyway. Eventually, she moved out of the house they rented, and moved in with a dude she knew for a while, which is cool. I met him once, he seemed cool. She messaged me, and said that he went crazy, basically saying get out of my house. She ended up back in that dude's house. Later on, (Earlier this year) He got into a motorcycle accident, with no helmet. I didn't want him to die. I just hoped everything was cool, then she posted on facebook that she wanted to see him smile again.. At that moment, I realize I am forever alone. I have accepted my fate.

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My girlfriend is looking to pick up a squirting dildo for when we can't see each other and she still wants to have fun over webcam/snapchat. What are the best, cheapest ones?

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Please adv/ youve helped me out before, I met this girl in my class she's a 10, I really believe Im on her league however I dunno what is it or why she does it but, whenever I ask her out or even try to hang out with her, she becomes very flaky and comes up with the stupidiest of excuses, am I being autistic and not catching the signals or do I need to try a different aproach?

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I been meaning to do this for for a while know... and this is just me speaking my degenerate mind and splaining why I behaved the way i did or still do. All i can say know is I'm sorry... i guess. The main reason i behaved in such a matter was because of fear, it overwhelmed me, so I alienated people and started taking a nihilistic behavior. I still feel this way im just better at prettending know. Prettending i dont fear time, lossing or pretending i dont feel insecure about everything in my life. Truth is i stoped beliving in myseft, in you, in my healthy relationship and in everything. I just wanted to leet you, if you're there, that's is not youre falt is my mine for not beliving.I would cry but I'm all out of tears.So i guess this is good bye...
Yours truly Anon