Need to push away people from me in my workplace, but without being an asshole about it, as I like the paycheck for it and would like to keep getting it. Everyone tries to be friendly, and given that I am one of the three men in the entire office, with only one other being my age and the last one being older and married with kids of his own, where the majority of the employees is female, they all seem to want to buddy up, whether it's fishing for compliments or trying to gossip. I don't want to interact with these people, not a single one of them, not even my male coworkers. I can and have been civil, I nod and gesture vaguely in order to keep them somewhat at ease, but it's slowly getting on my nerves.
>>18539263
not even for a second you considered banging one of your coworkers?
>>18539269
No. That would make me involved with them, in some way, which would only bring drama and shit to my workplace eventually, one way or another.
I'm not really a social person in general, whenever I want to get laid, I just order up an escort, it's cleaner that way. If it makes any difference, I'm diagnosed with ASPD and am generally restraining myself against the most harmful aspects of it when surrounded by people who aren't my family. I have something that's been called cognitive empathy, but I rarely bother using it with anyone who's not my family.
How do I strike a balance between taking action and being patient? I'm keenly aware of the finiteness of my life, and my youth in particular. This means that most of the time I push really hard to get what I want. Usually it works out alright, but sometimes it causes issues. And when I am forced to wait for something I get very irritated.
How can I be better than this?
Can a relationship ever work if one partner is very serious & grim while the other is light hearted & bubbly?
My classmate has a crush on me and I don't get why. It's nice when she tries to play jokes on me and clowns around, but I think I'd probably just drag down her spirits if we started going out.
>>18539214
Basically the deal with my brother and his wife. He has opened up over the years and become a bit more cheerful, but he is still basically himself. She often pushes him outside his social comfort zones, which is for the better I think. I didn't know her before but I think my brother helps her take things serious when they need to be.So they kind of balance each other out a bit.
Either >>18539231 will happen, or you'll get sick of each other
I have great difficulty and often decide against approaching strange people who I find attractive at first glance, often because I have no idea what to say other than 'hello I find you attractive please have my baby', or if I discovered a decent generic introductory greeting I'd be met with a holier than thou attitude or an awkward politeness that will lead nowhere. But then again I'm not convinced that it's reasonable for a person to enter an establishment and interrupt a waitress on the job because you saw her through the window and thought she was cute. Where is the happy middle here?
I graduated college as an electrical engineering major two months ago. Because of depression and being a faggot I failed a class in my senior year and this brought my GPA down to a 2.8 at graduation. I have no internship experience because in previous summers I was told through family friends I would definintly get an internship at their company and got fucked over last minute. I am now working as an elevator mechanic making twenty an hour, and I want to die. I've applied to a lot of places, and got no responses but no. I'm not trying to be dramatic when I say I really have no desire to live. I'm so depressed I'm thinking about just going to South America and teaching people English or something because my life has no meaning and I'm alive everyday for no purpose
>>18539186
It might be possible to learn a useful programming skill while working your job. Do you have a lot of free time? you are not that specialized if you don't have a PhD so working in fields that have nothing to do with your degree is normal. So learn programming and apply better job later.
Either that or go to grad school to get better grades (which would require a scholarship).
>>18539199
There's just so many languages to learn, if a company or a job told me which ones to focus on that would be great, but I don't know what to choose. I never really enjoyed programming but at this point I would do anything just to get my foot in the door. I've thought about grad school, it's too late for the fall but maybe next fall I'll go. Thanks for the response
>>18539199
This. You need to upskill.
How does one not be bothered/offended by dumb things they randomly read on the internet?
>>18539164
By realizing not everything is about you, and being personally offended by a random stranger's post on an Iranian basket weaving forum is a waste of time and emotions.
>>18539164
You could be addicted to feeling these emotions and unintentionally seeking them out. If so try to catch yourself in the act and break the habit.
I can only get really wet/aroused when watching hentai and my boyfriend could never really get me going because of this idk what to do ive tried to stop watching it and start stearing my way to watching real porn to hopefully help but it doesnt help ? What do i do?
This morning I had a terrible migraine so bad I called into work so I took two ibuprofens and then two excedrin migraines. Along with that I had coffee and a hot shower so I'm feeling better in that regard. Of course, the problem with this and the reason I try not to take too many pain relievers often is it gave me bad constipation. What can I do to relieve this without putting myself into a loop of minor medical issues?
Sometimes headache is caused by neck muscles problems. Try massaging slowly and with a costant pressure your back neck, starting from where the occipital bone ends to the beginning of the collarbone, almost sliding the fingers, from top to bottom and viceversa, while restin your head. It's better if someone else does it though
I think you misread my question. My headache is gone but I now have constipation from the pain relievers. I am familiar with headache treatment options since I get headaches very often and try to only take ibuprofen when it's bad enough that it interferes with daily tasks (so not often.)
girl compliments me on regular basis, but doesnt show any other signs of attraction, maybe she is just being nice but, how do i respond to her compliments to bring attraction
>>18539077
I'm in this same situation OP and honestly I'd say just wait it out and evaluate the signs she's showing and determine if you think she's into you or not.
>>18539077
Just be generally honest with her, and tell her she's pretty, and that she looks good.
>>18539084
signs? such as..?
I just broke things off with someone because I felt a strong attraction and it wasn't mutual.
She said just hanging out with someone should be enough and if I spend my whole life only talking to girls if I get to bang then I won't get very far.
Though I agree with her statement I'm just trying to save myself the drama, I thought it wise to kill this shit before it goes any further but I may have acted too quick. I'm barely convinced it wasn't mutual but I'd rather take her on her word than play any games.
Mostly venting but just wondering if anyone's been here before and if I done the right thing. She was pretty fucking beautiful..
>>18539031
I have done the exact same thing fellow anon. You have probably fucked it. You'll probably feel guilty about it for a while and then go back to her, I thought I could cut her off but it isn't that simple. Give it a couple of months of no contact and if you feel shitty about it try and get back to her. She will be pissed.
Or just find another grill to hook on to and non of the above will even matter
>>18539104
I met this girl while she was travelling the world, after today she will probably leave and never come back. She was contemplating staying longer cuz we were having fun just hanging out as friends but I wanted more and "threw my toys out of the pram". Can't decide if I'm smart as hell or dumb as fuck
I got her number and I want to call her so bad. Instead I'm here and nervous. How do I shake off my nerves and talk to this girl?
>>18539028
Text her, ask her what is she doing and if she wants to go out on date with you?
>>18539030
It's that simple? It's been like 3 days and trust me I talk to girls all the time but she is really nice and I don't want to fuck it up
>>18539028
Just keep it simple. The longer you wait to ask her out the more stressful it would be.
Just think of any fun sounding activity or upcoming event, call her, and ask if she wants to go with you.
If she wants to get to know you she'll say yes. If she does not she'll say no.
That's all there is to it.
Hey adv. I have mental illness, but recently I've been diagnosed with bipolar ii.
I've been pretty open about my depression and anxiety with my friends and family. Should I continue to be?
I'm afraid people's opinions will change. Suddenly I'll go from "person having a hard time" to "fucking crazy."
I don't know how to feel. The medications one can take for this have wicked, bad side affects. But it's better than wanting to kill myself I guess?
I don't know what to think or what to do.
>>18539025
P-pls respond
>>18539025
I stopped telling people, it's none of their business.
Have you tried cycling through the alternative medications available to you? A person I know was cycling through a number of different kinds over the course of a year because the side effects were too bad to deal with.
Where can I go talk about suicide? Facebook isn't the right place, and I need to vent or I'll probably be seeing a horizon I was once scared of. These feelings won't go away, but I might. This isn't who I am, just how I feel.
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Pretty nice fellas there with whom you can talk
Hi everyone. In a few days i'm going in a holiday just for one day. The place is a kind of hotel with spa pool and other things like that. Now, my request is: Can i, in only a few hours, have sex with a girl? Maybe not virgin can be easier, but idk im a bigginer. Can some one help me with some advice?
Sorry for my english
Time is not my friend, when i arrive i think i've 9 hours or something like that to seduce someone
Petting is well too
>>18538977
Very unlikely,but you never know
Hi /adv/, I can't seem to find anything about this online. I have just gotten a mortgage on a property that I was hoping to add a permanent addition to. My question is do I have to pay off the mortgage to add to it or can I build while I am paying?
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