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Over the past year, I basically got mentored by a friend on how to live life. She was quite like the average poster on 4chan, but maybe a bit more depressed and lazy. Anyways, she basically taught me to only depend on myself, and that the only person who could make me happy is myself. Eventually, she disappears from my life and unlike previous friendships, I didn't feel sad. I learned what I needed from her, and felt at peace.

Now that I'm no longer being mentored by her, I've begun to socialize with others a tiny bit more, especially with a friend I met a few years ago. This person was a girl I met at a summer program, and we went on a few dates, but never anything serious. We remained friends, but during the time I was being mentored I was very distant.

I'm now at a point where I don't know if I should try and create a strong bond with this girl or stay distant. If I try to make a strong bond (or even date, cuz we both realize that's an option), I may become dependent on another person for happiness. If I stay distant, I might miss out on what could have been.

I've been at peace with myself for these past few months, and I don't know if it's worth the risk to trust other people. On the same hand, it's been a long time since I've seen people romantically and had close bonds with people.

Any advice is good, all ears here.

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I've suffered with chronic fatigue and anxiety spikes for years and years. Ruined my life, I dont have the energy to listen or to engage in small talk/answering questions so I shoo everyone off because it's easier. I can't learn anymore. I can drive, work and exercise but I can't do a damn thing that takes learning energy. I've experimented with sleep cycles, felt the same. Mornings are mistake. Sleep study found nothing, prozac did nothing, effector did nothing, wellbutin did nothing. My brain is immune it seems. I physically am healthy. Doctor then referred me to a neurologist and explained the best I can but they said "I show no symptoms of neurological issues" and wanted to test my vitamin b12 even after explaining my diet is fine and I've taken multi vitamins for a long time.

I can't handle noise. I hate living with people and I'm too far in student loans and car payments to move into a quiet apartment. I truly want to die. I can't take anymore bullshit in my life. But I still have to be careful since I could easily lose my precious (albeit low paying) job

I'm out of money for anymore specialists, meditation requires the mental energy I can't scrape. Should I just honestly kill myself?

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>start dating girl
>clearly attracted to each other
>mother finds out
>"is she religious?!?!"

so I'm more or less Christian/Catholic and she's Agnostic

is there any way to help this situation or am I doomed to maternal disappointment?

obvsly love comes first

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From 1st grade through highschool I've been picked on about the generic stuff n all. And I have this fear of people insulting me without me knowing, which has turned me into a kinda cold but nice guy. And I separate myself from people because of that fear.But this fear holds me back from social interaction to even going outside. How can I break this ?
>It's summer break and I've been in my house for weeks, and my parents are sending me to the beach with some of my siblings. I need to break this fear fast.

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>college
>club hopping for extra credit
>meet qt girl
>only talk to her a few times out of whole year
>brief, but friendly conversations; very nice girl
>no feminism, no political or religious bullshit; just chill and unassuming
>occasionally spot her staring at me when she thinks I'm not looking; but that's it
>exchange facebooks at the end of one term, yet barely keep in touch
>leave occasional comments on her posts, she replies, nothing more
>still hardly know her
>recently announces she's single on facebook (but looking to stay that way)
>wasn't aware she had a boyfriend, but m'kay
>two weeks later, she invites me out with her friends for this weekend
>mitebcool.jpg

So should I just give up hope here already? I'm gonna go, but I feel like I shouldn't get my hopes up and expect much to happen between us.

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So tomorrow, I'm planning on going to a local guitar shop where a cute girl works. I was wondering if any /adv/ anons had suggestions as to what to say to get her to open up and talk to me? I've not been in the dating game for that long, been single for about a year and just not getting back into it.
Is asking her how she likes working there a good start? Help

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I'm an entering sophomore in my hometown community college living with my parents. For reasons both in and out of my control I fucked up my freshman year and have only really just began to get my shit together this year.
I think I've squandered my chances of transferring into any really good university with my academic history. A community college a few hours away has a program which guarantees admission with an AA from them into the university nearby which is one of my top three choices. I planned on doing this to give me the best chances of getting into the university and then working my ass off to get into the college of my major.


My family has let me know that they wouldn't be able to support me once I leave home. I'll need to find an apartment, hopefully some roommates, a new job, etc. This will be my first time living alone. Living relatively frugally how much student loan debt can I expect to accumulate for about three years of rent, food, tuition, etc. with a minimum wage part time to supplement?

People who have to put themselves through college do this right? Anyone with experience have any advice?

Thanks in advance.

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Whether it's sharing an apartment with someone, or renting a room from someone's house, tell me everything I need to know about splitting rent. I'm also a 20 year old woman, so keep that in mind when thinking of safety.

Additionally, I have a 75 lbs., very active, 1 year old dog. How many square feet do I need, minimum, between myself, my dog, and 1 other person? I currently live in a spacious 3 bedroom house with a backyard with my family, but am obviously moving out soon-ish.

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My girlfriend broke up with me in may because i cheated on her. She hated me, became ok with me and is now going to spend saturday(day before my birthday) drinking and smoking alone in her house with me... Am I back I back in? Is it too early to try and make a a move?

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I want some advice on when to ask this girl out. Last semester I talked to this cute girl in an academic lounge at my college. We were both waiting to meet with our professors and had nothing better to do. She seemed nice, but I wasn't sure how much of it was because of us clicking vs her just being a nice person. Later on in the semester, I make some new friends and it appears that she is a mutual friend of some of them. They aren't my main friend group, but I do get to sit with them at times. She actually turns out to be a rather quiet and reserved person in group situations. Sadly, because of this, I don't really get to know her much better.

Near the end of the semester, I'm at the school cafe and see her eating by herself. I was worried I wasn't yet familiar enough with her, but I decide to ask to sit with her. She seems pretty happy to have me sit with her, and we talk for two hours. It goes pretty well, she even remembers small details about our first conservation that even I forgot! During the summer, I FB messaged her, and we chatted for a bit. We only did this once, since I didn't want to seem desperate.

This girl seems really nice, and I'm considering asking her out sometime once college starts up again. How should I do it? Should I do it the first time I meet her? The second time? Should I wait a while and build up more interactions? She's a quiet and introspective person who sometimes lacks self-confidence, should this change my approach to asking her out at all?

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My employer got me bum fucked, am I able to post links to a gofundme here?

Generally, the girls that I work with fired me for trying to get one of their friends reprimanded. Everything in me wants to call out sexism, that they did this because I was the only man in the workplace and they saw me as lesser because of it. I don't want to say that's what it was, but it's probably just my hope getting the best of me.

I have all the info on my gofundme page, but I don't know if I'm allowed to post that here, is that soliciting?

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So my neighbor definitely abuses his dog.

Other neighbors and my family have heard his dog occasionally yelping and screaming but not like a dog normally would. Another neighbor said they thought a dog had been hit by a car and that's pretty much it.

Christmas eve someone got in a fist fight with him because while putting out the trash, they saw him pick the dog up and throw it, then proceeding to kick it as they cussed it out. When the dog owner got called out he got physically (he was definitely intoxicated) but when the police showed up he cried and boo hoo he's ~young and stupid and sorry it won't happen again :(

Today as soon as I got out of my heard I just heard his dog screaming with no pausing in between just minutes straight of a dog screaming. I'm not a dog person, I'm not special snowflake vegan, but even the day we put my dog out because she was crying out in pain she never screamed like that. I checked a few minutes late and the dog was STILL screaming bloody murder. It was dark but I heard him open the door and yell "Get out you fucking bitch!" which was when I went inside because honestly the guy's unstable.

I called the non-emergency number and they sent an officer but he left after giving a warning and I thought that just doesn't seem right.

tl;dr Neighbor abuses his dog and is unstable. Can I do something to this fucker so he cuts this shit out. Police don't seem to really care.

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Foods and drinks to make your man milk taste better? Foods and etc to avoid?

Just curious.

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so i met this girl a few months back and immediately we hit it off and got along amazingly well. went on a little lunch date, nothing serious, had a good time. she went off abroad for a month, came back, we started texting.

>asks me if i want to hang out
>says we should go on a "cute date"
>we meet up in the city, bar hop
>have a legitimately great time
>she seems to be really receptive of me
>sitting close at the bar, legs touching, shes leaning close, etc
>walk her back to her train
>anticipating she'll leave a window for me to kiss her
>she does a weird sort of side arm hug
>back away, wait for another window
>she does the side arm hug again once we do our final goodbyes
>acting completely normal in text after

so, second "date". we have a great time. she's really comfortable around me and not really awkward at all, so i dont think nerves is the case but, do you think she's into me? or does this sound more like a "friend date" thing? a kiss isn't a very serious thing, just kinda shows that both parties are interested in something mildly serious/intimate. she's mentioned recently breaking up with her ex within the past year or so whom she dated for a while, so maybe thats a factor but, i'm not sure.

i'm really confused. it was an amazing night but that ending kinda just makes me feel like i misjudged the whole thing. now i feel pretty shitty.

what do you guys think?

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>3 days ago at around 5 am I went to bed
>wake up an hour later with a painful(about a 5 or 6 out of 10, 10 being Extremely Painful) throbbing on my right testicle and my lower right abdomen
>immediately stand up
>was to drowsy to know what caused it
>either I slept on my right testicle or my boxers were chocking the thing
>awake at this point
>testicle still looks fine after checking a mirror
>pain lasts a good 5-10 mins before it disappears
>go back to bed
>throughout the days after the event, I occasionally experienced slight discomfort/ sore feeling on my right testicle

Is this something I should be concerned about? The pain I felt at first hasn't returned, but I still occasionally get slight discomfort when I try to lay down a certain way.