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You sound like a deeply unpleasant and unempathetic person. No one wants to hang out with you because you seem like a complete prick.

>>18544911
Scientist here.

The funny thing about mono is that it's estimated that something like 99% of all humans already have the virus in their system since childhood.

It stays dormant and lurks in your system until a time in your early adulthood when your immune system is weak, then it strikes.

So, she probably already has the mono virus, so you're all good. It'll hit her eventually at some point no matter what.

>>18544922
Just like Herpes!

>>18544922
Thanks and so how long should i wait to kiss her ?

Cut sugar and carbs out of your diet. Eat healthy fats and protein. Get your saturated and unsaturated fats.

Also if you want to burn off day then exercise while you fast. Or before you eat in the morning go for a jog or do jumping jacks

As the previous post says, cout out carbs and sugar.
There's some good research that says carbs act unproportionally on your metabolic consumption of calories, to put it very oversimplified, you'll get fatter from the same amount of calories if they contain carbohydrates.

I struggled with being a fat for most of my life, but about a year ago, I cut most of the carbs out. I'll still eat some sweets and have a weekly burger/pizza whatever, but the cruicial point was getting rid of the "meat, little bit of veg and a healthy condiment of carbs" meal paradigm and switching it up.
As an example of a meal, you can make yourself a "hearthy salad", a few tomatoes, some cucumber, beans, an egg, some mozzarela and maybe a can of tuna (or grilled tuna if you're not the lazy type) and just a pinch of olive oil. No other dressings though, they are the silent calorie bomb.
Anyway, this gives you a full family sized salad bowl of food, which should fill up your stomach even if you're a particularly voracious type, while only being ~1000 calories, which is half a day's worth, but also containing plenty of vitamin, fibre, protein and all that other crap.
Then you can mix it up by varying the contents.
Basically, just replace all the carb condiments with mountains of various veg.

The second part is exercise.
Here, I'd really recommend bicycling. If you live in a city, you can use it to commute and that'll add like 30min-1hour of light daily exercise to your life and it's much more fun than being stuck in traffic.
It's also one of the easier forms of aerobic exercise where you can just keep going and going, there's less stress on your joints compared to walking or running and so on.
And it's nice, since you can go see places and nature while simultaneously exercising.

Anyway, the combination of these two things helped me go from 100kg to almost 80kg in "just" a span of two summers without all the suffering of strict dieting, laborious, expensive hours at the gym and all that shit.

>>18544970
>>18545023
I'm on a lower carb diet, but I'm not carb-free yet. I won't be able to do that until mid September.
I tried the salad you mention once before in my life: I lost like 40 pounds one summer eating only salad. It was pretty sweet, but I was also working a night shift at a fast food restaurant—that's why I was only eating salad, because fats disgusted me after working around them too much. Back then (20 years ago?) there wasn't much carb research in the news, but the salads I was eating were pretty much zero carb unintentionally.

Been exactly the same by your age
Cut any and all contact with her. Delete her of all your social media, delete songs that remind you of her, delete any and all pictures you might have of her. Literally detox yourself of her.

Also, use what you learned as a parameter of what you don't want. Most things you're attached to her now are things you can get with any other girl, you just don't realize it because you're inexperienced
>b-but her smile and her laugh and the sex
Yeah, you're having the same feelings when you fall for someone else

Hit the ground running, when I was your age online dating wasn't even a thing, do that, talk to dozens of girls, make a fool of yourself, learn with your mistakes and get yourself a new qt when you feel like

>>18544846
lol it's much easier this way to get new organs

>>18544846
Sounds like a good idea. Many times before I've thought of a reverse 4chan board where people just help each other out, promoting motivation and productivity in life in general.

Afaik there is alredy a website for this that is pretty damn advanced. Its all free and you can talk to confirmed-non robot people with experience either as an problem holder or helper.

Found it.. Its called 7cups. You can choose your consultant or be one yourself but you have to work yourself up which is annoying. This here is by far the easiest way to get help fast

Dont want to talk about quality tho..

yes i have the biggest ones I ever saw on somebody. Start pull-ups and you will get the nicest back of your friends.

Yes. By lifting heavy weights 3 times a week with a barbell at gym.

>>18544832
get fit or fat

lol when you figure this one out, let me know.

people have been trying to answer this question since the beginning of time.

just gotta kinda move on i guess.

>>18544819
>open xvideos
>browse for dick and gay videos
>monitor your pecker for hardness

It's that simple. You might be bi. I have a gf but I enjoy watching trap or jerk of videos for the dick, but every time I see a dick irl I get instantly repulsed. Go figure

>>18544819
Stop being an attention whore because it's fashionable to be a mentally ill faggot/trap these days

>>18544819

we dont know. the only way to really know is for you to check out porn and then check out how you feel about it irl, but most people who come here just want an answer about their sexuality without having to explore it, rather silly.

its not gay to like traditionally masculine features in general, but it does depend what extent. if the girls you like might as well be ftm thats a little gay.

I think one issue we run into a lot here though is people think there's only 'gay/straight/bi'.

imagine if someone posted here saying 'i really like the idea of fucking horses, does that make me gay? I really like the idea of sex with fruit, is that gay?'

you might not be straight in the traditional sense, but that doesn't make you gay or bi either. you might have something specific. as much as i hate to side with tumblr I do think there are other sexualities. beastiality kinda proves that point.

that being said another issue is that people aren't asking because they want to know, they are asking because they are afraid of 'gay'. evne though we say we are fine with gays and gay people a lot of people become upset at the idea that they might be gay. and it has nothing to do with the sexuality, but rather the way people treat gays.

Charliehorse. Go get some powerade and chugg a few, and do some leg stretches (go easy so as not to further injur yourself).

>>18544850
Either this or a pinched nerve.

>>18544850
It probably is over work. I work a manual labour job and its been 7 weeks straight since I had a break but I'm on holiday now.
It's hard to tell which muscle it is, I think it's the Semitendinosus and when I stretch it it feels like pulling a metal bar.
Why Powerade?

>>18544853
My friend said pinched nerve too. Guess I just need lots of rest.

>>18544794
You can't really appreciate being in love at all if you don't love yourself first. When people love you and you don't love yourself, you doubt their intentions and it becomes a point of anxiety. When you're IN LOVE but you don't love yourself, you doubt your ability to keep this person and on top of that fear that your feelings won't be returned or are not genuine. This also causes anxiety. Your picture is pretty spot on.

My actual relationship advice is to not take relationship advice. If it's your choice and decision, I'm sure you'd come to a good rational decision you're happy with without anyone's help. You'd be amazed at how much within yourself you can actually do, once you get past that overthinking stage. Just be yourself and upfront, and she might just be receptive to it. Do it friendly if you have to

>>18544769
Hah, I'm on the same boat, anon. Exactly the same situation: one date, we've been talking, she's really receptive but I don't know what to do.

I'm just going to let it happen and see where it goes.

Nothing serious because you've done it for only 3 days. Continue it for years and you could get diabetes or have heart problems. If you eat like shit you will feel like shit.

>>18544765
Sugar and salt make you turn into sugar and salt

>>18544765
Just out of curiosity, where are you from?

Japanese hobby, that.

You mean to say you couldn't turn round and see who was right behind you?

>Implausible.jpeg

or even look at the fucking photo and look who was behind you, even?

I feel you man. I had this feeling throughout most of my life until I found my recent friends.
Never had any incoming calls.
Never got messages.
Always had to initiate conversations.
When I try to get close to people, I fail.
And so on and so forth.

And a certain point I realized I was being too picky about friends. I always wanted to hang out with the popular ones too, but when I finally did... I still felt lonely.
I stopped choosing them and just went with any person that I could. Yeah, with many of them ,if not most, I stopped talking. But I finally found a group of friends whom I can hang out on a weekly basis (and sometimes even more).
And sometimes share and vent to them.

My point is... Search in the unlikely places, as well as in the likely places. It can be via hobbies or some sort of social movement. Even church.

Also, be yourself and be honest. (But not too honest. Also, don't be too clingy but don't let them forget you.)

>>18544624
HOW TO MEET PEOPLE

Don't look for people. Look for things to do. Join a club, join a gym, do volunteer work, take a class, hang out at the comic book store. You'll be among others doing the same thing, and chatting about what you're doing will be natural. Someone will suggest a bunch of you go out for a drink. Some in the bunch will become friends