Are there any socially acceptable ways for an adult to seek attention and validation?
>>18592034
Work hard and give great gifts.
>>18592038
Work hard in what?
I do the best that I can at work but there's still people there who are faster and stronger and nobody still gets praise. The shift manager will come tell you if you're doing shit but outstanding performance gets you nowhere special.
>>18592034
Why do you need attention
I actually thought when you kiss a girl you should put your tongue inside her mouth, apparently you should just kiss her lips????
>>18592008
Whoever told you that is a cuck
Depends on personal preference. Not everyone enjoys kissing with tongue, some prefer tongue to be a minimal element thrown in there. Many do enjoy french kissing.
>>18592008
There are different types of kissing
Hello everyone,
27 year old male here with trouble with women lol.
I met this cute theatre actress chick a couple of weeks ago on tinder.I really liked her but because of my bad memory i fucked up big time. So we finally have time to get together and fuck. Everything is fine, we continue with an hour long cuddle afterwards she starts rubbing her butt on my penis we both have pants. I understan from this that she wants sex again so i undress and she springs out of the bed hysterically "what the fuck are you doing ? I told you only with condom" im like what the fuck was that !?!?!?!??. Indeed she told me that but i was high when she did. So i totally forgot. Everything went flawlessly uptil that single moment. She left imediately and told me she never wants me back. Wtf?
Its almost a week since that happened and i really want her back.
Is she coo coo in the head for overeacting like that?
I do understand she might have trust issue but i think she over reacted.
What should i do? Leave her alone forever because its lost?
Maybe she is crazy and should avoid?
I honestly want her back but i tried to explain she said she forgave me but she never wants to see me? Do i have ANY chances?
Please help. Thank you...
One last thing to note is that we went out together on dates and went out with friends. We had the chemestry but she said she only wants for us to be fuck buddies. She was really undecided and did not act like she wanted to be only fuck buddies. She was hysterical at times but very undecided most of the time.
Bump2
>>18591993
Seriously OP. Never wants to see you means never wants to see you. What the fuck do you expect when you meet on a fuck app and do not know the person at all. There are no expectations so this fuck didn't happen with this girl go back to tinder.
I peed on the gloves I use for carpal tunnel and tried watching them off but now they're still just wet and sticky. I don't think they can survive a wash but this is basically my tipping point. We'reing them right now and it just doesn't feel right.
nigga wat
>>18591992
these
>>18591997
Run them through the laundry you dumbshit. You're real problem is that you're an idiot, but unfortunately that's not your only problem.
So I have this female friend of mine, we've known each other for years, yet we've been friends for the last two or three years.
She's always asking me for advice on various stuff, and she has confined in me some of her "secrets".
Anyway, she started sending me "cute" selifes and shit couple of months back, and she know suggested me going out for drinks (we're both on holiday now). I've been out with her, but never just the two of us.
Am I missing something?
Is this a hint?
Am I just being a paranoid fuck?
>>18591976
go with her and see
>>18591989
We've been talking about an occasion were we were both drunk, and then said the thing about going out for a drink, in a "playful way" (she said "they'd carry me back home" and then I said "who you and your bf -IMPORTANT NOTE SHE DOESN'T HAVE A BF IT'S A FUCKING JOKE NO I'M NOT AUTISTIC- and then she said just her").
How do I bring it up without sounding weird or going out alone with a bunch of girls?
>>18591976
She wants to suck your cock anon. She is probably wondering if you are gay right now, ignoring all the signs and all.
How do I find a girl willing to have sex with me without paying money if I'm fat and ugly?
>>18591962
No advice for me?
>>18591962
depends on how ugly and fat..
>>18591962
look for fattier and uglier and / or less race worthy.
>she constantly asked me for small sums of money randomly. Usually 5 bucks
>always asked me to take her to doctor's appointments a couple of times
> Got pissed off when she didn't get her way many a time.
>she generally was ]loathed in town because she did a cam show once
>she moved in with a chinese restaurant owner and provided him with sexual favors in exchange for services.
>Started doing heroin last year
>she became homeless for 3 months after escaping rehab with a 45yr old dude
> got hep C from him from sharing needles
>he died 6 times from an overdose
>was planning on marrying him for "benefits"
>she broke up with him after they fought
>he stalked her for awhile and wrote all sorts of horrid shit about her
>she came home after she was being harassed by him after she beat his ass
>she got harassment beating charges and she
>she was ecstatic that he died and the charges were dropped
>everything was fine for awhile
>she said she wanted to fool around with me again after coming home
>about a week ago she cut me off
>she exploded at me 5 months after the fact for telling her parents
and said that we were too different and we should part ways
Why do I hang out with her you ask?
>She was honestly the strangest person I ever met.
>She had connections everywhere and lived a weird life
I lost my virginity to her in a fourstep program about a year ago before the heroin
>first time I kissed her and she told me to cum on her
>second time she gave me a bj and I licked her nipple till she came
>third time I actually had penetrative sex with her, with a condom and we made out for hours afterward
>fourth time I fucked her while she was wearing clothes because it was cold
Idk, I am so hurt right now I am not sure if there will ever be another
I have never really been good with women.
That's her with the scum shit
WOW THAT'S FUCKED...
Honestly you should just run.
>>18591956
run and never turn back no matter how desperate for sex or weird life you are.
>my 0.02c
8/10 would fall into same trap. Be grateful you made it out, because friends like this can get you killed or at least make you wish you were dead. That said, post more pics
Ok, so iv been seeing this one girl who is flirting openly with me and she slept 3 days in my house without us having sex but always on verge of doing it.The thing whats bothering me and why i didnt want to do anything further with her is that she started going into bed of my brother ,wtf?? Now we are all acting like some group of friends in this house and she lays down infront of me with my brother who doesnt want it but doesnt mind it either. Am I retarded or something, should i tell her she cant just flirt/sleep with both of us at the same time.I feel realy disgusted by all of this.I told her to leave and now im thinking what to do with all of this.Should i ghost her?
>tl dr
>seeing a girl whos flirting with me
>she spends time at my place,with us close to having sex
>she starts flirting/cuddling with my brother
>what to do with her?
It sounds like she's been waiting for you to make a move for the past 3 days, and decided if you won't, your brother might
does your brother live with you?
>>18591922
throwing a long ball here, maybe she wants both?
How do I know if I have ADHD or just lack discipline?
>inb4 go see a doctor
>my doctor asked me if I was an organized person and then diagnose me with light ADHD and sent me home with adderall
I'm doing fine in school with my lazy ass attitude now, but feel angry because can't instil discipline in myself to perform at my potential.
>>18591909
Of course it is. And now that you know it you can work on it. You can get your inner nigger shackled down with enough will power. Personally I like to borderline overdose on coffee. And that point you are so hyped so will have to do something. Getting your room cleaned is a god start. Than make a shedule of to do shit. Stay realistic and start with thinks which go easier.
>>18591909
You fucking lack discipline and here looking for an excuse. Stop trying to diagnose yourself with a problem to avoid responsibility. Suck it up, buckle down and make something of yourself.
>>18591909
your doctor sounds like a lazy fuck. I diagnosed myself with ADHD and went to see a doctor to see if I was correct, he agreed with me and now I'm doing much better
How to tell? take the fucking drugs and see if there's any difference. If there isn't, then it's the latter
I can never tell when there's chemistry between a girl and me. What are some signs that there's chemistry?
>inb4 no one ever liked me therefore no chemistry
>>18591898
well, unfortunately most of the signs of chemistry can be one sided. or even people outside of you can think you have great chemistry but she wont feel it. even if she does feel it she might just feel it as a friend unfortunately.
there's no real answer, but if you guys can talk easily and there's a flow to everything and it just seems exciting and it keeps kinda just going on its own, there's chemistry.
>>18591899
Unfortunately I've been in that situation dozens of times and its always been one sided. It would be nice to see it on both sides.
The chick I'm talking to at the moment seems cool, we both like a lot of the same things and we have great conversations, but I really don't want it to go down the one-sided road again. i'm getting real tired of it.
>>18591898
>What are some signs that there's chemistry?
The very first sign is that you don't ask yourself if there is chemistry or not.
I have these fucking lines on my face that make me appear older. Not only do I have the nasolabial folds, but also marionette lines and the skin under my eyes is sagging. I feel like a 40 year old man and look haggard but I just turned 24. This became more apparent when I started gaining some weight and it's still not going away after dropping 20 pounds. What else can I do to get rid of them? It's destroying my social life. Everyone always told me I looked younger than I actually was and now I look much older and tired than my peers. I drink nothing but water, exercise, wear sunscreen, don't smoke or drink and my diet has been shit for the past few years but I'm fixing that now.
>>18591890
Maybe just style yourself more like an older handsome fellow? how are your facial hair genetics? can you pull off the stubbled look?
>>18591894
I'd like to pull off the stubbled look but I can't grow any facial heard without it looking like a facial mess. My face doesn't look like it's maturing, but more like it's drooping kinda like and aids patient.
>>18591905
Your face doesn't look drooping in your photo, OP
So /adv/
I'm a KHV neet wizard about to go back to school
Should I avoid trying to date anybody since I'm so undesirable?
If not, should i use tinder or okcupid or what?
Should I just look for relationships of convenience instead a long term thing? I kinda really just want physical affection.. I want a gf stable but i don't think i am capable of fulfilling the role as a bf in a relationship. Especially not 'on my first outing' as it were
What the fuck to do?
Just been hit with a bout of loneliness as of late
thanks for your time /adv/, even if all you do is read and call me a faggot or something
>>18591887
>Should I avoid trying to date anybody since I'm so undesirable?
But how bad do you fucking look? And you better not post your face.
Improve your physical appearance if you want a date, no one wants to be friends with that greasy smelly retard that forgot to take a shower and his crotch smells worse than his armpits.
>If not, should i use tinder or okcupid or what?
Sex = Tinder
LTR = OkCupid most of the time, but sex as well
>Should I just look for relationships of convenience instead a long term thing? I kinda really just want physical affection.. I want a gf stable but i don't think i am capable of fulfilling the role as a bf in a relationship. Especially not 'on my first outing' as it were
If you're that unsure, then just lose your virginities and maybe live the celibate life.
I need to sleep but some anon will answer you better.
Hopefully.
>>18591912
I meant my KHV neet wizard status being the undesirable part
As for appearance.. I could probably put in minimal effort and figure out how to look decent. but fashion/appearance related shit bores me which is why i haven't already done it. Plus i'm self conscious. If a new look doesn't resonate with me i'll just hate it even though it might look great to anyone else. being in my head sucks lol. suffice it to say, m biggest issues are hairstyle and dress. if you don't count me having the personality of a tape dispenser
Ok i'll try to remember that about tinder and okc. May give tinder a spin though my friend suggested i might use that.. or maybe it was okc.. anyway thanks for that bit of info
>If you're that unsure, then just lose your virginities and maybe live the celibate life.
I've considered it. But i also dont want my first time be that story i've read here and there on soc and r9k...
fucks some mediocre to decent partner. feels like shit afterwards, hollow, etc
Thats the third reason i haven't more seriously considered using escorts - just how empty it supposedly is (aside from addicted people anyway) the other two being potential STDs and money obviously
>>18591934
Your self-consciousness makes you seem needy, and most girls don't fuck with guys who are needy.
You're lucky you're not fat or disfigured or anything, getting a haircut and buying new clothes is simple. Most new fashion doesn't look good on anyone unless you're gay or a celebrity anyways. Just keep it simple.
Don't use dating apps because dating apps are for faggots. Don't use Tinder especially if you're looking for something more special than a mediocre hookup with some chick that will probably give you STD's.
All you need to do is get confident.
When you get confident, approach girls.
I fucked up the other night. I have a very close friend of mine who is not okay. I've known her since sophomore year of high school, and fell in love with her. Recently I found out about her horrible past. She's been raped, used, abused, you name it. She opened up to me recently because her best friend, the only person she somewhat trusts, told me some secrets of hers. I'm the second person she trusts the most, even though she trusts me very little. She has severe trust issues because of this. The other night I pulled an all nighter talking to her over text and in my caffeine fueled stupidity, told her how much I cared about her, and that I want to help mend her scars and be able to trust other people. She kept saying that it's not solvable, and to drop it, and to never mention it again and she'll be happy. I told her I can promise that but I still want to help her live life to the fullest. She hasn't responded and its been about 2 days. What should I do from here?
>>18591815
I'll tell you now. Your "friendship" is over. She was just using you as an emotional tampon and doesn't want to be closet than that. Guys and girls cant be friends. They can get along but triends? Nope.
>>18591815
OOf
>>18591815
Well one thing girls hate is an obvious knight in shining armour, wanting to save the day. I've been there myself and wew, don't go there. Don't think you can save anyone, you might help a tiny bit but not much more, unless they go to you and ask you for help.
How do I stop being such a horny slut??
I crave sex all the time, and if it's not fuck-me-up-use-my-holes sex I'm not completely satisfied. I've been with a guy for a year but he's hardly ever horny and I find myself flirting with other men to fill the void. Will I ever be sexually satisfied in a relationship or will I always want more? What can I do?
>>18591810
You have your priorities reversed. You have a guy (who doesn't fit you well), and you're trying to change yourself to fit him. This is as silly as cutting off parts of your feet to fit into shoes that are far too small.
The healthy response is to find a relationship that fits you better.
>>18591810
You're probably a nymphomaniac, having a period or you're only thinking of sex and not having a normal life like you should.
And there's a difference between 1st and 3rd.
You should be able to masturbate more, and if that guy you've been with is your boyfriend, then maybe breakup before you cheat on him and feel like shit.
Calm your ovaries and as a final advice, do something else like enjoying life, watching your favorite romcom, feel romantic instead of sexual and remember what happens when you have lots of sex with many men, STDs!
Oh and I'm not giving the best advice so, hopefully a nice, cute and girly Anonette will help you out better than I do.
>>18591839
But he's such a good guy...
Though your advice is probably right
So I'm kinda new to dating, I never had the energy, time, nor the bravery to go for it up until now. I've dated a few different girls now through online dating. The first two girls I ended up dating a few times before stopping because they were too different to me.
Now I've dated a girl that is very similar to me in many ways, but I'm confused about whether I'm interpreting what she said at the end of the date correctly.
At the end she asked about whether I was looking for friends or dating, and I said potentially either (I know, pretty beta, I wasn't thinking straight). Then she went on to say that she'd gone through a bad breakup recently and so she was open to continuing to meet up for coffee as friends for now.
I figured that was just a way of saying that she wasn't interested, but there's a few things that have me thinking otherwise.
1. We had really great 2 hour conversation over coffee, we had similar views on a lot of topics and very similar hobbies. She didn't give off any impression of being disinterested at the time.
2. She seems a little shy and soft spoken, maybe she meant she wants to move things slow.
3. When I messaged her saying I enjoyed hearing about her X, she replied the same. If I had told a girl I was only interested in being friends, I wouldn't bother replying personally.
Thoughts? Is it worth pursuing her further? I really like her, I can accept it if she doesn't reciprocate those feelings (plenty of other fish in the sea) but I don't have enough experience to know if my interpretation is solid or not.
bump. Should I ask her out again? Should I back off for a bit first? Or just move on?
Kind of sounds like she's still hung up on her ex to be honest. That, or she just wants to get to know you more before anything happens. Or both. It'll become clearer if you try to meet up again. Just don't come on to her yet or you'll probably scare her off.
>>18591853
OP, she was very clear the expectations on her end but you didn't listen. She doesn't want to get into a relationship with anyone right now. Casual chat with coffee fine, anything else no.
You state here you really like her and that will not change even if you pretend you will be ok she isn't ready or would never reciprocate. Do not ask her out again and move on the two of you want and expect different things.