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I make this thread everyday lol

I too can't sleep, and when I do, I have anxiety dreams. I dream of being killed, trapped, chased, abandoned, haunted. Whatever.

Every night too.

Don't expect too much from yourself and remember that non of your mistakes will matter. They don't matter now. And will fade in matter in the future. Until they are, antimatter.

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>>18592911
that's pretty good advice, my man. I guess I should try something different with my life but that will work for now. It's just so damn hard to do ANYTHING when everything either feels pointless or you're too distracted by dumb shit to focus on major things.

There's not much you can do to run away from anxiety, so you'd be better off approaching it head on. If there's anything haven't done, some stone you've left unturned, then do so, as I've been stuck in the same repeating loops for a long time and this shit doesn't work, I'll tell you. Break out of it and thing should get better.

She looks fat

>>18592861
She is kinda fat yes

>>18592859
just about to plow a fatty. yourself?

Fast forward to a few weeks ago, and since we're on summer break, I hadn't really had a chance to properly talk to him (although we've texted) in a few weeks, so I asked him if he wanted to do a video/voice call. He didn't respond, then a few days later I asked him if he could do it the next day, and he said it felt 'too homo'. I didn't really think much of it, so I just said I'll call you, and if you don't want to, we don't have to. So the next day came, and he didn't reply when I asked him to talk, and then I wrote something like "You could've just said 'no', it wasn't a big deal", which he also ignored (and I'm ~99% certain he saw the messages). The next day I felt a bit uneasy about him ignoring me, cos I remembered the last time he did, and I asked him if everything was alright, and he didn't reply, even though I explained that I felt worried. I called him twice later, he ignored the first one and declined the second. I gave him a week and asked if things can be okay, but didn't get anything then either. We're starting classes again a month from now, and I've decided not to do anything until then - even though it's absolutely eating me up inside not knowing what's going on. I feel really stressed about the whole situation, and I'm not sure what to do, or what I did wrong. I want to believe that he cares about me enough to still want me in his life, and that it'll blow over after I don't text him for a month, but I'm really worried that he'll just look me in the eye and tell me to never talk to him again.
I feel like right now we're in a place where he's still my friend, and if I really needed something he'd be there for me, but I've just overwhelmed him and he doesn't feel like talking, but I might be misreading the situation completely. What do?

There's one really important piece of information missing... Are you a guy? It would explain his 'too homo' comment. If that's the case, he's probably straight and thinks you're coming on to him. Either way, I think you're being too clingy and need to find other friends to balance yourself out. This guy obviously cares about you, however you don't want to burn him out by constantly wanting his attention.

>>18593212
Sorry, yeah I'm a dude. I thought the same thing you did, but idk why he'd go there. We've talked about girls, and I've even asked him if he thinks that I have feelings for him (since he thinks hugging, etc. is gay), and he said he doesn't. Again, I also think that's what the issue might be, but I don't understand where that idea came from suddenly.

well she is japanese so I think they don't see it as bad as westerners. I think women only mind if you have low self esteem because of it and also carry along the other stereotypes virgins tend to have
>acting weird and shy around girls
>still living at home
>only hobbies are video games and watching cartoons

>>18592844
maybe but i dont think i carry the other stereotype virgins do..
I mean, i had lots of experience with girls, just never got to the actual point of fucking one..
I see sex as something rly special, idk why, like its another level of bonding with a person, I never had a person that i liked that much that i wanted to experience it with him yet.

i honestly dont think i am a loser but when i actually thought about this, it kind of hit me harder than i expected.

>>18592830
been in the same spot, online transatlantic 17yo gf when I was 20 and I was (am) a virgin. I too found it unsettling to think about someone else fucking her, or her sucking on another guys dick. unfortunately it's a fact of life that women have sex before men do and something we just need to de with.

I suggest you get over it by any means possible before it harms your relationship as it did with mine.

>>18592803
"Im going to cum."

I've sucked many dicks and the guys usually just say: "I'm gonna cum." It's as simple as that. Also, make sure to encourage the person along such as "Good (girl/ boy)" or just general dirty things, it really makes the experience better. Make sure to do something with your hands, don't just let them sit by your side. Stroke the (girl/ boy)'s hair. Other than that, just relax. Hope this helps.

I have long hair that loves to get in my way when I'm trying to suck dick. If it refuses to behave, my bf will hold it up. He gets a better view, I take it as a sweet, caring gesture, everybody wins.

Don't push down on a girl's head unless you've been dating a while

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>>18592795
There's no secret formula to follow. If you want to get to know somebody, ask them for a date.

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>>18593801
I would be lying if I said I didn't want some formula, to be true. However, I was hoping more for validation that most women are decent enough to not flip out on a dude for asking, whether over Tinder, Okcupid, or on a school campus

>a woman is nice to me
>should I go for it

lol

>>18592783
Men have done more for less through history

>>18592776
1.Women are nice to almost all men who do not make sexual advances on them
2.Almost all men like to think that women want them or would want them if they made any advances
3.Women make their decision if they want you in a split second and rarely if ever change their mind

Respond to these 3 statements as you will.

>>18592770
I don't know but I would bet that FedEx, which employs people who drive and handle merchandise, would drug test across the board. if driving is part of the job they will 100% drug test

>>18592779
There is no driving involved in the job position. Mostly just walking around a warehouse and placing mail and boxes where they belong

>>18592782
I would bet they will drug test. doubt they want people doped up handling packages. (not biased, I smoke on the daily)

Bump for advice also please no moralfags

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>>18592733
>>18592886

>>18592733
Can i ask you how one does end up in 2 years long relationship with girl which cant even give him proper boner? What went wrong?

As for advice, dont cheat, break up and find girl which can actually give you boner. And yes, you can break up anytime. Money are weak lame excuse.
>is she fat?

I tried reaching out to old friends from when I was a child but I was ghosted.

>>18592722

What country are you from?

Are you still dependent on them financially or otherwise?

>>18592717
Not really. They keep putting money in my account even when I tell them not to, and I send it back to them.

>>18592712
don't contact them and the next time they show up at your place calmly phone the police in front of them making it explicitly clear that you are doing so

>>18592709
Buy your own weights
Cheaper than gym membership

>>18592709
If you think you need a gym to get fit the problem is in your head
which it always is
and yeah you already know the remedy: get fit
>but muh feels

And you didn't think you were a cunt?

>>18592709
>snowflake is melting

go to the gym loser, you're not special no one will look at you

>>18592677
>Do i mąkę her jealous and say I matched with another tinder girl?
Hahhahaha

Don't play games. That's my go-to advice for every relationship, don't play any games. Don't try to make her jealous for whatever reason. If you like talking to this girl then keep talking with her. If you don't like talking to this girl then move on. Keep things simple and honest. If you feel like she should know that you are dating/fucking someone else while talking to her, if you feel like it would be dishonest to keep that information from her, then tell her and explain that you would have felt dishonest to not mention it.

>>18592677
If she moved away then what you you stand to gain here?

>goes without saying, all the femanons my age are either married, have kids, fat, psycho.

No they aren't.

Dating someone younger than yourself is usually a redflag. Makes them wonder what's wrong with you that you don't date within your own age bracket. Or you not emotionally mature for someone your own age? Is it a fetish for younger girls? Etc.

Someone is going to date you so long as you meet their standards of what they want from a partner. But the fact that you make a sweeping generalization about all the women in your age bracket and want to look specifically for younger women is a red flag for me.

>>18592674
I'm 24, I'd date a man 10 years older than me.

The only thing I'd be worried about is that he cared more about superficial things more than he cared about me as a person. I wouldn't want to date a man who liked me just because I am young, without much baggage and still good looking. If he liked me for me, then I wouldn't really struggle with a little age gap.

31 year old single white male here. I have none of those things apart from my own car and have no trouble dating 21-40 year olds via tinder and bumble. 500 matches in 18 months and gotten about 20 lays of which a couple have panned into short term relationships. I usually double date, and I usually tell them.

I think what's hard is meeting someone to actually date and settle down, but that's more about collective baggage than the availability of women.

My advice is look at yourself first. And then think about the kind of woman you want, and find her in her natural habitat.

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not prepared for a kid but i don't want her manipulating me into something long term.

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