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You don't need to break contact jus don't think about fucking her when ever you talk to her

>>18604727
Been trying that, but my brain starts thinking about fucking her AND her getting fucked by someone else, which also a problem. Not sure how I am supposed to distract myself from the thought.

>>18604686
Play the long game OP. Don't destroy a good possibility. Stock it up in your 'maybe' storage. The relationship she is in will end. Most do.

I have hooked up with many women who got married, had children and divorced while I have known them. And it was good to finally connect.

I have no idea what you're asking, OP.

Returns Of Kings is an MRA site that sprout very toxic view about Masculinity.

(Honestly i don't give a single fuck about Masculinity)

Take more kratom pussy

If she has no problems with the relationship but is feeling the urge to leave, that sounds like the problem is with her, and she's got to work it out for herself. I can't imagine why she even told you.

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She's bored. Bring excitement and some passion into it. If it doesn't change I'd say cut your losses and find someone who's compatible

My guess: she has self worth issues. I know plenty of people who aren't comfortable with their partners going above and beyond like that. Not that you did anything wrong, but we're the types to ask people not to get is Christmas presents.

I'm sure it's fine. I've had sudden impulses like that. They don't always signal the desired path. Usually when people break up, they think about it for while

You can try, there are tons of instructional videos and posts out there of every style, but it's not the most effective way to learn. You need to have other people to work with to help you learn but most importantly a qualified instructor to teach you the right way. It's one thing for a scrub to do a move on you it's a whole new thing entirely when a master does it to you. You should look in the area and try some of the free trials if you can. Plus you'll meet some great friends

>>18604622
Can you learn to swim without ever going in the water?

I suppose it depends on what kind of MA we're talking about (obviously you can't do judo on your own), but I highly recommend joining a class, club or whatever it might be. If you're interested in the competitive nature, you will have to practice with real opponents, and even if you just want to learn it to pull off the moves for self-defense or are trying to get fit, it's better to have an instructor so they can teach you the proper form. Martial Arts is full of moves with very subtle movement and postures that are easy to miss and downright impossible to notice in your execution by yourself. At best, doing a move wrong will make it less powerful, at worst you can injure yourself.
Why do you want to learn by yourself?

Mother 3 is the best JRPG ever made.

>>18604615
Literally any movement at all. Walking, running, push ups, sit ups, chin ups etc

I find the best for losing weight is really simple things like running and stretching. To me running is super boring so if you have the ability/the money get a treadmill with a tv or something and you'll lose weight in no time. But good work on cutting stuff out if your diet that's probably the worst contender to staying fat so I'm sure just given time over like a year even if you did literally no exercise you still would get slightly healthier

>>18604611
Then change your routine, faggot. The answer is that simple. Fuck's wrong with you?

>>18604630
Will do , but for now i cant, i got used to it too much.
>You have any advice how to reduce them anon ?

>>18604647
I guess sleep more. I don't think there's something you can put on them to reduce them.

>>18604553
I don't understand what you're talking about. You need to be more specific and clarify. What do you mean your parents were superstitious and religious, but rational? Do you mean they still acted reasonably, despite believing in things that 'weren't real'? Superstitions, and many, many religious beliefs, are basically schizophrenic, creativity gone off the rails. In the case of forming a religious doctrine or some kind of meditation, you're still in the territory of being half-reasonable, but the idea that a text can be sacred or that these supernatural beings are 'real', in the traditional sense, is ridiculous. Nothing supernatural exists, so to speak. There might be some creator beyond our observable universe, and we do have a lack of metaphysical (and just plain physical) understanding of the universe, but nothing that is 'supernatural' can exist. There's no reason that ghosts and storybook Gods aren't just figments of people's imagination - there is absolutely zero hard evidence that they exist. Shows like Ghost Hunters and religious entities like the Catholic Church are just taking advantage of people, although Ghost Hunters is entertaining, and the Catholic Church does good charities. I suggest you study epistomology, the philosophical study of rational belief.

Just by stopping... It's a decision you make.

If you need reasons to give up on that belief, you should just meet those reasons around.
How?.. Well, get in touch with atheists, or just start reading stuff about it. It might make sense to you, and you'll have found your reason.

>>18604553
>How do I stop believing in superstitions and other realities around religious entities?
>My parents were religious and superstitious people. Somehow they also remained rational but I haven't done so well. It doesn't help that I'm obsessive by nature
It's simple, think about everything you learn from others, mut it in the doubtful case in your mind. Everytime something feel too edgy or too cool or that everybody believe in it. Question yourself, not others. Try find answer answers by yourself, then only you will see how dumb you were at a point.

>>18604540
Someone once wrote that we spend our lives planning revenge on the high school bully. Adolescence is, by definition, miserable, and just about everyone* has cringing memories that haunt them. So cut yourself some slack - you're perfectly normal - and know that as you build up adult memories of success and happiness, the horrible flashbacks will become less frequent and easier to brush away.

*The exception is those who were successful and happy in high school - the jocks, cool kids, etc - who will spend the rest of their lives realizing that it was all downhill from then.

Stop feeling sad about the past?...
Well, remember the past is gone. It's not here, it's not now.
Whatever hurt you back then is not accompaning you through every step of your life.

You can just focus on the present, and the past will moveaway, along with the resentment.

There are many practices for this... Meditation is one, it trains you to keep your attention in the present moment.

Reading books about it helps too, like The Power of Now or Awaken the Giant Within.

>>18604540
Think harder about it. I'm honest. Take some time, and think as hard and deeply as you can about your past, and your actions. Really dissect things in your head, and not just your past actions, but your current thoughts and emotions too, and really dig into yourself. Eventually, you'll hit some bedrock, and have nowhere left to go. The goal isn't to find some deep secret, or make a revelation about yourself, because you're not going to find anything, so don't even try. The goal should be to leave no stone unturned. The things that bother you should be examined closely. Your feelings should be examined closely. What exactly is bothering you? Why? Are you justified in being bothered? Treat it like an internal dialogue. It may take a few days of deliberation to really nail things down. You'll probably find that a lot, if not all, of the things that bother you are silly, and unspectacular.

Just chase her down.

Sounds like she responded well. Go back, talk to her again, and set up an actual date.

If she's this shy, you're probably going to have to carry the conversation - at least at first. Hopefully once she gets over her initial shyness she should be able to be more active with you.

>>18604536
You may have come on a little too strong for a shy girl. Hold off on the "you're pretty" stuff and just chat as a fellow class member for a while, until she gets to know and trust you.

I don’t want to travel the world . I just want to die for no reason . Chester ended his life tho he had everything . But very few people will get how depression actually feels like . Once you know the real things , see Junko Furuta’s rape case and other extreme things little things cease to bother you . Need guidance of anything helpful . I’m clueless .

I have deep knowledge of certain things as I browsed a lot of things in the past year . Some things that I know well - Murder Cases both normal and infamous ( I know almost all unique murder cases around the globe ), Unsolved puzzles and murder cases ( I tried to decode tamam shud case on my own though no results ) , Cicada 3301 I still solve the liber primus , I dive deep into deep web almost every week and there are many things that I saw . I have deep knowledge of Egyptian History , Thelema , Veda , Greek Mythology . I have deep knowledge in Astrophysics , Drugs and its usage . I know almost everykind of execution methods , both medieval and modern and I studied it's effects on Human body and Social Fabric and wrote detailed thesis on my diary . I love coding and still learning . And I have obtained the capability to lucid dream on my own . /x/ shit right ? Naah I'm just telling these things so the kind guy who will give solution to my problem can know what my Thinking is like . I am sure there are many guys with whom I share common interest .

I have a tendency to not click a youtube video or an article because I feel that I will give them money for my click . Is it normal ?

Psychiatric therapy is a long process, it takes place over months or even years. You aren't going to accomplish much in just 1 session. In fact, the first session is often just the dr getting to know you & making you comfortable.

>>18604497
Wrong. My psych diagnosed me the first day and sent me off with two scripts.

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>>18604497
My doctor asked if I was an organised person and sent me home with half a year's worth of adderall in the 1st session.

>>18604486
how do you just meet new people like a girl on her birthday, and then on the same day fuck her?? you have nothing to worry about, lol

>>18604486
You were a little autistic, but nothing to worry about. Happens to everyone. Just learn from this, don't be a clingy bitch. You already knew this girl was cray, idk why you felt the need to try and out-crazy her. Just ignore her, getting people to agree she was crazy is stupid as fuck, and the kind of shit a bitch would pull. The only people that need that kind of validation from others are pussies. Sack up and move on

>>18604758

Because fucking also feels good for girls?

Like if you're an average as fuck person overall then that means there are a ton of average as fuck girls whom are easily within your reach. Females are 50% of the population, as long as you're actively making an effort chances are high that you're going to end up with at least a few of them.

No. Asking a woman you haven't seen in 2 years on a date is not a good idea. I can't imagine that having a success rate much higher than 0%. OP, it's time to form some new relationships.

You can try online dating sites. You can try joining a club, or volunteering your time with a charity, or something. But don't cold-call women asking for dates.

>>18604483
>>18604483
I tried online dating for a year and have had 0 success with it. everybody seems to swear by it but it seems tedious and overflowing with people just looking for hookups and that not something I'm interested in

I'm not talking about out of the blue asking them out more like starting conversations and then weaving towards the date option over time

>>18604504
>starting conversations and then weaving towards the date option over time

Still not great. Unless you have a valid reason to get back in touch with them it's going to be super weird.

Look, my best advice for meeting new people (in general, not just for sex or dating) is volunteering. Find a charity you think is doing good work or find a local politician you support and ask how you can help. You'll meet tons of interesting, engaged people.

Shameless self bump

>>18604434
Say it to someone you trust.

I do that too, I do it all the time. I go over conversations in my head that didn't go the way I wanted them to because I couldn't think of what to say. Sometimes I say it to a friend or to my current partner, and that provides some relief.

Also, I mentioned this once to a therapist, and she told me that I should work on being more assertive now, in my present relationships. If I can do that, the urge to go back and correct my past arguments should fade.

>>18604434
Write it down. Send her one last WhatsApp. Never talk to her again.

Do us a favor and kill yourself degenerate. I bet that hardware was paid for by someones benefits you ungrateful little shit.

Mine don't look that bad and I don't even brush twice per year. Get a waterpik or something with the orthodontist tips.

>the absolute state of OP's gums