>get a gf
>one time after we have sex she says my penis (6") is "perfect, not too big, not too small"
>well that's nice i guess, don't really need to be reminded that it isn't big but ok
>"my ex was HUGE, i'd hurt afterwards every time"
>didn't actually need to hear that
>"like 8 and a half inches long and REALLY thick, you can't even imagine how sore i'd be all day after he'd fuck me for an hour and a half with that thing, it was like torture"
>...
Now for the past two weeks I don't even feel horny around her any more. She doesn't seem to understand what I could be insecure about but every time I think about fucking her I then start to think about her getting demolished by another guy's monstercock. Should I just break up with her now?
Yes, dump the roastie and find yourself a non whore gf
>>16452380
>someone dates a guy and find sout he has a big penis
>she continues to dat ehim anyways, but is not happy because the big penis ruins sex
>she is a whore despite leaving him and appreciating men with smaller penises
jesus, do virgins really think like this>?
>>16452375
er.... stop? mines six and a half, and its often called big, even by guys with bigger cocks then mine (Faggot here). six inches is just barely over the average, so its like you're a B- student. whats wrong iwth that?
if you are going to let something that is a huge part of your life bum you out, an hero now, cuz ur cock aint going to get any bigger.
considering she appreciates it, calling it perfect (mine is often called perfect as well, because of how well proportioned it is) why are you even bothered? on the contrary, she gave you an honest opinion, a good one at that, you should feel less self conscious than before.
>Best friend and I we're inseparable
>We spend a lot of time just hanging out together
>As time goes by, I'm starting to feel slowly weird around him. Everytime the plan ends, I leave feeling like complete shit. As this progresses, I'm slowly becoming more unconfident, like my point of view never matters. Like I have no talent
>I start to hang out with more and different people. I start to get close to some people that were just acquaintances, and I start to get closer to some friends
>Funnily enough, I don't have any of these feelings when I hang out with this people. I have fun with them, we do lots of things, and they help me grow my self-confidence. I always leave them feeling full of energy...
>... energy that leaves whenever I meet this one best friend I'm talking about (Let's call him A)
>The final Straw comes last friday, when during a party with A, he starts to annoy me and dig into some of my insecurities, and I end up leaving the party because I'm no longer in the mood. People tell me to stay, but I'm just no longer in the mood
>Following days I meet with other friends and I tell them my situation. And they both aggreed on something: This looks like a very toxic relationship
I've been swallowing the bullshit this "friend" has put me through because he's a friend, and I loved him, but it's just something so overwhelming... He's someone so grey. He's always cynical and disgusting with people (not in a hygienic way, but in a rude way) He's always trying to put me down when I achieve something, and it's something I've been refusing to believe (telling to myself it was all my imagination) becuase I don't really believe why would he do something like that!
What I'm going to do with this friend, /adv/?
Even my ex girlfriend kind of warned me about him, when we were still dating, "You're a loyal guy, Anon, you're a good friend, but I feel like he doesn't deserve your loyalty..."
>>16452325
this isn't unusual. sometimes it happens after 20 years of a great friendship because things change. there is always the chance your friend needs help, but if he refuses to be helped you can't really stand by him.
we meet people and we use them to help us grow and develop, and at some point people stop helping each other grow and develop. at that time the friendships usually dissolve. as much as i want to believe the romantic idea of best friends for life, even the strongest ones have to end at some point.
so id suggest ending it with him. it sounds like hes become a bad person to be with and treats you like a bit of a sidekick. as long as he can put you down, he will feel like he is superior to you. so anytime you accomplish something, especially something he hasn't, he needs to put you down to maintain that 'at least im better than OP' mentality.
it sucks but here we are. good luck anon. try giving him the boot and just see what happens. sometimes people fix themselves and things can go back to normal. regardless if this keeps up, please do leave him.
>>16452325
I'm re-reading my thread, and I feel like it's incomplete. There's way too much shit I haven't explained.
>Last friday he tells me "Because you don't have a job and you're finishing your studies, and I have 2 jobs, I feel like we don't have much to talk about. I don't like movies and you don't like cinema..." After dropping that he just got back to the party and I left.
>It's been a while since I started feeling like I would rather stay home than go out with him to parties. He works in a big club and we always get there for free, VIP pass and all that shit. We know everyone there. And sometimes I feel like I'll rather stay home than go out with him. This friday there's gonna be a big party in this club, and for the first time in years, I'm going to stay home
>We had a fight a year ago because I started to hang out casually with a girl he hates. He told me, during one of these club parties "I don't feel like I can trust you anymore because you hang out with this girl" and he came back to the party. I left, and shortly after I found out he deleted me from facebook and all social networks. of course he added me later, still I couldn't get angry because I thought that was so silly and childish...
Like those, there's lot of little things. Little things I went through because he was a friend....
Bounce. You're trying to weigh action against the history of the friendship, as though that history hasn't yet paid its dividends. It has. You enjoyed years of a good and happy friendship with him. That enjoyment was the reward. Now the joy has ended and so has the time to keep fighting for the friendship. Yesterday it was good. Today it is not. Act on today.
I have what I guess is a fairly typical /adv/ story. I got close to a girl and eventually she became my best friend. She started to get very flirty, we fucked a few times but kept it 'casual' (even though we were hanging out all the time too), and I fell for her hard. Then out of the blue one day she dumped me in a bit of a shitty way. She was genuinely apologetic when she saw how hurt I was, but said she wanted us to still be friends (but nothing more). I couldn't handle that, especially when she started dating someone else, so one day I cut her from my life completely and resolved not to contact her or check her social media again. I've been depressed on and off since it happened and frequently turn to /adv/ for help, but the one thing that helps is not knowing anything about what she's doing now or who she's doing it with. She still follows me on social media and 'likes' loads of the pictures I put up, but has only actually spoken to me one time, on the pretext of asking my advice about something (though I think she just wanted to check up on me).
She's just messaged me again, asking how I am. I've not replied yet, but I will a little bit later on. I wish I could get to a place where I could be happy to have her as just a friend, but I'm a long way from that yet. I don't know whether to admit that to her, or just have a fairly bland conversation and move on, because she probably won't contact me again for another six months or something like that. I just want some opinions really. What do you think I should do?
>>16452313
Lie. Say you feel great and that things are going really well. She's probably checking up on you because she thinks you're still hung up on her.
Also, if you lie enough you might end up believing it. Heartbreak is fucking tough but when you remember that you're an individual that's got a life separate from the person you love(d), you'll become okay with being alone.
>>16452331
I already got a little bit obsessed with that via my Instagram account. I took a year off to go travelling, and made sure I took pictures of every incredible place I went to (because I knew she had always wanted to go travelling too). I'd sit by my phone and wait for her to 'like' it, and she usually would. I think that was a very unhealthy mindset though, and I'm trying to concentrate a bit more on actually enjoying things rather than pretending to enjoy things.
Generally speaking that's good advice though, thanks.
>>16452353
Going through a heartbreak right now myself. It was a 2 year relationship that ended about a month ago, because of distance but mostly because she lost feelings for me.
It hurt and although she said she wants to "be friends" she doesn't message me at all.
BUT, she would look at every snapchat story I would post. That was my only 'contact' with her anymore, and in a weird way I liked seeing that she was still looking.
But I decided this was incredible toxic of me. I would be checking Snapchat every 10 minutes to see if she updated. I would go around my city thinking "should I snap this?" JUST so she would see it. I would post a snap, and get anxious waiting for her to view it.
It was just overall bad even if I did still get a rush when she would look. I knew deep down the fact of the matter is, if she wanted to talk to me, she would. So I deleted her. And it sucked for a day or two to accept it. But it feels much better without that anxiety and toxic situation happening 24/7.
Hopefully some of that helps.
My father-in-law cheated on his wife with a woman ten years younger than her, and got her pregnant. They maybe knew each other for a month or two at the time. This woman is a former stripper, and an ex-con with three other children from three different fathers. All of the fathers are dead. Strange coincidence.
Father and mother in law went through a messy divorce, he has to pay out the nose for alimony now (which he sort of deserves, but not to the extent that he's paying). He gets mad that I still talk to his ex-wife and have a friendship with her. I've known her for over eight years, she's still my mother-in-law.
I also have been more or less refusing to meet his new baby mama.
Number one, I can't respect someone who doesn't respect marriage. I take it seriously.
Number two, I don't have any interest in meeting her. My husband's family is big enough as it is. I don't know how long their relationship will even last once the baby's born. If I get to know her and befriend her, what's going to happen when they break up? Do I stop talking to her? Will my father-in-law get mad if I don't? Never mind how my mother-in-law's feelings would be hurt if I had a relationship with this woman.
Now that the baby's birth is looming, my husband has hinted that maybe I'm being a little unreasonable, and that it's becoming obvious that I'm avoiding meeting her. Should I suck it up and give her a chance, or stick to my guns on this?
>>16452279
He's already been punished by the court. Don't make it worse.
I say do what your husband is doing, for his sake if anything.
>in-laws
It's not really YOUR family, it's not really your business what they do. You don't have to be friends with them. But it does seem a bit unreasonable to flat-out refuse to meet her. Just go, be at your husband's side so he doesn't have to deal with his crazy family alone. Presumably, he does the same for you at your own family functions.
Don't bring this woman into your life more than you need to, but don't make such a big show of your disapproval. The guy's not your father, he's your father-in-law, it's literally none of your business who he chooses to be with
I'm not sure if this is the best board for this question, but everything I've googled is inconsistent, and I can't afford to go to the dr right now.
>menstrual period is really late this month
>fiance and I always used protection
>when I ask if one of the condoms might have broken, he comes clean to me
>one night, after I'd had a bit too much to drink and passed out, he fucked me without protection
>he guesstimates that this was ~4-6 weeks ago, maybe longer
I thought I started my period last night, but it's weird. It's not like a normal period. No cramps, I had no pms, and it's really thin blood. Still bleeding today, but not much. Every pregnancy test I've taken has been negative.
...so, what the fuck's going on?
>>16452246
That sounds like the symptoms of early stage ovarian cancer
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ovarian_cancer
>>16452246
ok first of all, your fiance is a fucking creep and he pretty much raped you.
if the pregnancy tests are coming out negative then you're probably fine, if you're really worried about it, go to a doctor.
but holy shit your fiance is a whole other story. my suggestion is to bail and never look back
>>16452256
>le drunk sex is rape
Nice meme
Dating a black girl but a few problems
My sister told me that dating one is pathetic and only guys who are desperate do it. One of my friends also made fun of me for it. Basically should I break off? Will I be looked on in society as that guy who couldn't get anything but a black girl?
>>16452210
if you're a racist you probably shouldn't be dating someone who is black, just so you know
I can't tell if this is bait or not, but in case you are serious.
No anon, love who you love, society is wrong not you. Unless you started dating this girl purely because you felt desperate and didn't actually have any feelings for her then you should break it off and find someone you like. It doesn't matter who that person is, what race, gender or anything else, it only matters that you are happy with them and them mutually so.
>>16452210
If you don't like black people, don't date them. If you break up with someone because of your racist friends, that's shitty.
Day 11 of NoFap.
Benefits so far:
none
Cons so far:
cold sweat, aching, hyperventilation, headache.
Should I stick it out?
>>16452183
HAHAHAHAHAH SORRY BUT I DIED LAUGHING
why exactly do you want to stop fapping? What is your current situation on a day to day basis?
>>16452201
I have no job. No gf. I whack it about three times a day. Slowly slipping into neckbeard territory.
I'm sorry, this will be long.
So I live with my boyfriend and we've been together over a year. We're in a committed relationship. He's always been very touchy about his phone and computer and tablet, not wanting me to ever touch them. He has said before if I tell him what I want them for he'll let me see it, but last night I went to play a game on his tablet and he snatched it away from me. Literally snatched it, like I was 5.
He can go through my things any time he wants because I have nothing to hide. That's always how it's been, since we got serious. He's done this five different times now, and two of the times he refused giving me some of his family's phone numbers when I was heavily involved with some things going on and could possibly need them.
He also has told me he has a porn addiction he's dealing with. It doesn't make me mad or anything, to be honest I respect that he feels guilty and wants to change that but if it wasn't an issue in our relationship I wouldn't see the harm in watching porn.
>>16452170
But him being this protective seems kind of sketchy, doesn't it? I'm a strong believer that if I need to find something out I will without digging around. He leaves his phone unlocked around me sometimes and I never look through it because I'm not a digger.
My point with this is I told him I think it's wrong of him to give me no right with his things, especially since we live together and he has access to my things without issue. It's a trust and respect thing to me. He absolutely disagrees, which is an issue to me.
I'm trying to gather others' views on this matter. I'm not asking to go through his things whenever I want, but I do expect to be able to use his things if I want to like he can do with mine. Other couples I've talked to about this seem to side with me, in that he's acting like he's single and won't even try to talk with me about it. They also add they have no need to keep electronics or anything else from each other, because no one in the relationship has anything to hide and they know the other doesn't obsessively go through their things.
>>16452175
So what do you guys think? I'm not an oppressive person, I'm actually pretty easy going. But this is worrying to me, and I don't think I'm unreasonable in my opinion. I'm more than willing to work to some middle ground, because 98% of a relationship is compromise and you can't avoid that, but he doesn't want to talk at all. I'm not sure what to do here.
>>16452188
He sounds kind of unbearable. You can maintain your privacy in a relationship but him snatching his tablet from you is just downright childish and extremely sketchy.
The fact that he can't talk about it either is weird too. If you guys are going to be in a serious relationship you're going to have to learn to talk to each other.
If you're doing all the compromise and he's just reaping the benefits, it's a one sided relationship that's pretty much going to lead to nowhere.
Be honest with him OP. If he can't compromise on such a trivial matter then maybe he isn't the person you should be with.
Month after breakup because of long distance/her losing feelings... worried im going to break within a few weeks or month or two and message her again telling her i miss her.
I dont know if we should get back together but i DO miss her.
Is it ok to do this? Am i just being pathetic and need to drop her memory out of my life?
Just one bump...sorry I know I was vague... will probably just post again in a couple weeks but still, this is consuming my mind ;\
>>16452164
I don't know your relations anon, but breaking is understandable. Consider the possible outcomes though, best case you two talk a little and get reminded about why it was a good idea in the first place to break up. Next best she feels the same and you get back together, is this a good idea? You have to answer that yourself. Worst outcome she gets annoyed and angry at you. Which might leave you with some more closure, but also make you feel bad.
It's ok to break, everybody has these feelings, but think about the greater good.
>>16452164
You will not stop feeling bad until you finally break it off/get back together. These lingering thoughts will remain with you. There are times in your life where you are faced with hard decisions mate and this is one of those times.
Quit pulling her along, give her a solid answer. Give yourself a day to really think of what YOU want, in the end thats all that matters. It will hurt not doubt, but you will get over it along with she.
Missing someone is completely normal, it means you had a connection. But you have to stop being so damn indecisive and make up your mind or it will end much more horribly.
>senior year of highschool
>wanna get the best grades i can since last year
>can't focus for shit or procrastinate to the last minute
>>16452159
>Highschool
Fuck off.
Your life depends on it, so fucking do it and don't be a piece of shit like me
If you half-ass this shit it's going to be a foundation for insecurity and self doubt for the rest of you life.
So instead of doing that, make sure you give it your all and then you're going to be able to look back at this time with pride and feel like it meant something, that you did your best.
You're always gonna get a job if you don't fail completely, but for your own sake, don't waste your oportunities, or you're gonna end up with a regret and "what if?".
I always wanted to have 2 kids and have a family but i just found i'm infertile. my whole life i dreamed of leaving behind my shit ass life an make a new one, make a family. now the dream is down the flush. why shouln't i kill myself?
Because most kids fucking suck and more than likely you wouldn't have a perfect angel of a child like mine.
Why not adopt? You can still raise kids and have a family, just as you've dreamed of. The actual childbirth part, not so much, but is that worth mourning?
>>16452099
It's different. I'd rather die alone than raise the child of someone else.
I've been dating this girl for over 2 years and I'm worried I may have officially ruined it. She's a med student and always looking out for my health and one thing she has a problem with is my drinking. I always thought I had it under control but looking back I never did. There have been countless times that I've ruined our night by drinking too much and puking or just passing out.
Last weekend I really fucked up. I wanted her to come with me to a happy hour but she didn't want to go. I told her I'd meet her after. Next thing I know I'm drunk as hell. I blacked out and woke up on the subway puking with my phone dead.
I left the bar at 9 and didn't get home until 230. I had calles her and told her to meet me and I never showed up. This isn't the first time I've ruined her nighy by my drinking and she doesn't even want to talk to me. I'm worried this is it and that she is going to give up on me. What do I do? I want to stop drinking all together but as a 23 yr old that's pretty tough to do.
Bump,
Tldr, I'm afraid my girlfriend is fed up with my drinking and she doesn't want to be with me
>>16452056
Not a mind reader
Shut down the device you're on, and go ask her
> I want to stop drinking all together but as a 23 yr old that's pretty tough to do.
It really isn't though. Just don't put you yourself in a situation where you may binge drink. Or just have some damn self control. If you really care about her, you would slow down on the drinking
Hey I don't know if anyone remembers but i was the OP of >>16438339
Well I went back and talked to the girl and I don't know what I was expecting but it went pretty much like you guys said. When I first texted her she responded she would like to because I would "really benefit from the news she had" this of course made me think I was about to be accused if rape but none the less I went.
So I went terrified and she came outside alone and we sat on a bench, I don't have a word for word recolection of what she said but it went something like this. She started by saying I should be greatful because she wasn't accusing me of rape when a lot of other girls probably would (i think she just realised she wouldn't win in a court of law), and that even if I want to rationalize it because she gave consent she still believes it was rape.
Anyway She informed me that when I had sex with her it was entirely about me showing that I had control over her, that it was about me degrading her as a woman. Im misogynistic and she feels sorry for any girl that has been with me because I probably raped them too. She thinks I'm a sexual predator and remind her of the type who would drug a girls drink. She told me I was too immature for sex, too immature for relationships and too immature for love. She doesn't know whether I'll ever find this but I certinely don't deserve it.
She told me that because of me she needs to go back to therapy, and she had to call her mom to tell her she's been sexually insulted again. Therapy is expensive too and tough to afford. But the worst thing I did was when she first asked me leave I slowly put my clothes on and didn't instantly just out of her room. This shows that i all I was in that situation was feel embarrassed and that I felt no remorse (really I was simply super confused on what she was freaking out about). She believes I might be incapable of feeling remorse.
She told me I made her bed smell horrible (i had showered and soaped my entire body before) and that she had to buy new sheets. She was also unable to sleep in her own bed for two whole days. She may have PTSD. When I came back into her room she was terrified and since i stood between her and the door she thought that I was going to force myself on her.
She doesn't know whether she'll ever stop hating me but honestly she doesn't care. I said ok to all of this. Showed her I was deleting her number from my phone and left.
Well I don't know how to feel she seems to have demonized me as something she can throw everything she thinks is wrong with the male gender at. I didn't realize this is how rape victims think, or that this girl has this many problems. She doesn't know me well and simply started to proclaim all this slanderous untrue stuff. So honestly I've stopped feeling bad about it, if this is the way she thinks and acts then it's for the best she's back in therapy.
I know this is kinda bloggy even for /adv/ but if I can give one thing I learned from this: DONT STICK YOUR DICK IN CRAZY
You quite possibly banged one of the most fucked up chicks I ever met.
ok i know this is a terrible place to ask for advice consdering youre all autistsbut i know there are some normal people in here aswell
does she like me?
she responds to my texts the second she reads them
she texts me first 50% of the time and we end up texting for like 2-3 hours most of the time
we text every day (mostly in the evening)
on monday she asked me if i wanted to do something on wednesday (today), we went for a walk in nature
she seemed pretty happy, laughed at even my unfunny jokes etc
the problem is that it seems to me she doesnt have a lot of time. im not sure if she just uses excuses all the time or if shes actually busy (i know that she has a lotta things to do but come on, nobody has THAT many things to do)
TL:DR SHE SEEMS TO LIKE ME BUT IM NOT SURE BECAUSE IM TERRIBLE AT READING THAT SHIT SO I DECIDED I NEED ADVICE FROM INTERNET STRANGERS WHO ARE PROBABLY EVEN WORSE AT THAT SHIT THAN ME
pic not really related
You're calling us autists when you're the one posting something like this? Fuck off.
>>16451916
>>16451916
u wanna fite about it or what
im not calling you autist but lets be real 4chan is full of losers, hard to find "normies"
pls answer
Generally for guys these day is it normal to be fully shaven down there or what?
Yeah, but it's half and half with its social stigma.
Full shave = hygenic and looked after
No shave = hairier but more manly
The above are what people legitimately believe.
As far as I know, general consensus:
>bald
Weird and oddly childlike, but some girls do prefer it because, well, pubes get in the way
>trimmed
Most girls prefer this, as it is a nice middle ground
>bush
An equally small amount prefer this as bald, because pubes get in the way of blowjobs and look unkempt
trimming/shaving was started by dicklets and pornography so that they can pretend their penis is bigger
no woman actually cares at all