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Any Advice from this chum? 2015-11-13 18:17:07 Post No.16458625
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My friend sent me this letter a guy wrote her. what does /adv/ think about it, any advice for this guy?
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Lots of "y" desu. Good writing hand too. But yeah, same stuff, do the usual "aww you're such a good friend :)", that" ll do the trick.
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>>16458625
This is pathetic.
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>>16458625
m'lady/10. If the girl is into that, then great, but otherwise this kid is fuuuuuuuucked.
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How do you stop feeling guilty about achieving nothing in life?
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find something you want to do, do it, congrats you're an achiever. Start small, build your way up.
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Be the best non-achiever you can be.
OWN IT!
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>>16458580
Start with the smallest things. Breathe in deeply. Tada
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Are there any colleges NOT overrun by SJWs? What about overseas?
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Try a military academy. That's about as non-SJW as you're going to get.
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>>16458576
probably only schools that are:
>in very conservative areas
>small (population sub 5K)
>religious institutions
or any combo of those 3 parameters
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>>16458576
yes?
SWJs seem to be everywhere but less so in the Asian continent
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Would you get back with an ex who left you who is interested in you again? Bonus points: she's mentally ill. But I loved her so much, she was basically perfect aside from her being mentally ill and the part where she left me.
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Any time.
Just say the word.
Im her humble servant and provider.
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She won't be mentally ill forever. If you can work through it and you truly care about her, it's a possibility.
What ended the relationship previously matters. If those issues are no longer present, it may be able to work.
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I'd pretend to, anal Fuck her as much as I can. Then when she stops letting me use her I'd dump the slur. ;)
My girlfriend cheated on me when we first started dating we are on three years been living together for about half our relationship. I found out she cheated on me about 3 months into us living together. Since then our relationship has gone down hill, we constantly argue about it mainly because I can't let go of the fact she did that to me also because she honestly never helped me feel any better. She'd always get jealous for practically no reason there'd be times when she'd get drunk and publicly humiliate me by punching me in the face and yelling at me. She almost went as far as lying to the cops and almost getting me arrested for domestic violence claiming that I constantly beat her they ultimately sided with me seeing as how I had just gotten home from work and she was drunk. I've tried breaking up with her but every time I do I flip last minute I just can't stand to see or hear her cry. What should I do?
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Grow a pair
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I think about where she'd go, she's not speaking with her mom and her dad is just getting by as it is. Call me a pussy but I feel bad
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Hey adv
My girlfriend did something really stupid. So she's got a gym membership that's paid off for 3 months, she likes it there and there's no issue.
Well she ended up somehow being talked into joining an expensive gym membership at some other gym, which is further away while she already paid 3 months at her current one.
She ended up canceling the New membership cause she realised how stupid that was but it has a $200 cancellation fee.
Anyway she is generally smart, has a bachelor in science, studying business degree too. Yet she did something so stupid like this. Would you stay with your girlfriend is she did something like this????
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Are you the one paying for it? It's not really any of your business how she spends her own money. Really doesn't seem like a big deal. Why are you so up in her shit?
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Lol.because it shows she's still very naive and easily manipulated. Not a good role model for potential kids. Also you want a girlfriend who's incompetent at being able to take Care of herself???
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No, people are allowed to fuck up. If your looking for a partner who never makes stupid mistakes, you should just stop looking. Im sure you've done and are going to continue to do some pretty dumb shit. She knows what she did was dumb and is trying to fix it and since it didn't hurt you, you don't really have any reason to be mad.
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I want to make a difference in the world 2015-11-13 17:05:35 Post No.16458470
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I want to make a difference in the world
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How can I do that?
If you wanted to make a difference in the world how would you do it? I want to devote my life to help others.
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>>16458470
Suck as many dicks as you possibly can.
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>>16458475
I see... that kinda sucks :3
I had other wonderful things in mind really..
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I Belive everyone benefits from trees, plant and take care of some.
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How do I get along with my family? 2015-11-13 15:22:10 Post No.16458309
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How do I get along with my family?
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As the subject suggests, I have trouble getting along with my relatives.
I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome ~18 months ago. I figured my family being aware of my personality traits would ease our relationship, but sadly that's not the case.
For the first few months after I stopped seeing a psychiatrist, my close relatives were willing to "fix" my autism by trying to talk me into making friends and going out. I was really bothered by it, as I had just started attending classes in college and wanted to focus on studying. I explained I'd make friends at my own pace and go out if I felt like it.
Fast forward 3 months and they've become more receptive of my general behavior. I was now told if they were going to make loud noise(e.g. use the blender, vacuum cleaner, etc.) and given space to leave the room. I was also having the most fun in college, talking to people about what was being taught and helping others study. Life was great.
My sister, however, started trying to piss me off whenever she could. We never got along, but she was really trying to annoy me. My family knows I don't feel comfortable with physical contact. She hugged me out of the blue, from behind, making it seem like playful siblings stuff. At first I told her to stop. When she didn't, I ended up yelling at her. The next step was physical aggression, which I didn't want to get to, so I had my grandmother intervene.
Now, she went for loud noise. On trips to my mom's house in another state, she'd take the hair dryer out of the bathroom, plug it in the same room I was sleeping in and use it there at the loudest possible setting. When asked to go to the bathroom and close the door, she dismissed everything I said, called me an entitled kid, told me I had everything I wanted thrown at me and it was "time to stop". I couldn't bear being in the same apartment. I screwed up my sleep schedule on purpose so I wouldn't have to see her. I would sleep from 8:00 am to ~4:00-5:00 pm.
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She decided to do the same so our schedules were compatible. I now had to share the living room with her from 8:00 pm to ~1:00 am. She'd put Netflix on the TV, use her laptop and phone, all at the same time. Her attention was solely on the phone, and when I complained about electricity being wasted on the TV, she shouted "I'm just checking the time. Shut up or mom will wake up." and then turned up the volume for whatever movie she was rewatching on Netflix. (Everything she played was from "Recently watched by {her name}")
A few months later, she finally stopped her attempts to get on my bad side and now we were apparently getting along. Not the case. She had to drive me to class and pick me up, since we live in a dangerous city in Brazil, and while I can walk to and back from college during the day, at night it means taking big risks of getting robbed.
I made sure to thank everyone who gave me a ride to college or from college home. There, however, she saw an opportunity to mess with me. She pretended she couldn't pick me up on time thrice a week. My aunt asked me why I was getting home late and told me my sister was home 30 minutes before my classes were over, watching TV.
I decided not to confront her, since in the past it only led to her refusing to pick me up at 10:00 pm.
tl;dr about my sister: She acts extremely arrogant when confronted and raises her voice when someone tries to discuss something with her, not letting them speak.
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My aunt, who seemed to be the most worried about my well being after I got my diagnosis, stopped gossiping about me with my grandmother. I could always hear them from my room, but never said anything from fear of retaliation.
She'd try to make me eat beans and shrimp, despite having tried both of them before, more than once, and really disliked them. "If you don't want to eat shrimp, then you can't have lunch.", she said. I could see her point, but since I couldn't take those in, I politely replied with "Sorry, I'll use some pocket money today or deal with it my own way. Thanks."
Her attempts became frequent, but my mom asked her to stop and she did.
Today, she screams like a hyena or a turbine, I don't know how to make an analogy, to play with my uncle's newborn son. She goes "AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA..." to her iPhone all the time, and it's pretty damn unbearable to be next to her when she does it. She gives me no warnings anymore, and I can just run to my room, shut the door and deal with induced panic. Makes me cry, really.
tl;dr about my aunt: Started caring less and less about whether I'd feel offended about her remarks and now screams really loud, replying to every "Can you at least give me a warning?" with "I'm just playing with my nephew."
My grandmother now turns the TV volume up a lot. I assumed she did it because of aging ears, but I heard her turning it up in the middle of a soap opera episode as soon as I got home, and down when I went to my room.
I think this is becoming a very long rant, so I'll stop here.
I want advice on how to deal with the relatives I live with. I talked to them on multiple occasions and it has gotten me nowhere. Sometimes even worsened our relationship. I have no money to move out yet, and I'm unemployed. I'm locking myself in my room everyday, refusing to leave if not absolutely necessary, because this is getting stressful to the point of triggering psoriasis(skin condition I have) outbursts.
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>>16458309
You don't have trouble with your family. You have a nasty sister.
She is totally in the wrong, but it might help if you tried to see it from her point of view. All your life you have been a little "weird" as she saw it, and now that you've got a diagnosis, everyone is trying to support you by helping you function at your best.
But she sees this as just one more example of everyone serving you and ignoring her, and that makes her jealous and mad.
A more mature person might say that out loud, but she chooses to express her anger by tormenting you in small ways.
She is wrong - she is 100% wrong - but if you understand that she is acting out of unhappiness and not nastiness, maybe you can forgive her a little.
You be the grown-up. Tell her you realize that your limitations mean that you have to ask a lot of others in the family, including her, and that you are sorry if this makes her feel bad. Thank her for all the good things she does, like giving you rides, and try to do little favors for her, to pay her back.
She just wants some of the family's attention and appreciation. You can start by giving her some.
Long distance girlfriend of a year and a half+ wants to move in together.
We're both 25, she has a well paying government job with benefits, I'm a waiter. We live approximately 80 miles apart right now. She doesn't want to move too far from where she is because her county is the highest paid in her field in the area. That basically means I would have to move to her, and then find a job near there, or the other way around (which might be very difficult). She says she's ready, and I think it's time for me to be ready (we both live with our parents) but I'm not sure if that would be a stupid idea for me to basically start a new life.
What kind of things should I be considering?
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>>16458293
Find a new job in the area you want to move to before you move out of home
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>>16458299
But how does that work? How would I interview with a place 100 miles away?
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Take time off work and stay in a motel or with your gf
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I think Im legitamately attracted to my little sister's teddy bear.
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Are you complaining or bragging?
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>>16458280
If it's a boy teddy bear, that makes you gay.
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Is he a consenting adult?
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A girl that I REALLY cared about just cut contact beause she thinks I sexually violated her. This is what happened:
We were extremly good freinds, I'd say best friends until recently. And I was perfectly fine with that, until well, one evening shit escalated. We were kinda checking each other out because we found both each other hot, I noticed she was kinda turned on, and at some point I started to seduce her. Talking dirty, turning her on etc. She did resist at first, said "maybe we shouldnt do this", sad sometimes "no" because she was afraid for our friendship - but it was not in a serious way! She kept blushing, and giggling and could SEE that she was turned on. So I proceeded to turn her on and dirty talk her until she got so turned on, she stopped resisting and we fucked. During the sex, she was begging me not to stop, told me to go harder on her and came several times, then we came together. Afterwards we cuddled and she told me that she loved it, that I'm a good fuck etc, and she looked extremly pleased and happy. I asked her if everything was alright, and she said yes. She even asked me later if we can keep fucking, and I said yes, and we fucked two other times. Both times she was putting up resistance first, but after getting turned on gave herself to me completly and enjoyed it. This power dynamic play also turns her on, so I also thought her being hesitant is part of what turns her on.
A few days later, she pops up out of nowhere and is like "yeah you fucking raped me I cannot ever see you again"
Did I actually rape this girl? I feel so disgusted with myself. I can't fucking take it. The possibility of me having violated her like a swine, hurts more than the fact that she cut me out of her life.
What do you think /adv/ ? How can I apologize? I know an apology wont make things better - but do you think there is a way to save this friendship, make it platonic again and kinda take away the pain?
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Umm she is a crazy slut.
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There is some leeway if she was actually being more serious with the no's in the first place. And if any contact initeated against her will, then yeah you're fucked. Girls can enjoy rape play, but you shouldn't just keep trying if she says 'no' , that was your clue to fuck off.
You can't force her to drink tea even if ahe said yes a few weeks back.
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She is not crazy, and not a slut. She was raped several times in the past though, so I might have completly miscalculated the situation.
She said no, but I wanted it to happen anyway. She definetly had objections, but she also was turned on. I just kept pushing by turning her on, until she gave in and we fucked. She told me it felt good, it felt right etc afterwards, we cuddled, everything seemed normal.
But I can see where I went wrong. I shouldnt have kept pushing her to it....she kinda list control of herself because I kept turning her on, and I should have just stopped.
I feel so fucking bad right now
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I am Japanese.Learning English now 2015-11-13 13:54:32 Post No.16458153
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I am Japanese.Learning English now
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Let's talk with me here.wwwwwwwwww
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Guten Tag.
Wie Gehts?
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hi how are you?
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Hello.
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Help legalfags of /adv/
tl;dr of my situation is
>Fight with gf got out of hand
>charged with class 4 felony
>plead down to class 6 undesignated
>it'll be closed as a misdemeanor after probation
Basically I'm wondering how much time I'll be doing. This is my first offense and indeed my first time ever being arrested. I'm in the army and I know I'll be kicked out but that's besides the point. I've heard from a lot of people I won't do time but I'm truly scared. I've voluntarily enrolled myself in anger management counseling and have stopped drinking since the incident. My GF wants to be with me so I'm also wondering how long it'll be before I can return home. I'm an AZfag if that helps any
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Shameful self bump
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Did she deserve it OP? I'll assume yes
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>>16458178
In a way I suppose. I know I shouldn't put my hands on anyone. Though I just got lost in the moment.
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In 27 years I haven't figured out how to have sex with a chick. Prostitution is illegal, talking is fucking boring as fucking fuck, not rich, decent looking though, steady job, shit car, what do?
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what have your experiences with tinder, craigslist and dating sites been like? how likely are you to approach women? do you want sex or a gf?
good looking should make your chances of online dating and apps easier. just tell them you are interested in sex and keep fishing until you catch one.
if its a girlfriend however thats a different story
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Sounds like you better start enjoying conversation real quick.
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>>16458117
Can always become gay see if anyone's interested,batter than nothing :b
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>A month ago, have drinks with uni friend in a bar
>A female friend of us joins us, she's with a friend of hers
>Her friend is really cute, joyful and fun to be around
>She stays with us until the bar closes, we have a lot of great chat
>At some point I say to her she's a really cool girl, she says I am cool guy too
>The day after she adds me on FB, and a few days later she asks me if I want to hang out again in that same bar
>Turns out she only asked me, not my friend
>Tell her that I'd like it, and I'll let her know when I'm available
>We have trouble scheduling, not available the same nights, then there's a week of holidays
>Finally, last monday, she joins us again with same female friend
>Again we have a very good night. She asks me how things are going with girls when we go out alone for a smoke
>She also jokes about how I didn't invited her again. Also I'm pretty sure she was deliberately reaching my legs with hers under the table...
>She says we should go dancing, ask me if I know I place, I say yes
>We all go. She dances with my friend at first but when she dances with me she gets very touchy, she gets me to grab her by the waist, etc.
>The day after, she texts me again to tell me that it was really cool and we should go dance again, that she could learn me how to swing properly. I say yes and tell her about a place I'll go to dance with friends on friday, asking her if she wants to come.
>No answer
>Yesterday I was with friends in the same bar as the two other times so I let her know we're in for the night if she's around
>No answer
Today is friday so should I let her know again about the dancing night ? I was thinking on giving her a call. Considering all her signs of interests and texts I find it weird she didn't answer...
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>Today is friday so should I let her know again about the dancing night ? I was thinking on giving her a call. Considering all her signs of interests and texts I find it weird she didn't answer...
I can tell just based off of that sentence you're trying to get a girl to hit you back up after she's giving you silence. There's really no need for that wall of text, but if you come here regularly you probably have autism.
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>>16458066
She gave me silence literally after hitting me up all the time. I mean I was answering to one of her text.
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>>16458078
Just call her tonight and if she doesn't answer then oh well. Life goes on.