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>>18606600
How could anyone answer that question without knowing where you live, and where she is coming from?

>>18606606
you don't need to answer that part but just like advice with girls.

>>18606600
How the fuck are we supposed to know where you're from?

>>18606564
I would cut contact completely, and treat her as she is already dead. You aren't responsible for her in any way, shape, or form. Not anymore.

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>>18606599
This.

She will learn in her own time...or won't, either way - It is no longer your problem.

>>18606564
Every time someone with BPD dies the world gets a little bit nicer. If anything see if there is a way to foster an environment that makes it easier for her to commit suicide. People with BPD aren't actually people, they're succubi without the ability to feel guilt or empathy with a unique talent to zero in on people who do have empathy and drain the life force out of them, and then move onto the next victim.

They're just people. And some people can be absolutely petty and shitty

>>18606565
are you female?

It's nice, because most girls are nice.

>>18606548
Id suggest checking out MGTOW, search it on YouTube.

>>18606553

nah im not into all that fag shit

>>18606548

Ask yourself: What does a man in a "relationship" receive? Look at the real world examples. Not your fantasies. Look at examples of men in their teens, 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, and 60s.

Nothing is free. Ask yourself: What do men in relationships have to give for that relationship? Is it worth the cost?

What specifically in a relationship is that painful ache for? Love? What kind of love? There are different types. Be specific. Name the tangible expressions of the things you want. Ask yourself if you can get them outside of a relationship.

If you have a talent at programming go into it hardcore and don't give up. If you are autist you are probably creative as well. Fast food work is meaningless follow your passion with any of your spare time. Maybe get into crypto currency trading but like anything in life you must put in thousands of hours before you get good. Life is not about talent it is about being OCD and keep going even if you fail for years. Eventually 3+ years it will stick.

>>18606466
First off: do you have any family? Able to stay with them for awhile? If so, take a breath of relief as you can figure things out freely.

Definitely dig into the programming as much as you can. It will take a lot to make money off of it. I agree with the prev anon about looking into cryptos.

What is your edu level? HS diploma? If so, any chance of family help for college?

Let's get a better idea of your situation.

>>18606466
Get a different job. I did good in sales but ate shit trying to wait tables. Everyone there thought I was a fucking retard, but I'm not, something about waiting tables just doesn't make sense to me, it's probably the same for you.

>>18606422
Have an internal debate. Argue for and against tipping. Only then, will you have the ability to stand by your decision to not tip.

And don't be a little bitch either. Actually make find good arguments for both sides.

>>18606422

simply do what you want to do. when someone says otherwise, complains, whines, argues, etc. simply excuse your self from the situation. most fights / arguments only take place because someone refuses to leave. leaving does not mean backing down. it means disregarding the others opinion and going off to live your own life.

>i just wnat to not tip without a guilty feeling

be up front about it. go up and say 'hi, i need a cup of black coffee, i do not tip though'.

>>18606463
Good advice, but that last bit would sound pretty autistic.

The problem with being upfront is that it suddenly makes you the enemy. People working service jobs have been so brainwashed into tip culture that they blame me for not giving them a few dollars while their employers are ripping them off thousands. It's like I'm paying them welfare, and you know how welfare recipients react when the check is late.

>>18606397
try being in highschool and never having had a gf period

Don't be beta

>>18606409
*cracks open beer*
this shit bro, jus b urself

We do get on pretty well, she has never at all asked what we are, or nothing at all about our kissing, sexual encounter, nothing, she is 21. I often think what it would be like to break up with my girlfriend, not that do not get on, and start seeing her. I do think about her more and more now, I'm on holiday from work so won't see her in work until next week.

What stops me from messaging her about hooking up or something is now, our messages are a little dead, more on her front, not mine, far from the consistent snaps and messages from our first encounter. Which is odd, as in person we get on very well, touching, laughing, always chatting, so not sure how being that forward would go down. I do think we have, in some ways, we have better chemistry together, compared to my girlfriend.

What should my next move be ?, I want to find out we're she stands on us, but I can't ask that in an overly committed to her stance, as I do still get on with my girlfriend and not sure what road to take.

She's not that intrested because you are a shitty person that cheats on his girlfriend.

I'll start by saying I don't condone your behavior:

HOWEVER, putting aside all the judgement I've got:

Break up with your girlfriend because you feel things aren't working, because you're clearly bored, or because you think there are better things out there than what you currently have.

Don't break up with her because you want to peruse a shot with another girl. If you do it for that specific reason, even if you get anywhere with the other girl, you're always going to be comparing what you had in the past to the new girl.

>>18606024

Get them both drunk, wait for them to start lezzing out, sneak in and fuck them both while they're asleep.

????

Profit!

Molly and coke.

>>18606037
did this and the next morning my gf was pissed but the day after that she confessed it was what she wanted all along and was only angry because it was the "correct" thing to do.

Havent had a threesome since tho.

lmao yeah. What could possibly go wrong?

>>18605676
it's not like she could sue you for child support or anything or accuse you of rape right !

>>18605676
Child support

>>18605656
You can if you want but first write up an agreement and consult a lawyer as to whether such an agreement could hold up in court.

>>18605445
no. it's autistic to think it is tho

Absolutely, any man who garnishes his salad with small blocks of flavored bread is obviously sexually attracted to other men.

>>18605445
Its gay to put your dick in another man's ass. Other than that, its hard to tell.

>>18605243
Hi Op, welcome to the land of truth. Hugs to you.

how big is that distance?

>>18605243
So, about the trust you have in Anon, on a site where you can easily be told to go and kill yourself. You trust that nobody on /adv/ can really get to you, yet some might be supportive, so its worth trying.

Fear of rejection drives a lot of what we do. Over-thinking is another related problem. And anxiety is in the same basket. Most of us will not build an intimate relationship with someone when there is fear of rejection, and to build that trust there is an initial process of exchanging little tokens of intimacy, which can increase and increase over time. If you are aware of it you can speed it up by going a little faster (not too fast).

Biologically there is a hormone, Oxcytcin, which greatly encourages such intimacy and trust. In the beginning of a relationship it floods you, and kick-starts the intimacy thing.

They literally just discovered long range missiles while the united states has had the means to stop nukes before they hit at least 10 years ago.

Even if they launch, it will never reach the target. NK doesn't stand a chance against the US.

That being said if someone removes their current gov at this point it would be a blessing for the poor souls living there.

>>18612172

>am i being paranoid here

kinda, yeah. we already have anti missile technology that would stop it way before it would get to new york. the nearest target is actually alaska, and if they are trying to aim for something we care about, they'd aim for seattle next.

but honestly were going to not have to worry about it. Worst case scenario guam gets blown up, which makes me sad cuz i love that little slice of paradise, but id be surprised if they got that far. I'm more afraid for the korean people than the american people.

>>18612172
Oh, you are so asking to be trolled. Asking so much I suspect you too live under a bridge.

But, /adv/ is nice to people so here is the truth. North Korea has missiles, and it has atom bombs. But the bombs are a bit amateurish and big and heavy and the missiles are like starter missiles. They could maybe put a bomb on a medium range missile and bomb South Korea or China or parts of Russia or Japan. So don't go and work in those places.

To hit New York is harder. I understand that in the US nobody is taught geography of places outside the US, but take it from me, New York is extra-fucking further from North Korea than Japan, so it is harder to make a missile that will reach. And much harder to make a teeny tiny atom bomb that will fit on that missile. And very hard to make a case that stops the bomb from just melting from the welding torch like heat as it re-enters the atmosphere. And even if I'm totally wrong, the US has super cool interceptor missiles, which actually do work.

One day the North Koreans might get it right. But that day is not this year. Or probably the next 10 years. So go and work in New York.

And why the fuss at the moment. Well you have an crafty President. He likes to raise a big fat smokescreen of total bullshit when he is in trouble, just to cause the bullshit to steal the news headlines away from his troubles. Expect the smokescreen of bullshit to get bigger if he is in deep trouble and smaller if his troubles are reduced.

>>18612166
First of all, leave 4Chan. You are young, you don't need 25 yos bitching about being virgins.

Second, what you feel is normal. We were all teens, and life sucks at that age even if you don't have any problems. Most of us had problems on top of being teens. And we survived. So can you.

>I'm tired of being a disappointment to myself and to my dad.

Now, this one is the most important one. Has he said that to you? Don't let that kind of crap reach you. You need to filter out those that don't do you good. It's hard escaping your dad (believe me, I know) but you have to tought it out, finish school, land a job an get the hell out of there.

Improving your life will take effort. But it can be done. Good luck OP. And stop posting if you are underage.

>>18612166

You already know what to do, you just won't do it because you keep going through mental gymnastics so you don't have to confront reality. If you don't get yourself together then you're in for a really unpleasant life (readas: probably homeless, at best), don't run from that, deal with it. You like animation? Cool, learn how to do it yourself, or become an artist and do commission pieces/make your own webcomic or whatever and sell merch. You have no confidence because you won't try anything, start trying and your confidence will build naturally. Failure isn't the end of the world, the world will keep spinning. Just keep plugging along and do what you enjoy. If you're disorganized then make a realistically usable organization system for you (eg clean clothes in pile by closet, dirty clothes in pile by window, pens in second drawer).

>>18612166

you're in high school, you're not supposed to be good at anything. everyone who claims to be good at something is at best just kinda okay at it cuz they're still just starting. I was the guy who made movies in high school. they were shit.

highschool isn't really about being good at something, its about focusing on what you like, and somewhere down the road you become kinda good at it. most people wont ever be great though, most people will just be good compared to the people who DONT do it, and there's nothing wrong with that. do what makes you happy.

>disappointment

well, what are you doing to disappoint him? if your general existence is somehow disappointing, then it sounds like your dad just doesn't like you.

confidence is defined as 'the belief in a truth'. so you need a truth to be confident in. prove your self with something, anything. why not start with your grades? its pretty much the best thing you can do well in at your age.

>>18611966
Ignore the question mark after "anything else"

That's easy. It means you're a faggot.

>>18611966
It means maybe.