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This is probably one of those threads where I already know the answer, but I'm gonna ask anyway

>get fuckbuddy
>fucking for about a month
>notice we're starting to act a bit closer than is normal for fuckbuddies
>cuddling and staying over long after sex
>drinking together, getting food
>holding hands while we cuddle (and in public if drunk)
>don't want to date her at this point but also like her as more than a vagina
>i bring this up, about how we're doing all this stuff and how I feel
>she agrees that she's getting attached but also doesn't want to date, just keep things how they are
>fast forward another month, we're basically dating without the stuff that takes effort
>we're exclusive (but still just fwb)

bad stuff begins here
>she switches birth control
>next time I come over she's not in the mood which is a first
>happens the next time as well
>talk to her about it, she says her new birth control has killed her sex drive and she doesn't know what to do about it
>ask to hang out a couple times after that and get excuses
>confront her if she is trying to end things or what and to be straightforward
>quote:
>"I don't know what I want with you now since I seem to have lost my interest in sex, which hopefully doesn't last but idk. And I don't want you to wait on me. So at least for te time being maybe we shouldn't plan on seeing each other and obviously you can do whatever you want with other people"
So that was a week ago. I guess what I'm wondering is, is it really over? I can't help but feel used; we seemed pretty close but as soon as my cock is of no use to her she doesn't want to see me anymore.
Is it possible she just doesn't want to be selfish and ask me to keep seeing her because she thinks all I want is sex? Or some other weird shit like that? Or am I just fucked and I should delete her number?
Any insights, advice, or comments welcome. And yeah I know I'm a dumbfuck for getting attached to a fwb.

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My girlfriend and I broke up tonight. I am absolutely devastated.

How can I ever get over this? I love her so much, and we were together for three years, but now I have to throw all that away? All the dreams I had to spend my future with her I have to give up...?

I can't stop thinking that I will ever find anyone as good as her again, anyone that fits me so well. There is so much hate in the world. She was my light in the dark.

How can I get over this? It's hard to imagine ever not being depressed enough to date again.

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hey /adv/

I am 20 and recently got married to my gf whos 21 and finishing college. I recently started college ( I was held back a year because I moved to the U.S 7 years ago). i do not feel like college is what I need right now. I'm living with my mother and my wife. I am currently unemployed and I'm looking. I do not know what I wanna do but I do know what I enjoy learning about and working with. I enjoy computers, crime and shady business.

my question is. I want to live with my wife and stop depending on my mother. She has done enough for me. I want to have my own apt with my wife NOW. I do not want to wait until I am done with college. I was looking into getting an IT certificate but I heard it's really competitive and im not sure on how to go about that. I plan on working full time and taking 1,2 maybe 3 classes per semester. Major in computer science and try to get an ESL certificate ( I am bilingual, speak and write fluent English and Spanish).

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tl;dr: why no gf?

Seriously though, how the hell does one gets a girl to go get a coffee with, cuddle some in the sofa while watching people walking in the cold outside during christmas season?

I have tried almost everything I could think of. I went out with girls I knew for a while, I asked out girls that I already knew and girls I just met from friends in common. I went out in the night and got kisses from girls that I'm not sure I liked but never went further than that.

I'm a nice guy with a decent job even though I don't make too much. I'm not all bad looking even though I pretty much abandoned the gym in the last two months or so.

I think my weakest spots are a not-really interesting life, I'm not too funny (or at least not in a way pepole easily notice), I don't have too many friends, I don't live in my own place or have a car and I really don't know how to engage things into a "sexy" mode, like, I really don't know how to create that "tension". Is there really none that want some love from someone like me? What the hell do I do about it?

Please help me.

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I was a high school drop out, and I was in porn as a teen (am female). I suffer a lot of trauma from what I had been put through, and put myself through. I didnt comprehend as a teen that these things stay on the internet forever. Im now in my 20s and im trying to move forward with my life.I want to go into robotics for a living, maybe get into ivy league if I can. Thing is, im kind of afraid to be a success, because what if someone recognizes me from the porn and it ruins my career? But Im also tired of being a NEET failure. Anything you guys can say to help me get over this fear is appreciated...

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How wise is it to stay single for most of your life?

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New relationship. I am not normally a suspicious person but I think my gf might have been a male at one point or still is, I dunno. She? has large hands and her? skin is not smooth. She? has small breasts, not really a problem except I have never been able to touch her? vagina. When we have sex she? only allows the rear. Her? family lives far away and I would feel awkward asking her friends, she has never shown me baby or kid pictures of herself? upon my request.

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My mom caught what looks like a field mouse on a glue trap. Instead of putting it out of its misery in a quick smack or something, she just put it in a plastic bag, tied it up, and threw it in the trash outside.

I'm a real sucker for animals, I even bother saving wasps that get in the house. Apparently you can use vegetable oil to free mice from glue traps. If I do that in a secure box, drive it at least a 45 min walk away, would it find its way back here?

It's either I kill it right away or I drive it somewhere to give it a second chance but I'm not going to have it suffer all night.

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It seems like there isn't any place for me. Every one of my interests is some marginal thing that hardly anyone cares about. If I express an honest opinion, it's rarely wanted. My presence is really only desirable to those who can use me, like a tool in a garage. Everywhere I look, the world seems filled with bullshit. I believe I am thoughtful, intelligent, and capable of many things-- however, I seem to be the wrong "shape" and can rarely find a way to fit in. I do not suffer a lack of confidence, and I'm not suicidal, though I've realized over the years that much effort goes into making this an attractive option for me and for any other people like me. It's like-- the world wants to just be this one version of people-- "money/happy/bullshit" and I'm obviously not built for that sort of thing. I'm naturally something else. And I've got to scrape through this shit world day after day, miserable, like Andre the Giant in a Prius. There's nothing wrong with the Prius, but if you fail to offer Andre the Giant anything else to travel in, it's going to suck for Andre the Fucking Giant, right? Yet, like some kind of very agreeable Andre the Giant, I keep getting in the Prius and keeping my eyes open for something better. I've been looking for nearly 40 years, and frankly, I'm tired as a motherfucker. What should I do? Where do I go? Why does everything suck so goddamn bad?

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Where to buy Balisong (Butterfly Knife) in Australia? I know it's illegal, I just wanted to get some advice or any stories about buying them.

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Please read before judging.

I was a virgin before meeting my last boyfriend. I loved him so very much. I still can't get over him. He was perfect in every way, looks, brains, he also had a quick wit. I liked that the most.

He broke up with me because I got jealous of how often he was hanging out with his ex, the mother of his daughter.

I can't get over him. It was always him who didn't want to use condoms. I wish I could go back in time and agree to not use contraceptives, I'd be pregnant/have a baby and he'd still be with me. (He's pretty mature and older, not the type to leave without support).

I'm not overly sexual. I had a bond with him, I can't just be with another guy for some casual sex relationship. But, my goal is to find a guy that looks like him and get pregnant. Same race, ethnicity, all that.

Can anyone understand this logic? I already have a guy in mind. I'm average/attractive so it wouldn't be too hard to try for.

Should I tell him that I want a baby? Should I lie about being on the pill?

I wouldn't make him pay for any expenses that comes with having a child, as I am quite independent in terms of handling money.

I'm in a really bad state right now. This has really been depressing me for weeks. I wake up and my stomach is in knots. I dream of him always. This may come off as obsessive, but I loved him so much.

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Am I risking a rape accusation or a jail time if I go through with a drunk hookup?

It's my first semester of college and I've almost closed a few girls, but we were both drunk so I stopped the interactions early. With all the talk lately about sexual assualts on campus and how drunk girls can't give consent when they're drunk. I'm scared shitless I'm gonna wake up some morning hungover next to a bitch who's ready to cry rape to everybody. All of the SJW and Feminist crap taking over just terrifies me of hooking up with anybody drunk.

Has anyone been accused of rape after a drunk hookup? How much of a risk am I taking with it?

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An older coworker of mine had asked me to talk to her son, who actually is mtf trans. Pronouns are weird but keep up with me. She’s 19, and it turns out she recently attempted suicide and is hardcore depressed. Also recently ran out of meds (SSRI) and is getting set up on some new stuff (different SSRI). When I spoke with her she mostly didn’t say much. And this was just email. Very short responses, and she seemed more interested in me helping her get HRT than anything. Which is understandable of course, but I was hoping maybe we could chat and be friends?

Now she’s got her HRT going and is working on changing her name. And that’s wonderful. But there are these incidences I guess that I hear about from her mom, at work. Like pretty serious stuff that makes it seem like maybe she’s gonna kill herself soon. It’s a place I’ve been, and I really feel like I could help a little if she gave me a chance.

Her mom seems to be getting kind of desperate, and really really wants us to meet and hang out because she wants her to have a friend, and feels like we’d probably make good friends because we’re similar in lots of ways and could maybe relate through the whole trans experience. I could use a friend too, if I’m being honest.

But what can I do if she really doesn’t seem like she wants to talk? Guess I can’t know what she’s thinking when I try to talk to her. I wish we could IM somehow because then she might open up more. Should I just ask her if she IMs and maybe see if we could chat that way? I’m afraid of scaring her off. And I’m worried too. I hate it when people commit suicide.

dammit character limit wtf man

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So this is going to sounds pretty weird, but...

Should I gift my mom a dildo or vibrator in the hope of hearing her masturbate?

I was thinking of buying it and then mailing it anonymously to her. I don't think she has any toys like this so hopefully she would accept it.

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So I'm not sure if this is the place to ask for this, but I need some advice on trying to find this girls tumblr.

I've been on it before, but I totally forgot the URL, and I have tried EVERYTHING to try and find it again.

I have:
>Reverse image searched a bunch of her pictures
>Looked through her entire FB page
>Deep google searching, even spokeo, I did find some old accounts/usernames, but none led to her tumblr
>Searched stuff on tumblr she likes, plus her name, tumblr has a shitty search function so it wouldn't work


I get their is a possibility that it could be deleted, but I'm wondering if there's anything else I could try?

I'm not going to give out any of her personal info, so don't ask.