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They're around.

But they won't date someone who ever went here.

>asking where good women are
>on 4chan
>on /adv/

>>16500239
They're with all the handsome + rich/successful/well respected men already.

Throw it back but try to make it just as casual as hers.

>>16500249
Like what? Tell me exactly what to say here

>>16500231

she's bullshit-testing you to see whether you mean what you say

if you agreed on having a platonic relationship, then tell her "femanon, we talked about this.."

also what do you mean you love her? why do you platonic-zone someone you love?

Cont.
fast forward to a few nights ago

>girl and i at work party
>she gets drunk, I stay sober because I'm designated driver
>she gets a little too drunk, starts talking lots of sad shit
>co workers talking a lot of hippy bullshit to her, making her feel worse
>finally get her in my car and just vent my frustration
>she's just quiet and listens, makes her feel better to hear me be raw about shit because no one else ever is

>>16500069
Cont.
>finally get her to smile, she starts flirting with me
>she starts asking me questions about my sex life and shit
>she asks me how I am at satisfying the girls I've been with
>she tells me about how she's hard to get off
>offhandedly comment that I just don't think she's had the right touch and that id love to try
>she smirks and asks if I've wanted to fuck her
>don't lie, tell her id never say no to something like that
>we pull up to her house
>she sticks her foot out the door, then turns around and says "I'm just gonna do this"
>she grabs my face and starts kissing me passionately
>panicking because right in front of her place and boyfriend is home
>she pulls away, stares at me smiling and says "what? :^]"
>I tell her I'm trying to be respectful because I know she's drunk and it feels unethical
>she leans in a few more times before pulling away and saying "I'm drunk. Oh god lol"
>I tell her "that kiss was years in the making though"
>she laughs and says "oh is that right"
>gets out of the car, I do too, give her a hug and say "not a fucking word about any of this!"
>she says "aboooout what :^]"
>give her a hug
>she walks off happy as fuck
>drive away shaking, realizing just how much I wanted that and feel weird about it
>go home and play it back in my mind over and over savoring the memory

Next day
>get a text from her apologizing for anything she may have done because she didn't remember anything that happened
>meet up with her later and her the story, didn't really leave anything out
>she thought it was way worse
>wrote it off, no real feelings explored beyond that, but she was glad I told her and that she hopes she didn't weird me out

>>16500074
I've had a crush on this girl for years and after being so close to her I want more, but I feel like anything I'd say to her would fuck our friendship up.

I feel like I'm in love with two women right now. I don't know what the fuck to do with myself. I've been working with her all day and she keeps commenting on how somber my expression is. What would you do in this situation?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1c6OoOHXz0k

try to do nothing for a while. do not dick around just calm.

I realized that my incredibly shitty college GPA of 3.2 won't do anything for me anywhere. I feel stuck. Lately I've been forcing myself to learn French and Esperanto; forcing myself to get up at 5-6am every morning. I've been reading philosophy and that's been a healing process for me but I've been doubting myself the entire time. I no longer feel like I'm intelligent. I feel like a moron. I'm finally saving money at my shitty job but I just spent all of it to pay back the shitty UNI I'm going to. I still owe them money. I feel like my dreams of going abroad are over -- and I've dreamed of exploring England or France since I was 14. I feel like I've been spoiled in life and have nothing to show for it (I consider growing up in a first world country to be the best one could hope for in this world). I might have to just stay at my current Uni and amass debt in this state I don't like. I feel so trapped and so alone. I don't make friends easily and I do not mesh well with most women. I've thought about buying farmland and running into the country never to be seen again, because when I look at what I was and what I am now my failure becomes self-evident. All of my life I wanted to be a writer or an artist: something that would help society or give lonely people support or advance culture; and I just don't think I can do it. My life is a testament to my laziness.

>How would you feel as a woman getting this message?
Like my fiance was autistic as fuck. Also you can't legally force her to give you a blowjob

>>16500053
No of course not.
Nobody's trying to force anything legally.

I was thinking she'd like that I'm taking control of the sex and being dominating, nothing more than that, if anything.

I already sent a massive text explaining my position about it. Sex is important to me, the same way raising a family and everything is important to her. Men and women just look at sex differently and she should understand.

>>16500061
Nothing wrong with being dominating - if she's agreed to that. The minute you start imposing it on her is the minute it gets rapey. If she doesn't want to do anal and if she doesn't want to give blowjobs except for now and then, then you can't make her.

If my fiance sent me something like that and he was serious, I'd consider breaking it off. Not only would I be terrified that he was capable of raping me (because how else is that going to be interpreted), but it's also a sign that he can't communicate properly, and not being able to communicate and sit down and talk issues through is a big red flag.

Also why the fuck is everything through text?

you dont want to get rid of them
they look good

>use my smart phone

Found your problem. Bright lights at night hinders sleep. Turn off every light source, lie in bed and close your eyes.

>>16499842
I know and nowadays I turn it off. It's still hard to fall asleep tho

If you have the balls, just go up and tell him to fuck off and stop harassing you when you see him. Given who he is and who you are, other people on the bus will certainly back you up should he not simply shit himself and fuck off.

If he bothers you again, I would just politely and calmly tell him that what he's doing is making you uncomfortable and ask him to stop. If he's a relatively normal guy, he'll either stop what he's doing or make some dumb "bitches and whores" complaint. If he barked at you like a dog, though, he might not be mentally stable. If he's not mentally stable, just telling him to fuck off might set him off, y'know? I'm not saying he doesn't deserve it, but either way I feel like a calm, firm response is your best bet.

>>16499837
Pretty much this. If he persists, call him creepy (be sure to use the word), and make sure the other people on the bus can hear it. That should put them on alert, and set him to running.

Sounds like a fag wants to break into a phone. Your story is shit because the provider can typically be talked to and hand that info over. The cops could def get it too

The literal only exception would be that your cousin encrypted all outbound messages through a third party app and also encrypted the device via third party software. I really doubt thats the case

>>16499832

Yep, the police would just subpoena the info from the provider, or they would do the same for the company that made the application.

Kill yourself, OP. You're too stupid to even come up with a convincing lie.

>>16499832
Yeah sounds like it, but that's not the case. If I'd stolen an iPhone I would have just wiped it.
Well the cops sure didn't get into seeing as they gave it back to her mom who then talked to me. I'll talk to her about contacting the provider. It's been a year since she died so I don't know if that's even a possibility at this point.

>>16499800
Put a comma after times, change 'who is going to build' to 'which one can build'

>>16499830
Thanks, is the second one ok?

Since the beginning of times civilizations have been competing in who is going to build the tallest building. It is a show of power and wealth of a country

Since the beginning of time, civilizations have competed to build taller and taller structures (synonym for buildings but includes more things like pyramids and totem poles and so on). These constructions represent the power and wealth of their civilizations.

same general idea, just with some nicer vocab and phrasing.

>>16499703
You two should NOT go on a date (that's what it is), unless BOTH of you break it up with their respective so's first.

Meaning; you break up with your girlfriend, she breaks up with her boyfriend.

Otherwise you'll be a massive douchebag. If you're okay with that, by all means.

>>16499703
> I'm tryin to end my relationship but my gf doesnt accept it.
That's not up to her to decide. Just break it already.
And goof around with the other girl if you won't feel guilty about it. You don't need our validation.

This is what will happen.

>you fuck her best friend (in the best case scenario, more likely is that she only wants to know THAT you would fuck her in theory)
>best friend tells your girlfriend (or ex by that time) that she fucked you or that you were ready to fuck her to spite and hurt her
>you're in the middle of a shitstorm
>unless you switch social cliques or are friends with utter assholes, you'll forever be known as a douche

Also
>I'm tryin to end my relationship but my gf doesnt accept it.
Grow a pair.

>>16499671
Nah it sounds fine. You're black so there's no issue.

If you want to keep it inoffensive check out thug notes on Wisecrack's channel
Alternatively be as crass as you want, you'll just have a different audience is all

>>16499671
I'd watch it and not be offended. Can't speak for everyone else. If you're black I'm pretty sure everyone would think that's just the way you are.

>>16499605
You need goals. Goals provide motivation

>>16499647
I set goals. But it's hard to get myself to work on them, and if I do, I lose interest very quickly...

>>16499605
my girlfriend left me because i'm not motivated. It sucks. I can't help it and she didnt try and help it, but she left me anyway.

>>16499476
Tea is a great idea, really helps with stomach issues. I would recommend not tripping alone though, that shit can get out of hand. Do you have anyone else you could do it with?

>>16499480

Why is tripping alone a bad idea?

The first and only time I've done it with was 3 friends in the middle of the forest, had a bad trip with existential crysis type of thoughts, but I don't regret taking them, now I'm growing my own, I've heard that tripping at home is safer and more relaxed that's why I plan on doing it alone.

>>16499493
Home is a good spot no doubt, very safe zone.

From personal experience, I've found that tripping alone usually found that i get myself into a bad spot. It's nice to have somewhere there along to ground, laugh, trip along with you.

But if you're comfortable with it, HAVE FUN dude

He probably assumed that things would change, like you would still focus on him. Has he made any attempts at reconciling with you? (taking you out, making you dinner etc.)

As well, if you wanna dump him just do it and don't be swayed by his pussy ass

>>16499438
>Has he made any attempts at reconciling with you? (taking you out, making you dinner etc.)

no

>>16499433
It's not his decision to make, if you refuse to break it off permanently at this point then you're just as weak as he is.

Stop trolling you little shit.

Also if my partner would tell her ex that she loves him I would shoot her down in no time.

>>16499423
she tells him she loves him?! dafuq?! I'd tell her to stop talking to him immediately OR I'd find some nice girls I can "just be friends with"

>>16499432
i'm not trolling. this is no fukin joke lol. i dont see how this could be a troll anyway

none of u guys have gfs that still talk to their exs? i mean this guy literally sent her a video of his dick and pics of them together when they were in a relationship and she showed it to me like:

awwww i dont kno why he did that dick thing, and she felt sentimental about the pics with her and him.

thing is, i know in the back on her mind, she knows he is trash and that she could never get with him... he lives in a foreign country that she use to live in too... and he just isnt on the same level as me

so she shows me these things purposely because 1) she is really comfortable with me and 2) if she were to dump me anyway, she would not even date him either cause he a total loser where he lives and who he is affiliated with and what he does for money

so.... i still have that jealousy that comes in, and it is overpowering. but i just need to remind myself of that stuff about this guy...