>What's the best thing to say to someone you haven't spoken to several weeks since an argument?
I want to make things right. My friend (pic related) and I had am awful argument two months ago, and we haven't talked or seen each other since then. The basis of the argument was communication, our past, and a failing relationship.
>>16502111
Say hello.
>>16502111
>friend
>failed relationship
I really hope you're not the one who got dumped trying to make it work. That said you shouldn't be friends with your ex, you're learning it the hard way.
>>16502121
No, I'm not attempting to establish a friendship or relationship. I only want to make things right between us and leave in peace. We left in such bad terms, and I don't want to leave it in bad terms.
I gave up my "anal virginity" to my current boyfriend a while back. He never had any particular interest in anal but he wasn't against it either. We started to do it more often until one night we were drunk and an "accident" happened. Since then we've never done it and while he seemed unfazed about it at the time I think he's disgusted by it and doesn't want to do it again, since he's never attempted to. I really like anal and want to do it but I feel fucking mortified still. What to do?
>>16502098
If you want to do it, tell him you want to do it, if you don't want to do it, then don't.
>>16502098
How bad does your butt crack smell?
>>16502107
But he's grossed out by it for sure. He always makes a point of avoiding that region whenever we have sex now. He used to sometimes put his finger in there before we actually started doing anal and now he even avoids doing that. -.-'
I have a porn addiction, so I've read some big articles and howtos on how to get rid of it - the general points in each are that you should have social life and sex life (haha).
So how does it work for a basement dweller with a day job? I mean like naturally those manuals don't work for me.
Is there like some spiritual sect-kind of crazy zen-solitary-hermit way to be free of that addiction (without religion involved pls)?
Get a gf
>common advice states solution to problem
>hey what's a convoluted way to avoid my problem and fail to improve upon my life and circumstances in any meaningful way
>>16502048
No, I am open to any real advice, unless its similar to previous reply
so i know im being screwed over in a relationship, i told her to stop talking to her close guy friends even exes. i dont want to end it now, i want her to feel the pain long after i decide to break up with her. how should i go about this
Are you just being a paranoid freak or are you sure she is cheating?
>>16501641
definitely sure, she let me look through her phone and she thought she deleted everything but i found messages and pictures. all in all i left it at that and she felt horrible maybe a week but shes doing it again
>>16501637
She won't care and you should end it either way.
I'd suggest fucking up her finances personal property. Don't admit to shit or tell her you did shit she can and will probably take you to court over it. So no texts retard.
Also try fucking her friends or close family (sisters, cousins, bonus point for mom even if she's fugly) record them with your dick in their mouth and send it too her later.
Oh yeah although this is something I personally enjoyed doing fuck a random slut before coming home don't shower have her go down on you while you have some skanks vag juices on your dick.
In the back of your head it will feel pretty glorious. Especially when done multiple times. Also tell her about it when you finally dump her ass after getting that one good fuck in.
Need major /adv/ice here.
I'm on my 2nd year in uni, studying psychology. I've yet to find out what suits me (had some mild thoughts of going for clinic) and I still struggle to explain my would-be job from a practical point of view... so lately I've been thinking of switching to medicine.
What happened to me? I had passion and I was rather happy of getting here. How come I'm starting to give up so easily, so soon?
>tl;dr OP is a faggot who can't decide between two universities.
I know this board moves kind of slowly and I'm nonchalantly asking for major life advice, but I could really use some help right now, so... bumping.
Last bump. Please anyone, have mercy on me.
both are absolute shit, you won't be happy in either job. guaranteed.
I thought I had finally gotten the break I've been waiting for. Started going out with a girl and it seemed to be going well. I thought hey, maybe this medication is working and I'm just exuding this air of confidence I seemed to be lacking.
This morning she said she'd rather just be good friends, and that I have a "super personality " but she started liking someone else. Old me would have seen it coming.
I've tried tinder and okc and all that bullshit and none of it has gotten me anywhere. I've been exposed to a number of "growing up ugly" memes and I identify with all of them. Not wanting to be a defeatist, however, I redownloaded tinder today. Spent all of my likes and matched with two bots. Went through my old messages from last time and found this treasure.
Feeling the depression I thought I was finally over coming back. I'm so sick of being alone. I'm so sick of feeling like I'm behind the curve. I've busted my ass trying to make my life better and nothing has worked out. What do I do?
When all else fails get money.
When you have money, everyhting else comes together.
>>16501427
I'm not one of those people who can ask their fathers for a small loan of a million dollars. I'm not doing bad for where I am in life and where I started but if we're talking lambo money that's a few decades off. And I don't know that I can wait a few decades for life to be enjoyable.
>>16501440
>I don't know that I can wait a few decades for life to be enjoyable.
You'll have to.
Welcome to male life.
You're either born rich or spend 20 years getting money and then fuck girls 20 years younger than you.
It's all about money.
If you have questions about what path to take, take the one that leads to riches.
Am I a bad person?
I am constantly afraid that deep down inside I am a bad person.
I have so many gut reactions and feelings and emotions that I know I shouldn't have and they always make me feel like I am terrible.
For example, I get extremely jealous when my girlfriend talks to other guys and shows any sort of fondness of them
I'm get jealous of friends who I feel are better than me and feel angry about it
I get insecure about stupid shit like my girlfriend wanting a tattoo or that she wants to be a plumber and it makes me feel insecure because I have no hands on skills.
I'm sometimes controlling without realizing I'm being controlling
I'm judgmental of other people and cyncial of everything.
I'm argumentative and hold grudges.
That all said, I'm aware of all of these things, I don't try to feel them its just what happens. And Whenever I feel these ways I hate myself for feeling like that. I never EVER let myself act on these feelings though. I always act in the way I know I should. I support my friends and my GF and bite my tongue when I feel jealous or grudges. I try my fucking hardest to live as what I see a good person. I'm just afraid to my very core that deep down im this sack of shit. Everyone else seems to naturally just non judgmental and easy going where as I have these bitter feelings rotting inside of me.
My therapist says that its not about how we feel its how we act and the fact that I'm aware and I don't let my feelings control me is proof that I am a good person and that if I work on it I won't feel that way anymore. Its just, how do you stop feelings that happen like reflex? That pop into your head even before thoughts form?
Eh, you aren't alone. Lots of people are constantly plagued by shitty thoughts and feelings. Your therapist is right though, actions are more important. It probably wouldn't hurt to find a partner you can share your thoughts and feelings with in a rational way. Jealously isn't as bad when you're honest and straight forward about it instead of hiding it away and hurting others in order to make them afraid to have independence.
>>16501378
>For example, I get extremely jealous when my girlfriend talks to other guys and shows any sort of fondness of them
insecure
>I'm get jealous of friends who I feel are better than me and feel angry about it
insecure
>I'm sometimes controlling without realizing I'm being controlling
normal
>I'm judgmental of other people and cyncial of everything.
assholeish
>I'm argumentative and hold grudges.
insecure
from what i can tell op, you're not a bad person, you're bad at being a person, and very insecure.
>>16501392
I share with her I'd say about 50% of the time, or whenever I've managed to work through my feelings on something. She's always been fantastic and supportive and thinks I beat myself up way to much over everything and that I've always been fantastic to her.
I just don't bring it up all the time because I'm afraid of bogging our relationship down with constantly telling her how fucked up I feel about certain things, or how insecure things make me, I'm also afraid she will see me as being a control freak or a bitter jealous person sometimes. She never does.
>>16501397
Well yes I could tell you that. But how do I become secure? I've been fucking trying for years and nothing seems to work. I started lifting years ago and god fit, I found decent work, I got an amazing girlfriend who loves me and wants to move in with me, I have fantastic friends.
And yet there's this deep dark insecurity that I just can not shake.
hey /adv/, gotta kill self, whats a good way to kill myself with my car thats painless?
do a backflip
>Step 1
Don't kill car
>Step 2
Don't kill self
Problem solved, you're welcome.
>>16501320
You don't "have to" kill yourself, it's your choice. And death is painful.
"Hey are you guys hiring?"
"Yeah! Do you need an application?"
"Yes."
"Here. Fill this out and come talk to the manager."
20 minutes later"I filled it out."
"Let me get the manager."
A. "Alright. So you're basically a clean slate I see. OK what are some of your feats?
"Nothing really. I have little to no exp and I need someone to give me a chance."
"If I gave you a job here, could I count on you to be here on time, dressed, cleaned up and ready to go? And you're over 18. That's good."
"Yes sir/ma'am"
"I'll give you a call. Is this a good number to reach you?"
"Anytime"
B. I'm sorry, but we are not hiring at this time, however we will keep your application on file for the time being for the next 6 months if something comes up."
"Thanks..."
later on ..."Yes. I was wondering about my interview and how I did if there was anything I didn't do right..."
"No, you did great, it's your lack of exp with jobs. We need someone that has already gained the exp to do what we want."
"Oh..."
"Sorry. Best of luck to you!"
OK so explain to me, how the hell I'm suppose to get fucking hired ANYWHERE if every god damn job is the same? If every god damn job wants B more than A? Why? WHY? I don't fucking get it."
>>16501303
You gotta get a shitty job first brah, like at a grocery store or some shit.
Just got a job at Panera. Never worked a day in my life
Volunteer work or do a course you stupid fuck. Is it really that hard?
not sure if this should go here but i want somewhere outside of /b/. so, my memory. i have very, and i mean very few memories of anything more than 10 years old. i remember a little more when i was in high school, but not much. i moved around a lot when i was young (foster care) and when i was in high school (back with mother dear at 15. did not turn out well.) i only really remember one friends name, and none of the friends i made in high school. i have a few more memories during the time in foster care but even those are sparse. i've had people add me on facebook that knew me but i straight up do not remember them and accept their request and try to remember. sometimes something clicks but more often than not it doesn't. i've been told i had a shitty life but most of it i do not remember. even my ex wife (divorced a year ago, separated 2 1/2ish) memories of the beginning of the relationship with her are fading more and more. that was 11 years ago, i'm 31 now. i've known about this problem since i was 20. it hasn't really had any effect on education.
is there anyone else like this? if not should i do something about it? should i do something about it any way?
I remember only a few things from my childhood up to 7, i started to wonder when i heard other people my age (21) always remembering so much more than me. I think the reason is simply that we moved at 7 and have never been back, so i were never reminded of anything except what i could remind myself of in my head. So if you moved alot, thats my theory. It seems more severe though
>>16501253
yeah, i moved a lot, different house every few months for a long time. but even my best memories are still hazy no matter the location or duration. i was with one family for over a year and don't even really remember that. but i guess that's a definite possibility.
>>16501269
What about situations it should be hard to forget? Emotional impacts and such ?
How do we tell our friend that his wife is a dirty scandalous slut?
>friends with group of 6 guys for last 15ish years
>one of my friends older brother(who we're not that close with) went to prison 6 months ago and will be in for another year or two
>since then his wife and mother of his two young children has attached herself to my friend and by extension, our group
>it was good at first because she brought some new girls around for us
>we find out from one of her friends she's trying to fuck around with some other guy she met on the internet
>that same night before we can confront her about it she goes off with my drunk friend to fuck him
>she breaks down crying the next day spewing endless excuses and tells us not to say anything to her husband because she needs to tell him herself
>since then it's been two months and she has tried to escalate things sexually with every single guy we hang out with regularly
>there's no evidence but we're 100% sure she's fooled around or even fucked 3 guys
>we're all conflicted but we can't exactly cut her loose and the pussy she brings around is a strong influence for the group as a whole
Do we tell him when he gets out or do we let him stew with it?
I'm at a loss for words with her
Tell him now. If he's weak willed then he will immediately confront her at which point she will break out the crocodile tears and make a hundred excuses. In person he might forgive her and give her another chance. Let him sit in prison and think about it for awhile and his anger will build up to the point that even seeing her cry and make shit up won't move him to forgive her. Also you guys are shit tier friends for continuing to hang out with her. Would not want to ever count you among my friends.
Let him know so if she visits she has enough time to break up with him and not die.
>>16501155
When does he get out?
I feel like a disappointment to this guy thats been crushing on me for a while (i like him too but ill explain) . See we are both 18-19 and i just want to focus on college and myself.
Hes always been really sweet to me, buying me gifts, saying nice things to me, making me feel special, but i told him on a date that i just wanted to stay friends and that i wasnt interested in having a boyfriend right now. Im pretty sure he thinks i just dont like him, but thats just not the case.
Was this a reasonable thing to do? he seemed very distraught and i feel really bad about it.
>>16501136
>hes always nice to me
>buys me gifts
>takes me on dates
>for some reason doesn't tell him no straight up
>wallows in gifts and money until you have a new interest
>then tell him no
You're a bitch who enjoys getting attention and presents along with money. Like most women.
>>16501136
>Was this a reasonable thing to do?
yes
>he seemed very distraught and i feel really bad about it.
he'll get over it quickly enough.
>>16501154
Becasue buying a present means she has to ride the D.
Running from all my problems...they're haunting me...
>only poison sets me free...
>>16501102
Oh so you dont need advice. This thread would be more suited to /r9k/
>>16501103
how so?
>>16501102
or you could get a job, save some money and stop being a dumb ass
I'm a short male human being. I'm not even that short, I'm 5'8 (1.73), but I really feel uncomfortable with my height. I get obsessed by anyone's height, I Google the height of every celebrity I see, I compare heights of all my friends (and the irony gave me two 6'4 guys as best friends) and the first thing I see when I meet someone is their height, and if they're taller I get over jealous. Once a girl refused me saying "you know you're really really cute but we're tall the same and since I love wearing hi heels when I go out it would be emberassing going on a date with you". Also I'm a basketball fan and this doesn't help with my self-esteem. Pic super related.
>>16500908
Get the fuck over yourself.
Shit, I'm smaller than you are and nobody besides 4chan gave two fucks about it.
>>16500908
When I lived in Texas, I saw a lot of tall guys. Every guy I dated there was well over 6 feet. When I moved to the west coast, tall guys are extremely rare. The only tall people I see on campus are the guys on the basketball team. Everyone else is somewhere between 5'8 to 6 feet tall. Does this mean people on the west coast are all forever alones? Absolutely not. None of my male friends have trouble getting women. So... like >>16500923
said, get over yourself. Normal people in the real world don't give nearly the amount of fucks you or 4chan does.
>>16500908
You're taller than Tom Cruise.
Hey /adv/ What obnoxious things can I do once I finally get a gf? I want to show people that their relationships are casuals. Money is not an issue in this equation.
>>16500880
Buy her an island & name it after her childhood pet dog that died.
>>16500890
Ok we're talking realistic here, not many islands are for sale.
>>16500892
Buy her a house.