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You know you fucked up, right?
Bye bye, wish you luck with life

I just don't know what's happening with me. I am really with this girl every time and she considers me as her best-friend.

She has said to me a lot about her past(like she don't have much friends and people used to ignore her) and after hearing all that, I am really sad for her that she has passed through all those not-so-good moments. I try to console her saying that the past doesn't matter anymore and what matters is what you do in the present and in the future. She then says that she feels good and after like 2 days she comes to me saying the same past moments and gets sad at it. I try to console and make her feel good with the same thing I mentioned earlier. Even after she still repeats it, I never can't get angry at her and ask her to stop saying it. I just can't.

Also I remind of her past victories and over-comings on her past bad situations and that makes her feel good. I think that she has said almost and everything completely about her to me and I think she has some kind of feeling for me. By this time, I also developed some kind of feeling for her.

But then, she mentioned about her other best-friend to whom she has also said everything to him.

What is she meaning by all this? Is she trying to gain sympathy from different people by saying her past to them or something? She's cute and kinda short and with that I think I have fallen in love with her by a bit. What if that other dude has the same thing for her?

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>>16505483
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I hope /adv/ got me. I never have got into a relationship, I have never experienced anything like this and I don't know what to do /adv/. I just met her like 3 months ago and she has some kind of super-trust in me. Also, when I ask(2 times I have asked) about that other dude, she gets happier and says more to me about him.

I just joined this collage and I fear that getting more into this would harm my studies and shit. I just don't want to have any mental breakdown on a rejection later on. Meaning, what if I later on grow my feelings for her and I ask her out and she rejects me? I really hope /adv/ can advice me in this stuff.

>>16503142
Fairly accurate. You'll always have a bad dead end job and no one will see you as a success. I bet you went to a B tier university.

>>16503170
Oh, and my real issue seeing you as messing up is not even getting a double major. Being just a history major means you're a fuckhuge slacker.

>>16503177
that's not true

>>16510297
Who are you trying to imitate here? Fucking Locke? Ask ur question in plain english next time. To answer your question: I have no idea. Any fembots in tha house?

>>16510297
If a girl refuses to give you her number, it's because she is repulsed by you.
There is no other reason.

Also deer in the headlights face is usually not a good one. It means she's anxious, and in this particular situation, it's likely because you creep her out.

Girls may get a deer in the headlight look when their crush approaches them, but in that case, they would give him their number immediatly. No one would say "no" to giving their phone number to their crush.

>is this because she is too shy and attrracted to say yes
This is not a thing, other than perhaps once in a million times.

can't loose weight? care to explain?
And no there 's nothing wrong with you, some girls have less libido than others plus since you're a virgin you don't know what you're missing i guess...

Men have much higher sex drives and basically their entire social value is dependent on how many girls hey bang so it's more important for them than you.

Why can't you lose weight? Is it a praticular medical issue or just "my genetics" and lack of the discipline. That's the source if your problems, when you hate something about yourself, you hate yourself. When you give up and accept the things you hate, you give up on yourself and hate yourself. And that doesn't lead to a happy life.

drinking socially/casually don't really qualify as separate things to me. no need to feel bad if you're doing it alone. just don't overdo it man.

>>16510094
>Is it acceptable for an introvert to drink unsocially?
Unsocially? What does the "acceptable" stands for then?
I thought it was short for "socially acceptable" but in your case it can't be.

If it was, then... well, you answered your own question.

>If you enjoy getting drunk by yourself, are you necessarily an alcoholic?
Not on its own, but what you are describing may very well be.

It's a very thin line.

the line between recreational user/addict can sometimes be ambiguous. The biggest sign is that you have trouble putting it down despite having negative consequences.

anyway, to answer your question, it's frowned upon by some to drink alone. Personally, I don't see the big deal in doing drugs/alcohol on your own, it can be a different and fun experience; you don't need to be surrounded by people or a person to have a fulfilling experience.

"Well then you dialed the wrong number. You should be calling your ex and telling him all of this."

Then hang up and block her number.

>>16510096

She called him and told him all of this, and she's upset because he said he'd never take her back.

>>16510104
Lol what are you even doing here then?
If you truly don't know what to do, you don't deserve advice.
But just in case you're simply clinically retarded: Drop that bitch now.

>>16509954
It's probably empty, but you may also have just hit the jackpot. What state?

The Kootenays in British Columbia, Canada. This area 100 years ago was a hot spot for gold/silver mines all over. Im curious if it is the jackpot...but its true that it might be empty. But I at least need to know.

have you tried calling a locksmith?

They could probably get it open in just under five minutes for under $50

>>16509899

Learning to read music should be your first objective.

piano's a good place to start, pretty straightforward and a great skill to have, especially being able to do two different things with your hands at once. you should look up the book "piano for the developing musician", I found it as a pdf for free on google a while back but it's the same book I was required to have in a piano class a while ago, starts off pretty simple and slowly gets more difficult, as long as you commit yourself to practicing every day and using a metronome you'll be shreddin' in no time.

>>16509899
Musician here

I would say start out with anything that will teach you how to keep a beat (I'd say drums) and then move on to piano to learn notes and how each note falls into a scale.

There are plenty of instructors that are out there, and some teach for free or low cost because they're trying to fulfill a requirement of some kind for their degree.

What shitty European country did you move to?

Also you never thought to look up job prospects in that area?

>>16509905
The least shitty between the shitty ones, i can't go to france or germany because language, and i can't go to bongistan because the cost of living would be 2 expensive and i can't afford it. Let's not even think of the scandinavian ones pls.

And yep, i did looked up for job prospects and i've actually find a lot of jobs that i could do, but they've never called me back although i have a decent cv.

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Like anywhere, most people use their personal network to hire. Does anyone you live with have any leads?

>>16509891
Don't take any action on the feelings. They're just just feelings and not the reality they appear to be.

>>16509893
I get very angry at her for doing very small things.

I'll give some examples.

She works in a small company with 2 other people, only. They are both guys and I think married and/or engaged. They have a one hour lunch break each day and eat in one of the few restaurants in the local area and if they choose the same restaurant, then they eat together. I get jealous.
Another example: today she went to her sister's house and while she was there she sent a picture of her dinner which had a lot of beer and a harder liquor in the picture as well. Then her phone died and she was out very late and so I was worried. And now at like 1:30 she video chats me through her sister's phone and I asked "why was there so much beer in the photo you sent me?" And she responds that she drank beer and hard liquor with her sister and her sister's husband, then her phone died so she had to borrow her sister's. I told her I was worried and I don't like that she drank without telling me in advance.

I am constantly suspicious and jealous over things that I realize on a cognitive level are probably, almost certainly unwarranted, but it's to the point that I can't focus in work or studying or anything nearly as well because I am constantly feeling this way.

Help?

>>16509891

Break up or find a terapist.

I usually let myself out when I first meet somebody, but not all the way. Over time I let myself out more and more and gauge how that goes over, and based on that reaction, i either pull back or do it more. yeah

Sure, show your better qualities. But don't make shit up whole cloth. Keep it real.

>>16509761
Fucking lol come on dude

>>16509604
Don't be a dick, just wait for them to break up

Is that her in the pic?

>>16509604
Look at it this way,

If she already has a boyfriend and she's flirting with you, then what's to stop her from flirting with some other guy who takes her fancy once she grows tired of you?

Thing to keep in mind is that if she'll do it to this guy, she'll do it to you.

Unless you want a broken heart, I say go for it, but just know you two won't last long.

Your relationship with her is over before it even started.

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She's hardcase. I know another girl (also a virgin) who makes herself cum multiple times a day... meanwhile I'm going at my girl in periods up to 45 mins before either she dries up or I get exhausted and limp...

>>16509506
Learn how to eat pussy.
Also, buy a "Fairy Wand Mini".

You're welcome.

1: Don't assume there was enough foreplay.
The biggest sexual organ is the brain, and foreplay can be a pretty big production, starting with how you pick her up for the date. Dinner, conversation, romance. Details like smell, sounds and taste can make the difference for a lot of people, and can play a role several hours later.

2: Stop focusing on cumming.
Sex isn't about the big O. It is about enjoying each other and having fun.
Masturbation on the other hand is all about the big O.
I hope you got the point.

3: Watch a lot of porn together.
This isn't foreplay. This is exploring what you both like. A fetish here and a fetish there. Something fun to try; read point 2.

4: DON'T jump head first into a fetish without doing point 3 first.
'Here, wear this, and bend over for a nice surprise'.
Police officer: 'Can you show me where he assaulted you with the object?'

>today I'm on drama studies
>mainly for meeting girls everyday

you are doing it wrong, you won't get a job if your main purpose for studying is to meet girls

Only thing you can do. Fuck women and network

>>16509519
But the main purpose of getting a job is girls too. If it wasn't for meeting friendly people and cute girls, I would never go out of my home.

I'm not really afraid of successful woman. I am however intolerant of cunts and such.

A lot of women conflate being strong and independent with being annoying as shit.

From my experience they tend not to have any respect for their partners and tend to do fucked up shit that only a woman that doesn't respect man can do even if they love them. So meh, no thanks, there's plenty of other women who will not be assholes. You could try virgins though, I have a virgin friend who fantasies about older successful women, so maybe that can be your thing.

>>16509467
Perhaps for many guys there's the insecurity "Why would she pick me?" since she could find someone better easily. They don't want to risk being dumped if someone better comes along.