I am extremely depressed. Everything about my life just doesn't go right. My face is fucking ugly, I look like a disgusting freak, I have acne, shitty pale skin, red hair, yellow teeth, a weak jaw. I'm just plain unfuckable. I'm 21 years old and I've never had a girlfriend. I was bullied all throughout high school by almost everyone, so I don't really have many friends. I'm dumb as shit, simple math goes right over my fucking head, so I will never be able compensate for my lack of looks with money. I have no talents or anything I'm really good at. I'm even shit at the video games that I play all fucking day. I've been playing counterstrike for 8 years and I still get called out for my shitty playing almost every game. I still live with my parents because the only jobs I can get are shitty retail minimum wage jobs. Knowing these things used to just make me cry in my room, sleep all day, or just sit around basking in my self-pity on /r9k/, but now it's getting to the point where I'm getting so frustrated and angry about how useless I am that I'm taking my rage out on all of the shit in my bedroom. I had a fit the other day and smashed one of my computer monitors and slammed my expensive computer on the floor, damaging all of the internals. I punched about 10 holes in my wall before I went to sleep last night and now my fists are covered in scabs. Now I seriously regret destroying the only things that got me through the day and I know I need help but I don't know how to get it. Someone recommended that I try exercising but I don't even see the point of taking care of myself when nobody will even give two fucks anyways, I'll still be ugly and insecure. I don't really have much money or health insurance so I can't see a doctor. How can I get happy? How can I be feel less hopeless all of the fucking time? I'm pretty much crying as I type this. I don't even want to live like this anymore, it feels horrible and I don't know what to do.
>>16510139
and by I don't have many friends I don't have any at all.
>>16510139
Jesus OP... I mean. That's not...fun.
First off, your reason for not exercising is an excuse. If you're feeling THIS desperate, it certainly can't hurt. As far as everything else, you're probably caught in a shitty cycle.
You feel bad about yourself, you're angry/depressed, people don't want to be around that, so you don't have any friends, and you're back to feeling bad about yourself.
I know you have a shitty retail job, but that's where I've met some of my best friends. Also if you want to post a pic, I'd be happy to tell you of any stupid little aesthetic improvements I can think of.
>>16510193
tsk tsk OP, have you abandoned your own thread?
26yo. Never kissed or had a gf.
How can i make the thoughts about how i wasted my youth disappear?
By making a better life for yourself now.
>>16510133
DAMNNNNNNNN SONNNNNNNNN
Also, you're going to look back on 26 and be like "jesus I was a baby. I wish I'd done XYZ back when I was 26."
4chan warps your perception of what's 'old' and what's 'youthful'.
just hire a prostitute. it's better this way for a lot of different reasons.
Girls, what are the things you look for in a guy?
My face is attractive but my arms are a bit skinny (although I'm starting to work out more). There's a girl in the class that's 10/10 and she has tons of guy friends that are buff but they are all idiots (don't do well in school). I can be funny and am interested in lots of subjects (history, politics, science, etc.), I have my future planned out and I think this girl would make the absolute perfect wife for me. What chances do I have? What sort of characteristics will she look for since she is used to tons of guys chasing after her?
Everything. I look for everything I can admire about a guy.
>>16510063
Like what?
>>16510061
If you don't possess said characteristics, you have zero chance anyway. Just be the best you can be, it may or may not be what she's looking for.
30yo virgin here.
It bothered me more and more to a point where I started to decline girls hitting on me because I was afraid of the shame of not being able to handle them.
To solve this, I just went to see a prostitute today.
We made out, I got hard, but as soon as she started to blow me, it felt so strange that my dick turned flaccid. After that, I managed to get a semi-hardon but again, as soon as she put my dick in her pussy, it kind of hurt and my cock went flabby. She then apologized for not being able to make me cum and I left.
Worth noting: she was not so attractive. She was fat and her face was only meh (the girls who are spontaneously flirting with me are more attractive than her)
Now I'm asking myself the following questions:
* Am I impotent from watching porn or was it nervousness and the fact that I was fucking a complete stranger that was not so attractive?
* Why did it hurt when she started to fuck me? Seems weird, but her pussy was not that loose, does it hurt your dick when a girl is too tight?
* Why did the blowjob feel like nothing special?
* Would have it changed anything if she was actually pretty?
Also, it was the second time I got a blowjob, last time was from a guy and same thing happened, but at that time I attributed it to the confirmation that I was not gay.
Picture unrelated
stop masturbating too much
You gotta stop beating yourself up and reserve your cum for real vaginas now instead of for porn and prostys. Dont worry, i went to a prosty my first time too. Felt cool, but fuck that bitch.
Every vagina is different. Some bitch i fucked with that fucked many guys had a VERY tight vagina. Then some girl who had only recently fucked one guy in a ONS, and before that, 9 months of no sex, didnt feel shit
>>16509944
Did you have the same experience?
I usually fap every other day, last time was the day before yesterday.
I'm bad at being intimate and talking about myself, how do I get better?
I've always been really afraid of opening up to other people and actually talking about myself because of self worth issues, but lately I've been really trying to change that.
However I find that I'm not nearly as good at speaking in this context than I am in others
I stutter and lose track of how my words should flow and don't really have a good sense of how much to actually say before I'm either burdening/bragging to/boring the other person
any advice?
>>16509867
people generally dont want to hear about ur problems or inner thoughts etc.
>>16509873
That's what I've always thought but I very frequently get pushed in conversations to talk about myself and used to just deflect and make it about the other person again to avoid having to speak about me
I kind of started to feel like that isn't normal though, was I wrong?
>>16509867
Don't bother about opening up to people.
It's usually women that force us to open up, but it's not because they care about you. They just want as much info as possible to throw it in your face later on in the relationship.
For example: You tell her about your problems with your father and you get emotional and you tear up.
The next time you'll have a fight with her she'll bring that up, telling you that you have daddy issues.
Women will shit into your heart.
How to get over her? It's been three weeks and it's still crippling. The feeling that I'll never see her eyes again, not a single text from her will bleep on my phone no more.
Worst is I don't even know what she's doing, how is she feeling. If she still thinks about me as much as I am.
This is too fucking heavy.
>>16509721
Some say you never quite get over it but it gets easier.
You just need to spend time with friends and family to keep your mind preoccupied.
If you stay busy and have fun with friends you won't be dwelling on it as much.
This helps me after breakups
>>16509721
How long were you together?
>>16509736
I don't have any friends, and around my depressed wall I buil another one when talking to my family and become angry instead. It's not helping really, I like to get drunk alone in my flat every night, just killing time waiting if she might text me.
Hey /adv/ so I just got a tinder and started putting myself out there. I'm moderately attractive, I get plenty of matches, but I suck at initiating conversations and keeping them going.
Now if there are things I can use as hooks in her profile, I use that. But if all she has is pictures, what can I say? How can I start a conversation complimenting a girl without sounding desperate of creepy? Because I am both.
Also, how do you ramp up boring chit chat into sexual conversation/flirting? Example msgs help a lot.
Will post porn in return for tips. Thanks /adv/
>>16509490
hey [name or nickname]. Freckles works pretty well.
then you pick an activity or a picture of her profile. if not, you can always go by name or go by random.
since you're American you can use some shitty pick up line, the avocado line does wonders, but don't be autistic about it
get her number ASAP
ask about travel, pets and her favorite places (specifically bars and restaurants)
"well i've never been to that area, maybe you could show me ;)?" or "well i can pick you up and show you some of the best of "x" ;), how about [day] at [time]?"
ezpz, also post pic and description
the above works for me. seldom girls won't reply, but that's normal. 90% do.
>>16509510
you can also go for "hey aren't you the girl from [university]? I swear i saw you in [whatever] once! :)"
>>16509510
I started by asking them if they have raisins. Will this work in my favor? Pls respond
Why are there so many more single guys than girls? It's fucking bullshit how society pushes this "girls want to commit but guys won't" meme when the average guy would chop his foot off to get a relationship and girls can't even be bothered.
>>16509449
Isn't this a pasta from like a month ago? Nice bait
>>16509449
Given that the world wide ratio of male/female is close to 50%, and a heterosexual relationship requires both a male and a female, it is just wrong to think that there are 'so many more single guys than girls'.
I mean, you need two to tango. Both girl and boy. How hard is that to understand?
>>16509456
Look at the age range breakdown, there are more young women than men.
My lady and I have been quarreling all day. Not over the "cat", but it made a lovely segue discussion to a topic of discussion we had earlier in the week that seemed at the time like it was a non-issue. It clearly hit her harder than I originally had thought it would, and honestly it's my apprehension and assuredness that she wasn't going to react pleasantly to the info that caused me to "get caught" with my porn interests. Not that porn is the issue (so she says), but the fact that I prefer asian women's looks. It's not the "personality of the typical submissive asian woman" or anything like that, it's the general appeal of appearance that gets me. Also it's pretty much a non-issue as far as I am concerned. I have no interest in leaving my her for anyone, I have no interest in cheating, and I have no interest in making my girl feel at all bad about herself. Although, this has devastated her because she feels she is holding me back from what I "truly want" (She is a whitie after all), and also she feels that she will never know how it feels to be "hungered for" so to speak by way of my personal preference to "yellow fever". Which I honestly can't say is at all true. I find her to be the apple of my eye. We have been together for 5 years and have dealt with some pretty rotten issues as far as relationships go and have carried on with decently smooth waters since...
My quest for advice is this; how much shit am I really in?
Alright, am stoned so shall I bite.
1. How old are you two?
2. Did she see a porn vid on your screen or did she read your browser history?
3. If browser, was it ALL Asian porn?
>>16509489
It wasn't all asian porn, she has known I watch porn and recently has been watching it with me. Also, 30.
>>16509425
First, please stop typing with a fedora on.
Second, how would you feel if she watched porn of black guys all the time? Wouldn't you feel like you aren't enough?
Gf of 5 and a half years broke up engagement 3 weeks ago.
We planned our future together.
Says she has no feelings like that for me anymore and that she wants to be alone.
She also
1. purposefully avoids dealing with her feelings, jumping into stuff like learning and organizing programs to avoid feeling my loss (her words). She might have an emotional issue because she learned doing this growing up with an alcoholic father.
2. she deliberately upholds the possibility that it's very likely we will get back together in the future. I believe this is another defense mechanism. She is telling me that she doesn't believe she can have a relationship this deep ever again if not with me and that we will find each other again.
Meanwhile I:
- feel her loss steadily, been fighting for her the last 21 days, lost 8 kilos, couldn't sleep decent for weeks etc.
- turned down 2 opportunities to move to London for her (we are from a shitty Eastern Euro country)
- started a shitty school i hate to get a shitty job i hate in order to have an opportunity to move together and live with her here
- did I mention she broke up an engagement?
She moved while I'm also stuck in a shitty town I hate where everything reminds me of her, have to sleep in my shitty room where everything reminds me of her, etc
I'm introverted, have no close friends apart from her except maybe one who is busy.
Fucking Christmas is coming up.
Will this get better?
Can I survive december like this?
Hopefully I'm moving to London in January. I need to hold out and get better until then.
Any tips, please?
>>16509258
She's unstable, and if she dumped you then so be it.
Her saying she thinks you'll find eachother again is probably bullshit to make both of you not feel so bad.
Move to Europe and pursue your dreams for you.
A rule of thumb is career first, romantic relationships second.
>>16509260
>Move to Europe
Move to London*
hurr
moar tips please?
I'm manly as fuck trans girl. Sucks I want die. Help.
>>16508679
Seek therapy and reassignment surgery. Perhaps do things in the meantime to feel less manly. What do you think is wrong with your appearance/physique?
I feel your pain. I'm a amphibious-gender frog. No one understands me. I want to go back to when I was a tadpole.
be specific, why do you want to be a girl, what is wrong with your body?
Do girls find the under cut/ top knot/ man bun attractive?
Post best male hairstyles than anyone can pull off without 1000$ of hairproduct and a team of stylists?
I find pic style pretty cool, what do girls think of it?
>>16508593
>sjw dyke half shaved head
I really hope this look dies out asap. That said tumblr and psycho chicks will be all over your dick for being hip and trendy.
>>16508593
>under cut/ top knot/ man bun
no
>>16508599
shut the fuck up
>>16508603
What are other "good looking" haircuts for men that are possible to pull off without dunking a bottle of elmers glue to hold it in place? (Sarcasm)
I was just wondering, how do you guys manage your long distance relationships? How do you stay close? How often do you voice/video call? Do you plan on meeting, Have you already met them? if so, how expensive was your trip?
I have been in a LDR for over a year and plan on meeting him soon. give me advice!
I talk to her every day, if we can skype , we skype for hours and hours, as much as we can, we play games together as much as we can, laugh and make jokes, try to have real conversation, help each other with homework or anything either of us need, and as well as just talk. We talk from when we're both awake and ready to engage others, and we stop when ever shes tired or whenever im tired or we just have other shit to do. I plan on meeting her for the first time in about a year and a half. Planning on spending a week or two where she lives. Ive been friends with her for about 3 years, dated her for 9 months ,we broke up during the summer, it was a tiny mess, we both fixed our shit, started talking again, and now we're in that weird "relationship not relationship" phase.
The key to everything in a LDR is communication, and making sure you know EXACTLY what you want to say.
>>16508527
>Met her multiple times
>visited her 5 times she visited me once over 2 years
>rent and hotel and plane tickets were around 800-1000 depending on time of year
>she ended up cheating on me
Skype every day, chat almost constantly when possible, be extremely blunt and open with each other, dates as often as we can, usually every couple weeks.
It's hell. But I love her.
hello everyone
i came to /adv/ before but i need more answers since the situation changed
im a 34 year old khv
ive lived in my apartment for 14 year now
ive had my anime, manga, books, shows, movies, video games, and some other things to keep me busy
i haven't really left my apartment in 14 years, my parents paid for everything
i do have a car that i got when i was 18, really love dthose cars back then
its an rx7 FB
anyway
my father passed away
and im scarred what will happen to my life if my mother is gone to
she doesnt have anything planned if she does pass away for me
so
should i get a job? that really scares me and i dont know what to do
thank yous!
>34 year old
You should really consider asking that somewhere else than /adv/. I don't want to be that guy but you're really too old for this board.
>>16506173
how
how am i different from >>16503381
i trust you guys
youve been my only friends for a long time
>>16506157
>34
>should i get a job?
Yes, you twat.
Best of luck, would of been easier finding a job those 10-14 years ago.
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
What's even the appeal of a height difference in a relationship. It seems like more of a hassle than anything.
>>16505460
What? I don't think anyone purposefully looks for a height difference in relationships
>>16505478
I see tall guys chase short girls and the other way around all the time. It always seemed a bit wacky to me.