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Any doctorfags here?

I have a problem where I focus too much on my peripheral vision. Some could say it's awareness but lately it's been too much of a problem. I would try to look at someone in the eye and talk to them but since I focus on my peripheral vision so much it makes it harder for me to pay attention to what they're saying. Anything I can do about this?

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Hey guys.

I'm falling into a abyss and if I don't get my act together, it's over. My life will be forfeit to my twisted inclinations.

I never expected to actually be a perfectionist....and, fuck it, I am. I have hobbies that I want--no, NEED to practice for my happiness's sake, but sometimes just because the time doesn't feel *right* or I don't know if I'm really doing it the best way. Am I getting enough MPH off the fuel I expend? Ugh.

There's a few problems enabling my bad habits.

1. I lost weight by being a starving student. 150 isn't that nasty even for a girl. Even so I'm still out of shape and I often find myself quickly flustered or tired and seeking comfort instead. This drives my life. Since I don't feel good most of the time, I just don't do anything.

2. I've spent my life being kind of careless until now. A huge gamer in my youth. Shy as sin. You know the story.
Nowadays, I tend to not even spend my time having fun. In fact, I'm not even SURE what I'm doing most of the time. I'm not even partying or gaming for fuck's sake. I hate this. I never do anything.

3. Recently due to some past bad experiences (i.e., in high school) I've become immensely insecure.
>tfw your self-esteem is worse than when you were actually a 200 pound landwhale age 12-18
>it actually causes you great distress to be anywhere people can see you
So, I have that and the general low mood - I wouldn't call it depression, I've always felt bad - keeping me down too. I don't believe in myself.

4. Inability to properly organize/schedule and stick to it

Of course, I don't want these to be my excuse. So...people of /adv/ who overcame their demons of sloth: how did you do it? Whatever happens, I need to become a doer and stop thinking about the past or fretting about how I look.

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Is going to a club/bar alone cool? I've never gone to one before, and I'd like to try, but I'm concerned I'll look like a creep.

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>20 years old
>Thinking about hitting on girl
>Not sure if she's 17 since its been forever since I've seen a 17 year old IRL

How do I do this without doing anything illegal or upsetting a girl that turns out to be something fucked like 14? At the same time, I don't want to appear predatory if she's totally legal. I've never really hit on a girl before, so what's a good maneuver?

I was thinking about just asking her if she wanted to go out some time.

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I don't know what to do with my life and don't know how to figure it out. I'm 24, almost 25. I'm currently going to community college doing basics. Don't know what I should go for bachelor's degree wise one I transfer. I've worked at the same retail job for 4 years now. I hate it. I want to leave for anything that will pay better but I don't know what.

My main interests are video games, anime, and exercise. They say you should turn one of your pass into a job but I don't know how to do that. Plenty of anime critics exist as do streamers so both of those seem already saturated.

I kinda want to do the JET program since I am kind of a weeb who has interest in Japan. I've tried learning some Japanese off and on. I just don't know what bachelor's degree to go for.

Thinking about all of this and how lost I am just depresses me. Any advice would be appreciated.

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can someone please give me some actually good dating advice?

Everything I find is either "bee ureself and you'll find the one :)))", feminist "how not to be a rapist" shit or redpill "all women are sluts garbage".

I just want to know how to meet a qt to hug and cuddle with

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>be me
>24
>two year IT degree
>working towards Comm degree
>worried about career decisions

Should I continue working towards this four year Comm degree or just go straight to work in IT? I have little to no work experience and I feel it will be a struggle trying to find something entry level. I don't even have a certification like A+ or CCNA. Plus, I've heard that IT now-a-days is a complete shit show. Entry level employees have to do loads of work, while getting paid around 12-15 per hour. Also the end-game for IT in today's world is either Net Admin, Sys Admin, or Linux Admin. So that makes me wonder if I should continue with this four year Comm Studies degree or perhaps switch to a different major yet again. My other areas of interest are: History, Psychology, Philosophy. and Public Health.

What do you guys think /adv/?

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> be me, has friend many years.
> friend has little sister, know sister most of her life.
> sister gets married and divorced
> she comes on to me one day.
> end up fucking
> looks like it's going to happen again.
>she doesn't mind if I record.
> what sort of setup should I use?
> have couple of old phones, gopro, and old tablet.
pic unrelated.

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Right, so my brother fucked a 13 year old girl, got her pregnant, and refused to accept my help to change him.
He's been stealing from our family and gas been trying to seek refuge at my friend's house, but they refuse.
He's been living with my mom for a few months now until this Wednesday where he stole money from her and walked into our town.
The police are looking for him, and they know what he did. So he comes to my dad's house (while he's out of town) and I don't want him even in here. My dad okayed it, even after I told him he stole money
I'm only playing nice with him now out of respect for my dad's decision, but I don't think he'll ever change his ways. I feel like I've lost my brother.
I'm the only one who knows what he's really planning. He wants to skip town cause he fucked his life up here after quitting his job, lying to my dad about even having the job, and refused to even find work.
And above all he has history of this shit happening and I don't trust him.
What the fuck do I even do?

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I wana know if this is a scam. I am out of work, so my resume is floating around the internet. I got an email from a Zofia Kowalczyk, representing a company called Realitni spolecnost CS out of the Czech Republic, saying they are buying property here in the states, and they need someone to be what they call a Rent Curator, which they say is a middle man in the rent paying process. Apparently, they send me their rent. I take 5% off for myself, and send the company the rest, basically making it easier to do business over here, and for my troubles they pay me a monthly salary of $3000.

it smells fishy but I want to know if anyone else encountered something. I know very little about real estate and stuff like that, and is something like this common?

I've googled everything about this I can think of and come up with nothing about it being a scam.

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>tfw you live in the middle of nowhere and want to date but the only women on dating sites in your area are morbidly obese or middle-aged and morbidly obese

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What's the best... I need to know,.., what are your degrees in..

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>angry boss yelling at me
>i request that HR be present in this discussion
>boss responds with what I perceived as a threat

>so let me go further. If you want to have HR in on this conversation, we can repeat this conversation and I can go further with why in this particular instance it is all the more concerning, do you want me to bring HR in on this and we'll continue this once we get (HR) involved?

Was I threatened? Sounded to me like hey if u want HR in on this, ok but i'm going to be taking it further and make you look bad, so u sure u want HR here?

Also, is this good enough for a lawsuit?

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Am I a loser? I'm 22, and still living with my parents. Everyone I know has moved on, and living in their own places. However I'm in community college working on gettin an associates in software development. I've been in college for four years now, because for the first two years I was there I didn't know what I wanted to do,until I found out how much I enjoyed programming, and in my second year I fucked up and failed some classes, and my low GPA caused me to lose my financial aid. My dad offered to pay for my college, so I have been taking two classes a semester, that way he doesn't pay as much, because I feel bad enough as it is that he's paying for my college. I've been doing loads better, and have been getting the best grades I've ever had since I started taking software dev classes. But watching everyone around me moving out, getting their bachelor's degree, and just overall being successful, while I'm still living with my parents, still trying to get my associates makes me feel terrible about myself. I often feel very suicidal due to this fact, I feel I'm nothing but a drain on my parents.

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Did I fuck up on Tinder, lads? I matched some qt, her bio read:

"[Short list of adjectives and nouns]...

what you should know about me: I recently bought my first pair of overalls (I've been dreaming about them for a while now) and now I actively need to convince myself not to wear them every day.

Let's... [short list of activities]"

So I sent her the following message:
>"Okay, so I'm no stranger to outlandish clothing, but you're going to have to explain the appeal of overalls to me!"

It's been a little under a day and a half, and I haven't seen a response yet. Did I blow it? Would it be weird to try and send another message in a few days? Should I just hang back and wait? What do /adv/?