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same here bro

got a nasty look from this chick on the bus today. Wanted to slap the shit out of her

>>16524716
lel I wouldn't go that far m8 but yeah we definitely need help

>>16524699
The real issue is not that you react to insults with anger, which is totally sane.

Your problem, I'll bet, is that you interpret totally innocent or minor things as disrespect. Think about the last thing that enraged you. Was it REALLY a deliberate insult, or just the kind of blind mental-bumping-into-each-other we all do all the time?

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>>16524646
Second pic

Athelstan is that you? I made an oath to your god I will pay back Floki, dear friend.

>>16524656
Daily reminder that Ragnar did absolutely nothing wrong.

>>16524570
You will never be happy with your appearance, because you will always find something else to be upset about.
You have to accept that your body is just a vessel and you are more than that.

i wonder all the time why god made beautiful people and ugly people. Think about it every day.

>>16524577
Because there is no god

I need details!

Also get out of comfort zone,
also try meditating,
also grow up,
also doe exercises that help with stress.

>>16524724
Okey here's the details.
I get stressed before exams which cripples me an reduces my capabilities.
I worry about things that may happen and I over think about things.
I feel miserable most of the time because of this.

eat the heart of your enemies to gain their strength

Sup man. You pretty much described me til you got to this part:

>bing eating, binge drinking or online time-wasting, online porn and masturbation. I think I am somewhat of a sex addict (been fapping since the age of 9). (Really.)

Replace all that with playing video games, playing video games, and playing video games, and we're pretty much the same person, save for a small age gap. (I'm 31.)

I've been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD since I was about 9. Later I got slapped with the fun "depression" diagnosis which runs in my family. As a slightly more self-aware adult, I'm pretty sure I've got anxiety issues, but haven't been told so by a professional, so I'll be the first to admit it's little more than an educated guess. I've been in and out of more doctor's offices than I care to remember, and on and off most of the popular antidepressants and various ADD-countering drugs.

Sadly, as I said, most of your description STILL applies to me today. There is no magic cure, as much as we would all want it. The truth is medication and therapy aren't a be-all end-all. They're only a part of the puzzle. You have to maintain a positive attitude and focus hard on being the "you" you want to be.

Without meds it's not always possible, and sounds like shallow advice from people who don't "get" your situation; but on the right meds, a lot of the involuntary and self-defeating thoughts weaken or clear up... but then you still have to put in the work on your end, and that can be the hardest part.

Don't be afraid to switch doctors or ask questions about your treatment. Best of luck to you!

One more aside:
Be forewarned that there are lots of crass, bitter, angsty teens on this site that will offer little to no help. There are also honest, decent people who genuinely try.

>>16524440

Anon, I am 44 and your situation describes me to a 't'. I just picked up therapy in the last year to try to salvage my relationship with my now fiance. I was doing all of the above AND going to hookers/paying girls to be my sugar babies (basically under the radar hookers). A big part of it was the overwhelming anxiety and need for constant validation. I had really, really fucked up my life. I was dating a fantastic woman and fucking her over heavily by my neurotic activities. I work for an internet company with no supervision so I was fucking over my coworkers and my business partner by not getting things done. I would constantly procrastinate, and still do.

I'm a year into therapy and just looking into meds, mostly for the intrusive/negative thinking but also for cycling/sproadic depression.

Like 16524518 anon said, it's a lot of fucking work. And the recognition of the problem is small comfort, because you have that weighing on you now and there will be a lot of days where you feel as though it's just not worth it.

Stimulants do help. Lots and lots and lots of caffiene will at least get you moving, but you'll build tolerance and you don't want your heart to get out of sorts when you get to that level. I am trying Folate (metafolin) and that seems to flatten out the lows a little, but it does make me a bit irritable, esp. if I'm not consistently taking it. I'm also trying PQQ (Quinone) for energy, once you get past the wicked stomach upset it seems to give a bit of a morning bump. Initially it's a HUGE bump, but that settles down after a while as well.

>>16524704
Con't
My therapist is getting me to go see a Nurse practitioner (I'm in the states, if that makes any difference to you) as he says they are a bit more on the bleeding edge as far as treatment goes. They seem to tend to take a holistic approach including diet.

Best of luck to you, anon. If anyone wants to chat about similar problems, I'd be happy to post my kik here to talk. It helps to find people who 'get' you. Those who don't get it won't, but don't let that stop you from communicating your problems to those close to you.

You sound really corny right now. Honestly? Something like that would make me laugh but I'd probably want to catch up with you if you went out of your way to make it for me.

Nothing to lose. It might make her day and who knows, maybe you could get back together.

>>16524382
Which part of it is corny though? I mean i would like to cut down on that part when I talk to her
>>16524383
Thanks
I just need to finish the recording now and my voice isnt cooperating

swallow a shard of glass and see if its possible to like it

>>16524370
I did, before making this thread. It was more immediately soothing than smoking a cigarette. I'm completely calm now and not anxious at all.

>>16524375
I guess that's your new thing.

You can't ween yourself off of the internet, it's all or nothing.

>>16524339
But I start freaking out and doing damaging shit when I'm off of it.

The answer is [spoiler] you don't. [/spoiler]

the sex will continue to get less gratifying. If you want to marry her then consider talking to her, but if that's not an issue then what you're experiencing is normal. For me, it wasn't until I has sex with 50 or so grils that I realized the few relationships that I had were more satisfying

>>16524240
>blaming porn
dude porn has pretty much nothing to do with it, seeing eachother only once a month is the problem.
it's just enough to linger on for a while, but probably not enough to move on to a more mature stage of relationship, which is nesecarry cause the initial phase wears off after a while.

>>16524240
Ok, so me and you have the same problem, but desu my problem has been more focused on being with an amazing lady that has kidney problems and cheating on her to find a more healthy woman. I'm not proud of this, and for a while, she made me feel insecure and unattractive for years before we dated. So now that I have her, its just not that great. I mean, I still don't know why she ever chose me after so many times I've been rejected, but I feel like for a guy to go through all the abuse and neglect, I deserve better, but I shouldn't complain about finally having what I waited for three years to have.

Listen, I don't know if you have anything similar to this, but I'm telling you, every time I see a better looking woman or a relationship that's better than mine, I get jealous. I think about what I'm missing, and I try to make myself more attractive to other girls to fill my needs. I think about how easy it is to feel appreciated. How nice it is to not have to try so hard for so little in return. Strangely, even after I'm so jealous, when I'm with her, those thoughts are gone. I'm free of anxiety. I smile and love every minute I am with her. I massage her and cook for her. And as for a woman without a clit, the sex is amazing with all the effort I put into it. She still comes even without a clit. I'm still looking for answers here, but tell yourself this. Is it really the porn, or was it the anxiety from your phallic size and waiting so long for this intimacy that took 2 years to feel, that porn has quickly given you faster relief within that time of waiting? It might just be a problem when we focus on how patient you have been while in love with her , combined with the frequent need to feel sexual gratification you've waited to feel for so long. So many couples have gone through so much less and didn't have to wait so long just to decide whether or not one should be intimate with the other or not. For a two year so an, that's a while....

>>16524200
break up with her

>>16524200
Tell her you might be bi, she'll run a mile.

>>16524200
break up

The monitors were on a whim, didn't think of upgrading the OS because it's worked exceptionally well for me since I got it. But thanks all who reply with your thoughts.

No.

4k is too expensive for what it is at the moment. I do agree that 4k is very nice you really notice the reducation in pixelation and it looks more like vectors but they are expensive because they are new. Wait out the hype train Anon.

>>16524150
Oh you already bought them.

There is a noticeable lag for pc on fallout 4 every person I know with really nice comps all had this issue too. What are your hertz at?

A little. You need to take on a bit more of a "been there, done that" mentality. Getting captivated by people and things only makes you look wet behind the ears. That's not a hallmark of maturity.

You've seen attractive people before. You've seen her before. Stop staring.

>>16524119
This girl seemed interested in me before
She did sound quite happy

>>16524123
That changes absolutely nothing of what I said.

Because our department*

>>16524050

You wanted more workers and that's exactly what you got.

That's because you are being punished.

Start looking for a new job. Your boss should do the same, because as soon as you leave that department is going to fail. At least he'll have collected his bonus first.

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And getting a girlfriend won't improve your self esteem either.

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>>16524005
See, knowing that one's depression, or shyness, or anxiety or fear of talking to women won't be improved by getting a girlfriend is actually liberating.

You shouldn't have so much weighing on your mind when you talk to a girl. "If I could only get a girlfriend things would be better!" --Anxiety sets in-- "Oh Glob, now I've screwed that up again!"

>>16524002
>>16524002
>and only 47 Sahelanthropuses in my Sahelanthropus account

If you're objectively making progress and your feelings aren't changing, you just need to work this stuff out with a therapist. There's no two ways about it. It's obviously a problem of thinking and not one of reality.

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Split your time equally.

I say live with whoever is most convenient to live with. If one parent move to somewhere where it's easier to get to college, then move in with them, otherwise stay where you are. You shouldn't be seen as picking a side when you do this, and they should understand that

>>16523981

>doesnt explain what the brother can possibly do to "throw the stone"

You're a fag OP.