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Should I get an abortion? 2015-12-02 20:18:03 Post No.16525268
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Should I get an abortion?
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I guess you get a lot of those threads around here... but that's just because this is a really hard decision.
Some important points:
-I'm the guy.
-We are going to make the decision together.
-We are together for 8 months, but we have been great friends for the last ~15 years.
-I moved away to a different city about 30 days ago, because of work.
-She didn't come with me.
-She will come to live with me if we choose to keep it.
-We are 28 and 29 years old.
-I have a decent job, but I can't pay the costs o education with my current pay, but It's very likely that I will be able to afford it by the time I need to.
-She doesn't have a steady job but she owns her own company that is stable but doesn't generate more revenue than a minimum wage "yet".
-She is extremely mature.
-I consider myself to be mature enough to raise a child.
-I would be giving up an MBA.
-She would be giving up finishing college, her company, living with her family and the city she grew up in.
-We have no idea where to go for an abortion.
-it's not legal in my country.
-The places that do it are usually really bad and the procedure is dangerous to her health.
-She did that once already, but the place no longer exists.
-We both consider each other a great person to raise kids with.
-We are both scared shitless of having a child.
-We both dream of having a child.
-My family is not rich, but we have enough money to be sure everything will be provided... in case that I can't.
-Both our families will be extremely happy if we choose to.
-I don't know what else I should consider.
I would be happy to have any kind of feedback, but I would appreciate if it comes in this format:
1- Your age (your opinion is important regardless)
2- Do you have kids? Y/N (your opinion is important regardless)
3- Do you think we should abort? Y/N
4- Why do you think that?
5- What else do you think I should consider when making this decision?
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>1- Your age (your opinion is important regardless)
26
>2- Do you have kids? Y/N (your opinion is important regardless)
no
>3- Do you think we should abort? Y/N
yes
>4- Why do you think that?
neither of you have stability, you need to focus on your future and on getting your life together. you can always try again later, when you're ready. i also say this because she has experienced one before and will know how to cope.
>5- What else do you think I should consider when making this decision?
think about the environment you will be raising your child in. would you want to grow up in a world knowing you took away your dad's chance at an MBA and forced your mom to give everything up? what if you can't support your kid financially later, what will you do? what kind of future are you giving your child?
please have babies responsibility.
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>>16525295
i forgot to mention, in america there are pills you can take which will force a miscarriage, it's still dangerous, but not the end of the world. is there a way you can get this?
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>>16525299
Thanks a lot for your response. I'm not sure such pills exist around here, but I will look for them. Do you know what it's called? Even if it's just a slang name. Anything I can google?
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So I was in a party and I was really fucking drunk. I met this girl and we ended up talking alone and drank the rest of my vodka bottle. After that we went to my place and fucked. Later I searched her on facebook and sent her a message asking how she was doing, but she seemed a bit pissed and said that she didn't like it when I offered her alcohol even though she was already so wasted. I saw her today and she really didn't seem pleased to see me.
Now I might sound like a pussy, but this left me feeling bad and I'm wondering why is she so pissed at me. Did she feel abused? She seemed really happy to be with me the night we first met and I quite liked her.
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Don't trip off that bitch, dude. You can't expect a drunk hook up to turn into anything even halfway serious. On to the next one. Good luck.
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>>16525282
I'm okay with having nothing serious with her and I wasn't first even intending to have anything serious, she just for some reason stayed in my thoughts. Actually I'd rather just have her as a friend. I'm just worrying was I some way a dick and did I do something I should avoid in the future.
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>>16525291
Who knows. Maybe you did. That shit is relative and whether you did something dickish or not all depends on how she perceived your actions. There are a lot of reasons she could be displeased. Women are difficult. Don't worry about it. If nothing you did really stands out as dickish in your own mind then you really need to not worry about it. Can't force friendship. She's probably not worth your friendship anyways.
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My boyfriend is trying to convince me to have a baby 2015-12-02 20:13:02 Post No.16525253
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My boyfriend is trying to convince me to have a baby
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We only been together for 3month. We get on really well and I think he might be the one but Im not sure if Im ready to have a baby. Im 21 and he's 27. He already has one child that he cant see because baby's mother has been a bitch. What to do?
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You wait.
He seems like the kind that would knock any girl up just to have a kid.
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>>16525262
But I dont understand his way of thinking. I mean its usually girls who want to have a baby
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>>16525253
he is attempting to use you to create another child to compensate for his perceived loss of his own
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Imma go to the psych hospital for about two months.
Any tips to 'survive' there, or general advice for being there? Never been before.
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>>16525231
Lol why the fuck would you do that? Polar don't tell me you're putting yourself in there. Prepare for all day screaming, feces, urine, and strange mutterings
I will never get 51/50'd again.
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>>16525275
Psych wants to prevent me from developing schizophrenia. Says Im prodromal. Actually already diagnosed schizophrenia but never had a real full blown psychosis in my own estimation. Never hallucinated. But I have a hard time grasping reality it seems to flow thru me or something and disintegrating also feel like I'm disintegrating and that sucks and can´t function because of it. I think it's a psychosis prevention thing or whatever.
Also depression and what I get now for depression treatment isn't enough.
But yeah it´s voluntary stay, I was recommended this.
What you say sounds really shitty though...
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Based on my single stay over two weeks, it isn't anything like you've heard. The patients I met were all really nice. The nurses were mostly quite distant and I could tell they didn't give a shit. But there was nobody flinging shit around and I only heard someone screaming profanities once.
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Working towards positive social interactions 2015-12-02 20:01:13 Post No.16525229
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Working towards positive social interactions
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2015-12-02 20:01:13
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Hi, I have an almost complete lack of confidence and social skills. Because of years of living like this, any kind of social interaction feels extremely awkward, makes me feel nervous, uncomfortable, and stressed. This is a self-fulfilling and self-strengthening feedback loop, and it has come to the point were even really basic stuff like the bare minimum interaction with a cashier in a supermarket seems like a challenge (I tend to use self-checkout when available, for this reason :))
I would like to improve that situation, and I know that in the long run that will require practice. But unlike other areas, where practice would usually be boring busy-work to get better at the real stuff, here, practice pretty much requires interaction with other people, which is : a) really painful, and b) not actually very nice for them either, especially because they didn't volunteer to be practice material :)
Do you guys have some tips for stuff I could do that would help (even just a little bit, in a little area) without actually requiring human interaction? I know that in the long run it won't be enough, but I feel that if it'll make the actual live practice easier (for me and/or the other person), it would be worth it.
Like apps or websites or books with info or practice routines (or even live evaluation) for stuff like body language, pronunciation, stuff to say, ...
Note: I'm just talking about basic social interaction, not dating stuff, or even friendship stuff, as that's way out of my league for now...
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Hey op, do you care to tell a bit more about your situation? Do you go to school/work? Family? Do you live alone? How old are you?
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>>16525258
I'm in my early thirties, I have a job (IT, so my lack of social skills is not too much of a problem in my current low-level purely technical position, even though it does severely limit career growth potential).
I live alone, have never had a relationship or even real friendship, though I did, at some point, have a few acquaintances based on shared interests or hobbies.
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>>16525258
Missed the family part :
Haven't had much contact with my father the last decade (or really much when my mother still lived either). He moved to the other side of the world a while back.
My mother died almost 10 years ago, no brothers or sisters.
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Hey adv. So I'm a single dad, 5'4 fat, Mexican and fucking dumb. I have a stable job but eh. Does all of these factors repulse women? I've been going to the gym but I can't work out for my height. I wish I could an hero but my daughter needs me.
Pic related. That's me. Sorry you had to break your necks to see it.
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>>16525135
You're somebody's superman, hermano.
Keep your chin up
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>>16525135
>5'4
>fat
Yes those factors do repulse women.
>a single dad
>Stable job
No these factor doesn't necessarily repulse women.
At least you can properly shave m8, can't even tell you how many faggots think crustaches and neckbeards do not make them unattractive. You're honestly pretty well off if you're living stable, at least your surviving and if you have a kid you're not a permavirgin so you've got SOME game. You seem fine to me dude, some people have it a lot worse than you.
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Why not focus on your daughter?
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Are people on this board ever happy?
All i see is a bunch of depressed people giving advice to depressed people.
I'm not happy myself but I'm just wondering if anyone that actually is happy is on this board.
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>>16525086
I am. Life is pretty great.
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I'm happy!
But certainly there are days when I'm not so happy, but overall I would deem myself as happy.
Pegasus that twat also seem fairly happy.
But then again, you go to a site basically meant for social outcasts, and on /adv/ are those in dire need of help or facing problems that is taking a tool on them. People are in general not going to be happy here.
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>>16525086
Naw not really. I am a miserable self loathing piece of shit. But it's great to come into this board and talk shit about everyone else's problems
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On a scale of 1-10, how much do women enjoy man ass?
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i cant tell if buttacne or hair
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>>16524975
Where's that pic of the animu girl vomiting while covering her mouth when I need it? Ah well, I'll just post the closest one I have.
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It depends how cute or hot the guy is I suppose. So I guess I'd say 8/10
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I sorta broke up with a chick a couple days ago because she always mentions her ex boyfriend and I didn't like it. She got really upset and I said we could still date. A few days after that I broke up with her again and because she kinda had some body odor going on. After I did it I realized it was incredibly stupid, it was one time she smelled and I had showed up kinda unexpected in the morning and I really like her. Anyway, she's super upset over it and I want to get back with her but I don't know how to apologize, and especially I don't know how to apologize without seeming like I'm playing with her. I just went full retard for those two instances and now shes really upset and I need help fixing this. Any suggestions?
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>>16524959
> I'm a fragile snowflake. Fix me.
You have issues. We can't fix your relationship because you're just going to snap and do it again. Find out why you're going "full retard" over things and fix it, then try to get a girlfriend.
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>>16524968
Its not like I'm some crazy emotional sack. We haven't been together long and she was mentioning her ex like six times per day and she lives about two hours away and there were a few other complications. I wasn't sure if I wanted to be with her because of those things but now that its over I know I do.
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>>16525033
Why did you go straight to breaking up instead of having a calm discussion about it? The reasons you seemed to have chosen to break up over are things that can be fixed and talked about.
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Don't fall for that shit! Required reading (very short), Survival of the Shit Test. Marriage is all fun and games for about two years, then she will harass you about every fucking thing you can imagine. Nothing is worth this!
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Fucking redpillers. Go back to your masturbatorium, creep.
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>>16524928
>masturbatorium
I need to build me one of those.
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>>16524943
CLAUDIUS STOP SPENDING ALL YOUR TIME IN THE MASTURBATORIUM AND GO CLEAN THE HORSES
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A while back my girlfriend and I were in a bad spot, and during this time I found out she was talking to a guy behind my back after going through her phone. I broke up with her, but after some time we decided that we still wanted to be together.
For the past month or so we've been talking to each other and trying to work on things, with the goal to become a couple again. Earlier last week I asked her to be my girlfriend again since the wounds had healed and I had been really happy.
However, I told her I needed to go through her phone one more time. I had being doing this previously trying to build our trust again. This time however I found a way to see any texts she may have deleted. Once she realized what I was doing she snatched the phone from my hands and said she wasn't comfortable with it. Eventually she broke down and told she had been talking to some guys. One of which was an old friend from college, and the other being a guy who works at my gym. She actually went on a date with the guy from my gym behind my back.
Now I know most of you will say fuck this girl, and that I should move on. But the thing is I truly love her. She still wants to be with me, and I want to give her a chance. During the time she was talking to those guys we weren't technically together. She said she was having doubts that I would take her back.
What do I do /adv/? I'm confident that this is the girl for me. She's the only one I see in my future.
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So when you broke up with her, she went on a date with someone? That's.. pretty normal after a breakup. What was she saying to the first guy that made you dump her?
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leave dude. read what you wrote from an outside viewpoint. no reason to stay with such a bitch.
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>>16524870
Come over tomorrow, he won't be here
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Girlfriend never seems to be happy with me 2015-12-02 17:15:10 Post No.16524860
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It seems like no matter how hard I try to be a good boyfriend. There always seems to be something I'm doing that's upsetting her/making her angry. Whenever I ask her what I'm doing wrong she either doesn't know, pulls the "I shouldn't have to tell you what to do.", or says " I'm tired of having to figure everything out" and pins everything on me out of "principle" or some stupid bullshit like that.
I don't know what to do, I love this girl to death, and when things are good their really fucking good. However she just gets moody really easily, and sometimes it feels like her desicion making is fueled by emotion and not logic.
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Its cos you got a small D
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Thnx
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She's either an emotionally abusive cunt or you're a genuinely irredeemable human being
If its the first dump her and find someone better
If its the second dump her and seek professional help
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How do I approach a woman I can't impress in any way?
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>>16524808
Why impress her? What do you have to prove?
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ayy grl lemme spredeagle dat shite grlllllllll
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>>16524835
Well, I didn't really have a dad or any other guys to look up to growing up, but of what I've understood, the way men approach women can be summed up with the sentence
"hey, look what I can do."
It's a matter of finding a compromise of being able to offer her something that
A. clearly takes effort on your part
B. is something she values and would appreciate
And I don't know what to offer a woman who doesn't care about wealth, despises materialism, and basically does not believe in 90% of the things I grew up with.
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What can I do to get a better grade on my math accuplacer test?
I fucked around in school so I barely know a lick of math.
I received a grade so low that I am forced to take 3 semesters worth of remedial classes. This will be a huge waste of time so I need to pass the accuplacer when I try again but where can I study to pass it?
Anyone have education advice?
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>>16524760
Study.
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Take a math-book................open it.........and learn it.
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>>16524775
This anon speaks the truth
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I'm not an /r9k/ leaker, I just thought it would be slightly amusing to give the impression that I was.
I work 10PM to 3:30 AM 5 days a week moving boxes, and have classes at 9 am and going until Noon. I go to bed around 1PM.
So I call myself a Vampyre because I'm up all night.
I'm 18/M and I of course want to find a gf/waifu because I like the idea of a life partner to be close with.
How would 4chan advise I go about doing such with my awful schedule?
>Look at work
Well I would, except, 1: It's a total dickfest, 2: What women are there aren't intestested, and 3: It's a physical job so women there are (frequently) very physically attractive, and I'm still builtfat, so on top of not being interested, it's a no-fly.
>Class
It's Engineering and Calc courses. Enough said.
Engineering has 9 people and 0 women, math has 25 people about ant 3 women, which is considered quite high.
See above reasons.
I talk to a friend who is a girl in Denmark (Who might objectively be a great waifu for me with most things I'd seek) but she's flaky at best. I have other friends but none out of school.
Sorry for great wall of text, I can give reaction images (For use against frogposters) as payment/thanks for /adv/ if desired.
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bump pls
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Don't make finding a gf your primary goal/soul purpose. You're 18 bruh get out here and start making name for yourself.
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>>16524886
I get it, honestly.
But you do realize that Turkey shot down a Russian plane over Syria like the goatfuckers they are? Because they're NATO, this makes it basically so that America attacked them? Our world is not sustainable and the tyranny of the majority is dragging me with it.
War is engulfing the world and very well could incinerate it in the near future, but more likely, people will keep breeding and humanity will continue being the cesspool of awfulness that it is. Humanity destroys everything and we're destroying our very planet on every front. Within 25 years it's going to come back to us and we'll all suffer for it, suffer for the greed of the few and the agreeable complacency of the many through things such as religion, wage slavery while not voting, etc.
I want to have happiness now, while I can. I want to fill my life with meaningful, positive experiences as soon as possible, being happy with a girlfriend is one of them.
I will be putting myself out there. I'm in education and employment.