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>>16525852
Life is the most universally valuable thing.
Don't waste yours

Exploration of new fields, bettering yourself, artistic expression
You're better than suicide, anon. It doesn't have to be your stallion.

Because you will never get to experience any of the little pleasure in life ever again. If you don't have big goals, live for little goals, like good food or a day with friends.

become friends with a fatty and learn to be around women without falling love

>>16525842
No, if you're 21 and the most you can do in terms of social interactions is casual small talk, then there's not much that can be done. You'll prolly stay that way and then get a hooker in your mid 30 to lose v card

>>16525843
I don't think that'd change anything or help me

There's more to life than work and women. Take advantage of the fact that you're financially stable and try new things. Vacations, hobbies, concerts, instruments etc etc etc. Because as much as I envy your stability, your summarized life sounds pretty bland.

>>16525808
>young
>smart
>loaded
>good job
>girlfriend
>still manages to complain
Seriously dude. Fuck off and enjoy your awesome life. Chucklefucks like you make me so fucking mad

>>16525834
Yeah man I agree with this. If you're unhappy and wanna do some good, give me a thousand bucks so I can move out of my shithole and be with my loved one.

FWB is how I got through all of uni. Worked great. I don't think it's going to ruin your life or leave you emotionally disabled to enjoy casual things for now.

>>16525818
How should I continue with the guy? He told me he has feelings, I don't think it's fair if I keep fucking him but I don't wanna lose him. Can anyone give me any advice, please thanks

Fuck buddies/fwb work temporarily. One person almost always ends up wanting more. You shouldn't make them from friends you really care about losing. Even if somehow both of you manage to end the arrangement mutually, then there's the issue of future relationships. New partners aren't usually okay with you having a friend you used to hook up with.

Also, tell him this part.
>I just don't get romantical feelings easily, I'm quite cold when it comes to that, I'm a kind hearted person but when it comes to opening up and being vulnerable and opening up to love is very hard for me. I'm a mild aspie, I'm not very touchy feely or romantic and a previous boyfriend broke up with me because he didn't feel loved enough.

See what his response is.

dealing with something similar from an undx'd medical problem which kept cropping up over and over again
you can only move forward. uni is too highstakes imo: hold onto your inner peace and try not to sweat the stuff you can't control. going back as an older adult my impression has been that these profs dick you around WAY too much. don't be their slave.
cheers.

>>16525809
What are you saying I should do about it?

>>16525819
finish college.

>>16525697
did you cc your boss? you should have emailed your direct supervisor first. if you have not, do it now.

you're not gonna burn bridges unless they really suck, people get new jobs and it's expected. good luck and congrats!

I work in HR

The whole 2 week concepts is absolutely retarded. It takes much, much longer to hire someone.

You first need to create/update Job Description and create the essential qualifications, create the test, create the interview questions (at least a week)

Then we we need to advertise said position (at least a week)

Then we need to do initial screening (1-2 days depending on the job and the number of applicants)

Then we need to schedule interviews/testing (if it has a test plus an interview we are looking at least 2 weeks just to conduct the testing and interviews we also need to to give the applicants at least a few days to respond.) This is also dependent on the availability of testing rooms as well as the hiring managers available time.

In the background we are also rejigging the salary, security clearance if required and re adjusting the language requirements if required.

This is on top of all of the other shit we have to do in a day to day basis.


HR is probably saying "ah fuck" 2 days won't make a difference in the grand scheme. In a perfect world you would give at least 1 month or two months, but we also realize it isn't a reality.

Just don't fuck over your team mates or supervisors. Do your bit on team projects and leave bullshit data entry and menial tasks to other people. .

Just came ITT to say I ordered two books from this guy and can't wait to get on it.

>>16525553
What's wrong with letting a girl know you're into her? If you try to hide everything about your attraction to her, she's just gonna think you're really nice.

go with ur gut bro

>>16525558
but if she's one of those boring "I think you're hot and funny but I'm still not gonna put out because then society thinks I'm a slut" type of girls and I just end up scaring her away

You can't and would be totally miserable if you did.

"Normal" people don't move to those places. Light-blue and white collar people do.

>>16525492
You move some where shitty close to those areas, then in after a few years of making contacts in the shity you move again.

Apply for job, get job, rent place, move, start working.
Millions of people have managed it.
They aren't even the most expensive cities in the world.

Report him for being a pedo, duh

>>16525467

tell the cops. Tell her to save anything he sends her, messages, texts etc. take her with the evidence and go to the police

bam, he gets harassment charges and possibly stalking/harassing a minor charges. Maybe even gets slapped on the sex offender list which seems like a great way of preventing him from doing this to other girls

>>16525467
you got 3 options

Round up guys and beat him down

Find him and beat him down

Report him to someone of a higher power

Either way, what's important is how far you're willing to go.

How old is the kid? Sounds like something my sister might write too.
Have a talk with her, worst case scenario she needs to see a therapist

>>16525466
She's being a fucking brat and thinks she can act crazy to get out of school. You have 2 options here: make her go to school anyways (the smart option) because this is real life where you have to do things even if you don't wanna, or put her in the psych ward for a week so she can see how much it fucking sucks and she'll be desperate to go back to school.

>shut up shut up SHUT UP
Give me a break.

wow she's normal. she just got caught venting. she does make excellent observations.

>>16525412

After I learned basics I read lots of French comics when trying to learn it and then swapped for books once I got hang of it. Reading only gets you so far, though, because the pronunciation and spelling are so different. Watch lots of French movies and listen to music. Audio books work too. Eventually try to find native speakers you can try to talk with.

Join the French Foreign Legion!

>>16525428
Thanks. Where'd you learn the basics? Just from google-searched sites?

>>16525395

w3schools, then find a book on discrete math.

>>16525395
There's plenty of online guides and courses for programming. Good luck anon. Also try picking up a scripting language and learning SQL. You'll need all of those!

If money is not a problem; Lynda. Search for something like C++ essential and advance and you'll pretty much learn everything you'll need.

>>16525394
not really a deal breaker if the two of you can reach a compromise. if you're not comfortable doing something sexual, you absolutely should not do it, everyone has their own personal boundaries and its important that your partner respects that.
that being said, there is no reason that you can't spice things up at home. instead of waiting before bed at night, why not approach her in a different room during the day, or in the morning? try it out in different spots in the house and different times and see how it goes

I'm not a HUGE fan of public sex, but I mean I'll do it occasionally if I know for sure we won't be seen. You could think of places you can bang without anyone catching you.

My boyfriend is friends with a guy who once full on just fucked a girl over a park table during the day, in view of anyone who walked by; shit like that is awkward. Don't do that.

>>16525400

I mean I just don't see a compromise if I'm unwilling to have sex in public - that seems like a pretty specific and serious desire. I don't really think she respects the boundary though because she is hinting that we can't make it long term if this is the case. I can't do much about the home situation because A) we don't live together and B) because of her work hours. Even when I stay over, with her leaving for work by 7am and getting home at 6 "too tired" to do anything, it's practically impossible.

>>16525372
you sound like a clingy beta. was she your first too? personality flaws and problems often become apparent later in the relationship, and that's why people break up. she got over it, you didn't- and now you're being a nuisance.

>>16525389
I didn't even know what clingy meant, and by definition, no, I'm not that type of guy.

We don't have more answers for you. You already posted. It takes time to get over. There's no other way. Everyone had their first time, first breakup, first pain that they were sure would NEVER end. It just feels like that for awhile though. You will be okay.

Please make fun of me all you want. I deserve it. I don't want to be bad

LDR's can be hard. I know that all too well. I suggest try shopping at another store. All you can really do in a LDR is be faithful and pray your partner is doing the same. Sorry I'm not all too much help. And if he looks this strikingly similar, maybe it's really your boyfriend you think about when you masturbate? Unless you know for a fact it's this stranger.

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>>16525311
My partner is more than faithful while my reserve slips sometimes because I miss him so much, and just want to hold him.

You know what I could do? This store is a place I visit at least twice a week for necessities. But the young man works customer service so he no doubt sees me each time. When I enter the store, my back is to him so I cannot see him automatically. What I can do: Go into the store and ignore ignore ignore. I can look at the picture of my boyfriend I keep in a locket? Yeah?