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>>16532221
You are a bad person, but we are all douche bags once in a while.

>>16532247
Thanks bro.

>>16532221
Regardless if it's bad, it's stupid. The kind of girl who does that is going to do the exact same thing to you.

Some new guy will come along when your relationship is hitting bumps, and convince her to leave you for him. You'll never be able to trust her.

Hoooooooly shit you have issues.

Personally, I prefer small tits. I think they're cute.

My ex had these massive DDs and I wasn't fond of them at all.

Different people like different things. If your boyfriend doesn't appreciate your body type, there are guys out there who will.

I can't get those images out of my head since... immediately afterwards I cut myself... my boyfriend saw this on my breasts of course, and I explained to him what happened.

We had a fight, and he held me down and yelled at me, kept pushing on my scars while saying things like "Never cut yourself again, never go through anything on my computer without me being around."

He asked what image it was that I saw, and I told him I couldn't show him some of the exact ones because I deleted two of them. He pushed against my scar even harder and yelled at me.

At this point I was really furious and tried to get away from him, but he kept me held down and continued to yell...

After more of him pushing down on my scars, I said that I still really hate my breasts, and thinking of those images makes me want to cut again. He slapped me

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You have a severe case of body dysmorphia. Paraphrased a mental disorder characterized by an obsessive preoccupation that some aspect of one's own appearance is severely flawed and warrants exceptional measures to hide or fix it.

Personally like the other anon said, I prefer small breasts. If a girl is cute she is cute. Apparently your boyfriend thought that when he got with you.

To solve this issue in the short term, know you must have some redeeming qualities and attractiveness but in order to fix your self hatred I suggest you look into treatment for Body Dysmorphia.

Take care and have a good day.

>>16532185
JUST STOP EATING YOU FAT FUCK

I can't tho bro :(

>>16532224
Distract yourself with other things. Anything. Literally just lock yourself in your room and play vidya all day.

Hi Midwesterner here. Yeah I would say just play more online games with her. Or check out your nearest anime convention that is available in your state.

>>16532172
>Problem is, she lives in a small town in the midwest. It's basically the middle of nowhere. I'm NEET and so is she (living on disability). I'm worried about starting over in an unfamiliar down and being isolated alone with her. Neither of us has any friends or any hobbies outside of vidya.
I moved to a small town in the bible belt to be with someone I had fallen in love with online, but we had repeatedly met beforehand. While I'm happy to be with him, and the area is beautiful, there's nothing to do and not much work to be found. If she's disabled, and you can't find a proper job, you are putting yourself in a really bad situation. If you do decide to go through with this, don't move. Two people living on one person's disability isn't going to cut it.

>>16532228
>If you do decide to go through with this, don't move.
What I mean to say is that she should be the one to come to you. There's probably more opportunity in your area.

>>16532132
>>>/trash/

>>16532132
/pol/ has Christian threads. I think maybe /his/ discuses the history of religion. /x/ has regular religion threads. I've never been to /lit/, but maybe they allow discussion of religious text.

>>>/d/

>>16532103
Ask him out immediately.
Either
>he turns you down
Or
>he doesn't and you ride that dick like your life depends on it to close that gap

>>16532110
Asking guys out doesn't stop your feelings for them! I know from experience

>>16532116
Whatever. It -does- happen to make you come to the realization it will never happen, and push you to look elsewhere.

Well, it sounds like you actually have three hobbies. Just indulge in those.

>>16532094
By seeing a therapist

>>16532094
They usually say to involve yourself with your friends and loved ones, not isolate, and feel a part of.

You should work on correcting that before diagnosing yourself with an actual disorder. Everyone would be depressed with no friends and and no connections to others. Come back if you're still depressed when you have friends and people in your life.

As of now you're isolated, lonely, and depressed from that. Totally normal. I wouldn't put you on any pills until you are living a normal life and still feeling depressed.

>>16532064
Pro tip: don't self harm

>>16532064
USE 4CHAN COME ON YELL AT ME please

>>16532064
get fucked you drama queen, nobody cares

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>>16532059
>be grill
>looking for a man
>finally found one
>turns out he's too alpha for me, fucks other girls
>break up with him
>beta orbiter comes out of nowhere
>doesn't offer anything, won't dare to ask me out
>lol why even bother, he's just average
>actually tries to impress me lol, what a nice guy
>get another alpha male and sit on his dick

you're welcome OP

women don't like you because you also seem to possess a vagina

>>16532059
>i think I'm attractive
>girls don't think so
>why don't they think like i think
>the world would be much better if everyone just did exactly as i want
>why are women so shit

I bet you think you're a mature person too, or, at least more mature than the 'ratbags' your oneitis dates.
>prepare for more disappointment

>>16532059
The question is why do you like such shitty girls?

Her crappy partner-choice should be enough to make you realize she's not "amazing" at all.

It's not that bad if you don't watch them do it.

Alternatively, I can lend you my cat.

> take cat with you
> hold cat while nurse prepares
> nurse shows needle to cat
> you bleed freely
> nurse sucks up blood

>>16531982
I always look away, I still end up panicking.

However, cat sounds good.

>>16531970
>Not sure what a blood test would find that would be relevant though.
Whilst depression's not something you can pick up on a blood test, she's wanting to see if there's anything physically wrong with you which might be responsible for or at least contributing to the way you're feeling at the moment.

>Does anyone have any tips to help me get over it, other than just going for this blood test?
For a blood test it's usually just one needle, and quite a small one at that. It's like a sharp scratch when it goes in, then that's it - once the needle is through the skin and in to the vein you don't actually feel it, and you don't get sore afterwards like you would with some injections. The actual "painful" part is over in a second, to tops. Despite not being a fan of needles I allways like to watch them do it, just because I'm curious to see how it works.

Wait, so she had access to his profile that he wasn't using anymore, you told him about it and she got mad? Is that what you're saying?

>>16531965
She had access to his facebook page and could see everything he was doing. I told him because when I first joined the company I was being sent files to do with the company and he mentioned about security and keeping these files between us. That triggered me to tell him that his fb was being accessed behind his back, but after hearing that he sexually assaulted her I feel like I assisted him when all I want to do now is punch him in the face because that girl is actually very talented, cute and cool. I feel like a piece of shit.

>>16531971
She also mentioned that she has to see him on a semi regular basis because their parents are family friends, and that he deserved to have his fb hacked because of what a piece of shit cheater he was. Which I thought was vengeful, and just wrong. but I played middle man for someone elses situation which was wrong, isn't it? I did do something wrong here, right? It feels like I did. Kinda.

>>16531950
you're both twats

>>16531966
What he said.

>>16531966
>>16531967
This desu senpai

Ask her out the next time you see her.

>>16531923

This

>>16531921
"Hey, are you busy [day when you're free]? We should go to [your favorite coffee shop]."

Honest to god, I think that's too much. We had a complete shitshow of a thread a couple days ago when some guy's girlfriend demanded a $6,000 ring, and while a couple idiots were on her side, the general sentiment was that multi-thousand dollar rings are a scam perpetuated by the jewelry industry, and there's far better things you could spend that money on. And honestly, I concur, whether you spend it on something practical or something romantic (like a trip, or, you know, literally dozens of extra date nights and dinners out over the next few years.)

The truth is you can get an elegant and absolutely beautiful ring for a couple hundred dollars. Beyond that, it's money for money's sake; conspicuous consumption for people who equate possessions with love.

For what it's worth, after that thread, I poked my head into the next room and asked my fiancee, "how much would have been too much to spend on an engagement ring?" and she said "anything over a thousand dollars." And I wasn't a minimum-wage earning college kid when I proposed.

As an aside: if you're marrying this girl, your lines of communication should be open enough for you to ask her openly, "Hey sweetie, I wanted to run this by you, I wasn't thinking of spending more than $1000 on an engagement ring. You're worth ten times that but to me it seems like there's so many other meaningful things we could do with that money" [LIST OFF SOME ROMANTIC SHIT HERE] "but if it's truly important to you that I get you a more expensive ring I want to hear it."

As another aside, I know a couple who said fuck it to the engagement ring, opted even to get a pair of stainless steel wedding rings, and they used that money to take a tour of Asia. They're some of the coolest people I know and they seem to value the stories from that trip a lot more than most women I know value their engagement rings.

Just food for thought, I'll shut up now.

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>>16531898
>but we both agree that almost all of our money could be better spent going towards securities, insurance, buying a house together, etc.,
Good .here's a present for you.

it sounds like it's latent and psychological. I would see a therapist. and cut out porn completely and forever. that shit is terrible for you, fuck what anyone else says.

>>16531856
>cut out porn completely and forever. that shit is terrible for you, fuck what anyone else says.
Genuinely curious, how exactly is it terrible? Have there been studies done?

>>16531856
>>16531890
also, any idea how a therapist would help?I've never had any therapy