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>>18574068
Logging out of 4chan and doing a group activity and not being sperglord even if it kills you.

>>18574068
Socialize
>Find a hobby with a group of approachable people.
>Get a summer job that puts you into situations where you have to small-talk everyday. Preferably something where people are usually kind like a pet daycare, pet store or any kind of hobbyist instructor.
Forget about social retardation for a moment and just force yourself to realize that communication is merely transporting information to your peers. If you fuck up and stammer, just force yourself to finish the sentence and continue like nothing happened.
Remember that even if you do something socially retarded, no-one's going to be making that their life. They'll forget about it in an hour or so and continue with their own lives and their own thoughts. Maybe they'll even be thinking about all the embarrasing shit they did that you just didn't actually even care about.

Also, use facial expressions and your arms for communicating. Non-verbal communication is an important factor in creating trust. It makes you relatable and easy to read.

>>18617198
tell me this... are you only a couple years old too, like even just 13?

>>18617198
It's not uncommon to see refuge in a women breast , just don't call her mama you fuck

>Is something wrong with me?
Probably. Lots off odd fetishes tend to come from childhood trauma or events. Ie dads that don't give their daughters enough attention turn to sluts who call their partner of the night Daddy craving his attention. Child rape victims tend to be hypersexual and into more crazy shit. Kids that are treated that they should be seen not heard can either turn into doms or subs depending. Personally, my first ex was raped from behind as a child and she loooooved any position where I was behind her.
What did your mommy do to you op?

>>18617098
Nice bait
Get ready for 100 whiteknights to defend your small tits.

Anyways, in an attempt to end this thread early, it's all up to personal taste. Like eye colour.

>>18617098
Would it be a deal breaker if your partner had a below average dick?

Also, mandatory tits or gtfo

>>18617101
>Would it be a deal breaker if your partner had a below average dick?
Not an equivalent comparison since penis size is directly and irrevocably tied to pleasure.
Tit size is not.

How easy do you think it is for girls to get boyfriends?

>>18616920
Not OP but pretty damn easy provided you're not fat or disfigured. There's a lot of desperate dudes and very few desperate girls.

>>18616926
>There's a lot of desperate dudes and very few desperate girls.
What makes you say that?

That is a medical issue
Seek a doc

Lube it up, or get cut. I had the same issue. I got a circumscision. But before that I would lotion it up and stretch it until it didn't hurt as much. Either way.

i used to have this issue. i fixed it by masturbating and stretching it daily for a few weeks.

srsly

>>18616393
How long he's been ignoring you?

>>18616436
Like three hours. But avoiding me for about a day.

>>18616440
I see. My advice? You should stop being so clingy and insecure.

As a woman 100% sounds like he does not GAF and may cheat or is thinking about it or is depressed or dealing with a secret heroin addiction. Suggest relationship therapy, snoop through his phone email, or force him to fess up.

I cannot snoop his phone it's password locked.
We have kids.
I think he might have a meth problem or a coke problem. He did some work with a good friend of mine who told me that he was concerned. Said he showed up wired, worked for a few hours, demanded cash and then made some calls and left.


He tries to say that he's just doing drugs. But I know drugs and whores go hand in hand.

I don't understand why he turns off his phone if he isn't with a woman and he is scared to pick it up and I will hear her voice.

>>18616268
The fact he trans his phone off is suspicious, especially if this is out of character for him.
>Red flag

>he says he was just driving around drinking by himself
Loser
> claimed he was doing coke with a male friend
Homosexual

Doubt that he has a lower sex drive, he just got tired of sex with you

Unless you find ways to spice it up, porn is always more variety

>>18616200
get a bf that is sexually compatible with you

>>18616204
I offered to dress up for him which he usually loooooves but he said he didn't feel like sex today...

He loves to watch sexy ASMR videos.

It makes me really upset that he doesn't want to have sex with me because I'm really horny. I wish he would offer to get me off at least. Is that too much to ask?

dont regret, u did a good job. keep ignoring her

>>18616215
Will do. Any tips to resist the temptations? My main reason to maybe contact her is that we were dating for 2.5 years prior to our breakup and ending it like that kinda leaves a sour taste in my mouth, despite how much she wronged me before and after our breakup.

>>18616260
Honestly meeting with new people kept me diatracted from contacting my ex after a break up. Even just online chats & stuff.

>>18616004
>but the only bad person with BPD are people who know what they have and refuse to try and get help.

And these people with BPD are FAR more common than people like you who seek help and therapy and medication, and try to get better. Of course people who dislike people with BPD have had their horrible experiences with people unlike you. You're not like them, and you have my sympathy and support in getting better with such an awful illness. Don't let the hateful words get to you, since they're not aimed at you at all, but towards those others who refuse to seek help and keep hurting people.

>>18616004
Shitty behaviour aside, this is the reason:

>despite spending a little less than half my life constantly in and out of hospitals and clinics and on and off ten different types of medication.

Most people won't choose for their partner and the parent of their future child someone who is very mentally unstable and needs a lot of hospitalization and medical help. It's just too problematic, it makes life difficult, it makes the relationship difficult. Don't get me wrong, it's admirable that you are trying to get all the help you need and improve your life. But at the same time your illness makes you a shitty partner in one way or another. "Normal" people struggle a lot with daily life shit and being in a relationship with a special needs person usually is simply not feasible.

>>18616064
But people with severe depression, bipolar disorder, and other mental illnesses go through the same thing, and yet people with BPD are always attacked online, not just on 4chan. Not to mention that BPD manifests itself in so many ways - no one has ever guessed that something was wrong with me other than maybe general depression because I constantly hide it. And because of the flac BPD specifically gets online I'm too afraid to tell people and get close to people

One of two things is going on here:

1: she's genuinely innocent

2: she's not, and you're just not on her list of qualified suitors - all the dating and cuddling in the world does not change this

Finding out whether it's 1 or 2 is up to you.

>>18615987
Damn. My first gf was the one that set everything up when we together lost our virginity. I didn't even know it was coming. Went to her house, she lets me in and tells me her parents and siblings gone for a few hours and takes me straight to her bed. When a girl is ready shes ready.

>>18615992
I'm 99% sure it's the first one, her friends and family are all good people, and she is just a little shut in, i know where she is litterally all the time

>>18616014
I really hope it's like that, when i jokingly said that she is waiting for marriage she thought thats ridiculous, but when i made that joke again she sounded like she liked that idea, it was terrifing for sexually hungry me

Oh boy, this thread again.

Post a thread on /adv/ about how much you hate them asking how to accept them, and then reject every piece of advice you hear and argue with anyone who says they're fine the way they are.

>>18615951
What does fine even mean? Fine is not comforting to me because I'm sad over the fact that they're inferior

I know that they're "fine" but they're not nice or attractive and that's what's getting me down

I need to find a way to accept that they're just "fine". That's what I need advice on, acceptance.

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>>18615939
Those aren't saggy. Mine look like left, and they have since puberty.

Get a push-up bra.

>>18615895
how old are you?

>>18615897
23

Whatever you want, as long as they're equal and reciprocal

My formatting is whack, sorry guys

Ayy nice. It's her problem not yours mate.
Just enjoy your one night stand and ever think about getting together with her.

>>18615485
If she were a better person she wouldn't have flung herself at you the way she did. I feel more bad for her fiance for being oblivious to the fact that she's willing to do all this and STILL marry him. If it wasn't gonna be you she fucked, it would've been someone else.
That's just my personal input though.

>>18615374
Stop speaking in generalities and tell the situation. In some cases it's just fine to let people fail, but in some it isn't.

Homeostasis. People don't like real change, they like things to operate within a certain margin, and they will unconsciously act so as to maintain homeostasis.

Life is like a book or a movie. You are the first person character, the narrator of your universe, rest of the people are supporting actors or just a backgrund. Everybody has the same. Your mother, your father have their own perspectives and they don not live their life to live your life. So there is a possibility they havent even noticed your that they let you down.

...Anyway, left-wing postmodern neoliberal thiniking is the cancer. There is no freedom in left-wing thinking, because there is no freedom without responsibility. If you can't fail because everybody helps you, you loose control over your life, and you become addicted to the outside support systems. Sometimes the best thing parent can do is to let you fail. It is the hardest part of being the loving parent, to cut the umbilical cord to let you be free. (I know I had to bite through my emotional umbilical cord with my parents because my mother was so overprotective.) You can raise only when you fail.